SparkPeople Married Life Team Messageboard Married Life’s team goal is to promote healthy, long-lasting, and fulfilling marriages. We motivate and encourage each other to follow God's plan for marriage and live a healthy lifestyle. SparkPeople Married Life Team Messageboard Intro... plus Seeking Advice Hello! <BR> I joined the group today and I wanted to say hello. I've been on Spark for a long time, but I sometimes stop for a while then come back. The trials of being a dieter! ;) <BR> <BR> I am looking for input if anyone would care to give any. <BR> <BR> Ideally, I need to lose 80 lbs., but realistically, it'd be great to lose 50 lbs. <BR> I have fibromyalgia, which makes the pain/fatigue almost unbearable some days. I'm married, work full-time, have two young children and take classes ... Tue, 10 Apr 2018 13:05:13 EST Love always trusts...hopes ...perseveres. Do you encourage your spouse when he/she needs strength? Here's a husband's account of a wife who did just that. I am praying that I will be the strength my husband needs rather than a hindrance he could do without. <BR> <BR> <link><BR>ig-surprise-found-in-my-marriage-after<BR>-nine-years.html </link> Mon, 5 Feb 2018 19:45:42 EST Newbie Hi! My name is Candy and I am a Christian wife and mom of two boys. My husband and I have been happily married for fourteen wonderful years. We live in North Carolina. I enjoy exercising, going to church and reading my bible. Thu, 17 Mar 2016 18:22:50 EST Hello Everyone! My name is Dustie. I'm joining spark people with the hope of finding encouragement to be the best me in all areas of my life. I am a born again Christian, wife and mother of 3 young children. I have always struggled with my weight. I am currently heavier than I ever have been and its starting to take a toll on my health and preventing me from being the mother I want to be. The last five or six years have been a struggle for me. I've changed a lot but in some areas I have changed for the worst... Mon, 16 Nov 2015 20:22:49 EST Hello... New to the Group! Hello, My name is Christina. I've been married 6 1/2 years... it's been rocky the whole way through <em>24</em> But... I've stuck with it... feeling like that is what God would have me do. <BR> <BR> We do not have any children together, but have 4 each of our own - so we are a blended family. We have 2 daughter's no longer living at home (one mine with our grand-child & one his). We have 1 each that neither of us really see...(I have a 14yr. son... that I don't get to see, and he has a 1... Fri, 31 Jul 2015 13:55:14 EST Hello Hi. My name is Marge and I am married 45 years to the love of my life. We have 4 children and 7 grandkids. I am looking forward to retiring in just a couple months. <BR> I look forward to being part of this team, sharing thoughts,support and motivation. <BR> Marge Thu, 2 Jul 2015 21:29:46 EST Tips to Address Feelings of Isolation In Your Marr Tips to Address Feelings of Isolation In Your Marriage <BR> By Katie Parsons <BR> <BR> For whatever reason you’re experiencing loneliness in your marriage, Dr. Walsh offers these 3 tips to help you start repairing your relationship. <BR> <BR> 1. Find the source. <BR> <BR> Instead of automatically blaming the marriage or bottling up any negative feelings, take some time to figure out why you feel the way you do. Perhaps the real reason for the feelings of isolation stem from something inter... Mon, 8 Jun 2015 12:25:36 EST The Secret to a Great Marriage The Secret to a Great Marriage <BR> Jimmy Evans <BR> <BR> Equality. A person who refuses to serve his or her spouse is either dominating the relationship or has checked out emotionally. Men and women are absolutely equal. Serving your spouse—doing things in their interest, not yours—tells them "I am not better than you." <BR> <BR> Humility. We're naturally prideful. Both men and women have pride issues in their lives. We might be given tasks or asked to do things and we think, "I'm too good... Mon, 8 Jun 2015 12:21:39 EST The Most Important Issue in Marriage The Most Important Issue in Marriage <BR> <BR> <link><BR>tant-issue-in-marriage/ </link> Mon, 8 Jun 2015 12:14:02 EST 7 lies society’s telling you about your marriage 7 lies society’s telling you about your marriage <BR> by Dr. Jeff Larson <BR> <BR> Myth #1: If my spouse really loves me, they should instinctively know what I want and need to be happy. <BR> <BR> You have to communicate clearly about your needs, wants, and expectations for your spouse to have any chance at fulfilling them. So, the reality is: If my spouse really loves me, they will openly and respectfully tell me what they want and need and not expect me to be able to read their mind. <BR>... Mon, 8 Jun 2015 12:11:57 EST How can I get him to really talk to me? How can I get him to really talk to me? <BR> <BR> Take “baby steps”. Don’t overwhelm him by saying, “I wish you’d talk more.” He can’t respond positively to that. It comes across as condemnation. Begin by asking questions, little questions, and be content to get little answers. He has to crawl before he can walk. When he gets used to hearing his own voice, then he can talk more. <BR> <BR> Become a good listener. When he talks, give him your undivided attention. Don’t respond to his ideas wi... Wed, 13 May 2015 13:26:03 EST Outer & Inner Beauty Your BEAUTY can attract a man towards you, but your WISDOM & INNER BEAUTY( character,virtue and fear of God) will make him glued to you! <BR> Little wonder you see some people you categorize as been "too fat,ugly etc settle down with "guys you will die to have". <BR> Bottom line: it's not just about standing in front of the mirror for one hour that matters most, but building of your inner beauty! <BR> If you stand one hour in the front of the mirror,spend 2 or 3 hours working on your inner be... Wed, 13 May 2015 13:24:55 EST How do I encourage him to participate in household We are both working full time and when I get home, I start dinner but my husband comes in and sits on the couch. How do I encourage him to participate in household chores? <BR> <BR> Set fire to the couch! Then hand him the fire extinguisher. Do this every two days for one week. He will no longer sit on the couch. Well, that’s one approach, but not one that I recommend. Nor do I recommend yelling at him and calling him a lazy slob. <BR> <BR> All of us have patterns of behavior, which we have... Wed, 13 May 2015 13:13:12 EST Showing Love Through Actions Showing Love Through Actions <BR> <BR> Start off small. Small things can make a big difference if you put a little thought and feeling into it. Your wife or husband ultimately wants to know that, at the end of the day, you're thinking of them. All of the following can be done for little or no money. <BR> <BR> Suggest an after-dinner walk through the neighborhood. <BR> Turn one room into a dance floor and ask your spouse for a dance. <BR> Camp out in your own back yard. <BR> ... Wed, 13 May 2015 13:07:24 EST This Week's Marriage Challenge Play together. Playtime isn’t only for kids. Adults need to be playful, too, to fully engage our God-given creativity. Don’t hesitate to schedule time regularly to play with your spouse, through activities that can range from playing charades or a board game at home to outings such as playing mini golf or going bowling. Talk about what you each enjoyed doing just for fun when you both were children; then consider doing some of those same activities together now to bring a spirit of childlike ... Wed, 13 May 2015 10:37:24 EST May Team Leaders May Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> SICOSH <BR> ERINLINDSAY83 <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> JENNBECK831 <BR> KILIKI <BR> <BR> Sun, 10 May 2015 17:27:12 EST Marriage Tip fpr the Week Wake up each morning vowing to make the decision to love your spouse no matter what. When you feel anger or negativity, look at your spouse and remember your decision to love. Tue, 21 Apr 2015 21:37:07 EST How do you help your spouse when he is stressed? Share what you do to help you spouse relax after a stressful day. Sun, 19 Apr 2015 16:32:03 EST April Team Leaders April Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> TRIM180 <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> TRIM180 <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> <BR> Sun, 19 Apr 2015 16:12:15 EST What does your bedroom look like? Is your bedroom romantic? <BR> <BR> 11 Tips to make your Master Bedroom a bit more Romantic <BR> <BR> <link><BR>our-bedroom-a-bit-more-romantic/ </link> Sun, 12 Apr 2015 16:45:02 EST What's your spouses' favoritve food? My spouse has so many that I could go on and on. What does your spouse like? Sun, 12 Apr 2015 16:39:34 EST Are you struggling with something? No matter who we are, at times we struggle and it can be the little stuff. Are you struggling with something? Sun, 12 Apr 2015 16:30:50 EST 5 Ways to Turn Nagging into Encouragement Are You a Dripping Faucet? 5 Ways to Turn Nagging into Encouragement <BR> By Bob Lepine <BR> <BR> Marci Turner is a bright and capable woman. She has her BBA from the University of Texas and an MBA and MA from Southern Methodist University. She has worked as the CFO for a real estate management firm with over 350 employees across ten states. She has lived as an American expat in the Arabian Gulf. And she has owned a working cattle ranch. <BR> <BR> She has also been, according to her own tes... Sun, 12 Apr 2015 16:25:21 EST April Team Leaders April Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> APOLING2011 <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> TRIM180 <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> Sun, 12 Apr 2015 05:05:27 EST Starting to Eat Clean <BR> Start by saying goodbye to a few main evils: all white stuff (including sugar), caffeine, alcohol. This doesn’t mean you can’t detour every now and then… you decide what works for you. <BR> You don’t have to go toss everything and start from scratch in one day. Switching to 100 percent clean foods can be challenging and even costly at first. Give it time, and take it easy on yourself. Try replacing one food item at a time. Sub in soba noodles for plain white pasta, or skip the S... Fri, 10 Apr 2015 20:36:20 EST 3 THINGS EXERCISE 3 THINGS EXERCISE <BR> <BR> Respond to the questions below individually and then discuss your responses with your spouse. Be honest and “speak for yourself.” Don’t presume what your partner will say or try to guess the "best" answer. This isn’t a guessing game but a chance to take yet another step toward deepening conversation and growth in your marriage. Writing your thoughts down helps. <BR> <BR> 1. Three things about my marriage that I like very much: <BR> <BR> 2. Three things about my... Thu, 9 Apr 2015 18:48:46 EST I wanted so badly to be good. I wanted so badly to be good <BR> by Lori Deschene <BR> <BR> I wanted so badly to be good. To do good. To look good. I imagined and hoped that this was the key to feeling good. <BR> <BR> I didn’t want to be selfish—that was bad. So I concluded that I needed to be selfless. <BR> <BR> I didn’t want to crave so much attention—that was bad. So I concluded that I needed to be humble. <BR> <BR> I didn’t want to be or be seen as manipulative—that was bad. So I concluded that I needed to prove t... Thu, 9 Apr 2015 11:40:13 EST Elininating Sugar The good news is that eliminating sugar from your diet is not only doable, but it has both immediate and long-term benefits. If you’re ready for change, use these four simple, research-backed shifts to break free of sugar dependence and reclaim a clear mind. <BR> <BR> Shift 1: Understand your addiction <BR> Shift 2: Make a clean break <BR> Shift 3: Boost your brain naturally by exercising <BR> Shift 4: Let "80/20" work for you--don't have to be perfect. <BR> Shift 5: Basic Detox Plan <BR> <... Thu, 9 Apr 2015 11:34:01 EST 40 Ways to Make Your Marriage Rock 40 Ways to Make Your Marriage Rock <BR> by Kristen Welch <BR> <BR> I've been married for 6,408 days, and I've learned a few things in that time. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It requiresconsistent hard work, forgiveness, and the ability to be quiet. And when in doubt, remember that sex always helps! <BR> <BR> Just like any fire, the intensity of married love is prone to die down. It never hurts to stoke the embers and stir things up a bit. Journalist and author Mignon McLaughlin once... Thu, 9 Apr 2015 11:11:34 EST Name one thing you like about your spouse His dry sense of humor Thu, 9 Apr 2015 11:06:27 EST Here's a Challenge Create a mission statement. Marriage and family counselor Roger Bolton says that when couples marry, they often end up drifting through life without a plan. He suggests that couples create a mission statement for their marriage. “Ask yourselves: where do we want to be in 30 years? Then use your mission statement to help you set goals.” Thu, 9 Apr 2015 11:03:15 EST Are You Dishing Out The "Leftovers" of Love To You Are You Dishing Out The "Leftovers" of Love To Your <BR> Spouse?" <BR> Written by Beth Young <BR> <BR> Are you involved in so many activities each day that <BR> they use up a lot of your mental and physical stores? <BR> When as you finally sit down to relax with your <BR> sweetheart, are you pretty much spent and only have <BR> love leftovers to give? <BR> <BR> It's going to take more than Julia Childs' amazing <BR> recipes or Paul Newman's fancy dressings so solve your <BR> leftover proble... Tue, 7 Apr 2015 16:16:12 EST Oils & Sugars that are healthy WATCHED THE TRUTH ABOUT CANCER: <BR> <BR> Here are a few facts I learned from the very best Nutritionist: <BR> <BR> Coconut oil---best oil to use for high temperature cooking <BR> <BR> Palm Oil--good for cooking <BR> <BR> Extra Virgin Olive oil--for low temperature cooking and favoring foods. However, read the label, some olive oils have other oils mixed in <BR> <BR> Flax seed oil & nut oils--very good to use <BR> <BR> DO NOT EAT CANOLA OIL, CORN OIL OR VEGETABLE OIL--it causes cancer.... Tue, 7 Apr 2015 13:35:14 EST A quote for today Anyone can work out for an hour, true strength is controlling what goes on your plate during the other twenty three. Tue, 7 Apr 2015 13:13:29 EST How to Release and Prevent Resentment in Your Rel How to Release and Prevent Resentment in Your Relationships <BR> By Anonymous <BR> <BR> “Never apologize for showing feelings. When you do so, you apologize for the truth.” ~Benjamin Disraeli” <BR> <BR> We often experience resentment toward other people when we find it hard to forgive them and hold onto unspoken pain. <BR> <BR> Whenever we feel we’ve been treated unfairly, judged, or wronged, we have a very powerful internal reaction. <BR> <BR> The emotions we experience are strong. We f... Tue, 7 Apr 2015 08:07:50 EST April Team Leaders April Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> MISSLIVALITTLE <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> ANTHONYEDEH <BR> Sun, 5 Apr 2015 08:09:40 EST 13 Things to Remember If You Love A Person With An 13 Things to Remember If You Love A Person With Anxiety <BR> by Jake Mcspirit <BR> <BR> Anxiety is tough, isn’t it? Not just for the people that have it, but for you – the people that stick with them – while they’re going through it. It’s emotionally taxing on both ends, it’s physically demanding at times, and of course mentally demanding most of the time. <BR> <BR> Plans have to be changed to accommodate the anxiety. Situations have to be avoided at times. Planning has to be just that bit... Tue, 31 Mar 2015 17:47:56 EST 8 Things People With Hidden Depression Do 8 Things People With Hidden Depression Do <BR> by Jane Scearce <BR> <BR> 1. They might not “look depressed” <BR> <BR> Due to media and cultural stereotypes, most of us have assumptions about how someone behaves and looks if they’re struggling with depression. We imagine someone who rarely leaves their room, doesn’t dress themselves well, and constantly looks miserable, but people with depression do not all behave in the same way. <BR> <BR> All people are, of course, different from each o... Tue, 31 Mar 2015 17:40:26 EST What Marriage is Really Like What Marriage is Really Like: One Woman’s Perspective <BR> <BR> It’s rare that I come across an article where a woman is transparent with what marriage can look like day to day. I applaud Mrs. Natalie Thomas for her courage and willingness to share a glimpse into her life with the world. <BR> <BR> “You will HATE him!” <BR> <BR> Years ago, I attended the wedding of one of my closest friends. Another friend, now living out of state, already married with a 6-month-old, was telling us how ex... Sun, 29 Mar 2015 17:45:36 EST March Team Leaders March Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> TRIM180 <BR> ERINLINDSAY83 <BR> ANTHONYEDEH <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> TRIM180 <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> ANTHONYEDEH <BR> SOCDIRECTOR <BR> Sun, 29 Mar 2015 17:38:21 EST The Challenge of Military Service Married Couples and the Challenge of Military Service <BR> by Most Reverend Timothy P. Broglio <BR> <BR> You are about to enter a union which is most sacred and serious, an image of Christ and the Church.” Generations of couples heard those words of the Exhortation Before Marriage found in the ritual for the Sacrament of Marriage as celebrated before the Second Vatican Council. Indeed, from the very beginning, Almighty God endowed the union between man and woman with a mission and blessed t... Thu, 26 Mar 2015 14:15:26 EST What Frustrates Husbands and Makes Wives Cry? What Frustrates Husbands and Makes Wives Cry? <BR> By Dr. Laura <BR> <BR> Loving your spouse but not feeling loved... <BR> <BR> These feelings may evolve from a variety of "symptoms", <BR> yet the root of the problem is not feeling loved. <BR> <BR> These feelings can occur as a relationship evolves and <BR> changes in behavior and actions follow. When this <BR> evolution happens and one or both spouses feel that <BR> there are too many negative results, then it's time to <BR> work on cont... Thu, 26 Mar 2015 13:55:45 EST March Team Leaders March Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> TRIM180 <BR> ERINLINDSAY83 <BR> JENNBECK831 <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> SOCDIRECTOR <BR> MCJOYFUL <BR> SMHPHOTOGAL <BR> Sun, 22 Mar 2015 11:41:53 EST Rx for the Soul Rx for the Soul <BR> <BR> Jeff Lyle <BR> <BR> What’s the current temperature in your pressure cooker? It’s ironic that we who live in a world of advanced technology which is supposed to breed unprecedented convenience, instead find ourselves battling stress amidst others who have already lost that battle. I often feel that I have less energy but more demand in my life. Many of you have duties that are increasing but available time that is recessing at the same moment. Diagnose yourself: are... Wed, 18 Mar 2015 10:37:18 EST 7 Easy & Fun Date Ideas You Should Do This Weekend 7 Easy & Fun Date Ideas You Should Do This Weekend <BR> <BR> Looking for something great to do this weekend? If you have kids, call the babysitter or drop them off at grandma’s house and enjoy one of these easy and fun date ideas. <BR> <BR> 1. Play a Game of Strip Monopoly <BR> This is the one time when you won’t mind losing and neither will your spouse! When you land in jail, there’s no need to pay or roll to get out. And that pesky little “get out of jail free” card that never seems to... Fri, 13 Mar 2015 11:58:05 EST Discovering and Sharing your Emotions If you want a closer, deeper and more emotionally safe relationship, make a decision to identify your feelings and share them with your partner. <BR> <BR> Here are a few practical tips for discovering and sharing your emotions with your partner: <BR> <BR> 1. Identify your feelings. How can you put your finger on what you’re feeling? Become aware of your body’s movements and sensations. Are you feeling a tightness in your chest? Does your heart hurt? Are you smiling or frowning? Once you not... Fri, 13 Mar 2015 11:54:26 EST How Can I Love You More Actions Speak Louder <BR> <BR> You’ve heard it before: Men are visual; women are verbal. Men are impulsive; women like to analyze things. Men are from Mars; women are from Venus. So since husbands and wives are opposite in many ways, it makes sense that male and female hearts swell for different reasons. <BR> <BR> <link><BR>ng-marriage/advice/g1040/how-to-show-a<BR>-man-you-love-him/?slide=2 </link> Fri, 13 Mar 2015 11:50:38 EST A few questions to ask yourself How much quality time do you spend with your spouse each day? Where could you find more time? What gets in the way of making that change? Thu, 12 Mar 2015 20:12:18 EST Keep Your Love Alive Fearless Marriage Activities to Keep Your Love Alive: <BR> <BR> Day One: Leave a love note on your partner’s steering wheel or in their lunch. <BR> Day Two: Make your spouse their favorite dinner. <BR> Day Three: Surprise your partner with flowers or another small gift. <BR> Day Four: Tell your spouse one reason you married them. <BR> Day Five: Make love to your partner. <BR> Day Six: Recreate your first date. <BR> Day Seven: Turn off all electronics and spend an evening just talking ... Thu, 12 Mar 2015 20:10:35 EST What This Man Does For His Wife Every day What This Man Does For His Wife Every day Fills My Heart <BR> <BR> <link><BR>=14218&memberid=946703 </link> Wed, 18 Feb 2015 17:03:21 EST Fat is NOT a feeling <link><BR>ark-videos-detail.asp?video=145#comments </link> Fri, 13 Feb 2015 12:27:58 EST Hello Everyone! My name is Dawn and I live in South Central Pennsylvania. I've been married for going on 13 years (on March 8th). We have three kids, run an appliance repair business, and I sell tea on the side (really I just like the fellowship from the tea parties :) ). We have 3 cats, a dog, 4 rabbits, and chickens. I love to garden and learn about the different plants and herbs I am growing. <BR> <BR> I've been off an on SparkPeople for YEARS (I closed that account and started fresh). My highest we... Thu, 12 Feb 2015 07:34:24 EST Five Tips to Fight Less and Love More Five Tips to Fight Less and Love More <BR> By Laurie Puhn, J.D., a Harvard-educated family lawyer, family and couples mediator and television personality. <BR> <BR> I offer 5 simple tips to keep peace in the family and make your love connection grow. You might be surprised to find that I am not going to tell you to talk more as many experts insist; instead I am going to show you how to use just a few minutes a day to talk better. <BR> <BR> 1. Pick the Right Battles. Your spouse comes ho... Tue, 10 Feb 2015 23:15:37 EST Personality Differences Personality Differences <BR> By Judy Clark, Why Can't You Be More Like Me? <BR> Personality Differences <BR> <BR> If we see our differences as gifts, we are drawn towards greater acceptance. <BR> <BR> The Situation <BR> <BR> John is outgoing and can talk easily to almost anyone. Sarah is more reserved and prefers socializing in small groups. She finds herself hurt and uncomfortable when John makes the rounds at parties, leaving her to fend for herself. He can’t understand why she prefers t... Tue, 10 Feb 2015 23:13:08 EST The Valentine Challenge for Couples – Day 2 The Valentine Challenge for Couples – Day 2 <BR> <BR> Every once in a while, I get the obvious question from my kids, “What did you ever do without cell phones?” <BR> <BR> The thing is, I know what we did, I just don’t know how we didn’t go crazy doing it some days. Okay, I’m not just talking about cell phones either. Electronics in general have made our lives easier. They’ve changed the world as we knew it. Texting has replaced phoning, Wikipedia has replaced the encyclopedia, and email ha... Tue, 10 Feb 2015 09:22:04 EST The Secret Strength of Vulnerability The Secret Strength of Vulnerability <BR> by Alexa Griffith <BR> <BR> We hear a lot about courage and vulnerability these days. Are you curious why they are getting so much attention? These are two essential elements in building relationships. Intimacy requires vulnerability and courage! Willingness to be vulnerable to one another is an essential feature of a successful relationship. <BR> <BR> Vulnerability. . . Risky? <BR> Vulnerability can be described as emotional risk, or exposure. ... Tue, 10 Feb 2015 08:02:55 EST The 5 Day Valentine Challenge for Couples The 5 Day Valentine Challenge for Couples <BR> <BR> This past winter, my daughter and I started something new–we lit a candle every night leading up to Christmas. <BR> <BR> The reason I did this with my daughter instead of Michael is because we’re always the ones who are up later than everyone else, and besides that, it was something we started together. <BR> <BR> Let’s just say that we were inspired by Max Lucado’s book-turned-movie, “The Christmas Candle.” <BR> <BR> Each and every night... Mon, 9 Feb 2015 10:57:34 EST February Team Leaders February Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> ANTHONYEDEH <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> ANTHONYEDEH <BR> RETIREDAT60 Sun, 8 Feb 2015 05:24:28 EST The Lord's Prayer for Marriage he Lord’s Prayer <BR> Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. <BR> Respect the authority of God. Don’t just go to prayer asking for everything that you want. Also take time to worship the holy and incredible Father He is. <BR> <BR> Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. <BR> Submit to His will even when it calls you to lay down your pride. Give thanks in all circumstances trusting in His plan for your marriage. <BR> <BR> Give us this day our daily br... Sat, 7 Feb 2015 21:21:26 EST 45 Life Lessons Written by a "90-Year-Old" Woman 45 Life Lessons Written by a "90-Year-Old" Woman <BR> <BR> 1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good. <BR> 2. When in doubt, just take the next small step. <BR> 3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. <BR> 4. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does. <BR> 5. Pay off your credit cards every month. <BR> 6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree. <BR> 7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone. <BR> 8. Save for retirement, starting with y... Sun, 1 Feb 2015 20:42:28 EST This diet isn’t working, Lord God delights in his people—you and I. He enjoys us so much that even the very hair on our head is numbered. I can’t imagine the accounting department that He must have to keep track of mine. I change my hair often. <BR> <BR> I wonder… would we take the time to number His hair if we could? Would we linger in His presence that long? Or is God merely a means of supplying our need? <BR> <BR> Let’s dig and find out. <BR> <BR> Why do we seek God? Too often the answer is out of a self-centered... Mon, 26 Jan 2015 21:51:06 EST Here is a new question for YOU What simple thing can you do this week to make your spouse feel loved? <BR> <BR> In this very materialistic world we live in, people need more than ever to feel loved. It is important to feel loved and when we give an act of love we receive a feeling of purpose and self-worth. So, why not do one simple act of love for your spouse this week. <BR> <BR> Share your thoughts and ideas. Sat, 24 Jan 2015 14:27:38 EST Take Your Positions Take Your Positions <BR> <BR> Love and faithfulness meet together; righteousness and peace kiss each other. PSALM 85:10, NIV <BR> <BR> If you're like most married Americans, your relationship likely resembles one of these three positions: <BR> <BR> 1. Face to face. Like typical newlyweds, this couple is cruising down the highway of life in a convertible with the top down. A favorite CD is playing love songs through the speakers while their fingers are intertwined. She rests her head on his... Fri, 23 Jan 2015 04:16:00 EST Marriage Devotional Shared Sacrifice <BR> <BR> Sitting down, He called the twelve and said to them, "If anyone wants to be first, he shall be last of all and servant of all." MARK 9:35 <BR> <BR> Serving does not come naturally in the Rainey family DNA. Selfishness does. <BR> <BR> When our children were small, we gave them chores to teach them to serve one another. Chores included setting the table, loading the dishwasher, putting the silverware away, taking out the trash and helping sweep the floor. <BR> <B... Thu, 22 Jan 2015 09:32:13 EST Marriage Tip Marriage Tip <BR> By Dr. Juli Slattery <BR> <BR> Just like your kitchen won't magically clean itself, your sexual struggles and wounds won't simply disappear one day. So go ahead: address the lies and break down the obstacles. No one can promise you that your sex drive will go from zero to 60 in 90 days. But God is in the business of healing and redeeming our pain. Don't give up hope. <BR> Sat, 17 Jan 2015 11:54:15 EST 6 Critical Truths to Understand about Anger 6 Critical Truths to Understand about Anger <BR> <BR> I don’t mean righteous anger, the kind of anger we can experience toward injustice or evil but sinful anger. Many times we may feel we are “righteous” in our anger because someone wronged us. Anger often involves our sense of justice. But it’s very easy to slide into sinful anger, hatred, and bitterness. Here are some Biblical truths and principles that God has used to help me make progress in conquering my own sinful anger. <BR> <BR> T... Wed, 14 Jan 2015 17:39:38 EST 5 Truths I Learned about Being a Nagging Wife 5 Truths I Learned about Being a Nagging Wife <BR> By Debbie McDaniel <BR> <BR> "...and the quarrelsome wife is like the constant dripping of a leaky roof" (Proverbs 19:13). <BR> <BR> Never really liked that verse very much. Maybe because the truth hurts a little. No, it hurts a lot. <BR> <BR> Before I got married, I vowed I would never be a nagging wife. And then I got married. And stuff happened. And stress of life came. And busyness surrounded. And things pressed from all sides. And a... Wed, 14 Jan 2015 17:30:11 EST Here is a question for you Did You Celebrate Being Married to Your Spouse Today <BR> <BR> We celebrate so many things, but do we celebrate who the person is that we married? How many people say, "I've been married to my spouse for XX years and I don't think he/she finds me attractive any more, or, we take each other for granted." Do you feel that if we celebrated who our spouse is, this might make our marriage stronger and more loving? <BR> <BR> I do not mean anything elaborate, just a simple act of saying "I app... Sun, 11 Jan 2015 20:29:33 EST A marriage mediation “Delight in the Lord, and he will give thee the requests of thy heart. <BR> Commit thy way to the Lord, and trust in him, and he will do it.” <BR> Psalm 37.4-5 <BR> <BR> He will grant your request <BR> <BR> Is this actually possible, that God will give us what we want? <BR> <BR> The answer is not that simple as the question. The above scripture says that if you delight in him, he will give you, what your heart wants. <BR> <BR> So what it means to delight in the Lord? Let us first say what... Fri, 9 Jan 2015 12:34:11 EST Power of Words Power of Words <BR> <BR> We speak what we want and how we want to. We speak things without even considering that things we say may actually come true (like “it is killing me”). Words have power, power to build or to destroy. It is your choice what you speak. <BR> <BR> I’m not talking only about a sin but about control over our life. And also it is about creative power of our words. First part is saying that if we can control our words we can also control our sinful nature. The control over ... Wed, 7 Jan 2015 11:06:35 EST Here is Something You Just Might Like I thought we could have a 14 Day Challenge. Here is the challenge, write down one thing you would like to improve in your marriage--it can be anything. Then each day in a journal, write down what you did to improve your marriage. At the end of 14 days, give yourself a reward. <BR> <BR> Remember, this is NOT about being perfect, it is about doing something to improve your marriage. It can be something as simple as kissing your spouse hello when he comes home from work, or text him somethi... Mon, 5 Jan 2015 20:28:51 EST January Team Leaders January Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> ERINLINDSAY83 <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> SOCDIRECTOR Sun, 4 Jan 2015 13:15:59 EST Come on, share those happy moments in 2014 Please post your happy memories and success in 2014. I know you did have them. Wed, 31 Dec 2014 10:17:07 EST 15 Things Wives Should Stop Doing 15 Things Wives Should Stop Doing <BR> What do your words and actions say to your husband about your love for him? <BR> by Mary May Larmoyeux <BR> <BR> 1. Stop thinking that your way is the “right” way. If he does something differently, it does not mean that it’s wrong. When a wife insists on having her own way, she is in essence saying, “I have to be in control.” <BR> <BR> 2. Don’t put others before your husband. God designed companionship in marriage so that a husband and wife can meet o... Sun, 28 Dec 2014 16:42:26 EST 6 BIG Things Your Husband Wants You to Know 6 BIG Things Your Husband Wants You to Know About Him <BR> BY: Troy Spry <BR> <BR> Soooo many times, women say they want to know what men really think. They say they want the “male perspective,” but I’m often amazed at how when they get that perspective, they proceed to tell men why their perspective is wrong. NEWS FLASH, just because our perspective is different than yours, doesn’t make our perspective WRONG! Let me clear the air with these 6 BIG things men want you to know about them! <BR... Sun, 28 Dec 2014 16:22:38 EST 3 Keys to Maximize Your Marriage on a Daily Basis 3 Keys to Maximize Your Marriage on a Daily Basis <BR> By Deborah L. Mills <BR> <BR> Marriage is something that you entered into with another human being. You didn’t get married all by yourself, it took two people. It took a man and a woman agreeing that this is what you both wanted in life. Just like it took two to get married, it will take two to maximize the potential in your relationship. <BR> <BR> You are full of potential and so is your mate. Now, just imagine the power that is relea... Sun, 28 Dec 2014 16:21:14 EST Marriage Was Not Designed To Make You Happy Marriage Was Not Designed To Make You Happy <BR> by Denise Anderson <BR> <BR> Marriage was not designed to make you happy, satisfied, or whole. If you go into it for any of the aforementioned reasons, you’re in for a rude awakening. <BR> <BR> Some of my friends asked me to expound, so I guess I’ll take a stab at it here. <BR> <BR> First let me preface this post by saying that I in no way claim to be an expert on marriage. My husband and I have been married a little under four years and... Sun, 28 Dec 2014 16:11:08 EST For All The Daughters Who Wish Their Dad Loved The For All The Daughters Who Wish Their Dad Loved Them <BR> <BR> So often our relationship with our dad affects and influences our relationship with God and our husbands. <BR> <BR> Issues like trust, withholding affection, and other circumstances in your relationships that trigger negative responses because of what you experienced as a child all come to the surface of the heart in the matter of seconds in marriage. If those things are not acknowledged, addressed, and worked out they will crip... Sun, 28 Dec 2014 16:03:32 EST A Silent Killer of Relationships Apathy In Marriage – The Pain Of Losing My Husband’s Affection <BR> Writen by: Jennifer J Roos <BR> <BR> Apathy in marriage is a silent killer of relationship. It tears couples apart and damages the affection once held in high esteem. Jennifer Roos is a guest today sharing how apathy affected her marriage and the pain she experienced of losing her husband’s affection. If you can relate in any way or find encouragement through this article please share. <BR> <BR> I rolled over toward the wa... Sun, 28 Dec 2014 15:55:19 EST A Marriage Quote for this Week “Marriage: If you want something to last forever, you treat it differently. You shield it and protect it. You never abuse it. You don’t expose it to the elements. You don’t make it common or ordinary. If it ever becomes tarnished, you lovingly polish it until it gleams like new. It becomes special because you have made it so, and it grows more beautiful and precious as time goes by.”