SparkPeople Married Life Team Messageboard http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_individual.asp?gid=11877 Married Life team's goal is to promote a healthy, long-lasting and happy marriage. We motivate and encourage each other to follow God's plan for marriage, as well as living a health life style. SparkPeople Married Life Team Messageboard http://www.sparkpeople.com/assets/nav/nav_logo_v3.gif http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_individual.asp?gid=11877 7 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriag http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x59417460 7 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage <BR> by David Peach <BR> <BR> Thinking about when you were dating should bring a smile to your face. You were young (at least younger than you are now). You had fewer pressures in your life and you could focus more time on the one you loved. If there were other important things going on, they only seemed to get in the way of your dating relationship. <BR> <BR> Now, a few (or several) years later, it seems that everything is turned around.... Fri, 10 Oct 2014 11:40:02 EST What does marriage mean to you? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x59410158 Please post your answers. Thu, 9 Oct 2014 17:32:12 EST When you parnter has a chronic illness http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x59196056 A chronic disease like rheumatoid arthritis can bring marital stress, if you let it. Learn about some common challenges and how to deal with them. <BR> <BR> Relationship Challenges <BR> <BR> While the challenges of the person living with the disease may be obvious, partners without rheumatoid arthritis face obstacles, too. <BR> <BR> When your partner is in pain. “It is difficult to watch her, with all the pain and the frustration that she goes through,” Waide says. <BR> <BR> When... Fri, 19 Sep 2014 10:21:49 EST Lord, May Our Hearts Beat As One http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x59161463 Lord, help us to grow in unity. Teach us to live compassionately, embracing the needs of each other as we would our own. May our hearts beat as one, as together we seek to walk in Your mercy and grace. In Jesus name I pray. Amen. <BR> <BR> God’s desire for us is that we might be one in the bond of unity in the same way that we are one in the union and fellowship of Christ. <BR> <BR> Consider this verse, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: ... Tue, 16 Sep 2014 08:02:47 EST A trip down Memory Lane: http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x59152782 A trip down Memory Lane: <BR> <BR> How did you decide to marry? <BR> Was the proposal traditional? Creative? Expected? Mutual? <BR> <BR> Share your experience with us. Mon, 15 Sep 2014 12:35:39 EST 5 Ways to Take Care of Yourself Emotionally http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=28037x11877x59082018 1. Remind yourself to notice your mood as you go through your day. Be vigilant when negative thoughts hijack your mind and send you into a downward spiral. Before you know it, you'll be gathering kindling -- evidence that the other person is wrong ("Who does he think he is?!"). Enough kindling, and you can't avoid a firestorm. Instead, keep yourself on a positive track. Don't fret the small stuff...Two steps forward, one step back still takes you in the right direction." Most of the time, the... Mon, 8 Sep 2014 13:42:45 EST My Huband has ADHD (all advice welcome) http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x59081747 I love my husband very much, but his ADHD is one of the most trying things I have had to encounter in our newlywed marriage. We are going through a very stressful time right now, and instead of understanding what I need he offers advice that doesn't seem to have taken in consideration key things of the conversation. He interrupts constantly, gets upset over things before he realize he didn't understand them clearly, and is stubborn about what he wants to do before he understand it really won'... Mon, 8 Sep 2014 13:00:29 EST September Team Leaders http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=28037x11877x59066746 September Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> TSCANDIDSHOTS <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> MCJOYFUL <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> MOMMA48 <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> SUZIPAM1 <BR> MOMMA48 <BR> MCJOYFUL <BR> SOCDIRECTOR <BR> Sun, 7 Sep 2014 04:35:19 EST Fight for Control (Part 3) http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x59062750 Giving Up, Pushing Back <BR> <BR> Then the Lord spoke to Jonah a second time: “Get up and go to the great city of Nineveh, and deliver the message I have given you.” <BR> <BR> This time Jonah obeyed the Lord’s command and went to Nineveh.” (Jonah 3:1–3) <BR> <BR> Submitting my marriage commitment to God was only the beginning. Daily, I exercised the practices of not being right, shutting my mouth, and giving grace. I submitted to authority figures in my life, trying with great diff... Sat, 6 Sep 2014 16:33:44 EST Thinking Errors http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x59047782 Here are some of the major ‘thinking errors’ that interrupt our ability to take responsibility. Judge for yourself how you see them impacting your relationships. <BR> <BR> 1. Denial: “I am not doing anything wrong. I have no problem.” <BR> <BR> 2. Blame-shifting: “It’s not me that’s doing anything wrong. It’s not my fault. It’s your fault.” <BR> <BR> 3. Victim Stance: “I’m getting a raw deal. Nothing ever goes my way. I’m getting the blame for everything.” <BR> <BR> 4. Minimization/ Sanit... Fri, 5 Sep 2014 03:27:41 EST Fighting for Control (Part 1) http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x59043467 Fighting for Control <BR> Swallowing my pride to save my marriage <BR> By Mary Goodrich <BR> <BR> I was dumbfounded, not really understanding what I’d just heard. My husband and I were at the gym together. Free weights, mirrors, machines, the smell of rubber and sweat. He said it again: “When I tell you to get up, I mean now. Move quickly.” <BR> <BR> I shook my head still in disbelief. My husband does not speak to me this way. It’s been many years since we learned the kind of communication ... Thu, 4 Sep 2014 16:18:22 EST Your Encouragement May Be What He Needs http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x59006515 Your Encouragement May Be What He Needs <BR> by Proverbs Wife <BR> <BR> I truly believe that we are either building our husbands up or tearing them down. <BR> Encouraging or discouraging. <BR> <BR> Tearing them down can come in the form of a snide remark and building them up can be something as simple as saying, “I trust you” when there’s a decision to be made. <BR> It’s important for me to encourage my husband. It helps build his character, his faith and his confidence. <BR> <BR> Now plea... Mon, 1 Sep 2014 08:03:36 EST What Makes Your Spouse Feel Loved? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x59006381 What Makes Your Spouse Feel Loved? <BR> By Nancy C. Anderson <BR> <BR> Study your mate as if he or she was a textbook and you were studying for a final exam. <BR> <BR> If we make an effort to learn about our mates’ preferences and priorities, they will feel understood and appreciated. If we educate ourselves about the various differences between our mates and us, and work on ways to play to each other’s strengths, we’ll build strong hedges around our marriages. <BR> <BR> Things to Think Ab... Mon, 1 Sep 2014 07:46:52 EST A Marriage Rut http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x59006303 A Marriage Rut - Part 1 <BR> <BR> A marriage rut is formed by habits, both good and bad. You and your spouse move from the honeymoon phase to the reality of household chores, keeping food on the table and a roof over your heads, and raising your children. These are performed by necessity and are obviously good habits. But what’s missing in this line-up of good habits? <BR> <BR> Maybe you noticed: there was no mention of time set aside for you and your husband to have fun and solidify your m... Mon, 1 Sep 2014 07:38:04 EST BONDING AS A COUPLE - SHARING FEELINGS http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x59006212 BONDING AS A COUPLE - SHARING FEELINGS <BR> By Susan Vogt <BR> <BR> One way that couples develop closeness is to share their feelings (not just their opinions and plans but also their emotions) with each other. Often sharing on this level comes more easily to one spouse than the other. Following is a way to get in touch with what each other really cares about and what joys and burdens your spouse is carrying. It doesn’t require much time (maybe 10-15 minutes). The only supplies needed are a ... Mon, 1 Sep 2014 07:26:34 EST I FEEL LOVED WHEN… http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x59006192 I FEEL LOVED WHEN… <BR> <BR> It is particularly nice to feel loved and cared for by one special person. It is an unrealistic expectation, however, to think that one partner can ‘just naturally know’ what helps the other feel especially loved. It is a romantic myth that “If you really loved me, you would know what I want.” <BR> <BR> Individually complete the following sentence: <BR> I feel loved when ____________________ OR, I appreciate it when _______________________ <BR> <BR> List at lea... Mon, 1 Sep 2014 07:23:43 EST When Your Spiritual Gifts Clash With Your Spouse’s http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x58876813 When Your Spiritual Gifts Clash With Your Spouse’s <BR> By Mandy Pagano <BR> <BR> It was a simple phone call that landed me in hot water. A phone call and an innocent mistake led to a tense few moments between my husband and myself. I ordered take out for a friend who was in need and made a mistake when ordering. The result was an extra $20 charge that I didn’t expect. I tried every which way to fix my mistake, but the restaurant wasn’t budging. I just had to suck it up, hope my friend reall... Mon, 18 Aug 2014 12:18:24 EST Do Great Marriages Live A Perfect Life? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x58865603 Do Great Marriages Live A Perfect Life? <BR> Drs. Charles & Elizabeth Schultz <BR> <BR> Too often, people assume that those who have the most successful marriages live in some kind of la-la land – a perfect world – a place where everything is fair, just, and beautiful – a Nirvana land! Here’s the truth – nothing could be further from the truth <BR> <BR> We have constantly and relentlessly pursued this question in our interviews in 47 countries on all seven continents of the world – “Do the... Sun, 17 Aug 2014 10:54:53 EST 5 Ways to Stop Negative Atmosphere in Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x58865530 Here are the 5 ways you turn the negative atmosphere into a positive one in your marriage: <BR> by Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz <BR> <BR> 1. Take an honest look at what YOU could do differently to improve your marriage. Could you spend more time with your spouse, or take more interest in their hobbies, or stop pointing out their weaknesses or talk more openly about what is bothering you? <BR> <BR> 2. Repair your spirit and your balance. Take the steps to get healthy mentally and p... Sun, 17 Aug 2014 10:47:16 EST Help Your Negative Spouse http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x58865384 Help Your Negative Spouse <BR> <BR> If you are married to a negative personality, you are not responsible for making him/her feel better. However, here are some things you can do to help your spouse be more positive: <BR> <BR> Do not take the negativity personally. <BR> Remember that the negativity is your spouse's problem, not yours. <BR> If your spouse rejects your offers of help, don't over react. <BR> Spend time with positive folks. You will need some time off from your spouse's ne... Sun, 17 Aug 2014 10:32:55 EST Get Out of the Marriage Rut http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x58865347 Do you ever think that your marriage relationship is stuck in a rut? Do you feel stifled? Do you see your marriage as going nowhere? Do you believe the two of you are growing apart? <BR> <BR> It took time to get your marriage in a rut. It will take time to get your marriage out of a rut. Here is a seven-step approach to help the two of you get your marriage out of a rut and to repair your marriage. <BR> <BR> Seven Approaches to Getting out of a Rut in Your Marriage <BR> So what do you do... Sun, 17 Aug 2014 10:29:15 EST How to Feel Better About the Way You http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=28037x11877x58797299 How to Feel Better About the Way You Look <BR> <BR> Feeling good about the way you look can make a big difference in so many areas of your life. That includes your marriage. <BR> <BR> <link>www.wikihow.com/Feel-Better-About-th<BR>e-Way-You-Look </link> Sun, 10 Aug 2014 09:17:31 EST Making Relationships Work in Difficult Times http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x58797182 Making Relationships Work in Difficult Times <BR> Herbert G. Lingren, Extension Family Scientist <BR> <BR> Any partnership, even good marriages, has bad times. It may help to consider relationships as works in progress, a long-term commitment in which the "downs" sometime outnumber the "ups." Here is advice to help guide couples in difficult situations. <BR> <BR> Signs of a Healthy Partnership <BR> <BR> Shared goals, values, and dreams clearly help keep a relationship alive and vital. Do o... Sun, 10 Aug 2014 09:03:56 EST Keep the Glow Going in your Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x58797127 Keep the Glow Going in your Marriage <BR> by Thomas R. Lee, Ph.D. <BR> <BR> When you and your spouse first met, talking, doing things for each other or just being together was probably very romantic. During that exciting and memorable time of courtship, having someone you admired notice and care about you was a real thrill. How can you keep that glow going in your marriage? Many other responsibilities compete for your attention. Stresses and worries can crowd out time for your spouse and you... Sun, 10 Aug 2014 08:55:43 EST Putting Some Spark Back in Your Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x58797070 Putting Some Spark Back in Your Marriage <BR> by Glen O. Jenson, Ph.D <BR> <BR> One of the best ways I know to overcome daily discouragements is to give yourself a gift that will pay dividends for the future. This gift would enhance a marital relationship, and is inexpensive. Here is a list of my top ten: <BR> <BR> 1. Make your spouse number ONE in your life. Your love and loyalty to your spouse is necessary for their emotional well-being. Usually spouses who feel they are number one, try t... Sun, 10 Aug 2014 08:50:00 EST 5 Secrets of a Happy Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x58797030 5 Secrets of a Happy Marriage <BR> by Ruth Soukup <BR> <BR> A while back I was reading one of those articles about funny things kids say and one of the kids was asked the question, “How can a stranger tell if two people are married?” and he answered, “You might have to guess, based on whether they’re yelling at the same kids.” <BR> <BR> Yes. <BR> <BR> That about sums it up. <BR> <BR> Because as much as we walk down that long center aisle wearing a gorgeous white gown, our own version of W... Sun, 10 Aug 2014 08:46:46 EST August Team Leaders http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=28037x11877x58795591 August Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> MCJOYFUL <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> SANDIK9806 <BR> SOCDIRECTOR <BR> JKHAYES90 <BR> <BR> Sun, 10 Aug 2014 02:49:30 EST Shipping foods http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x58682127 Since my DH is out of country. I am looking for some goodies I can bake and send to him that wont go bad. Any suggestions? Tue, 29 Jul 2014 15:42:00 EST Jeff Bridges Reveals The Key To A Long And Happy M http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x58656113 Jeff Bridges Reveals The Key To A Long And Happy Marriage <BR> <BR> Jeff Bridges has been married to his wife Susan for nearly four decades, all while working in an industry known for it's failed marriages: Hollywood. <BR> <BR> Bridges revealed three ways to maintain a happy, long-lasting marriage. <BR> <BR> 1. Loving someone means supporting them. <BR> <BR> "This industry is tough on relationships. I've always thought that my wife should have a credit up alongside mine, because I couldn'... Sun, 27 Jul 2014 02:27:43 EST Policy of Radical Honesty: http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x58656088 Policy of Radical Honesty: <BR> Dr. Harley <BR> <BR> If you and your spouse are to be in love with each other, you must give honesty special attention. That's because it plays such an important role in the creation of romantic love. It's one of the ten most important emotional needs, so when it's met, it can trigger the feeling of love. On the other hand, its counterpart, dishonesty, is a Love Buster -- it destroys love. <BR> <BR> But there's another reason that honesty is crucial in creati... Sun, 27 Jul 2014 02:14:07 EST The Policy of Undivided Attention http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x58656082 The Policy of Undivided Attention <BR> <BR> Before you were married, spending time alone with each other was your highest priority. You probably spent the majority of your leisure time together, and the time you spent together was probably the most enjoyable part of every week. <BR> <BR> You tried to talk to each other every day. If you couldn't be with each other face-to-face, you talked on the telephone, maybe for hours. And when you were together, you gave each other your undivided atten... Sun, 27 Jul 2014 02:09:35 EST Interesting article... .opinions? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x58654980 This is for the readers out there. What do you think? <BR> <BR> <link>elitedaily.com/life/culture/date-rea<BR>der-readers-best-people-fall-love-scie<BR>ntifically-proven/662017/ </link> Sat, 26 Jul 2014 23:06:59 EST Some Marriage Tips http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x58591696 1. Talk to your spouse more kindly than you talk to anyone else in the world. Too often we speak the most harshly to those closest to us. <BR> 2. Remember that marriage is less about marrying the right person and more about becoming the right person. <BR> 3. Don’t forget to laugh. Most couples spend the majority of their time talking logistics: who’s doing the grocery shopping, who’s calling the repairman, who’s picking up the kids. A relationship can’t survive on logistics. Have a water figh... Sun, 20 Jul 2014 15:25:10 EST Ways to Flirt with Your Husband http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x58591671 Leave a love note on the mirror. <BR> <BR> Kiss in the car at stoplights! <BR> <BR> Have a secret code phrase. <BR> <BR> Play the fortune cookie game--Whenever you get a fortune cookie, mentally add the words “in bed” to the end of it. You’ll giggle together at a Chinese restaurant as you pass them to your husband, but no one else will know why you’re laughing! <BR> <BR> Set up a cozy love nest for watching movies. <BR> <BR> Leave sticky notes in unexpected places. <BR> <BR> Text, text,... Sun, 20 Jul 2014 15:19:29 EST Revive Your Marriage 3: Revive Your Friendship http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x58591610 Today our topic is Revive Your Marriage through building a friendship with your husband! <BR> <BR> Friendship is often the first thing to go in marriage. You parent together; you fix up the house together; you care for extended family together. But you don’t actually DO anything just for fun together. It’s like your relationship has become an endless to do list. And indeed, studies have even found that most couples spend less than 10 minutes a day talking about non-logistical issues (in othe... Sun, 20 Jul 2014 15:10:51 EST 5 Simple Ways to Prioritize Your Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x58591541 5 Simple Ways to Prioritize Your Marriage <BR> <BR> 1. Picture the future. Imagine yourself vibrant and full of life at 65 years old. What do you see? What would you like to be doing? Long after you’ve left your current company or they’ve downsized, what pieces of your life are most important? When your children have moved out and begun a family of their own, what will be left in your home? If your picture of the future, like mine, involves kicking back with a cool glass of lemonade an... Sun, 20 Jul 2014 15:02:55 EST The #1 Way to Get Your Spouse to Stop Offending Yo http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x58525361 The #1 Way to Get Your Spouse to Stop Offending You <BR> By Dr. Emerson <BR> <BR> PINK AND BLUE <BR> <BR> I use a word picture to show these male and female differences. God designed women, so to speak, to look at the world through pink sunglasses, which color what she sees. She inserts pink hearing aids and these decipher what she hears. She speaks through a pink megaphone and expects everybody to know what she means by what she says. After all, her girlfriends know what she means by what ... Mon, 14 Jul 2014 01:00:44 EST Some Video tape to listen to http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x58525289 There may be a topic here that you are interested in. <BR> <BR> <link>www.understandmen.com/free/listen.ht<BR>ml </link> Mon, 14 Jul 2014 00:45:04 EST How To Talk To A Man http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x58525247 How To Talk To A Man <BR> By Marianne J. Legato, MD <BR> <BR> Ask for exactly what you want... Men are especially programmed to want to solve a problem when presented with one. But a solution isn't always what you're after. Sometimes you simply want to vent frustrations or anger or talk through potential solutions to determine which one makes the most sense. You're more likely to get the response you're hoping for if you tell your husband what you want from the beginning. For instance, you m... Mon, 14 Jul 2014 00:36:59 EST Self-Love is Not a Crime: Learning 2 Love Yourself http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x58499716 Self-Love is Not a Crime: Learning to Love Yourself <BR> By Drew Coster <BR> <BR> Self-Love is Not a Crime: Learning to Love Yourself. When working with depressed people, I’m amazed at how often there’s a theme of self-neglect. When I ask them about how they treat themselves, or what they do to care or have love for themselves, often I get the same strange look while they utter the same words: “Why would I love myself?” <BR> <BR> I’m not saying it’s everyone — but many people have little se... Fri, 11 Jul 2014 10:44:28 EST July Team Leaders http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=28037x11877x58442634 July Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> MCJOYFUL <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> -WRKNG2ABTTRME- <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> SUZIPAM1 <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> MCJOYFUL <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> <BR> Sun, 6 Jul 2014 04:32:03 EST When You Sense Your Spouse Is Not There For You http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x58439987 When You Sense Your Spouse Is Not There For You <BR> <BR> The need for closeness and the reactions to being disconnected are a natural part of being human in close relationships, especially in a marital relationship. Couples also long for closeness while protecting their hearts from being hurt and devalued. Spouses cling and cry, get angry and protest, or become withdrawn and detached when actually all they long for is closeness and to be valued. <BR> <BR> There are ways couples interact th... Sat, 5 Jul 2014 20:20:38 EST Change Yourself & Change Your Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x58439737 Change Yourself & Change Your Marriage--Dr. Bill Gaultiere <BR> <BR> Many people I talk to don't know what a healthy marriage looks like. What they've seen in their parents' marriage or what they experienced in their own is disappointing and painful. To them marriage leads to divorce, abuse, betrayal, continual conflict, or emotional distance. <BR> <BR> If this includes you then it may be hard for you to believe that it is possible for you to have a good and growing marriage. But some peopl... Sat, 5 Jul 2014 19:52:00 EST Marriage Myths That Will Steal Your Joy (Part 2) http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x58385829 4. Sex isn’t that important. <BR> <BR> I sure wish more moms were talking about this—because I can promise you, your husbands want to talk about it. <BR> <BR> Being tired and stressed can make sexual intimacy a rare commodity in many marriages. It’s easy to make excuses, and suddenly a week can become a month or more as we grow further apart as a couple. It’s important to set aside time for intimacy; schedule it if you have to. The enemy can drive a deep wedge between you and your spouse as... Mon, 30 Jun 2014 15:00:41 EST 5 Marriage Myths That Will Steal Your Joy (Part 1) http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x58284330 5 Marriage Myths That Will Steal Your Joy (If You Let Them!) <BR> Heidi St. John, Home Educating Family Magazine <BR> <BR> he Lord intended your marriage to be a source of joy, comfort, and encouragement, but for all too many couples, marriage has become at best a lifeless working partnership and at worst just another to-do list task that saps strength and life from lives rather than filling us with strength and joy. You can experience the joy God intended for you and your husband if you kno... Fri, 20 Jun 2014 20:18:43 EST Living with Your Spouse's Baggage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x58259028 Remember your hurting partner's inner struggle. They are their own worst enemy and have already ripped into themselves pretty hard. <BR> <BR> Be the positive support they need. <BR> <BR> Baggage is anything that you bring into the relationship that has nothing to do with the other person but can cause tension, damage, and strife between the two of you. Addictions, ex-lovers, past abuse, mother issues, psychological disorders, debt, insecurities… baggage in a relationship can include any num... Wed, 18 Jun 2014 11:28:50 EST When Your Marriage Hits the Boredom Rut http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x58255423 When Your Marriage Hits the Boredom Rut <BR> By Don Paglia, MS, CAGS <BR> <BR> The Dilemma <BR> <BR> After 16 years of marriage Bill and Betty find themselves in the marital doldrums. Although neither would say it openly, each feels their marriage has become lackluster and is in a rut. “Boring” was how Bill explained it to his closest friend. Although Bill and Betty have two children who keep them busy, what has characterized their marriage of late is a lot of routine and predictability. Ev... Wed, 18 Jun 2014 06:36:22 EST 4 Ways to Relieve Stress in Your Life http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x58240806 4 Ways to Relieve Stress in Your Life <BR> Cortni Marrazzo <BR> <BR> All of us at one point or another have found ourselves trying to manage a to-do list that is a mile long with only a limited amount of time to do it in, or facing a mountain of expenses and bills with only a small amount of money to work with. If we don’t manage this outflow of responsibilities with our limited resources correctly, then we can find ourselves stressed and worried about how we are going to get everything don... Mon, 16 Jun 2014 21:08:30 EST June Team Leaders http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=28037x11877x58229997 June Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> MCJOYFUL <BR> -WRKNG2ABTTRME- <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> SUZIPAM1 <BR> -WRKNG2ABTTRME- <BR> MDDR5657 <BR> MYAKAYAH <BR> SOCDIRECTOR <BR> Sun, 15 Jun 2014 22:00:59 EST Independent Behavior http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x58228444 Independent Behavior is one of the love buster <BR> <BR> Once you are married, almost everything you decide to do has either a positive or a negative impact on each other -- you are either depositing or withdrawing love units with every decision you make. So if your decisions are not made with each other's interests in mind, you will risk destroying the love you have for each other. <BR> <BR> I define Independent Behavior as the conduct of one spouse that ignores the feelings and interest o... Sun, 15 Jun 2014 18:47:46 EST Living together before marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x58228338 Living together before marriage has not proved useful as a “trial marriage.” <BR> <BR> People who have multiple cohabiting relationships before marriage are more likely to experience marital conflict, marital unhappiness and eventual divorce than people who do not cohabit before marriage. Researchers attribute some but not all of these differences to the characteristics of people who cohabit, the so-called “selection effect,” rather than to the experience of cohabiting itself. It has been su... Sun, 15 Jun 2014 18:35:04 EST Why debt is dangerous http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x58219347 Why debt is dangerous <BR> <BR> The following are reasons why debt needs to be treated with extreme caution. <BR> <BR> Debt presumes on the future. When people commit themselves to payments over a period of time, they are presuming that there will be no pay reductions, no loss of job, and no unexpected expenses. That is an improbable assumption (see Proverbs 27:1). <BR> Debt lowers future standards of living. Money that is borrowed today must be repaid over time along with interest,... Sat, 14 Jun 2014 20:48:39 EST What did you do with your spouse for fun? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x58219304 Did you do anything this weekend for fun with your spouse? Sat, 14 Jun 2014 20:40:50 EST Kick Your Husband Out of the House http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x58219010 Kick Your Husband Out of the House <BR> Trust me, it’s good for your marriage. <BR> Kelli B. Trujillo <BR> <BR> Every so often on a Saturday or Sunday night you'll find me cuddled up under blankets on the couch, reading a novel, or surfing Netflix, or watching Masterpiece Mystery (and maybe eating a bag of jalapeño kettle chips, but let's keep that part between us). Other than the kids upstairs in bed, I'm alone in the house . . . and it's a great thing for our marriage. <BR> <BR> Because... Sat, 14 Jun 2014 19:49:22 EST How to Stay Married http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x58218967 How to Stay Married in a World Full of Divorce <BR> Article by Emily T. Wierenga <BR> <BR> Every marriage needs some romance, to keep the love breathing, pulsing, to keep the house warm. <BR> <BR> Divorce is a cold draft through the cracks of every home's front door and we're not just stoking a fire. We're creating a safe place for the family, a place to hold them. <BR> <BR> But it's war, friends. <BR> <BR> And the shells, they're scattered on the ground around our bed, and we're wounded,... Sat, 14 Jun 2014 19:42:21 EST 5 Things to Tell Your Husband This Father's Day http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x58200188 5 Things to Tell Your Husband This Father's Day <BR> by Ashleigh Slater <BR> <BR> When it comes to Father’s Day, do you find yourself devoting all of your attention to helping your kids celebrate dad? Maybe this means supervising the making of homemade cards, grocery shopping and preparing a bacon-centric breakfast in bed, or coming up with Pinteresting gift ideas. <BR> <BR> There’s no question that it’s important for us moms to encourage and assist our children in honoring dad. Especiall... Thu, 12 Jun 2014 22:08:59 EST Challenge 5/21---5/31 http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x57944515 We are starting a daily 10 minute fitness streak. <BR> Every day exercise at least 10 minutes a day. Cardio or Strength! <BR> Post a fitness emoticon every day! <BR> <BR> If you already do more than this....try increasing your time. Tue, 20 May 2014 23:04:51 EST May Team Leaders http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=28037x11877x57832039 May Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> SUZIPAM1 <BR> RAPUNZEL53 <BR> FANCYKAYAH <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> -WRKNG2ABTTRME- <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> SUZIPAM1 <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> FANCYKAYAH <BR> SOCDIRECTOR <BR> JKHAYES90 <BR> Sun, 11 May 2014 04:31:09 EST 10 Ways to Make Your Marriage Divorceproof http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x57753047 10 Ways to Make Your Marriage Divorceproof <BR> <BR> 1. Realize that if you can agree on what constitutes a clean room, you can agree on anything. If you are the kind of person who wants the vacuum tracks on the living-room carpet to last all week (as in, Jason), you need to understand that your spouse is physically unable to hover three inches off the floor when traveling from point A to point B. You may have to shoulder the burden of raking the shag rug twice a day yourself. Conversely, if... Sun, 4 May 2014 12:52:44 EST Marriage Tip http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x57752887 Over-communicate. - I used to have a bad habit of not speaking my feelings. I played the standard “You should know why I’m mad” game, and that’s just downright unfair. Men are not wired like women, and they DON’T always know that they’ve been insensitive. I’m still growing in this area, and there are often times when my husband has to pry something out of me, but I’m trying to remember that I need to just communicate how I feel Sun, 4 May 2014 12:41:41 EST 4 Levels of Communication http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x57752777 4 Levels of Communication: How Deep Are You? <BR> By Debra Fileta <BR> <BR> Communication is the lifeline of relationships. <BR> <BR> It’s the medium that connects two people with one another. With just a few words, a person can convey something as simple as a story, or as significant as what is on their mind and heart. It can be like a window into a person’s soul, if we allow it to be. <BR> <BR> You see, to every relationship there will always be the potential for different levels of c... Sun, 4 May 2014 12:36:12 EST Want to Draw Your Husband Closer? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x57752666 Want to Draw Your Husband Closer? Here's How <BR> Cindi McMenamin, Author <BR> <BR> Do you have times when you feel as if you walk alone in your marriage? Are there things you don’t understand about your man that drives a wedge between the two of you? <BR> <BR> Well, you don’t have to feel alone in your marriage anymore. You can be a woman who inspires your husband -- a wife who draws his heart closer to yours in ways you've never imagined. <BR> <BR> For years, I asked God to change my hus... Sun, 4 May 2014 12:28:09 EST The Challenge http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x57752002 Week 1 (5/4)---The Challenge <BR> <BR> What can you do to improve your marriage? Take a look at your attitude in the last week. What tone did you set in your relationship? <BR> <BR> Questions <BR> <BR> What's the quickest way for your marriage to get better? <BR> Are you focused on your spouse's neglect? On his or her bad attitude? If so, how's that working for you? <BR> Do you have a choice in how you respond to your spouse's attitude or tone? If so, what are your options? <BR... Sun, 4 May 2014 11:26:29 EST The top 5 challenges of marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x57751967 The top 5 challenges of marriage <BR> By Katie Nielsen <BR> <BR> The wedding day is a single day. A marriage lasts a lifetime, and it is this difference that some couples don’t realize until the ceremony is over. Marriage is hard and tiring and frustrating and takes a lot of work to live happily ever after. <BR> <BR> Your wedding day is one of the most exciting, exhausting, stressful days of your life. It’s the day you look forward to and plan around for months or, in some cases, years.... Sun, 4 May 2014 11:22:05 EST Small surprises http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x57729125 Do you do small surprises for your sig other? Mine is going to the field for 2 weeks. I made him note cards for every night to read before he goes to bed. Some of them I put pictures in for an added surprise. Fri, 2 May 2014 10:37:42 EST In a Difficult Marriage? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x57725630 In a Difficult Marriage? <BR> Some things you can do to stick it out <BR> Elisabeth Klein <BR> <BR> I'm writing this to the people I have met over the years who have told me that they are in a hard marriage and don't know if they can keep going one more day. And trust me, I have met way too many people in that situation who are followers of Jesus married to followers of Jesus. Being a Christian does not exempt you from marital problems; in fact, the downside is, we tend to keep it to oursel... Fri, 2 May 2014 05:37:33 EST When Your Spouse Has a Mental Illness Hope http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x57725598 When Your Spouse Has a Mental Illness <BR> Hope for the marriage that’s not what you planned <BR> Julia Mateer <BR> <BR> Alma's speech became stilted, and her eyes brimmed with tears as she shared the moment she knew her marriage was over. It was not a matter of infidelity, immorality, or a lack of love that ended her marriage of three years. In fact, she and her husband deeply loved each other—but his manic episodes had taken a toll on their relationship and on their two-year-old daughter, ... Fri, 2 May 2014 05:32:16 EST Marriage License http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x57719006 We went today and got our license!!!! We have 35 days to have our wedding/ceremony and turn it back into the state. We are so excited!!! Thu, 1 May 2014 15:42:36 EST Wedding http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x57676774 Did you have a big wedding, small wedding, immediate family only or just you two? Mon, 28 Apr 2014 11:58:32 EST Thoughts & Prayers Are Needed http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x57665600 Received this from Sharon (IAM HIS) our team leader: <BR> <BR> I am not certain if my sister will survive this chemo treatment. So right now I am spending my time with her and praying for her. Can you please let the members know that I will be away for awhile. <BR> <BR> Please keep her and the family in your thoughts & prayers! Sun, 27 Apr 2014 14:53:57 EST Happy Dance! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x57646147 Hubby took me shopping today for some new clothes. He was sick of looking at my to big clothes. Everything is falling off of me. So I picked out a dress that I liked in a XX thinking maybe it would fit. MAYBE. When this journey started I was in a 2 (plus sized 2, the store does plus 0, plus 1, plus 2....). The XX was too big! I asked James to grab me an XL, but they only had an L. He said "well, try it on. Worse case scenario it doesn't fit and we order you an XL" I bought the L because it fi... Fri, 25 Apr 2014 20:39:59 EST Hope For the Weary. http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x57499719 Our story is unlike most. It's heart breaking; it's burdensome; it's redemption; it's God moving our mountain; it's love. Generally I just say "go read my blog," (and I have on this team) but today I want to share it on here. Nothing is impossible with God. Nothing. While I will never be able to fully understand His gloriously amazing love for us, through our marriage I have seen a small piece of it. I am humbled and blessed that He gave me this story to tell. <BR> Still feel free to check o... Sun, 13 Apr 2014 18:27:00 EST Just Need 30 Mins. a Week of Exercise, Seriously http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=28037x11877x57493166 How often have you wanted to slim down, but been discouraged before you even started? All that sweaty effort and those endless hours plodding away on the elliptical machine or treadmill are, unsurprisingly, the biggest turn-off when it comes to getting into shape. But it turns out that you're actually spending more time than you need to. Yep, researchers have discovered that workout sessions lasting just 10 minutes, performed three times a week, can (and will) transform your body for the bett... Sun, 13 Apr 2014 08:01:48 EST Top Stay Together Tips http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x57492482 Top Stay Together Tips <BR> <BR> Mutual respect <BR> <BR> As unromantic as it sounds, having mutual respect for each other will be a huge benefit to your relationship. This means never taking each other for granted or simply expecting certain things of each other without asking or having a discussion around roles. For example, how would you feel if your husband automatically expected you to know where his clean shirts were or assumed that all of the household chores were your domain and you... Sun, 13 Apr 2014 05:55:18 EST Why Your Friends Matter to Your Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x57492368 Why Your Friends Matter to Your Marriage <BR> Dr. Rich Nicastro <BR> <BR> Relationship Interconnectedness <BR> <BR> Can your friends impact your marriage? <BR> <BR> You exist within a web of relationships—and these relationships can impact your marriage. <BR> <BR> An example of interconnectedness: <BR> <BR> Imagine a good friend is going through tough times and after spending some time together you find yourself feeling an emotional heaviness throughout the day, thinking and worrying ab... Sun, 13 Apr 2014 05:27:17 EST April Team Leaders http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x57492124 April Team Leaders <BR> <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> 1.-WRKNG2ABTTRME- <BR> 2.RAPUNZEL53 <BR> 3.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 4.CERACOBBLER <BR> 5.FANCYKAYAH <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> 1.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 2.IAM_HIS <BR> 3.-WRKNG2ABTTRME- <BR> 4.RETIREDAT60 <BR> 5.JKHAYES90 <BR> Sun, 13 Apr 2014 03:54:35 EST How to Cope in a Harder-t han-Hard Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x57484634 How to Cope in a Harder-than-Hard Marriage <BR> Elisabeth Klein <BR> <BR> I used to hate something about girls’ night out. Don’t get me wrong: I love my friends. But eventually the conversation would turn to our marriages and things like, “Can you believe I still have to pick up his socks?” or “If he comes home late for dinner one more time…” would inevitably come up. And I would sit there, trying to think of “regular” things to complain about. <BR> <BR> Because I had only dreamed that thos... Sat, 12 Apr 2014 11:18:16 EST SYMPLICITY http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x57474668 <em>235</em> to the team. So glad yu joined us!! Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:34:06 EST Make time for him http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x57474631 Make time for him <BR> <BR> Many of us grew up resenting men for making us stay home and watch the kids, clean the house, make the food, and everything else they could come up with. We were enraged when we saw how women were treated, hearing stories of overly controlling and manipulative men who would sabotage their wife's job so she would be home when he arrived. We also remember those about the men who wouldn't allow their wives to drive in an effort to keep them at home and away from othe... Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:30:52 EST What is everyone reading? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x57464702 My husband and I love to read. For my birthday month (he celebrated me the whole month of February by doing little things for me each day) I got 3 books, best gifts for me. Plus a friend gave me a marriage book for my birthday. We recently moved so I purged my book collection and have since gotten a kindle paperwhite which I love. <BR> <BR> So, what are you all reading? Got any good recommendations? <BR> <BR> I am currently reading Becoming Myself by Stasi Eldridge. I highly recommend it.... Thu, 10 Apr 2014 17:50:17 EST Using Words to Build Up Your Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x57458393 Using Words to Build Up Your Marriage <BR> by Ruth Schwenk <BR> <BR> A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. –Proverbs 14:1 <BR> <BR> My dad is a builder. <BR> <BR> Growing up, I remember my dad always building or rebuilding something. And he was (and still is) very good it. Whether it is a new roof, deck, remodeled room, or floor, he has a skill for taking raw materials and building something beautiful. <BR> <BR> As wives, we are builders – sha... Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:59:07 EST Birthday, Easter, Birthday.... oy! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x57448840 Our youngest will be 12 the Tuesday before Easter (next Tuesday, tax day), then we have Easter, the day after Easter is my hubby's birthday. That is a lot of extra junk! I am not really worried about Easter as we focus less on the junk and more on our risen Savior. <BR> <BR> However, two birthdays means two parties and extra goodies that we don't normally have around. Generally I am pretty good, but I'd like to make these get togethers stress free but still have yumminess. For hubby's birth... Wed, 9 Apr 2014 12:55:23 EST How Do Appreciation & Gratitude Affect Your Life? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x57445459 How Do Appreciation & Gratitude Affect Your Life? <BR> by Jonathan <BR> <BR> I find it truly amazing how one, simple, positive action can change so much in a person’s life. In fact, recognizing the profound power of gratitude is one of the things that have had a huge effect on my life. It has made me a more positive and caring person. It has also made me a better husband, father, and friend. I can honestly say that in some very tangible ways, gratitude has made my life better. <BR> <BR> Har... Wed, 9 Apr 2014 08:34:52 EST Hey ya'll! *New* http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x57427437 Let me see, I am going to try and make this as short as possible. Our life is a bit complicated. Or it is for those that haven't been around for the chaos. <BR> <BR> I am Teri. I am wife (ex-wife, really, but I'll get to that) to James. We have two fantastic sons: Zack is 14 and Noah will be 12 in a week. We are currently living in Ormond Beach, Fl, but that will only be for a little more than a year then we will move back to our home town of Ocala, Fl. James is in Respiratory Therapy schoo... Mon, 7 Apr 2014 21:24:47 EST Book suggestion http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x57419691 I am not sure if this has been discussed before or not. I am reading "love languages" the military edition. I think this is an amazing book!! It is helping me with my emotions and how I perceive love and those around me. How can I make them feel more loved. It is really eye opening Mon, 7 Apr 2014 10:20:36 EST Hi, I'm new http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x57408663 Hi, <BR> <BR> My name is Callie and I have 50 lbs to lose. I am off to a great start with SP. <BR> <BR> I like the official SP challenges. SP Official Healthy Cooking Challenge and SP Official 'Eat Up, Slim Down' Challenge <BR> <BR> Here are the changes I have made so far: <BR> 1. Planning meals now <BR> 2. Drinking 2.2 L of H2O per day <BR> 3. Keeping fruit in bowls throughout my house <BR> Lastly, Tracking my food calories with (wow....lots of work there, but gotta do it!) ... Sun, 6 Apr 2014 13:50:29 EST -DYET- http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x57360894 Welcome to the team. So glad you are here!! Wed, 2 Apr 2014 16:29:15 EST March Team Leaders http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=28037x11877x57312972 March Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> 1.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 2.CERACOBBLER <BR> 3.FANCYKAYAH <BR> 4.RAPUNZEL53 <BR> 5.-WRKNG2ABTTRME- <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> 1.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 2.RETIREDAT60 <BR> 3.FANCYKAYAH <BR> 4.BAROSS <BR> 5.SOCDIRECTOR <BR> <BR> <BR> Sun, 30 Mar 2014 04:34:36 EST The Good Wife Guide of 1955 http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x57264572 <link>larrytemple.wordpress.com/2008/05/01<BR>/actual-1955-good-housekeeping-article/ </link> Wed, 26 Mar 2014 05:54:23 EST A Marriage Tip http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x57264569 Throughout the evening, take opportunities to look into his eyes and to lovingly touch. Evenings might be a madhouse; but never, ever forget to date your man! Wed, 26 Mar 2014 05:53:03 EST Characteristics of a Good Spouse http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x57261198 Characteristics of a Good Spouse <BR> <BR> 1.Pray. Ask your spouse how you can pray for him/her. If appropriate pray together for one another and your marriage. In either case, pray for your marriage privately or with a confidante. <BR> <BR> 2.Get help. Talk with others you trust and respect in confidence about your marriage and your role in it. Seek compassionate support and solicit honest feedback on what you need to work on. <BR> <BR> 3.Take initiative to spend time with your spouse. Do... Tue, 25 Mar 2014 20:41:02 EST Husband/Wi e..Couples Game http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=28037x11877x57124381 Post the names of husband/wife famous couples. And, yes, some may/will have been married more than once to different people. <BR> <BR> Let's see who we can come up with! Fri, 14 Mar 2014 11:30:32 EST Appreciative Traits About Spouse.. ..Please share http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x57124343 Post traits or things about your spouse that you appreciate. What was/is about them that you are proud of or appreciate? <BR> <BR> Let's see just how many we can come up with! Fri, 14 Mar 2014 11:28:03 EST hello http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x57004760 Hi ..I'm delia I'm 35 yrs old I have 3 kids 17, 14,&9 I have been married for 19 yrs . I homeschool my kids but I also have a part time cleaning business. I'm glad I found this team I love my husband very much and I want to be an encouragement to him everyday ...nice to meet everyone Tue, 4 Mar 2014 16:27:33 EST Hello from Ohio http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56960729 I am WinterRoze ... I should tell you the reason behind my name. I for one LOVE roses & then I wish I could grow them in the WINTER months 2 keep me going ... because this year the winter here in OUR PART of the COUNTRY has gone on way to long 4 me !! Anyway that is how I got my name. <BR> <BR> And so my real name is KAREN and I am from Ohio. Have lived here just about 35 years this summer. I am of course married and have been for 36 years { 1 month from today } and so we met when he was i... Sat, 1 Mar 2014 10:47:12 EST KLH393, wel;come to the team http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56930051 We are very happy to welcome you to our team family! Thu, 27 Feb 2014 00:01:45 EST Date Night?....Ideas http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=28037x11877x56914091 Do you or have you done a date night with you spouse,etc.? <BR> <BR> If so, what did you do? <BR> <BR> If not, would you like to start? Tue, 25 Feb 2014 19:15:40 EST M_SHOOK907, welcome http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56912519 We are very happy to have you join our team family! Welcome!! Tue, 25 Feb 2014 16:15:07 EST Marriage in the Melting Pot http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x56880059 Marriage in the Melting Pot <BR> by Dr. Harold L. Arnold, Jr. <BR> <BR> The United States is a land of immigrants. Although political pundits continue to question American immigration policy, there is no question that what we call "American" culture is actually an amalgam of immigrant cultures. And, since Israel Zangwill's 1908 play, "The Melting Pot," the term "melting pot" has been used to describe America's cultural fusion. Now, one hundred years later, American culture will soon reach th... Sun, 23 Feb 2014 06:39:52 EST Ten Secrets to a Successful Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56880042 Ten Secrets to a Successful Marriage <BR> Here are 10 principles that will help you create and maintain a successful marriage. <BR> by Mitch Temple <BR> <BR> Successful couples are savvy. They read books, attend seminars, browse Web articles and observe other successful couples. However, successful couples will tell you that they also learn by experience – trial and error. <BR> <BR> Here are 10 principles of success I have learned from working with and observing hundreds of couples: <BR> ... Sun, 23 Feb 2014 06:36:06 EST Affection http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56879480 Affection <BR> <BR> Affection is the expression of care. It symbolizes security, protection, comfort and approval -- vital ingredients in any relationship. When one spouse is affectionate toward the other, the following messages are sent: <BR> <BR> 1. You are important to me. I will care for you and protect you. <BR> <BR> <BR> 2. I'm concerned about the problems you face and will be there for you when you need me. <BR> <BR> <BR> Learn to be more affectionate <BR> <BR> A simple h... Sun, 23 Feb 2014 02:08:01 EST The Most Important Emotional Needs http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56879473 The Most Important Emotional Needs <BR> <BR> As soon as I realized that a large Love Bank balance triggered the feeling of love, I went to work trying to discover what spouses could do for each other that would make the largest Love Bank deposits. I would ask couples, "What could your spouse do for you that would make you the happiest?" That very question focused on a core issue in marriage -- the issue of care. I could have asked the