- F. Burton Howard Sun, 28 Dec 2014 15:48:04 EST 4 Essential Rules for Every Marriage 4 Essential Rules for Every Marriage <BR> by Tyson <BR> <BR> Don't rules suck? Who likes being told what they can't do? Since we're adults we don't really need them. <BR> <BR> Nope, I don't agree. I am profoundly grateful for rules. If there wasn't a speed limit I am certain I would have gone around many a turn in the road to find out too late (as my car and I were flying through the air) that I was going too fast. <BR> <BR> I remember the rule that I wasn't allowed to touch the stove when... Sun, 28 Dec 2014 14:27:17 EST A letter to a friend Dear Friend: <BR> I know you've had it. I've read your letter or email a thousand times from a thousand different women. The words - and wounds - sound the same and I know your story well. <BR> Every week I receive an email like yours saying "I'm fed up with this marriage. What should I do?" Every week I hear from a wife who is frustrated with her husband. Every week! That tells me there are a lot of you out there who are feeling like that...but most of you never reach out for advice or help.... Sat, 27 Dec 2014 16:11:32 EST Why You Should Stay in Your Marriage Why You Should Stay in Your Marriage <BR> Brenda Rodgers <BR> <BR> I was one month shy of 32-years-old when I tied the knot. That wasn’t by choice. I didn’t delay marriage to accumulate degrees, build my resume, or pursue a dream job. No, God had me wait. Now I can see why. <BR> <BR> Going into marriage I was opinionated about many topics regarding marriage and children, as single people can sometimes be before they walk-the-walk. I thought I knew the secret for avoiding temper-tantrums. An... Sat, 27 Dec 2014 16:05:51 EST Words you can spell from Christmas Post all the Words you can spell from Christmas Thu, 18 Dec 2014 13:32:55 EST 3 Little Mistakes That Could Cost You Your Marriag 3 Little Mistakes That Could Cost You Your Marriage <BR> <BR> Little Mistake #1 <BR> Not Hearing Your Spouses Plea For Attention <BR> ____________________________________ <BR> <BR> With many responsibilities pulling at us each day, it <BR> is easy to fall into a routine of life that may not <BR> include nurturing our relationship with our spouse. <BR> <BR> As we fulfill our responsibilities at work, in our <BR> community and with our children, we may not always save <BR> some of our time a... Thu, 18 Dec 2014 11:45:41 EST what if spouse is away for a while hello all, how are you doing? <BR> i was just wondering what do you do when your spouse is away for a while, <BR> we all know traveling is a part of life, sometimes for work sometimes for leisure, you cant always travel with your partner, so what do you do? how does it affect you? how do you cope with it? <BR> like for example, my SH is gone for 10 days out of country, traveling for work, its know its not that long, but they seem to be the longest days ever, i don,t feel like getting anything... Mon, 15 Dec 2014 11:55:13 EST December Team Leaders December Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> GEMINI6599 <BR> ANTHONYEDEH <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> ANTHONYEDEH <BR> RETIREDAT60 Sun, 7 Dec 2014 17:11:47 EST Congratulations December Team Leaders December Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> LAKENDAL <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> SOCDIRECTOR <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> Sun, 7 Dec 2014 16:40:27 EST Newbie who loves marriage! Hello everyone! <BR> <BR> I met my husband in high school so you could call us "High School sweethearts". We were in Journalism class together for a year before he asked me out. We dated through college then got married and due to his career, we moved around quite a bit all over the country. We both love traveling! Our son was born a few years into our marriage and we've been "empty nesters" for a couple of years now. Absolutely love it! <BR> <BR> Yesterday, my husband and I celebrated... Wed, 3 Dec 2014 13:03:12 EST 3 Steps to Making the Most of Your Relationships 3 Steps to Making the Most of Your Relationships During the Holidays <BR> by Debra Fileta <BR> <BR> Focus on Who You Have in Your Life: It’s important to keep in mind that just as joyous as the holidays can be, for many people, they are a time of heartache and pain. They are an aching reminder of relationships that have been broken or loved ones that were lost or longings that have not yet been fulfilled. Sometimes, it’s hard to connect when you are feeling hurt and alone. Making the most o... Tue, 2 Dec 2014 08:44:06 EST Christmas movies What is your favorite Christmas movie/movies? <BR> <BR> National Lampoons Christmas vacation, 4 Christmases, and Miracle on 34th street. My all time would probably be A Christmas Story. I used to watch it every Christmas during the 24 hour marathon of it broken up in bits and pieces. Hubby got sick of that so he bought me the movie so he only has to watch it once. Ralphie reminds me of my grandson Michal. Sun, 30 Nov 2014 16:57:58 EST Quote about marriage Genesis 2:22-24 <BR> Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, ' for she was taken out of man." For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Sun, 30 Nov 2014 16:23:50 EST Get Your Marriage Out of a Rut Get Your Marriage Out of a Rut <BR> By Sheri Stritof <BR> Marriage Expert <BR> <BR> <BR> Seven Approaches to Getting out of a Rut in Your Marriage <BR> <BR> So what do you do when the freeway comes to a dead stop or your marriage feels like it is on a dead end street? A road map with some alternate routes or a GPS device help on the freeway. The way to get out of a rut is to reconnect with one another. <BR> <BR> A Weekend Away. Take a weekend away to a quiet place with no kids, no TV,... Sun, 30 Nov 2014 15:30:35 EST How Well Do You Know Your Spouse? How Well Do You Know Your Spouse? <BR> By Sheri Stritof <BR> Marriage Expert <BR> <BR> No matter how long you've been together, there are always more things to learn about one another. <BR> <BR> If the two of you disagree on some of these statements, talk about them in more depth. You may find that you will just have to agree to disagree now and then! <BR> <BR> Read more: <link><BR>wspouse.htm </link> Sun, 30 Nov 2014 15:18:38 EST Protecting Your Husbands Heart: Part 2 Protecting Your Husbands Heart: Part 2 <BR> <BR> Are you protecting your husbands heart? Are you being his "ezer kenegdo"? The common way "help meet" or "helper suitable" are understood is that God gave the man a helper who was worthy of him, or appropriate for him. While this is not at all incorrect, there is a much more to be understood about this term. With that let's dive into the original Hebrew. <BR> <BR> "help meet" is translated from "ezer kenegdo" <BR> <BR> The Lord God said, <BR... Sun, 30 Nov 2014 15:07:45 EST How can I increase romance and non-sexual intimacy How can I increase romance and non-sexual intimacy in my marriage? <BR> Five tips to put some spark back into your relationship. <BR> by Dennis Rainey <BR> <BR> A TV talk show host was interviewing one of Hollywood's biggest male stars, a man known for his prowess with the opposite sex. At one point, the host asked him, "What makes a great lover?" <BR> <BR> "Two things," the actor replied. "First of all, it is a man who can satisfy one woman over a lifetime. And it is a man who can be sati... Sun, 30 Nov 2014 14:51:33 EST Want More Sexual Intimacy In Your Relationship? Want More Sexual Intimacy In Your Relationship? <BR> BY TRACY WIKANDER, FAMILY THERAPIST <BR> <BR> In my work as a therapist and my husband David's work as a relationship coach, we find that there are common differences in how partners approach feeling close and feeling sexual towards the other. One partner may have a need to feel close emotionally before they are open to feeling sexual with their partner. For instance, this partner may need words of appreciation, non-sexual affection, or t... Sun, 30 Nov 2014 14:45:50 EST Two Questions That Could Save Your Marriage Two Questions That Could Save Your Marriage <BR> <BR> Do I measure up? Am I keeping up? <BR> <BR> After 26 years there are so many things I would change if I could go back. So many things I’d do better if given the chance. But I’m not. All I’m given is today, this moment before me. <BR> <BR> Am I making the most of it? What more can I do? <BR> <BR> If you’re anything like me you probably have days when you settle down for the night, the house is quiet, and you start to think about all of ... Sat, 29 Nov 2014 14:56:15 EST 7 Solutions That Can Save a Relationship Rocky roa 7 Solutions That Can Save a Relationship <BR> Rocky road? Get your love life back on track. <BR> <BR> <BR> WebMD Home next page Health & Sex Center next page Health & Sex Guide <BR> Email a Friend <BR> Save <BR> Print Article <BR> Health & Sex <BR> Tools & Resources <BR> <BR> Are You Spreading Cold Sores? <BR> Permanent Birth Control Options <BR> Sex: Facts and Fiction <BR> Men's Biggest Bedroom Worries <BR> How to Handle Bad Sex <BR> What Guys Wish You Knew <BR> <... Fri, 28 Nov 2014 12:58:07 EST Are You in a Codependent Relationship? Are You in a Codependent Relationship? <BR> By Feifei Sun <BR> WebMD Feature <BR> Reviewed by Joseph Goldberg, MD <BR> <BR> Do find yourself making lots of sacrifices for your partner's happiness, but not getting much in return? If that kind of one-sided pattern sounds like yours, you don't have to feel trapped. There are lots of ways to change a codependent relationship and get your life back on an even keel. <BR> <BR> What Is a Codependent Relationship? <BR> <BR> The first step in getti... Fri, 28 Nov 2014 12:55:24 EST Congratulations November Team Leaders November Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> LAKENDAL <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> BAUERABG <BR> SOCDIRECTOR Sun, 23 Nov 2014 14:24:12 EST The Myth of Loving Your Self Counseling at first seemed to be every helpful. However, now I am being encouraged to abandon my marriage because I am “NOT becoming the best me". If qualities like humility and kindness make for stronger relationships, why do we gravitate toward the advice that tells us to “look out for number one”? <BR> <BR> A focus on loving yourself never prepares you to love someone else. In fact, it actually sabotages your capacity to love. I am now realizing just how sabotaging my focus and actions... Fri, 21 Nov 2014 21:58:26 EST Real Love Real Love by Darlene Schacht <BR> <BR> I’d like to talk about love. <BR> <BR> Not just any love—agape love. It’s the greatest virtue one can possess because it reflects the love of God that reached down to us while we were yet sinners. Jesus died for the undeserving. He gave up His life so that we could have life. <BR> <BR> Even after He was whipped and crucified and nailed to the cross He cried out, “Father forgive them for they know not what they do.” (Luke 23:34) <BR> <BR> 1 Corinthi... Fri, 21 Nov 2014 08:25:22 EST Strengthen Friendship in Your Marriage Strengthen Friendship in Your Marriage by Andrea <BR> <BR> Best friends are simply a God thing. Even more so when that bestie is your husband! If Tom were not my best friend, this past year would have been a painful and lonely one after relocating to California. I’m so glad we worked on our friendship BEFORE this potentially difficult year arrived. It’s our friendship that has sustained me and encouraged me month after month. Just like my dearest gal pals, Tom knows me, cares, listens, empa... Fri, 21 Nov 2014 08:05:30 EST This May Help You When You feel Angry Verses for When You Feel Angry <BR> <BR> “Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, <BR> for anger resides in the lap of fools.” <BR> ~ Ecclesiastes 7:9 ~ <BR> <BR> “A patient man has great understanding, <BR> but a quick-tempered man displays folly.” <BR> ~ Proverbs 14:29 ~ <BR> <BR> “A gentle answer turns away wrath, <BR> but a harsh word stirs up anger.” <BR> ~ Proverbs 15:1 ~ <BR> <BR> <BR> “A fool gives full vent to his anger, <BR> but a wise man keeps himself under control.... Fri, 21 Nov 2014 07:56:48 EST Protecting Your Husbands Heart: Part 1 Protecting Your Husbands Heart: Part 1 <BR> <BR> 1. Do not withhold yourself. <BR> <BR> "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. <BR> The wife does not have authority over her own body, but yields it to her husband. <BR> In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body, <BR> but yield it to his wife." ~1 Cor. 7:3-4~ <BR> <BR> Yes, this is first and foremost on the list, because sex really is that important to a m... Fri, 21 Nov 2014 07:47:55 EST Great Video 4 difficult marriage <link><BR>CnGb8-o </link> Tue, 18 Nov 2014 08:04:14 EST How to Love Your Authentic Self How to Love Your Authentic Self <BR> By Lori Deschene <BR> <BR> People can only love us if we believe we’re lovable. It’s important that we all realize we are beautiful and wonderful just as we are, in our complete authentic selves. <BR> <BR> 1. Know that you are not your worst mistakes. <BR> <BR> Our past actions shaped today, but we are not what we’ve been. We don’t need to carry around labels or mistakes from yesterday as if they define us. Whatever you’ve done, it’s over. It doesn’t ... Sun, 16 Nov 2014 09:12:41 EST How do you feel today? You use an emoticon. Fri, 14 Nov 2014 10:27:15 EST How Should I Respond When My Spouse Annoys Me? How Should I Respond When My Spouse Annoys Me? <BR> <BR> <link><BR>gagement-newlyweds/how-should-i-respon<BR>d-when-my-spouse-annoys-me.html </link> Tue, 4 Nov 2014 11:45:17 EST Some Example of Goals for Your Marriage What do we want to achieve? <BR> <BR> We want to have more romance in our marriage. We want to be more romantic. <BR> <BR> Why do we want to achieve this goal? <BR> <BR> We want to have a loving relationship with each other. We want our relationship to feel how it used to be when we first met. It will bring both of us more passion and joy in our lives. This would create peace and harmony in our house. <BR> <BR> How will we achieve this goal? What is required to achieve this goal? <BR> <B... Tue, 4 Nov 2014 11:20:20 EST Goals for Marriages Goals for Marriages <BR> <BR> Setting goals in a marriage is as important as setting personal and professional goals. However, it is ironic that most people fail to set goals for their marriage. They set goals for their career, finance, health and they set goals to find their soul mate and get married. <BR> <BR> Most people have the preconceived idea that once they are married everything would be fine. All their problems would be solved and they