question, "How would you like your spouse to care for you... Sun, 23 Feb 2014 02:06:47 EST Instincts and Habits http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56879439 Instincts and Habits <BR> by Dr. Harley <BR> <BR> Most people think they have control over their behavior. They think they choose to do whatever it is they do. But many of us who have studied human behavior scientifically, and have tried to help people change their behavior, know differently. We know that the vast majority of what a person does is driven by instincts and habits -- ways of behaving that are automatic and almost effortless. So if you want to make Love Bank deposits and avoid w... Sun, 23 Feb 2014 01:58:14 EST The Love Bank http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56879428 The Love Bank <BR> by Dr. Harley <BR> <BR> Inside all of us is a Love Bank with accounts in the names of everyone we know. When these people are associated with our good feelings, "love units" are deposited into their accounts, and when they are associated with our bad feelings, love units are withdrawn. We are emotionally attracted to people with positive balances and repulsed by those with negative balances. This is the way our emotions encourage us to be with people who seem to treat us ... Sun, 23 Feb 2014 01:55:21 EST Marriage Secrets Every Woman Should Know http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56808804 Marriage Secrets Every Woman Should Know <BR> By Belinda Elliott <BR> <BR> Authors Greg and Shannon Ethridge have a message for women. You can have the marriage that you have always dreamed of! <BR> <BR> Whether your marriage is currently the best it has ever been, or it is in need of repair, the Ethridges suggest that these principles will improve your relationship. Even for troubled marriages, it will take work, but it is possible to breathe new life into a relationship that has grown li... Mon, 17 Feb 2014 13:21:12 EST How are you working at your marriage this week? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56808552 As everyone says, a marriage takes lots of work. What are you doing to work on your marriage this week? <BR> <BR> I know that I am studying my husband this week. He is not a communicator, nor does he open up and share. So I do believe I can understand him better by observing & studying him. <BR> I even bought a special notebook. <BR> Mon, 17 Feb 2014 12:56:50 EST 2 Ways Every Wife Should Pursue Her Husband http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56800837 2 Ways Every Wife Should Pursue Her Husband - Ruth Scwenk <BR> <BR> I want to be a wife who keeps pursuing my husband, not because I fear losing him, but because I still deeply desire him and love him. <BR> <BR> I don’t want him to doubt that. <BR> <BR> As I have thought about the art of pursuit in marriage, I think there are two primary ways that any wife needs to pursue her husband: <BR> <BR> 1. Affirmation - You should be your husband’s biggest fan! Tell him you love him, tell him he l... Sun, 16 Feb 2014 21:00:34 EST February Team Leaders http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x56794527 February Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> 1.FANCYKAYAH <BR> 2.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 3.RAPUNZEL53 <BR> 4.IAM_HIS <BR> 5.CERACOBBLER <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> 1.IAM_HIS <BR> 2.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 3.RETIREDAT60 <BR> 4.SANDIK9806 <BR> 5.FANCYKAYAH <BR> Sun, 16 Feb 2014 10:58:06 EST Just for today, I will ______ http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56728533 You can post what you will do to better your marriage, help you lose weight or exercise more... <BR> <BR> Just for today, I will not eat after 7:30 PM Mon, 10 Feb 2014 22:07:40 EST How Gender Differences Can Build a Stronger Marria http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56727924 How Gender Differences Can Build a Stronger Marriage <BR> by Cindy Wright <BR> <BR> We’re sooooo different!” We hear this continually as we meet with other couples we mentor who are frustrated because of it. And we’ve said the same thing ourselves about our own relationship. <BR> <BR> But what’s “funny” about this is that before marriage, we usually view differences in positive way. <BR> <BR> “Before the wedding, differences tend to seem intriguing, interesting, and attractive. A few mont... Mon, 10 Feb 2014 21:21:16 EST Called To Encourage Your Husband http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56727783 Called To Encourage Your Husband <BR> by H. Norman Wright <BR> <BR> Every woman is given a power that can bring about change, growth, and the fulfillment of potential in another person, especially a significant man in her life. <BR> <BR> There are many women who try to encourage the men in their lives, and even think they are doing so. But it’s difficult to be an encourager if we don’t understand what encouragement really means. <BR> <BR> To be an encourager you need to have an attitude of... Mon, 10 Feb 2014 21:11:04 EST February Team Leaders http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56709310 February Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> 1.FANCYKAYAH <BR> 2.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 3.RAPUNZEL53 <BR> 4.CERACOBBLER <BR> 5.IAM_HIS <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> 1.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 2.IAM_HIS <BR> 3.RETIREDAT60 <BR> 4.SANDIK9806 <BR> 5.FANCYKAYAH <BR> Sun, 9 Feb 2014 14:37:54 EST 7 Secrets of Confident Women http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56668363 7 Secrets of Confident Women- video with Joyce Meyers <BR> <BR> <link>www.family-prayer.org/how-to-pray.ht<BR>ml </link> Thu, 6 Feb 2014 08:40:59 EST The Urge To Tell My Husband “I Told You So!” http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56532635 The Urge To Tell My Husband “I Told You So!” <BR> <BR> Since marrying my best friend almost five years ago, there has been quite a few times where we have said to each other “I told you so!” <BR> <BR> Do you and your husband jump on opportunities to say these words? <BR> <BR> I feel like it is another way to add a tally to the “Who is Right” score board! Not that there should be such a thing in marriage, but in the back of my mind, it sure does feel good to be right. We don’t really kept t... Mon, 27 Jan 2014 09:14:19 EST Changing Your Spouse – and Yourself http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56505455 Changing Your Spouse – and Yourself <BR> By Lauri Przybysz <BR> <BR> They say that when a man marries a woman, he thinks, “She’s the one I’ve been waiting for. She’ll never change.” – and she always does. And a woman looks at her man, and thinks, “He just needs a little work; after we’re married, I’ll help him change” – and he never does. <BR> <BR> The truth is that both men and women will change as time goes on. Biologists tell us that every seven years we have totally replaced all the ce... Sat, 25 Jan 2014 04:47:07 EST Household Duties http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x56505449 Household Duties <BR> By Mary Jo Pedersen <BR> <BR> The Situation <BR> <BR> It’s not just the ‘uns’ that irritated Heidi: the unmade bed, the un-emptied dishwasher, the un-folded laundry. It was the fact that Sam had been home all day and was asleep when she returned from her extra weekend shift at the hospital. She was tired and resentful and felt that he hadn’t done his share of keeping up the apartment, but always had time to watch his favorite sit-coms and sporting events. <BR> <BR> S... Sat, 25 Jan 2014 04:43:54 EST Hello from West TN http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56499845 Hi team! I am excited to find this group. My husband and I will soon be married three years (in March.) God has provided for me to be able to retire from 20 years in the classroom and homeschool my step-children. I have been in ministry my entire adult life and now have a homeschool ministry, offering free workshops and lesson plans to homeschool families. God has richly blessed me with a wonderful, Godly husband. <BR> <BR> Fri, 24 Jan 2014 16:14:32 EST What Speaks Love to Your Husband? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56495854 What Speaks Love to Your Husband? <BR> By Cindi McMenamin <BR> <BR> I discovered most wives are more focused on what their husband’s aren’t doing to meet their expectations than on what they can do to make him feel loved. <BR> <BR> I, too, was once in that camp. I continued to let my husband know how he was failing to meet all my needs and expectations. Poor guy. I never thought to ask him how I could meet his. <BR> <BR> Then I decided that if transformation was really going to happen in ... Fri, 24 Jan 2014 10:23:54 EST Hey from TN http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56482580 I'm Kim. Wife of 25 years to my high school sweetheart/retired soldier (together for 29y). We have four children. I'm a home school mom and a children's ministry director. Thu, 23 Jan 2014 10:40:11 EST SHUNDA76, WELCOME! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56450808 SHUNDA76, we are happy to have you join us! Welcome!! <BR> Tue, 21 Jan 2014 06:23:52 EST A Marriage Tip http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56423026 Welcome to a new year! Discover something new about your spouse today. Do you know his/her favorite website, in-law, romantic turn-on, scripture passage, etc.? Sun, 19 Jan 2014 04:09:46 EST How Me-Centeredness Sabotages Your Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56399061 The truth is it’s not so hard to turn our relationship with our husband into a game of cutthroat marriage. At least it’s not for me. <BR> <BR> It happens every time I put me — and not Jesus — at the center of my marriage. <BR> <BR> When my hunger to win trumps my passion for peace with my husband. <BR> <BR> When I decide being right is more important than being united. <BR> <BR> When having the last word becomes the ultimate prize. <BR> <BR> It’s a problem that’s plagued marriage since t... Fri, 17 Jan 2014 08:40:20 EST How to Deepen Empathy in Your Marriage: Three Key http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56388430 How to Deepen Empathy in Your Marriage: Three Key Skills <BR> By by John Yzaguirre, Ph.D., and Claire Frazier-Yzaguirre, M.Div., M.F.T <BR> <BR> It’s easy to fall into the trap of taking each other for granted or just putting up with each other. One husband described this bluntly: “When I get home my dog is the only one who seems excited to see me!” Make this year a break-through year in your relationship by trying three powerful empathy skills to deepen your love for each other. <BR> <BR... Thu, 16 Jan 2014 12:04:23 EST Help Your Marriage to Thrive http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56388312 