expect to live happily ever after on autopilo... Tue, 4 Nov 2014 11:16:01 EST Keep Your Spouse’s Mind Occupied with Positive Tho Keep Your Spouse’s Mind Occupied with Positive Thoughts of You <BR> BY: Tiya Cunningham-Sumter <BR> <BR> We’ve heard it all before, relationships take work. I prefer not to call it work, I’d rather say relationships require effort. Effort is something, that if we put our mind and energy toward, can actually happen. We are in more control of what happens in our love life than we care to admit. We have the power to make our relationship easier. <BR> <BR> Many of the things that add stress to... Tue, 4 Nov 2014 11:09:22 EST Dealing With A Cold And Distanced Man Dealing With A Cold And Distanced Man: What To Do If HE Is Shutting Down? <BR> By Cucan Pemo <BR> <BR> A couple, as man and woman, will share feelings and each other constantly during a relationship. Often times a man can become self centered, distant and uninterested in what you do or how you are. The man who is distant can make a woman feel uneasy about herself, un-needed, unwanted and often times self conscience as you second guess what you are doing all the time. <BR> <BR> So why is you... Tue, 4 Nov 2014 11:04:45 EST Do you have Nov. goals for your marriage Have you written down any November goals for your marriage? We think about our exercising and losing weight goals. But do we have any goals for our marriage? Tue, 4 Nov 2014 10:53:13 EST Fall in Love with Your Spouse Everyday 1. Take initiative. You walk into your house and you notice a lot of things on the floor or where they are supposed to be, why not take a few minutes to pick things up and take them to their rightful place. Trust me your spouse will notice. <BR> <BR> 2. Let him/her win sometimes. I don't know about you but i like being right, but sometimes you have to step back and let your spouse win, whether it's in an argument or on who gets the remote. <BR> <BR> 3. Ode to dirty dishes. Nobody likes d... Tue, 4 Nov 2014 10:49:53 EST Do you study your spouse? Voraciously study your spouse. Put as much energy into that research as in your career and hobbies. Try to understand and participate in their interests as they change over time—recreational, musical, romantic, sexual and culinary interests. Ask about your partner’s hopes, preferences, desires, dislikes, and fears. Encourage their dreams. Communicate your needs and desires as well. Be the one who knows them best, and help them to know your heart. Learn new things together. Express how import... Tue, 4 Nov 2014 10:41:40 EST What is your relationship to your spouse like? What is your relationship to your spouse like? <BR> <BR> Are you and your spouse friends who talk about everything and go out and have fun? Or do you have separate lives where you do your own thing? Do you have a date night, or certain traditions to keep your bond strong? Tue, 4 Nov 2014 10:35:57 EST Stop by for a short visit Hello everyone. I am dropping by to let you know that I am working my way back. My pain level is so much less, however, I am sleeping a lot now. Guess I am making up for lost sleep. Honestly, I get so tired quickly. Tue, 4 Nov 2014 10:32:12 EST 5 Powerful Habits Michael and I have been married over 25 years now. Some of his habits I love and some not so much. Like the way that he kisses me every time he comes home–that one I love. Sleeping in a cold bedroom? That took some time to get used to. I remember waking up one cold winter night because the snow was blowing in my face. He liked to sleep with the windows open back then and I wanted them closed. <BR> <BR> Early on in our marriage we attended a Valentine’s dinner for couples. During the course o... Tue, 4 Nov 2014 09:18:16 EST Fun idea As many of you know, my DH is deployed. I am working on 3X5 cards, held together by a ring. On the cards I am going to put happy memories and reasons why I love him so much. When he is having a bad day, he can flip through the cards for a happy moment. Its small, light weight and inexpensive to make. Bonus: when he comes home, we can keep adding cards as the years go on. When we are old, we can look back. Fri, 24 Oct 2014 15:40:55 EST need a piece of advice Hello everyone, <BR> I am new to the team, havnt been posting much though, <BR> I need some serious advice, <BR> My hubby wants me to do some of the vedio editing part of his project, which is going to easily take 3-4 hours of my time, <BR> I can do that, afterall he us my husband i have to help him if he needs me, although i am not too happy about it, <BR> But he also wants me to do some of the editing for his 3 more friends, as gis friends have really hepled him in the past and he would lik... Fri, 24 Oct 2014 15:37:45 EST 7 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriag 7 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage <BR> by David Peach <BR> <BR> Thinking about when you were dating should bring a smile to your face. You were young (at least younger than you are now). You had fewer pressures in your life and you could focus more time on the one you loved. If there were other important things going on, they only seemed to get in the way of your dating relationship. <BR> <BR> Now, a few (or several) years later, it seems that everything is turned around.... Fri, 10 Oct 2014 11:40:02 EST What does marriage mean to you? Please post your answers. Thu, 9 Oct 2014 17:32:12 EST When you parnter has a chronic illness A chronic disease like rheumatoid arthritis can bring marital stress, if you let it. Learn about some common challenges and how to deal with them. <BR> <BR> Relationship Challenges <BR> <BR> While the challenges of the person living with the disease may be obvious, partners without rheumatoid arthritis face obstacles, too. <BR> <BR> When your partner is in pain. “It is difficult to watch her, with all the pain and the frustration that she goes through,” Waide says. <BR> <BR> When... Fri, 19 Sep 2014 10:21:49 EST Lord, May Our Hearts Beat As One Lord, help us to grow in unity. Teach us to live compassionately, embracing the needs of each other as we would our own. May our hearts beat as one, as together we seek to walk in Your mercy and grace. In Jesus name I pray. Amen. <BR> <BR> God’s desire for us is that we might be one in the bond of unity in the same way that we are one in the union and fellowship of Christ. <BR> <BR> Consider this verse, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: ... Tue, 16 Sep 2014 08:02:47 EST A trip down Memory Lane: A trip down Memory Lane: <BR> <BR> How did you decide to marry? <BR> Was the proposal traditional? Creative? Expected? Mutual? <BR> <BR> Share your experience with us. Mon, 15 Sep 2014 12:35:39 EST 5 Ways to Take Care of Yourself Emotionally 1. Remind yourself to notice your mood as you go through your day. Be vigilant when negative thoughts hijack your mind and send you into a downward spiral. Before you know it, you'll be gathering kindling -- evidence that the other person is wrong ("Who does he think he is?!"). Enough kindling, and you can't avoid a firestorm. Instead, keep yourself on a positive track. Don't fret the small stuff...Two steps forward, one step back still takes you in the right direction." Most of the time, the... Mon, 8 Sep 2014 13:42:45 EST My Huband has ADHD (all advice welcome) I love my husband very much, but his ADHD is one of the most trying things I have had to encounter in our newlywed marriage. We are going through a very stressful time right now, and instead of understanding what I need he offers advice that doesn't seem to have taken in consideration key things of the conversation. He interrupts constantly, gets upset over things before he realize he didn't understand them clearly, and is stubborn about what he wants to do before he understand it really won'... Mon, 8 Sep 2014 13:00:29 EST September Team Leaders September Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> TSCANDIDSHOTS <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> MCJOYFUL <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> MOMMA48 <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> SUZIPAM1 <BR> MOMMA48 <BR> MCJOYFUL <BR> SOCDIRECTOR <BR> Sun, 7 Sep 2014 04:35:19 EST Fight for Control (Part 3) Giving Up, Pushing Back <BR> <BR> Then the Lord spoke to Jonah a second time: “Get up and go to the great city of Nineveh, and deliver the message I have given you.” <BR> <BR> This time Jonah obeyed the Lord’s command and went to Nineveh.” (Jonah 3:1–3) <BR> <BR> Submitting my marriage commitment to God was only the beginning. Daily, I exercised the practices of not being right, shutting my mouth, and giving grace. I submitted to authority figures in my life, trying with great diff... Sat, 6 Sep 2014 16:33:44 EST Fighting for Control (Part 2) My Marriage, My Nineveh <BR> <BR> The Lord gave this message to Jonah son of Amittai: “Get up and go to the great city of Nineveh. Announce my judgment against it because I have seen how wicked its people are.” <BR> <BR> But Jonah got up and went in the opposite direction to get away from the Lord. He went down to the port of Joppa, where he found a ship leaving for Tarshish. (Jonah 1:1–3) <BR> <BR> I was studying the Book of Jonah with a group of women who were friends and mentors... Sat, 6 Sep 2014 16:29:54 EST Thinking Errors Here are some of the major ‘thinking errors’ that interrupt our ability to take responsibility. Judge for yourself how you see them impacting your relationships. <BR> <BR> 1. Denial: “I am not doing anything wrong. I have no problem.” <BR> <BR> 2. Blame-shifting: “It’s not me that’s doing anything wrong. It’s not my fault. It’s your fault.” <BR> <BR> 3. Victim Stance: “I’m getting a raw deal. Nothing ever goes my way. I’m getting the blame for everything.” <BR> <BR> 4. Minimization/ Sanit... Fri, 5 Sep 2014 03:27:41 EST Fighting for Control (Part 1) Fighting for Control <BR> Swallowing my pride to save my marriage <BR> By Mary Goodrich <BR> <BR> I was dumbfounded, not really understanding what I’d just heard. My husband and I were at the gym together. Free weights, mirrors, machines, the smell of rubber and sweat. He said it again: “When I tell you to get up, I mean now. Move quickly.” <BR> <BR> I shook my head still in disbelief. My husband does not speak to me this way. It’s been many years since we learned the kind of communication ... Thu, 4 Sep 2014 16:18:22 EST Your Encouragement May Be What He Needs Your Encouragement May Be What He Needs <BR> by Proverbs Wife <BR> <BR> I truly believe that we are either building our husbands up or tearing them down. <BR> Encouraging or discouraging. <BR> <BR> Tearing them down can come in the form of a snide remark and building them up can be something as simple as saying, “I trust you” when there’s a decision to be made. <BR> It’s important for me to encourage my husband. It helps build his character, his faith and his confidence. <BR> <BR> Now plea... Mon, 1 Sep 2014 08:03:36 EST What Makes Your Spouse Feel Loved? What Makes Your Spouse Feel Loved? <BR> By Nancy C. Anderson <BR> <BR> Study your mate as if he or she was a textbook and you were studying for a final exam. <BR> <BR> If we make an effort to learn about our mates’ preferences and priorities, they will feel understood and appreciated. If we educate ourselves about the various differences between our mates and us, and work on ways to play to each other’s strengths, we’ll build strong hedges around our marriages. <BR> <BR> Things to Think Ab... Mon, 1 Sep 2014 07:46:52 EST A Marriage Rut A Marriage Rut - Part 1 <BR> <BR> A marriage rut is formed by habits, both good and bad. You and your spouse move from the honeymoon phase to the reality of household chores, keeping food on the table and a roof over your heads, and raising your children. These are performed by necessity and are obviously good habits. But what’s missing in this line-up of good habits? <BR> <BR> Maybe you noticed: there was no mention of time set aside for you and your husband to have fun and solidify your m... Mon, 1 Sep 2014 07:38:04 EST BONDING AS A COUPLE - SHARING FEELINGS BONDING AS A COUPLE - SHARING FEELINGS <BR> By Susan Vogt <BR> <BR> One way that couples develop closeness is to share their feelings (not just their opinions and plans but also their emotions) with each other. Often sharing on this level comes more easily to one spouse than the other. Following is a way to get in touch with what each other really cares about and what joys and burdens your spouse is carrying. It doesn’t require much time (maybe 10-15 minutes). The only supplies needed are a ... Mon, 1 Sep 2014 07:26:34 EST I FEEL LOVED WHEN… I FEEL LOVED WHEN… <BR> <BR> It is particularly nice to feel loved and cared for by one special person. It is an unrealistic expectation, however, to think that one partner can ‘just naturally know’ what helps the other feel especially loved. It is a romantic myth that “If you really loved me, you would know what I want.” <BR> <BR> Individually complete the following sentence: <BR> I feel loved when ____________________ OR, I appreciate it when _______________________ <BR> <BR> List at lea... Mon, 1 Sep 2014 07:23:43 EST When Your Spiritual Gifts Clash With Your Spouse’s When Your Spiritual Gifts Clash With Your Spouse’s <BR> By Mandy Pagano <BR> <BR> It was a simple phone call that landed me in hot water. A phone call and an innocent mistake led to a tense few moments between my husband and myself. I ordered take out for a friend who was in need and made a mistake when ordering. The result was an extra $20 charge that I didn’t expect. I tried every which way to fix my mistake, but the restaurant wasn’t budging. I just had to suck it up, hope my friend reall... Mon, 18 Aug 2014 12:18:24 EST Do Great Marriages Live A Perfect Life? Do Great Marriages Live A Perfect Life? <BR> Drs. Charles & Elizabeth Schultz <BR> <BR> Too often, people assume that those who have the most successful marriages live in some kind of la-la land – a perfect world – a place where everything is fair, just, and beautiful – a Nirvana land! Here’s the truth – nothing could be further from the truth <BR> <BR> We have constantly and relentlessly pursued this question in our interviews in 47 countries on all seven continents of the world – “Do the... Sun, 17 Aug 2014 10:54:53 EST 5 Ways to Stop Negative Atmosphere in Marriage Here are the 5 ways you turn the negative atmosphere into a positive one in your marriage: <BR> by Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz <BR> <BR> 1. Take an honest look at what YOU could do differently to improve your marriage. Could you spend more time with your spouse, or take more interest in their hobbies, or stop pointing out their weaknesses or talk more openly about what is bothering you? <BR> <BR> 2. Repair your spirit and your balance. Take the steps to get healthy mentally and p... Sun, 17 Aug 2014 10:47:16 EST Help Your Negative Spouse Help Your Negative Spouse <BR> <BR> If you are married to a negative personality, you are not responsible for making him/her feel better. However, here are some things you can do to help your spouse be more positive: <BR> <BR> Do not take the negativity personally. <BR> Remember that the negativity is your spouse's problem, not yours. <BR> If your spouse rejects your offers of help, don't over react. <BR> Spend time with positive folks. You will need some time off from your spouse's ne... Sun, 17 Aug 2014 10:32:55 EST Get Out of the Marriage Rut Do you ever think that your marriage relationship is stuck in a rut? Do you feel stifled? Do you see your marriage as going nowhere? Do you believe the two of you are growing apart? <BR> <BR> It took time to get your marriage in a rut. It will take time to get your marriage out of a rut. Here is a seven-step approach to help the two of you get your marriage out of a rut and to repair your marriage. <BR> <BR> Seven Approaches to Getting out of a Rut in Your Marriage <BR> So what do you do... Sun, 17 Aug 2014 10:29:15 EST How to Feel Better About the Way You How to Feel Better About the Way You Look <BR> <BR> Feeling good about the way you look can make a big difference in so many areas of your life. That includes your marriage. <BR> <BR> <link><BR>e-Way-You-Look </link> Sun, 10 Aug 2014 09:17:31 EST Making Relationships Work in Difficult Times Making Relationships Work in Difficult Times <BR> Herbert G. Lingren, Extension Family Scientist <BR> <BR> Any partnership, even good marriages, has bad times. It may help to consider relationships as works in progress, a long-term commitment in which the "downs" sometime outnumber the "ups." Here is advice to help guide couples in difficult situations. <BR> <BR> Signs of a Healthy Partnership <BR> <BR> Shared goals, values, and dreams clearly help keep a relationship alive and vital. Do o... Sun, 10 Aug 2014 09:03:56 EST Keep the Glow Going in your Marriage Keep the Glow Going in your Marriage <BR> by Thomas R. Lee, Ph.D. <BR> <BR> When you and your spouse first met, talking, doing things for each other or just being together was probably very romantic. During that exciting and memorable time of courtship, having someone you admired notice and care about you was a real thrill. How can you keep that glow going in your marriage? Many other responsibilities compete for your attention. Stresses and worries can crowd out time for your spouse and you... Sun, 10 Aug 2014 08:55:43 EST Putting Some Spark Back in Your Marriage Putting Some Spark Back in Your Marriage <BR> by Glen O. Jenson, Ph.D <BR> <BR> One of the best ways I know to overcome daily discouragements is to give yourself a gift that will pay dividends for the future. This gift would enhance a marital relationship, and is inexpensive. Here is a list of my top ten: <BR> <BR> 1. Make your spouse number ONE in your life. Your love and loyalty to your spouse is necessary for their emotional well-being. Usually spouses who feel they are number one, try t... Sun, 10 Aug 2014 08:50:00 EST 5 Secrets of a Happy Marriage 5 Secrets of a Happy Marriage <BR> by Ruth Soukup <BR> <BR> A while back I was reading one of those articles about funny things kids say and one of the kids was asked the question, “How can a stranger tell if two people are married?” and he answered, “You might have to guess, based on whether they’re yelling at the same kids.” <BR> <BR> Yes. <BR> <BR> That about sums it up. <BR> <BR> Because as much as we walk down that long center aisle wearing a gorgeous white gown, our own version of W... Sun, 10 Aug 2014 08:46:46 EST August Team Leaders August Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> MCJOYFUL <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> SANDIK9806 <BR> SOCDIRECTOR <BR> JKHAYES90 <BR> <BR> Sun, 10 Aug 2014 02:49:30 EST Shipping foods Since my DH is out of country. I am looking for some goodies I can bake and send to him that wont go bad. Any suggestions? Tue, 29 Jul 2014 15:42:00 EST Jeff Bridges Reveals The Key To A Long And Happy M Jeff Bridges Reveals The Key To A Long And Happy Marriage <BR> <BR> Jeff Bridges has been married to his wife Susan for nearly four decades, all while working in an industry known for it's failed marriages: Hollywood. <BR> <BR> Bridges revealed three ways to maintain a happy, long-lasting marriage. <BR> <BR> 1. Loving someone means supporting them. <BR> <BR> "This industry is tough on relationships. I've always thought that my wife should have a credit up alongside mine, because I couldn'... Sun, 27 Jul 2014 02:27:43 EST Policy of Radical Honesty: Policy of Radical Honesty: <BR> Dr. Harley <BR> <BR> If you and your spouse are to be in love with each other, you must give honesty special attention. That's because it plays such an important role in the creation of romantic love. It's one of the ten most important emotional needs, so when it's met, it can trigger the feeling of love. On the other hand, its counterpart, dishonesty, is a Love Buster -- it destroys love. <BR> <BR> But there's another reason that honesty is crucial in creati... Sun, 27 Jul 2014 02:14:07 EST The Policy of Undivided Attention The Policy of Undivided Attention <BR> <BR> Before you were married, spending time alone with each other was your highest priority. You probably spent the majority of your leisure time together, and the time you spent together was probably the most enjoyable part of every week. <BR> <BR> You tried to talk to each other every day. If you couldn't be with each other face-to-face, you talked on the telephone, maybe for hours. And when you were together, you gave each other your undivided atten... Sun, 27 Jul 2014 02:09:35 EST Interesting article... .opinions? This is for the readers out there. What do you think? <BR> <BR> <link><BR>der-readers-best-people-fall-love-scie<BR>ntifically-proven/662017/ </link> Sat, 26 Jul 2014 23:06:59 EST Some Marriage Tips 1. Talk to your spouse more kindly than you talk to anyone else in the world. Too often we speak the most harshly to those closest to us. <BR> 2. Remember that marriage is less about marrying the right person and more about becoming the right person. <BR> 3. Don’t forget to laugh. Most couples spend the majority of their time talking logistics: who’s doing the grocery shopping, who’s calling the repairman, who’s picking up the kids. A relationship can’t survive on logistics. Have a water figh... Sun, 20 Jul 2014 15:25:10 EST Ways to Flirt with Your Husband Leave a love note on the mirror. <BR> <BR> Kiss in the car at stoplights! <BR> <BR> Have a secret code phrase. <BR> <BR> Play the fortune cookie game--Whenever you get a fortune cookie, mentally add the words “in bed” to the end of it. You’ll giggle together at a Chinese restaurant as you pass them to your husband, but no one else will know why you’re laughing! <BR> <BR> Set up a cozy love nest for watching movies. <BR> <BR> Leave sticky notes in unexpected places. <BR> <BR> Text, text,... Sun, 20 Jul 2014 15:19:29 EST Revive Your Marriage 3: Revive Your Friendship Today our topic is Revive Your Marriage through building a friendship with your husband! <BR> <BR> Friendship is often the first thing to go in marriage. You parent together; you fix up the house together; you care for extended family together. But you don’t actually DO anything just for fun together. It’s like your relationship has become an endless to do list. And indeed, studies have even found that most couples spend less than 10 minutes a day talking about non-logistical issues (in othe... Sun, 20 Jul 2014 15:10:51 EST 5 Simple Ways to Prioritize Your Marriage 5 Simple Ways to Prioritize Your Marriage <BR> <BR> 1. Picture the future. Imagine yourself vibrant and full of life at 65 years old. What do you see? What would you like to be doing? Long after you’ve left your current company or they’ve downsized, what pieces of your life are most important? When your children have moved out and begun a family of their own, what will be left in your home? If your picture of the future, like mine, involves kicking back with a cool glass of lemonade an... Sun, 20 Jul 2014 15:02:55 EST The #1 Way to Get Your Spouse to Stop Offending Yo The #1 Way to Get Your Spouse to Stop Offending You <BR> By Dr. Emerson <BR> <BR> PINK AND BLUE <BR> <BR> I use a word picture to show these male and female differences. God designed women, so to speak, to look at the world through pink sunglasses, which color what she sees. She inserts pink hearing aids and these decipher what she hears. She speaks through a pink megaphone and expects everybody to know what she means by what she says. After all, her girlfriends know what she means by what ... Mon, 14 Jul 2014 01:00:44 EST Some Video tape to listen to There may be a topic here that you are interested in. <BR> <BR> <link><BR>ml </link> Mon, 14 Jul 2014 00:45:04 EST How To Talk To A Man How To Talk To A Man <BR> By Marianne J. Legato, MD <BR> <BR> Ask for exactly what you want... Men are especially programmed to want to solve a problem when presented with one. But a solution isn't always what you're after. Sometimes you simply want to vent frustrations or anger or talk through potential solutions to determine which one makes the most sense. You're more likely to get the response you're hoping for if you tell your husband what you want from the beginning. For instance, you m... Mon, 14 Jul 2014 00:36:59 EST Self-Love is Not a Crime: Learning 2 Love Yourself Self-Love is Not a Crime: Learning to Love Yourself <BR> By Drew Coster <BR> <BR> Self-Love is Not a Crime: Learning to Love Yourself. When working with depressed people, I’m amazed at how often there’s a theme of self-neglect. When I ask them about how they treat themselves, or what they do to care or have love for themselves, often I get the same strange look while they utter the same words: “Why would I love myself?” <BR> <BR> I’m not saying it’s everyone — but many people have little se... Fri, 11 Jul 2014 10:44:28 EST July Team Leaders July Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> MCJOYFUL <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> -WRKNG2ABTTRME- <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> SUZIPAM1 <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> MCJOYFUL <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> <BR> Sun, 6 Jul 2014 04:32:03 EST When You Sense Your Spouse Is Not There For You When You Sense Your Spouse Is Not There For You <BR> <BR> The need for closeness and the reactions to being disconnected are a natural part of being human in close relationships, especially in a marital relationship. Couples also long for closeness while protecting their hearts from being hurt and devalued. Spouses cling and cry, get angry and protest, or become withdrawn and detached when actually all they long for is closeness and to be valued. <BR> <BR> There are ways couples interact th... Sat, 5 Jul 2014 20:20:38 EST Change Yourself & Change Your Marriage Change Yourself & Change Your Marriage--Dr. Bill Gaultiere <BR> <BR> Many people I talk to don't know what a healthy marriage looks like. What they've seen in their parents' marriage or what they experienced in their own is disappointing and painful. To them marriage leads to divorce, abuse, betrayal, continual conflict, or emotional distance. <BR> <BR> If this includes you then it may be hard for you to believe that it is possible for you to have a good and growing marriage. But some peopl... Sat, 5 Jul 2014 19:52:00 EST Marriage Myths That Will Steal Your Joy (Part 2) 4. Sex isn’t that important. <BR> <BR> I sure wish more moms were talking about this—because I can promise you, your husbands want to talk about it. <BR> <BR> Being tired and stressed can make sexual intimacy a rare commodity in many marriages. It’s easy to make excuses, and suddenly a week can become a month or more as we grow further apart as a couple. It’s important to set aside time for intimacy; schedule it if you have to. The enemy can drive a deep wedge between you and your spouse as... Mon, 30 Jun 2014 15:00:41 EST 5 Marriage Myths That Will Steal Your Joy (Part 1) 5 Marriage Myths That Will Steal Your Joy (If You Let Them!) <BR> Heidi St. John, Home Educating Family Magazine <BR> <BR> he Lord intended your marriage to be a source of joy, comfort, and encouragement, but for all too many couples, marriage has become at best a lifeless working partnership and at worst just another to-do list task that saps strength and life from lives rather than filling us with strength and joy. You can experience the joy God intended for you and your husband if you kno... Fri, 20 Jun 2014 20:18:43 EST Living with Your Spouse's Baggage Remember your hurting partner's inner struggle. They are their own worst enemy and have already ripped into themselves pretty hard. <BR> <BR> Be the positive support they need. <BR> <BR> Baggage is anything that you bring into the relationship that has nothing to do with the other person but can cause tension, damage, and strife between the two of you. Addictions, ex-lovers, past abuse, mother issues, psychological disorders, debt, insecurities… baggage in a relationship can include any num... Wed, 18 Jun 2014 11:28:50 EST When Your Marriage Hits the Boredom Rut When Your Marriage Hits the Boredom Rut <BR> By Don Paglia, MS, CAGS <BR> <BR> The Dilemma <BR> <BR> After 16 years of marriage Bill and Betty find themselves in the marital doldrums. Although neither would say it openly, each feels their marriage has become lackluster and is in a rut. “Boring” was how Bill explained it to his closest friend. Although Bill and Betty have two children who keep them busy, what has characterized their marriage of late is a lot of routine and predictability. Ev... Wed, 18 Jun 2014 06:36:22 EST 4 Ways to Relieve Stress in Your Life 4 Ways to Relieve Stress in Your Life <BR> Cortni Marrazzo <BR> <BR> All of us at one point or another have found ourselves trying to manage a to-do list that is a mile long with only a limited amount of time to do it in, or facing a mountain of expenses and bills with only a small amount of money to work with. If we don’t manage this outflow of responsibilities with our limited resources correctly, then we can find ourselves stressed and worried about how we are going to get everything don... Mon, 16 Jun 2014 21:08:30 EST June Team Leaders June Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> MCJOYFUL <BR> -WRKNG2ABTTRME- <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> SUZIPAM1 <BR> -WRKNG2ABTTRME- <BR> MDDR5657 <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> SOCDIRECTOR <BR> Sun, 15 Jun 2014 22:00:59 EST Independent Behavior Independent Behavior is one of the love buster <BR> <BR> Once you are married, almost everything you decide to do has either a positive or a negative impact on each other -- you are either depositing or withdrawing love units with every decision you make. So if your decisions are not made with each other's interests in mind, you will risk destroying the love you have for each other. <BR> <BR> I define Independent Behavior as the conduct of one spouse that ignores the feelings and interest o... Sun, 15 Jun 2014 18:47:46 EST Living together before marriage Living together before marriage has not proved useful as a “trial marriage.” <BR> <BR> People who have multiple cohabiting relationships before marriage are more likely to experience marital conflict, marital unhappiness and eventual divorce than people who do not cohabit before marriage. Researchers attribute some but not all of these differences to the characteristics of people who cohabit, the so-called “selection effect,” rather than to the experience of cohabiting itself. It has been su... Sun, 15 Jun 2014 18:35:04 EST Why debt is dangerous Why debt is dangerous <BR> <BR> The following are reasons why debt needs to be treated with extreme caution. <BR> <BR> Debt presumes on the future. When people commit themselves to payments over a period of time, they are presuming that there will be no pay reductions, no loss of job, and no unexpected expenses. That is an improbable assumption (see Proverbs 27:1). <BR> Debt lowers future standards of living. Money that is borrowed today must be repaid over time along with interest,... Sat, 14 Jun 2014 20:48:39 EST What did you do with your spouse for fun? Did you do anything this weekend for fun with your spouse? Sat, 14 Jun 2014 20:40:50 EST Kick Your Husband Out of the House Kick Your Husband Out of the House <BR> Trust me, it’s good for your marriage. <BR> Kelli B. Trujillo <BR> <BR> Every so often on a Saturday or Sunday night you'll find me cuddled up under blankets on the couch, reading a novel, or surfing Netflix, or watching Masterpiece Mystery (and maybe eating a bag of jalapeño kettle chips, but let's keep that part between us). Other than the kids upstairs in bed, I'm alone in the house . . . and it's a great thing for our marriage. <BR> <BR> Because... Sat, 14 Jun 2014 19:49:22 EST How to Stay Married How to Stay Married in a World Full of Divorce <BR> Article by Emily T. Wierenga <BR> <BR> Every marriage needs some romance, to keep the love breathing, pulsing, to keep the house warm. <BR> <BR> Divorce is a cold draft through the cracks of every home's front door and we're not just stoking a fire. We're creating a safe place for the family, a place to hold them. <BR> <BR> But it's war, friends. <BR> <BR> And the shells, they're scattered on the ground around our bed, and we're wounded,... Sat, 14 Jun 2014 19:42:21 EST 5 Things to Tell Your Husband This Father's Day 5 Things to Tell Your Husband This Father's Day <BR> by Ashleigh Slater <BR> <BR> When it comes to Father’s Day, do you find yourself devoting all of your attention to helping your kids celebrate dad? Maybe this means supervising the making of homemade cards, grocery shopping and preparing a bacon-centric breakfast in bed, or coming up with Pinteresting gift ideas. <BR> <BR> There’s no question that it’s important for us moms to encourage and assist our children in honoring dad. Especiall... Thu, 12 Jun 2014 22:08:59 EST Challenge 5/21---5/31 We are starting a daily 10 minute fitness streak. <BR> Every day exercise at least 10 minutes a day. Cardio or Strength! <BR> Post a fitness emoticon every day! <BR> <BR> If you already do more than this....try increasing your time. Tue, 20 May 2014 23:04:51 EST May Team Leaders May Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> SUZIPAM1 <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> FANCYKAYAH <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> -WRKNG2ABTTRME- <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> SUZIPAM1 <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> FANCYKAYAH <BR> SOCDIRECTOR <BR> JKHAYES90 <BR> Sun, 11 May 2014 04:31:09 EST 10 Ways to Make Your Marriage Divorceproof 10 Ways to Make Your Marriage Divorceproof <BR> <BR> 1. Realize that if you can agree on what constitutes