Help Your Marriage to Thrive--by Susan Vogt <BR> <BR> Why? Why! Why are the Gore’s separating? Everybody who cares about relationships is trying to figure it out. I too have been trying to understand the Gore phenomenon. Having worked in both marriage and divorce ministry for many years, I’ve found that sometimes divorce can teach us a lot about the fragility of marriage. <BR> <BR> Sometimes it’s predictable. A couple gets married too young, for the wrong reasons, with only a soft commitmen... Thu, 16 Jan 2014 11:53:11 EST HOW TO CHANGE THE ONE YOU LOVE By Susan Vogt http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56388197 HOW TO CHANGE THE ONE YOU LOVE By Susan Vogt <BR> <BR> You can’t of course – at least not directly. Any good marriage counselor or parenting educator will tell you that. Change is an inside job. It’s hard enough to change yourself, much less make someone else change to meet your fancy. But that doesn’t stop us from nagging those close to us to be different. Now, granted, sometimes it’s a necessary parental job to point out to a child how he or she needs to change their ways. And of co... Thu, 16 Jan 2014 11:43:46 EST What It Really Takes to Stay True for the Long Hau http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56387063 What It Really Takes to Stay True for the Long Haul <BR> <BR> We somehow found ourselves at the top of the mountain. <BR> <BR> A romantic impulse, I suppose. But last week-end we were heading back home and he suddenly steered the car up the road to Timberline Lodge at the top of Mt. Hood, Oregon. <BR> <BR> A small detour up into the snowy peak. <BR> <BR> When we arrived at the grand historic Lodge, however, we found ourselves in a long line of cars as the parking lot appeared to be close... Thu, 16 Jan 2014 10:13:25 EST And We Wonder Why Chivalry is Dead http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56387003 And We Wonder Why Chivalry is Dead <BR> By Heidi St. John <BR> <BR> chiv·al·ry (shvl-r) <BR> n. pl. chiv·al·ries <BR> 1. The medieval system, principles, and customs of knighthood. <BR> 2.The qualities idealized by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women. <BR> a. A manifestation of any of these qualities. <BR> <BR> I read a blog post from the ever-interesting Matt Walsh today. Good thing too, because I was up against a writing deadline and inspiration ... Thu, 16 Jan 2014 10:08:19 EST Did you know? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x56348242 Studies indicate that the average couple spends only 20 minutes a day together. (Perhaps this only refers to direct relationship time; not sleeping, eating, chores). How much time will you spend with your spouse today? Do you need to increase “face time”? Mon, 13 Jan 2014 16:24:27 EST NYLASTAR , welcome! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56345203 WooHoo, NYLASTAR has joined our team!! Welcome and it is great having you here!! Mon, 13 Jan 2014 12:22:10 EST DHUEY110, welcome http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56329554 DHUEY110 welcome to the team. We are so happy to have you here! Sun, 12 Jan 2014 11:21:54 EST Hello. http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56325908 When I first joined this site, the site decided that it would be enough for me to lose about 36 pounds. That's not so bad. Then I went to another site that would show me what I should look like at my target weight goal. I still looked fat. I think it might be because of all those scrawny models out there. Anyway, whatever the case, I decided that I want to lose even more. Now I have 60 pounds to lose. I hope I did not set an unrealistic goal. I used the BMI chart to help me. Plus I never had ... Sun, 12 Jan 2014 03:28:54 EST 5 Keys to Loving Each Other (When Liking Each Othe http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x56305970 5 Keys to Loving Each Other (When Liking Each Other is Hard) <BR> By Sheila <BR> <BR> My husband is my best friend. But it hasn’t always been this way. <BR> <BR> Our journey hasn’t always been easy, but somewhere between the good, the bad, and the ugly, we discovered how to love each other through it all…even when liking each other was hard. <BR> <BR> Marriages seldom come neatly wrapped in conflict free packages and our marriage is no exception. <BR> <BR> Polar opposites with different p... Fri, 10 Jan 2014 14:39:14 EST 7 Thoughts That Will Change a Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56305641 7 Thoughts That Will Change a Marriage <BR> by Laurel Cooper <BR> <BR> 1. God is your Father-in-Law <BR> <BR> We like to think of God as our Father, our Daddy, our Abba. That’s all very true. God is our Father, and He does love us, and care for us, and listen to our prayers, and want the best for us. He is going to bat for us. <BR> <BR> He’s also your husband’s Father. And that means that He really cares about your husband, and He really loves your husband, and He listens to your husban... Fri, 10 Jan 2014 14:06:51 EST How to Treat Your Husband With Respect http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56304663 How to Treat Your Husband With Respect <BR> By Dee Willis <BR> <BR> Respect between a husband and wife is crucial to the success of the marriage. However, men tend to place more emphasis on the need for respect in the relationship than do wives. Wives can learn effective ways to treat their husbands with respect and build stronger, healthier marriages with deeper intimacy and greater love. <BR> <BR> Instructions <BR> 1 See your husband's good-will. Accept that mistakes often occur with go... Fri, 10 Jan 2014 12:36:07 EST What does a man really need from his wife? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56304484 What does a man really need from his wife? <BR> Posted by Angeline <BR> <BR> Just like women, men need to feel supported and loved by their wives… but what makes them feel loved and supported may not be what you think! Women need safety, security, emotional and financial support along with nurturing and a man that makes her feel sexy– this is just a short list of what women tend to need from their husbands. So it makes sense that we as women try to give our men these things that WE would w... Fri, 10 Jan 2014 12:22:23 EST Your husband needs desperately to hear affirmation http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56276496 Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them. <BR> <BR> These sad words, penned by Thoreau, reveal how totally, desperately, yeah, that’s right, desperately your man needs you . . . that I need you, Lisa. <BR> <BR> I wonder, sometimes, if most women really understand that. Do you truly understand the immense power you have in the life of your husband? <BR> <BR> From the man’s perspective, if his woman doesn’t believe in him . . . isn’t fanaticall... Wed, 8 Jan 2014 15:21:54 EST MOTHERBAGGINS , welcome to our team family! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56274061 It is always exciting and wonderful to welcome a new team member. My you find the support, help and encouragement you are looking for here. Welcome!! Wed, 8 Jan 2014 12:07:36 EST KARIJOK http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56272998 Welcome to our team! It is wonderful to have you join us. Wed, 8 Jan 2014 10:48:37 EST STITCHMOMMA04, welcome to the team http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56265100 So happy you joined us. Welcome!!! Tue, 7 Jan 2014 20:11:23 EST Marriage Building Games http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56260434 Marriage Building Games <BR> By Laurie Swenson <BR> <BR> The perfect marriage, like all other perfect things, does not exist. Marriage is an ongoing learning experience that requires some work. That does not mean, however, that the work has to feel like a chore. Marriage building games can help a couple strengthen their marriage in enjoyable ways that can help them feel closer. <BR> <BR> Game Night <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> Sitting at a table together playing games can be a cozy experience, w... Tue, 7 Jan 2014 13:46:12 EST Three ways to handle an unhappy marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56260291 Three ways to handle an unhappy marriage <BR> by Dr. Corey Allan <BR> <BR> Problems in marriage are inevitable. Even chronic. <BR> <BR> And so, at times, is unhappiness. <BR> <BR> After studying 645 couples where one spouse rated their marriage as unhappy, a research study from a team of family scholars found that 2/3s of the couples who chose to stick it out together reported a significantly happier marriage five years later. <BR> <BR> So what makes the difference if you choose not to di... Tue, 7 Jan 2014 13:34:31 EST MHARRIS415, welcome to the team http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56228828 WooHoo, it's great to have you join us. Welcome! Sun, 5 Jan 2014 14:50:19 EST BELIEVERINPA , it's great to welcome you! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56228368 BELIEVERINPA , so very honored to have you join this team!! Sun, 5 Jan 2014 14:17:13 EST JANUARY TEAM LEADERS http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x56223307 January Team Leaders <BR> <BR> Spark Points: <BR> PURPLELOVER13 <BR> DBALZER <BR> CERACOBBLER <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> LAKENDAL <BR> <BR> Fitness Mins: <BR> SALLYANDGENE <BR> IAM_HIS <BR> JESSIJESS8058 <BR> RETIREDAT60 <BR> BAROSS <BR> <BR> Sun, 5 Jan 2014 08:25:46 EST Affection http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56210370 Affection is something that's learned. Some men (and women) who were raised in families that did not show affection are taught how to show affection by their girlfriends or wives. But other men have never been taught. <BR> <BR> You apparently received the affection you needed from your lover. It was your friend's affection that met your need. Your husband can learn to say and do many of the same things, and mean it. <BR> <BR> Whenever I counsel a man who is not very affectionate, I give h... Sat, 4 Jan 2014 10:17:38 EST 5 Ways to Make Your Marriage Stronger http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x56198604 5 Ways to Make Your Marriage Stronger <BR> Here are 5 simple tips on how to improve your marriage with just a little observation and effort. <BR> BY JENNA D. BARRY <BR> <BR> Whether you have been married for six months or 60 years, you can always learn ways to become a better husband or wife. In fact, the happiest couples I know are the ones who make a deliberate effort to learn how to make their marriage better. <BR> <BR> Most of us didn’t have very good training on how to be a great m... Fri, 3 Jan 2014 13:49:41 EST A Date Idea http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56179616 Plan a “Favorites Night” around your favorite food, clothes, games, sports, etc. Each