a clean room, you can agree on anything. If you are the kind of person who wants the vacuum tracks on the living-room carpet to last all week (as in, Jason), you need to understand that your spouse is physically unable to hover three inches off the floor when traveling from point A to point B. You may have to shoulder the burden of raking the shag rug twice a day yourself. Conversely, if... Sun, 4 May 2014 12:52:44 EST Marriage Tip Over-communicate. - I used to have a bad habit of not speaking my feelings. I played the standard “You should know why I’m mad” game, and that’s just downright unfair. Men are not wired like women, and they DON’T always know that they’ve been insensitive. I’m still growing in this area, and there are often times when my husband has to pry something out of me, but I’m trying to remember that I need to just communicate how I feel Sun, 4 May 2014 12:41:41 EST 4 Levels of Communication 4 Levels of Communication: How Deep Are You? <BR> By Debra Fileta <BR> <BR> Communication is the lifeline of relationships. <BR> <BR> It’s the medium that connects two people with one another. With just a few words, a person can convey something as simple as a story, or as significant as what is on their mind and heart. It can be like a window into a person’s soul, if we allow it to be. <BR> <BR> You see, to every relationship there will always be the potential for different levels of c... Sun, 4 May 2014 12:36:12 EST Want to Draw Your Husband Closer? Want to Draw Your Husband Closer? Here's How <BR> Cindi McMenamin, Author <BR> <BR> Do you have times when you feel as if you walk alone in your marriage? Are there things you don’t understand about your man that drives a wedge between the two of you? <BR> <BR> Well, you don’t have to feel alone in your marriage anymore. You can be a woman who inspires your husband -- a wife who draws his heart closer to yours in ways you've never imagined. <BR> <BR> For years, I asked God to change my hus... Sun, 4 May 2014 12:28:09 EST The Challenge Week 1 (5/4)---The Challenge <BR> <BR> What can you do to improve your marriage? Take a look at your attitude in the last week. What tone did you set in your relationship? <BR> <BR> Questions <BR> <BR> What's the quickest way for your marriage to get better? <BR> Are you focused on your spouse's neglect? On his or her bad attitude? If so, how's that working for you? <BR> Do you have a choice in how you respond to your spouse's attitude or tone? If so, what are your options? <BR... Sun, 4 May 2014 11:26:29 EST The top 5 challenges of marriage The top 5 challenges of marriage <BR> By Katie Nielsen <BR> <BR> The wedding day is a single day. A marriage lasts a lifetime, and it is this difference that some couples don’t realize until the ceremony is over. Marriage is hard and tiring and frustrating and takes a lot of work to live happily ever after. <BR> <BR> Your wedding day is one of the most exciting, exhausting, stressful days of your life. It’s the day you look forward to and plan around for months or, in some cases, years.... Sun, 4 May 2014 11:22:05 EST Small surprises Do you do small surprises for your sig other? Mine is going to the field for 2 weeks. I made him note cards for every night to read before he goes to bed. Some of them I put pictures in for an added surprise. Fri, 2 May 2014 10:37:42 EST In a Difficult Marriage? In a Difficult Marriage? <BR> Some things you can do to stick it out <BR> Elisabeth Klein <BR> <BR> I'm writing this to the people I have met over the years who have told me that they are in a hard marriage and don't know if they can keep going one more day. And trust me, I have met way too many people in that situation who are followers of Jesus married to followers of Jesus. Being a Christian does not exempt you from marital problems; in fact, the downside is, we tend to keep it to oursel... Fri, 2 May 2014 05:37:33 EST When Your Spouse Has a Mental Illness Hope When Your Spouse Has a Mental Illness <BR> Hope for the marriage that’s not what you planned <BR> Julia Mateer <BR> <BR> Alma's speech became stilted, and her eyes brimmed with tears as she shared the moment she knew her marriage was over. It was not a matter of infidelity, immorality, or a lack of love that ended her marriage of three years. In fact, she and her husband deeply loved each other—but his manic episodes had taken a toll on their relationship and on their two-year-old daughter, ... Fri, 2 May 2014 05:32:16 EST Marriage License We went today and got our license!!!! We have 35 days to have our wedding/ceremony and turn it back into the state. We are so excited!!! Thu, 1 May 2014 15:42:36 EST Wedding Did you have a big wedding, small wedding, immediate family only or just you two? Mon, 28 Apr 2014 11:58:32 EST Thoughts & Prayers Are Needed Received this from Sharon (IAM HIS) our team leader: <BR> <BR> I am not certain if my sister will survive this chemo treatment. So right now I am spending my time with her and praying for her. Can you please let the members know that I will be away for awhile. <BR> <BR> Please keep her and the family in your thoughts & prayers! Sun, 27 Apr 2014 14:53:57 EST Happy Dance! Hubby took me shopping today for some new clothes. He was sick of looking at my to big clothes. Everything is falling off of me. So I picked out a dress that I liked in a XX thinking maybe it would fit. MAYBE. When this journey started I was in a 2 (plus sized 2, the store does plus 0, plus 1, plus 2....). The XX was too big! I asked James to grab me an XL, but they only had an L. He said "well, try it on. Worse case scenario it doesn't fit and we order you an XL" I bought the L because it fi... Fri, 25 Apr 2014 20:39:59 EST Hope For the Weary. Our story is unlike most. It's heart breaking; it's burdensome; it's redemption; it's God moving our mountain; it's love. Generally I just say "go read my blog," (and I have on this team) but today I want to share it on here. Nothing is impossible with God. Nothing. While I will never be able to fully understand His gloriously amazing love for us, through our marriage I have seen a small piece of it. I am humbled and blessed that He gave me this story to tell. <BR> Still feel free to check o... Sun, 13 Apr 2014 18:27:00 EST Just Need 30 Mins. a Week of Exercise, Seriously How often have you wanted to slim down, but been discouraged before you even started? All that sweaty effort and those endless hours plodding away on the elliptical machine or treadmill are, unsurprisingly, the biggest turn-off when it comes to getting into shape. But it turns out that you're actually spending more time than you need to. Yep, researchers have discovered that workout sessions lasting just 10 minutes, performed three times a week, can (and will) transform your body for the bett... Sun, 13 Apr 2014 08:01:48 EST Top Stay Together Tips Top Stay Together Tips <BR> <BR> Mutual respect <BR> <BR> As unromantic as it sounds, having mutual respect for each other will be a huge benefit to your relationship. This means never taking each other for granted or simply expecting certain things of each other without asking or having a discussion around roles. For example, how would you feel if your husband automatically expected you to know where his clean shirts were or assumed that all of the household chores were your domain and you... Sun, 13 Apr 2014 05:55:18 EST Why Your Friends Matter to Your Marriage Why Your Friends Matter to Your Marriage <BR> Dr. Rich Nicastro <BR> <BR> Relationship Interconnectedness <BR> <BR> Can your friends impact your marriage? <BR> <BR> You exist within a web of relationships—and these relationships can impact your marriage. <BR> <BR> An example of interconnectedness: <BR> <BR> Imagine a good friend is going through tough times and after spending some time together you find yourself feeling an emotional heaviness throughout the day, thinking and worrying ab... Sun, 13 Apr 2014 05:27:17 EST April Team Leaders April Team Leaders <BR> <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> 1.-WRKNG2ABTTRME- <BR> 2.RAPUNZEL53 <BR> 3.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 4.CERACOBBLER <BR> 5.FANCYKAYAH <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> 1.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 2.IAM_HIS <BR> 3.-WRKNG2ABTTRME- <BR> 4.RETIREDAT60 <BR> 5.JKHAYES90 <BR> Sun, 13 Apr 2014 03:54:35 EST How to Cope in a Harder-t han-Hard Marriage How to Cope in a Harder-than-Hard Marriage <BR> Elisabeth Klein <BR> <BR> I used to hate something about girls’ night out. Don’t get me wrong: I love my friends. But eventually the conversation would turn to our marriages and things like, “Can you believe I still have to pick up his socks?” or “If he comes home late for dinner one more time…” would inevitably come up. And I would sit there, trying to think of “regular” things to complain about. <BR> <BR> Because I had only dreamed that thos... Sat, 12 Apr 2014 11:18:16 EST SYMPLICITY <em>235</em> to the team. So glad yu joined us!! Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:34:06 EST Make time for him Make time for him <BR> <BR> Many of us grew up resenting men for making us stay home and watch the kids, clean the house, make the food, and everything else they could come up with. We were enraged when we saw how women were treated, hearing stories of overly controlling and manipulative men who would sabotage their wife's job so she would be home when he arrived. We also remember those about the men who wouldn't allow their wives to drive in an effort to keep them at home and away from othe... Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:30:52 EST What is everyone reading? My husband and I love to read. For my birthday month (he celebrated me the whole month of February by doing little things for me each day) I got 3 books, best gifts for me. Plus a friend gave me a marriage book for my birthday. We recently moved so I purged my book collection and have since gotten a kindle paperwhite which I love. <BR> <BR> So, what are you all reading? Got any good recommendations? <BR> <BR> I am currently reading Becoming Myself by Stasi Eldridge. I highly recommend it.... Thu, 10 Apr 2014 17:50:17 EST Using Words to Build Up Your Marriage Using Words to Build Up Your Marriage <BR> by Ruth Schwenk <BR> <BR> A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. –Proverbs 14:1 <BR> <BR> My dad is a builder. <BR> <BR> Growing up, I remember my dad always building or rebuilding something. And he was (and still is) very good it. Whether it is a new roof, deck, remodeled room, or floor, he has a skill for taking raw materials and building something beautiful. <BR> <BR> As wives, we are builders – sha... Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:59:07 EST Birthday, Easter, Birthday.... oy! Our youngest will be 12 the Tuesday before Easter (next Tuesday, tax day), then we have Easter, the day after Easter is my hubby's birthday. That is a lot of extra junk! I am not really worried about Easter as we focus less on the junk and more on our risen Savior. <BR> <BR> However, two birthdays means two parties and extra goodies that we don't normally have around. Generally I am pretty good, but I'd like to make these get togethers stress free but still have yumminess. For hubby's birth... Wed, 9 Apr 2014 12:55:23 EST How Do Appreciation & Gratitude Affect Your Life? How Do Appreciation & Gratitude Affect Your Life? <BR> by Jonathan <BR> <BR> I find it truly amazing how one, simple, positive action can change so much in a person’s life. In fact, recognizing the profound power of gratitude is one of the things that have had a huge effect on my life. It has made me a more positive and caring person. It has also made me a better husband, father, and friend. I can honestly say that in some very tangible ways, gratitude has made my life better. <BR> <BR> Har... Wed, 9 Apr 2014 08:34:52 EST Hey ya'll! *New* Let me see, I am going to try and make this as short as possible. Our life is a bit complicated. Or it is for those that haven't been around for the chaos. <BR> <BR> I am Teri. I am wife (ex-wife, really, but I'll get to that) to James. We have two fantastic sons: Zack is 14 and Noah will be 12 in a week. We are currently living in Ormond Beach, Fl, but that will only be for a little more than a year then we will move back to our home town of Ocala, Fl. James is in Respiratory Therapy schoo... Mon, 7 Apr 2014 21:24:47 EST Book suggestion I am not sure if this has been discussed before or not. I am reading "love languages" the military edition. I think this is an amazing book!! It is helping me with my emotions and how I perceive love and those around me. How can I make them feel more loved. It is really eye opening Mon, 7 Apr 2014 10:20:36 EST Hi, I'm new Hi, <BR> <BR> My name is Callie and I have 50 lbs to lose. I am off to a great start with SP. <BR> <BR> I like the official SP challenges. SP Official Healthy Cooking Challenge and SP Official 'Eat Up, Slim Down' Challenge <BR> <BR> Here are the changes I have made so far: <BR> 1. Planning meals now <BR> 2. Drinking 2.2 L of H2O per day <BR> 3. Keeping fruit in bowls throughout my house <BR> Lastly, Tracking my food calories with (wow....lots of work there, but gotta do it!) ... Sun, 6 Apr 2014 13:50:29 EST -DYET- Welcome to the team. So glad you are here!! Wed, 2 Apr 2014 16:29:15 EST March Team Leaders March Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> 1.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 2.CERACOBBLER <BR> 3.FANCYKAYAH <BR> 4.RAPUNZEL53 <BR> 5.-WRKNG2ABTTRME- <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> 1.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 2.RETIREDAT60 <BR> 3.FANCYKAYAH <BR> 4.BAROSS <BR> 5.SOCDIRECTOR <BR> <BR> <BR> Sun, 30 Mar 2014 04:34:36 EST The Good Wife Guide of 1955 <link><BR>/actual-1955-good-housekeeping-article/ </link> Wed, 26 Mar 2014 05:54:23 EST A Marriage Tip Throughout the evening, take opportunities to look into his eyes and to lovingly touch. Evenings might be a madhouse; but never, ever forget to date your man! Wed, 26 Mar 2014 05:53:03 EST Characteristics of a Good Spouse Characteristics of a Good Spouse <BR> <BR> 1.Pray. Ask your spouse how you can pray for him/her. If appropriate pray together for one another and your marriage. In either case, pray for your marriage privately or with a confidante. <BR> <BR> 2.Get help. Talk with others you trust and respect in confidence about your marriage and your role in it. Seek compassionate support and solicit honest feedback on what you need to work on. <BR> <BR> 3.Take initiative to spend time with your spouse. Do... Tue, 25 Mar 2014 20:41:02 EST Husband/Wi e..Couples Game Post the names of husband/wife famous couples. And, yes, some may/will have been married more than once to different people. <BR> <BR> Let's see who we can come up with! Fri, 14 Mar 2014 11:30:32 EST Appreciative Traits About Spouse.. ..Please share Post traits or things about your spouse that you appreciate. What was/is about them that you are proud of or appreciate? <BR> <BR> Let's see just how many we can come up with! Fri, 14 Mar 2014 11:28:03 EST hello Hi ..I'm delia I'm 35 yrs old I have 3 kids 17, 14,&9 I have been married for 19 yrs . I homeschool my kids but I also have a part time cleaning business. I'm glad I found this team I love my husband very much and I want to be an encouragement to him everyday ...nice to meet everyone Tue, 4 Mar 2014 16:27:33 EST Hello from Ohio I am WinterRoze ... I should tell you the reason behind my name. I for one LOVE roses & then I wish I could grow them in the WINTER months 2 keep me going ... because this year the winter here in OUR PART of the COUNTRY has gone on way to long 4 me !! Anyway that is how I got my name. <BR> <BR> And so my real name is KAREN and I am from Ohio. Have lived here just about 35 years this summer. I am of course married and have been for 36 years { 1 month from today } and so we met when he was i... Sat, 1 Mar 2014 10:47:12 EST What Are You Struggling With? Share with us whatever you are struggling with today. Sometimes, others can come up with ways of encouragement, support, motivation or simple tips to help. <BR> <BR> We're here to help each other! <em>223</em> Fri, 28 Feb 2014 13:13:07 EST KLH393, wel;come to the team We are very happy to welcome you to our team family! Thu, 27 Feb 2014 00:01:45 EST Date Night?....Ideas Do you or have you done a date night with you spouse,etc.? <BR> <BR> If so, what did you do? <BR> <BR> If not, would you like to start? Tue, 25 Feb 2014 19:15:40 EST M_SHOOK907, welcome We are very happy to have you join our team family! Welcome!! Tue, 25 Feb 2014 16:15:07 EST Marriage in the Melting Pot Marriage in the Melting Pot <BR> by Dr. Harold L. Arnold, Jr. <BR> <BR> The United States is a land of immigrants. Although political pundits continue to question American immigration policy, there is no question that what we call "American" culture is actually an amalgam of immigrant cultures. And, since Israel Zangwill's 1908 play, "The Melting Pot," the term "melting pot" has been used to describe America's cultural fusion. Now, one hundred years later, American culture will soon reach th... Sun, 23 Feb 2014 06:39:52 EST Ten Secrets to a Successful Marriage Ten Secrets to a Successful Marriage <BR> Here are 10 principles that will help you create and maintain a successful marriage. <BR> by Mitch Temple <BR> <BR> Successful couples are savvy. They read books, attend seminars, browse Web articles and observe other successful couples. However, successful couples will tell you that they also learn by experience – trial and error. <BR> <BR> Here are 10 principles of success I have learned from working with and observing hundreds of couples: <BR> ... Sun, 23 Feb 2014 06:36:06 EST Affection Affection <BR> <BR> Affection is the expression of care. It symbolizes security, protection, comfort and approval -- vital ingredients in any relationship. When one spouse is affectionate toward the other, the following messages are sent: <BR> <BR> 1. You are important to me. I will care for you and protect you. <BR> <BR> <BR> 2. I'm concerned about the problems you face and will be there for you when you need me. <BR> <BR> <BR> Learn to be more affectionate <BR> <BR> A simple h... Sun, 23 Feb 2014 02:08:01 EST The Most Important Emotional Needs The Most Important Emotional Needs <BR> <BR> As soon as I realized that a large Love Bank balance triggered the feeling of love, I went to work trying to discover what spouses could do for each other that would make the largest Love Bank deposits. I would ask couples, "What could your spouse do for you that would make you the happiest?" That very question focused on a core issue in marriage -- the issue of care. I could have asked the question, "How would you like your spouse to care for you... Sun, 23 Feb 2014 02:06:47 EST Instincts and Habits Instincts and Habits <BR> by Dr. Harley <BR> <BR> Most people think they have control over their behavior. They think they choose to do whatever it is they do. But many of us who have studied human behavior scientifically, and have tried to help people change their behavior, know differently. We know that the vast majority of what a person does is driven by instincts and habits -- ways of behaving that are automatic and almost effortless. So if you want to make Love Bank deposits and avoid w... Sun, 23 Feb 2014 01:58:14 EST The Love Bank The Love Bank <BR> by Dr. Harley <BR> <BR> Inside all of us is a Love Bank with accounts in the names of everyone we know. When these people are associated with our good feelings, "love units" are deposited into their accounts, and when they are associated with our bad feelings, love units are withdrawn. We are emotionally attracted to people with positive balances and repulsed by those with negative balances. This is the way our emotions encourage us to be with people who seem to treat us ... Sun, 23 Feb 2014 01:55:21 EST Marriage Secrets Every Woman Should Know Marriage Secrets Every Woman Should Know <BR> By Belinda Elliott <BR> <BR> Authors Greg and Shannon Ethridge have a message for women. You can have the marriage that you have always dreamed of! <BR> <BR> Whether your marriage is currently the best it has ever been, or it is in need of repair, the Ethridges suggest that these principles will improve your relationship. Even for troubled marriages, it will take work, but it is possible to breathe new life into a relationship that has grown li... Mon, 17 Feb 2014 13:21:12 EST How are you working at your marriage this week? As everyone says, a marriage takes lots of work. What are you doing to work on your marriage this week? <BR> <BR> I know that I am studying my husband this week. He is not a communicator, nor does he open up and share. So I do believe I can understand him better by observing & studying him. <BR> I even bought a special notebook. <BR> Mon, 17 Feb 2014 12:56:50 EST 2 Ways Every Wife Should Pursue Her Husband 2 Ways Every Wife Should Pursue Her Husband - Ruth Scwenk <BR> <BR> I want to be a wife who keeps pursuing my husband, not because I fear losing him, but because I still deeply desire him and love him. <BR> <BR> I don’t want him to doubt that. <BR> <BR> As I have thought about the art of pursuit in marriage, I think there are two primary ways that any wife needs to pursue her husband: <BR> <BR> 1. Affirmation - You should be your husband’s biggest fan! Tell him you love him, tell him he l... Sun, 16 Feb 2014 21:00:34 EST February Team Leaders February Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> 1.FANCYKAYAH <BR> 2.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 3.RAPUNZEL53 <BR> 4.IAM_HIS <BR> 5.CERACOBBLER <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> 1.IAM_HIS <BR> 2.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 3.RETIREDAT60 <BR> 4.SANDIK9806 <BR> 5.FANCYKAYAH <BR> Sun, 16 Feb 2014 10:58:06 EST Just for today, I will ______ You can post what you will do to better your marriage, help you lose weight or exercise more... <BR> <BR> Just for today, I will not eat after 7:30 PM Mon, 10 Feb 2014 22:07:40 EST How Gender Differences Can Build a Stronger Marria How Gender Differences Can Build a Stronger Marriage <BR> by Cindy Wright <BR> <BR> We’re sooooo different!” We hear this continually as we meet with other couples we mentor who are frustrated because of it. And we’ve said the same thing ourselves about our own relationship. <BR> <BR> But what’s “funny” about this is that before marriage, we usually view differences in positive way. <BR> <BR> “Before the wedding, differences tend to seem intriguing, interesting, and attractive. A few mont... Mon, 10 Feb 2014 21:21:16 EST Called To Encourage Your Husband Called To Encourage Your Husband <BR> by H. Norman Wright <BR> <BR> Every woman is given a power that can bring about change, growth, and the fulfillment of potential in another person, especially a significant man in her life. <BR> <BR> There are many women who try to encourage the men in their lives, and even think they are doing so. But it’s difficult to be an encourager if we don’t understand what encouragement really means. <BR> <BR> To be an encourager you need to have an attitude of... Mon, 10 Feb 2014 21:11:04 EST February Team Leaders February Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> 1.FANCYKAYAH <BR> 2.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 3.RAPUNZEL53 <BR> 4.CERACOBBLER <BR> 5.IAM_HIS <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> 1.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 2.IAM_HIS <BR> 3.RETIREDAT60 <BR> 4.SANDIK9806 <BR> 5.FANCYKAYAH <BR> Sun, 9 Feb 2014 14:37:54 EST 7 Secrets of Confident Women 7 Secrets of Confident Women- video with Joyce Meyers <BR> <BR> <link><BR>ml </link> Thu, 6 Feb 2014 08:40:59 EST The Urge To Tell My Husband “I Told You So!” The Urge To Tell My Husband “I Told You So!” <BR> <BR> Since marrying my best friend almost five years ago, there has been quite a few times where we have said to each other “I told you so!” <BR> <BR> Do you and your husband jump on opportunities to say these words? <BR> <BR> I feel like it is another way to add a tally to the “Who is Right” score board! Not that there should be such a thing in marriage, but in the back of my mind, it sure does feel good to be right. We don’t really kept t... Mon, 27 Jan 2014 09:14:19 EST Changing Your Spouse – and Yourself Changing Your Spouse – and Yourself <BR> By Lauri Przybysz <BR> <BR> They say that when a man marries a woman, he thinks, “She’s the one I’ve been waiting for. She’ll never change.” – and she always does. And a woman looks at her man, and thinks, “He just needs a little work; after we’re married, I’ll help him change” – and he never does. <BR> <BR> The truth is that both men and women will change as time goes on. Biologists tell us that every seven years we have totally replaced all the ce... Sat, 25 Jan 2014 04:47:07 EST Household Duties Household Duties <BR> By Mary Jo Pedersen <BR> <BR> The Situation <BR> <BR> It’s not just the ‘uns’ that irritated Heidi: the unmade bed, the un-emptied dishwasher, the un-folded laundry. It was the fact that Sam had been home all day and was asleep when she returned from her extra weekend shift at the hospital. She was tired and resentful and felt that he hadn’t done his share of keeping up the apartment, but always had time to watch his favorite sit-coms and sporting events. <BR> <BR> S... Sat, 25 Jan 2014 04:43:54 EST Hello from West TN Hi team! I am excited to find this group. My husband and I will soon be married three years (in March.) God has provided for me to be able to retire from 20 years in the classroom and homeschool my step-children. I have been in ministry my entire adult life and now have a homeschool ministry, offering free workshops and lesson plans to homeschool families. God has richly blessed me with a wonderful, Godly husband. <BR> <BR> Fri, 24 Jan 2014 16:14:32 EST What Speaks Love to Your Husband? What Speaks Love to Your Husband? <BR> By Cindi McMenamin <BR> <BR> I discovered most wives are more focused on what their husband’s aren’t doing to meet their expectations than on what they can do to make him feel loved. <BR> <BR> I, too, was once in that camp. I continued to let my husband know how he was failing to meet all my needs and expectations. Poor guy. I never thought to ask him how I could meet his. <BR> <BR> Then I decided that if transformation was really going to happen in ... Fri, 24 Jan 2014 10:23:54 EST Hey from TN I'm Kim. Wife of 25 years to my high school sweetheart/retired soldier (together for 29y). We have four children. I'm a home school mom and a children's ministry director. Thu, 23 Jan 2014 10:40:11 EST SHUNDA76, WELCOME! SHUNDA76, we are happy to have you join us! Welcome!! <BR> Tue, 21 Jan 2014 06:23:52 EST A Marriage Tip Welcome to a new year! Discover something new about your spouse today. Do you know his/her favorite website, in-law, romantic turn-on, scripture passage, etc.? Sun, 19 Jan 2014 04:09:46 EST How Me-Centeredness Sabotages Your Marriage The truth is it’s not so hard to turn our relationship with our husband into a game of cutthroat marriage. At least it’s not for me. <BR> <BR> It happens every time I put me — and not Jesus — at the center of my marriage. <BR> <BR> When my hunger to win trumps my passion for peace with my husband. <BR> <BR> When I decide being right is more important than being united. <BR> <BR> When having the last word becomes the ultimate prize. <BR> <BR> It’s a problem that’s plagued marriage since t... Fri, 17 Jan 2014 08:40:20 EST How to Deepen Empathy in Your Marriage: Three Key How to Deepen Empathy in Your Marriage: Three Key Skills <BR> By by John Yzaguirre, Ph.D., and Claire Frazier-Yzaguirre, M.Div., M.F.T <BR> <BR> It’s easy to fall into the trap of taking each other for granted or just putting up with each other. One husband described this bluntly: “When I get home my dog is the only one who seems excited to see me!” Make this year a break-through year in your relationship by trying three powerful empathy skills to deepen your love for each other. <BR> <BR... Thu, 16 Jan 2014 12:04:23 EST Help Your Marriage to Thrive Help Your Marriage to Thrive--by Susan Vogt <BR> <BR> Why? Why! Why are the Gore’s separating? Everybody who cares about relationships is trying to figure it out. I too have been trying to understand the Gore phenomenon. Having worked in both marriage and divorce ministry for many years, I’ve found that sometimes divorce can teach us a lot about the fragility of marriage. <BR> <BR> Sometimes it’s predictable. A couple gets married too young, for the wrong reasons, with only a soft commitmen... Thu, 16 Jan 2014 11:53:11 EST HOW TO CHANGE THE ONE YOU LOVE By Susan Vogt HOW TO CHANGE THE ONE YOU LOVE By Susan Vogt <BR> <BR> You can’t of course – at least not directly. Any good marriage counselor or parenting educator will tell you that. Change is an inside job. It’s hard enough to change yourself, much less make someone else change to meet your fancy. But that doesn’t stop us from nagging those close to us to be different. Now, granted, sometimes it’s a necessary parental job to point out to a child how he or she needs to change their ways. And of co... Thu, 16 Jan 2014 11:43:46 EST What It Really Takes to Stay True for the Long Hau What It Really Takes to Stay True for the Long Haul <BR> <BR> We somehow found ourselves at the top of the mountain. <BR> <BR> A romantic impulse, I suppose. But last week-end we were heading back home and he suddenly steered the car up the road to Timberline Lodge at the top of Mt. Hood, Oregon. <BR> <BR> A small detour up into the snowy peak. <BR> <BR> When we arrived at the grand historic Lodge, however, we found ourselves in a long line of cars as the parking lot appeared to be close... Thu, 16 Jan 2014 10:13:25 EST And We Wonder Why Chivalry is Dead And We Wonder Why Chivalry is Dead <BR> By Heidi St. John <BR> <BR> chiv·al·ry (shvl-r) <BR> n. pl. chiv·al·ries <BR> 1. The medieval system, principles, and customs of knighthood. <BR> 2.The qualities idealized by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women. <BR> a. A manifestation of any of these qualities. <BR> <BR> I read a blog post from the ever-interesting Matt Walsh today. Good thing too, because I was up against a writing deadline and inspiration ... Thu, 16 Jan 2014 10:08:19 EST Did you know? Studies indicate that the average couple spends only 20 minutes a day together. (Perhaps this only refers to direct relationship time; not sleeping, eating, chores). How much time will you spend with your spouse today? Do you need to increase “face time”? Mon, 13 Jan 2014 16:24:27 EST NYLASTAR , welcome! WooHoo, NYLASTAR has joined our team!! Welcome and it is great having you here!! Mon, 13 Jan 2014 12:22:10 EST DHUEY110, welcome DHUEY110 welcome to the team. We are so happy to have you here! Sun, 12 Jan 2014 11:21:54 EST Hello. When I first joined this site, the site decided that it would be enough for me to lose about 36 pounds. That's not so bad. Then I went to another site that would show me what I should look like at my target weight goal. I still looked fat. I think it might be because of all those scrawny models out there. Anyway, whatever the case, I decided that I want to lose even more. Now I have 60 pounds to lose. I hope I did not set an unrealistic goal. I used the BMI chart to help me. Plus I never had ... Sun, 12 Jan 2014 03:28:54 EST 5 Keys to Loving Each Other (When Liking Each Othe 5 Keys to Loving Each Other (When Liking Each Other is Hard) <BR> By Sheila <BR> <BR> My husband is my best friend. But it hasn’t always been this way. <BR> <BR> Our journey hasn’t always been easy, but somewhere between the good, the bad, and the ugly, we discovered how to love each other through it all…even when liking each other was hard. <BR> <BR> Marriages seldom come neatly wrapped in conflict free packages and our marriage is no exception. <BR> <BR> Polar opposites with different p... Fri, 10 Jan 2014 14:39:14 EST 7 Thoughts That Will Change a Marriage 7 Thoughts That Will Change a Marriage <BR> by Laurel Cooper <BR> <BR> 1. God is your Father-in-Law <BR> <BR> We like to think of God as our Father, our Daddy, our Abba. That’s all very true. God is our Father, and He does love us, and care for us, and listen to our prayers, and want the best for us. He is going to bat for us. <BR> <BR> He’s also your husband’s Father. And that means that He really cares about your husband, and He really loves your husband, and He listens to your husban... Fri, 10 Jan 2014 14:06:51 EST How to Treat Your Husband With Respect How to Treat Your Husband With Respect <BR> By Dee Willis <BR> <BR> Respect between a husband and wife is crucial to the success of the marriage. However, men tend to place more emphasis on the need for respect in the relationship than do wives. Wives can learn effective ways to treat their husbands with respect and build stronger, healthier marriages with deeper intimacy and greater love. <BR> <BR> Instructions <BR> 1 See your husband's good-will. Accept that mistakes often occur with go... Fri, 10 Jan 2014 12:36:07 EST What does a man really need from his wife? What does a man really need from his wife? <BR> Posted by Angeline <BR> <BR> Just like women, men need to feel supported and loved by their wives… but what makes them feel loved and supported may not be what you think! Women need safety, security, emotional and financial support along with nurturing and a man that makes her feel sexy– this is just a short list of what women tend to need from their husbands. So it makes sense that we as women try to give our men these things that WE would w... Fri, 10 Jan 2014 12:22:23 EST Your husband needs desperately to hear affirmation Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them. <BR> <BR> These sad words, penned by Thoreau, reveal how totally, desperately, yeah, that’s right, desperately your man needs you . . . that I need you, Lisa. <BR> <BR> I wonder, sometimes, if most women really understand that. Do you truly understand the immense power you have in the life of your husband? <BR> <BR> From the man’s perspective, if his woman doesn’t believe in him . . . isn’t fanaticall... Wed, 8 Jan 2014 15:21:54 EST MOTHERBAGGINS , welcome to our team family! It is always exciting and wonderful to welcome a new team member. My you find the support, help and encouragement you are looking for here. Welcome!! Wed, 8 Jan 2014 12:07:36 EST KARIJOK Welcome to our team! It is wonderful to have you join us. Wed, 8 Jan 2014 10:48:37 EST STITCHMOMMA04, welcome to the team So happy you joined us. Welcome!!! Tue, 7 Jan 2014 20:11:23 EST Marriage Building Games Marriage Building Games <BR> By Laurie Swenson <BR> <BR> The perfect marriage, like all other perfect things, does not exist. Marriage is an ongoing learning experience that requires some work. That does not mean, however, that the work has to feel like a chore. Marriage building games can help a couple strengthen their marriage in enjoyable ways that can help them feel closer. <BR> <BR> Game Night <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> Sitting at a table together playing games can be a cozy experience, w... Tue, 7 Jan 2014 13:46:12 EST Three ways to handle an unhappy marriage Three ways to handle an unhappy marriage <BR> by Dr. Corey Allan <BR> <BR> Problems in marriage are inevitable. Even chronic. <BR> <BR> And so, at times, is unhappiness. <BR> <BR> After studying 645 couples where one spouse rated their marriage as unhappy, a research study from a team of family scholars found that 2/3s of the couples who chose to stick it out together reported a significantly happier marriage five years later. <BR> <BR> So what makes the difference if you choose not to di... Tue, 7 Jan 2014 13:34:31 EST MHARRIS415, welcome to the team WooHoo, it's great to have you join us. Welcome! Sun, 5 Jan 2014 14:50:19 EST BELIEVERINPA , it's great to welcome you! BELIEVERINPA , so very honored to have you join this team!! Sun, 5 Jan 2014 14:17:13 EST JANUARY TEAM LEADERS January Team Leaders <BR> <BR> Spark Points: <BR> PURPLELOVER13 <BR> DBALZER <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> LAKENDAL <BR> <BR> Fitness Mins: <BR> SALLYANDGENE <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> JESSIJESS8058 <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> BAROSS <BR> <BR> Sun, 5 Jan 2014 08:25:46 EST Affection Affection is something that's learned. Some men (and women) who were raised in families that did not show affection are taught how to show affection by their girlfriends or wives. But other men have never been taught. <BR> <BR> You apparently received the affection you needed from your lover. It was your friend's affection that met your need. Your husband can learn to say and do many of the same things, and mean it. <BR> <BR> Whenever I counsel a man who is not very affectionate, I give h... Sat, 4 Jan 2014 10:17:38 EST 5 Ways to Make Your Marriage Stronger 5 Ways to Make Your Marriage Stronger <BR> Here are 5 simple tips on how to improve your marriage with just a little observation and effort. <BR> BY JENNA D. BARRY <BR> <BR> Whether you have been married for six months or 60 years, you can always learn ways to become a better husband or wife. In fact, the happiest couples I know are the ones who make a deliberate effort to learn how to make their marriage better. <BR> <BR> Most of us didn’t have very good training on how to be a great m... Fri, 3 Jan 2014 13:49:41 EST A Date Idea Plan a “Favorites Night” around your favorite food, clothes, games, sports, etc. Each spouse could choose a favorite activity which you then combine into one evening, or the wife could propose her favorite activities for one date and the husband plans the next date with his favorites. Thu, 2 Jan 2014 10:25:53 EST A Couple that Prays Together A Couple that Prays Together By Renee Fisher <BR> <BR> Marriage is a strange thing. It combines the physical sweet union with the spiritual. How does God fit into marriage? As long as a couple walks hand in hand with God and each other—they will be prepared. So why are we so easily surprised by trials? <BR> <BR> Trials force us to pray. <BR> Let’s be honest—if it weren’t trials—the first year of marriage would go a little something like this. <BR> <BR> <BR> Dear God, please bless my sex ... Thu, 2 Jan 2014 09:53:15 EST How To Spot And Defeat The Four Marriage Killers How To Spot And Defeat The Four Marriage Killers <BR> <BR> The first destructive horseman in a relationship is criticism. Understanding the difference between criticizing and complaining is more than semantics, because criticism is the slippery slope that slides into contempt. <BR> <BR> Criticisms creep in when complaints are ignored. Criticisms are global attacks on character and worth that target the shortcomings of the other. Complaints are objective statements of unmet needs. An effecti... Sun, 29 Dec 2013 16:12:03 EST Fireproof Your Marriage Fireproof Your Marriage - I Will Not Take For Granted <BR> By Gloria Waite <BR> <BR> Do you know what it's like to feel taken for granted? Most of us do fairly well at showing appreciation when we receive a special gift or surprise. we stop and appreciate the daily routine jobs our mates do for the family or marriage? Do you take for granted the marriage you have? Or the husband you have? Or what your wife does for you? <BR> <BR> It seems that the wedding vows should include: I w... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 17:05:51 EST 3 Ways to Deal with a Traveling Husband 3 Ways to Deal with a Traveling Husband <BR> BY Michelle Lindsey <BR> <BR> My husband travels a lot for his job. He attends conferences all over the country. This leaves me in charge of the house and the kids. <BR> <BR> If you have a spouse who travels a lot, you know how hard it can be for everyone involved. There are still times I want to cry my head off, but there are ways to make it easier. A crazy travel schedule can be hard, but if you are intentional about things, you can make it wor... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 17:02:01 EST Seriously, Just Listen to Your Spouse Seriously, Just Listen to Your Spouse Nov7 If there are any husbands out there reading this, can I just tell you that sometimes your wife just wants to feel validated in her feelings? You don’t have to fix it. You don’t have to agree. You simply have to empathize. I realize that empathy might come easier for women, but that fact just makes it all the more frustrating for wives when our husbands struggle in this area. There are times, we just need a kind ear and some understanding. I have star... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 16:58:20 EST What it Means to Be a “1 Peter 3 Wife” {Part 1} What it Means to Be a “1 Peter 3 Wife” {Part 1} <BR> <BR> For the next few days, our dear friend, Lorraine, will be sharing her story. Please follow along! <BR> <BR> Sometimes the situations we find ourselves in our marriages just seem hopeless. We ask God, “what are you working out here in my life? What is your ultimate aim?” Well, I found myself in just this position and discovered not only an amazing God who truly loves me, but a call by him to be the wife he wanted me to be . . . a ‘1 P... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 16:56:10 EST Just Spell It Out for Him Just Spell It Out for Him--By Michelle Lindsey <BR> <BR> You know the feeling. Your husband is doing something that’s driving you crazy. Maybe it’s something as little as getting ready and throwing his clothes on the floor. Or he’s leaving without kissing you goodbye. Or he isn’t helping you with dinner or housework. <BR> <BR> You let him do it. You decide not to say anything, so you can prove a point afterwards. You let him go through with the whole thing. <BR> <BR> It’s just that simple... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 16:52:48 EST 3 Reasons Marriage Isn’t for Sissies 3 Reasons Marriage Isn’t for Sissies- Tim Keller <BR> <BR> I am now in my second decade of marriage. It has been amazing. It has also been blood, sweat and tears. I feel pretty proud of myself when I stop to think about it. We have come a long way. I imagine it’s the same feeling a mountain climber experiences when he reaches the summit, or a cage fighter after a few rounds in the ring. (Okay, maybe not that extreme.) I do know that marriage takes work, and it is not for the faint of heart.... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 16:49:05 EST Living in LOVE : Remembering why you married Living in LOVE : Remembering why you married <BR> <BR> The kids are yelling, the dog is barking, and you just found out that your spouse forgot to do the one thing that you needed them to do today…again! This scenario may sound typical for your family, or your scenario could be worse. Maybe you and your spouse are arguing more and more, and connecting less and less? You may have even asked yourself, “Is this marriage a mistake?”. Though you knew your life wouldn’t be like the Brady Bunch, yo... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 16:45:29 EST Hello! Hi! My name is Debbie. I joined this team because I'm a newlywed (3 weeks), and I need to lose weight! I was a Sparks member years ago, but because of issues with my back and my life becoming busy, I stopped making time to take care of me. And with that, came back the pounds I had lost along with even more pounds! Tue, 24 Dec 2013 21:16:04 EST GODSDAUGHTER60 , welcome!! GODSDAUGHTER60, it is wonderful to have you join us!! Welcome!! Sun, 22 Dec 2013 08:55:27 EST How to Reduce Hurt Feelings When You and Your Spou How to Reduce Hurt Feelings When You and Your Spouse Disagree <BR> by Nancy Wasson in Communication <BR> <BR> One of the biggest on-going problems for couples is how to reduce the hurt feelings that can result from arguments and disagreements. The fall-out from a no-holds barred, kill your opponent, verbal altercation can last for decades. <BR> <BR> I have worked with numerous couples in marriage counseling who have struggled with forgiving each other for damaging words they have said durin... Thu, 19 Dec 2013 10:36:33 EST Be Your Spouse’s Biggest Fan Be Your Spouse’s Biggest Fan <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> by Rick Warren <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> “Encourage each other every day while it is ‘today.’” (Hebrews 3:13a NCV) <BR> <BR> If you’re married, God has given you an incredibly important role: to be your spouse’s biggest fan. It’s a job only you can do in the way God desires, and your spouse desperately needs you to do it. <BR> <BR> We live in a world full of critics. We don’t have to look far to find someone who will put us... Mon, 16 Dec 2013 09:25:01 EST The Unselfish Marriage The Unselfish Marriage - by Rick Warren <BR> <BR> “Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.” (Philippians 2:4 NLT) <BR> <BR> Marriage gives you many opportunities to make adjustments in your life. Change happens all the time — from the changing stages of your children to moves to job changes to illnesses. When circumstances change in your lives, both you and your spouse will have to make adjustments to keep your marriage on track. In fact, simply bei... Mon, 16 Dec 2013 09:20:56 EST Couples sometimes relate by making little jokes Couples sometimes relate by making little jokes with a tiny barb in them - "Oh, never marry a youngest child!" and the retaliation, "Never marry a Jones." Humor is great but beware of the temptation to be funny at the expense of your beloved. It can slowly erode your affection for each other. Talk about how you kid each other. Make sure your "jokes" don't have barbs in them.* <BR> Mon, 16 Dec 2013 08:20:00 EST A Marriage Tip Affair-proof your marriage. Often affairs start because one partner starts confiding in a friend of the opposite sex. Once personal troubles are compassionately received by another, a bond starts to deepen. If something’s troubling you enough, a counselor is the safer outlet. Sat, 14 Dec 2013 18:03:19 EST IS FACEBOOK BAD FOR YOUR MARRIAGE? IS FACEBOOK BAD FOR YOUR MARRIAGE? <BR> <BR> Are you one of the 500 million active Facebook users around the world today? Maybe you access a range of social media platforms daily, or maybe you’re a little wary of the whole idea? Maybe you think Facebook is a fantastic tool for keeping in touch with people, or maybe you’re worried about privacy or loss of traditional face to face contact? Opinion is often divided on how and why we should use social media, but it’s hard to deny that it’s incr... Sat, 14 Dec 2013 18:00:04 EST Potluck ideas I have a potluck luncheon next week. I'm making stuffed green pepper soup but need one more idea. I think for my second dish I'd like to go meatless but it's not necessary. All suggestions are welcome whether they have meat or not. <BR> <BR> Thank you <BR> <BR> Thu, 12 Dec 2013 17:36:18 EST 10 Ways to Improve Your Marriage Right Now 10 Ways to Improve Your Marriage Right Now <BR> Written by Sasha Brown-Worsham <BR> <BR> Marriage is not easy. When you've seen people who make it 10, 15, and 30 years together, you know you are looking at two people who have fought, compromised, and stayed committed to one another through a lot. There's a lot to be learned from these people. <BR> <BR> But marriages don't fail from big problems, at least not all the time. Very often, people end up splitting over the small things, especiall... Wed, 11 Dec 2013 10:28:15 EST 3 Steps to Triumph in Your Trials 3 Steps to Triumph in Your Trials <BR> <BR> Step 1 – Remember Job – He is God in the stillness and in the storm. God knows every detail about you including the worst thing you are facing right now. The book of Job gives us a “peek behind the curtain.” Satan is at work – in every trauma, trouble, and trial we face – but so is God. <BR> <BR> God never gives you the grace for someone else’s trials but He always gives you the grace for what He calls you to walk through. <BR> <BR> Step 2 – Be... Wed, 11 Dec 2013 10:21:54 EST How To Deal With Stress and Anxiety in Four Simple How To Deal With Stress and Anxiety in Four Simple Steps <BR> <BR> Why Worry? <BR> Stress and anxiety do have their place. They push us to make necessary changes in our lives. They signal when we may be in danger, and inspire us to take action to get ourselves out of danger. (This danger can be any type of threat to our physical or emotional well-being, from not doing well on a test to losing a job to losing a friend.) In this way, feelings of stress and anxiety are healthy and necessary; w... Tue, 10 Dec 2013 09:27:12 EST DECEMBER TEAM LEADERS December Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> 1.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 2.RAPUNZEL53 <BR> 3.CERACOBBLER <BR> 4.CJBAGGINS <BR> 5.DRAGONSDAWN <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> 1.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 2.SALLYANDGENE <BR> 3.JESSIJESS8058 <BR> 4.SOCDIRECTOR <BR> 5.RETIREDAT60 <BR> Mon, 9 Dec 2013 10:21:18 EST Prepare Your Marriage for the Holidays Prepare Your Marriage for the Holidays <BR> <BR> 1) Communicate your expectations: Often we assume our spouse knows what we value and expect over the holidays, but it’s usually worth a conversation or two. You might be both be surprised at the honest answer. You also might find that these things change over time. <BR> <BR> 2) Hold your traditions loosely: Traditions can be delightful – but they should never be held above your relationship. God cares more about the love and peace between... Sat, 7 Dec 2013 19:28:10 EST Perseverance: Love Never Ends Perseverance: Love Never Ends <BR> by Mary Jo Pedersen <BR> <BR> When Courtney crossed the stage to receive her diploma a small crowd in the hall exploded in applause. Her husband Stan cheered loudly, standing with both hands in the air. Exiting the stage, she looked up, pointed to Stan and blew a kiss. <BR> <BR> That said it all! <BR> <BR> They both knew this moment was a joint victory for them, the culmination of a “steady persistent course of action…in spite of difficulties and discou... Fri, 6 Dec 2013 06:27:59 EST Finances Do financial problems cause divorce? <BR> <BR> Financial counselors often point to finances as the most common cause of divorce. That’s only partially true. A study by Jason Carroll of Brigham Young University looked at 600 couples from across the nation from various ethnic, religious and economic backgrounds. According to Carroll, the study showed that “financial problems are as much a result of how we think about money as how we spend it.” <BR> <BR> One of the first things couples need to... Fri, 6 Dec 2013 06:21:44 EST