spouse could choose a favorite activity which you then combine into one evening, or the wife could propose her favorite activities for one date and the husband plans the next date with his favorites. Thu, 2 Jan 2014 10:25:53 EST A Couple that Prays Together http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56179063 A Couple that Prays Together By Renee Fisher <BR> <BR> Marriage is a strange thing. It combines the physical sweet union with the spiritual. How does God fit into marriage? As long as a couple walks hand in hand with God and each other—they will be prepared. So why are we so easily surprised by trials? <BR> <BR> Trials force us to pray. <BR> Let’s be honest—if it weren’t trials—the first year of marriage would go a little something like this. <BR> <BR> <BR> Dear God, please bless my sex ... Thu, 2 Jan 2014 09:53:15 EST How To Spot And Defeat The Four Marriage Killers http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56127982 How To Spot And Defeat The Four Marriage Killers <BR> <BR> The first destructive horseman in a relationship is criticism. Understanding the difference between criticizing and complaining is more than semantics, because criticism is the slippery slope that slides into contempt. <BR> <BR> Criticisms creep in when complaints are ignored. Criticisms are global attacks on character and worth that target the shortcomings of the other. Complaints are objective statements of unmet needs. An effecti... Sun, 29 Dec 2013 16:12:03 EST Fireproof Your Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56106469 Fireproof Your Marriage - I Will Not Take For Granted <BR> By Gloria Waite <BR> <BR> Do you know what it's like to feel taken for granted? Most of us do fairly well at showing appreciation when we receive a special gift or surprise. But....do we stop and appreciate the daily routine jobs our mates do for the family or marriage? Do you take for granted the marriage you have? Or the husband you have? Or what your wife does for you? <BR> <BR> It seems that the wedding vows should include: I w... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 17:05:51 EST 3 Ways to Deal with a Traveling Husband http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56106440 3 Ways to Deal with a Traveling Husband <BR> BY Michelle Lindsey <BR> <BR> My husband travels a lot for his job. He attends conferences all over the country. This leaves me in charge of the house and the kids. <BR> <BR> If you have a spouse who travels a lot, you know how hard it can be for everyone involved. There are still times I want to cry my head off, but there are ways to make it easier. A crazy travel schedule can be hard, but if you are intentional about things, you can make it wor... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 17:02:01 EST Seriously, Just Listen to Your Spouse http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56106404 Seriously, Just Listen to Your Spouse Nov7 If there are any husbands out there reading this, can I just tell you that sometimes your wife just wants to feel validated in her feelings? You don’t have to fix it. You don’t have to agree. You simply have to empathize. I realize that empathy might come easier for women, but that fact just makes it all the more frustrating for wives when our husbands struggle in this area. There are times, we just need a kind ear and some understanding. I have star... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 16:58:20 EST What it Means to Be a “1 Peter 3 Wife” {Part 1} http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56106390 What it Means to Be a “1 Peter 3 Wife” {Part 1} <BR> <BR> For the next few days, our dear friend, Lorraine, will be sharing her story. Please follow along! <BR> <BR> Sometimes the situations we find ourselves in our marriages just seem hopeless. We ask God, “what are you working out here in my life? What is your ultimate aim?” Well, I found myself in just this position and discovered not only an amazing God who truly loves me, but a call by him to be the wife he wanted me to be . . . a ‘1 P... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 16:56:10 EST Just Spell It Out for Him http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56106382 Just Spell It Out for Him--By Michelle Lindsey <BR> <BR> You know the feeling. Your husband is doing something that’s driving you crazy. Maybe it’s something as little as getting ready and throwing his clothes on the floor. Or he’s leaving without kissing you goodbye. Or he isn’t helping you with dinner or housework. <BR> <BR> You let him do it. You decide not to say anything, so you can prove a point afterwards. You let him go through with the whole thing. <BR> <BR> It’s just that simple... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 16:52:48 EST 3 Reasons Marriage Isn’t for Sissies http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56106374 3 Reasons Marriage Isn’t for Sissies- Tim Keller <BR> <BR> I am now in my second decade of marriage. It has been amazing. It has also been blood, sweat and tears. I feel pretty proud of myself when I stop to think about it. We have come a long way. I imagine it’s the same feeling a mountain climber experiences when he reaches the summit, or a cage fighter after a few rounds in the ring. (Okay, maybe not that extreme.) I do know that marriage takes work, and it is not for the faint of heart.... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 16:49:05 EST Living in LOVE : Remembering why you married http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x56106339 Living in LOVE : Remembering why you married <BR> <BR> The kids are yelling, the dog is barking, and you just found out that your spouse forgot to do the one thing that you needed them to do today…again! This scenario may sound typical for your family, or your scenario could be worse. Maybe you and your spouse are arguing more and more, and connecting less and less? You may have even asked yourself, “Is this marriage a mistake?”. Though you knew your life wouldn’t be like the Brady Bunch, yo... Fri, 27 Dec 2013 16:45:29 EST Hello! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56082161 Hi! My name is Debbie. I joined this team because I'm a newlywed (3 weeks), and I need to lose weight! I was a Sparks member years ago, but because of issues with my back and my life becoming busy, I stopped making time to take care of me. And with that, came back the pounds I had lost along with even more pounds! Tue, 24 Dec 2013 21:16:04 EST GODSDAUGHTER60 , welcome!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x56058199 GODSDAUGHTER60, it is wonderful to have you join us!! Welcome!! Sun, 22 Dec 2013 08:55:27 EST How to Reduce Hurt Feelings When You and Your Spou http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x56031118 How to Reduce Hurt Feelings When You and Your Spouse Disagree <BR> by Nancy Wasson in Communication <BR> <BR> One of the biggest on-going problems for couples is how to reduce the hurt feelings that can result from arguments and disagreements. The fall-out from a no-holds barred, kill your opponent, verbal altercation can last for decades. <BR> <BR> I have worked with numerous couples in marriage counseling who have struggled with forgiving each other for damaging words they have said durin... Thu, 19 Dec 2013 10:36:33 EST Be Your Spouse’s Biggest Fan http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55997685 Be Your Spouse’s Biggest Fan <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> by Rick Warren <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> “Encourage each other every day while it is ‘today.’” (Hebrews 3:13a NCV) <BR> <BR> If you’re married, God has given you an incredibly important role: to be your spouse’s biggest fan. It’s a job only you can do in the way God desires, and your spouse desperately needs you to do it. <BR> <BR> We live in a world full of critics. We don’t have to look far to find someone who will put us... Mon, 16 Dec 2013 09:25:01 EST The Unselfish Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x55997620 The Unselfish Marriage - by Rick Warren <BR> <BR> “Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.” (Philippians 2:4 NLT) <BR> <BR> Marriage gives you many opportunities to make adjustments in your life. Change happens all the time — from the changing stages of your children to moves to job changes to illnesses. When circumstances change in your lives, both you and your spouse will have to make adjustments to keep your marriage on track. In fact, simply bei... Mon, 16 Dec 2013 09:20:56 EST Couples sometimes relate by making little jokes http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x55996894 Couples sometimes relate by making little jokes with a tiny barb in them - "Oh, never marry a youngest child!" and the retaliation, "Never marry a Jones." Humor is great but beware of the temptation to be funny at the expense of your beloved. It can slowly erode your affection for each other. Talk about how you kid each other. Make sure your "jokes" don't have barbs in them.* <BR> Mon, 16 Dec 2013 08:20:00 EST A Marriage Tip http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55980764 Affair-proof your marriage. Often affairs start because one partner starts confiding in a friend of the opposite sex. Once personal troubles are compassionately received by another, a bond starts to deepen. If something’s troubling you enough, a counselor is the safer outlet. Sat, 14 Dec 2013 18:03:19 EST IS FACEBOOK BAD FOR YOUR MARRIAGE? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55980741 IS FACEBOOK BAD FOR YOUR MARRIAGE? <BR> <BR> Are you one of the 500 million active Facebook users around the world today? Maybe you access a range of social media platforms daily, or maybe you’re a little wary of the whole idea? Maybe you think Facebook is a fantastic tool for keeping in touch with people, or maybe you’re worried about privacy or loss of traditional face to face contact? Opinion is often divided on how and why we should use social media, but it’s hard to deny that it’s incr... Sat, 14 Dec 2013 18:00:04 EST Potluck ideas http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55960171 I have a potluck luncheon next week. I'm making stuffed green pepper soup but need one more idea. I think for my second dish I'd like to go meatless but it's not necessary. All suggestions are welcome whether they have meat or not. <BR> <BR> Thank you <BR> <BR> Thu, 12 Dec 2013 17:36:18 EST 10 Ways to Improve Your Marriage Right Now http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55944400 10 Ways to Improve Your Marriage Right Now <BR> Written by Sasha Brown-Worsham <BR> <BR> Marriage is not easy. When you've seen people who make it 10, 15, and 30 years together, you know you are looking at two people who have fought, compromised, and stayed committed to one another through a lot. There's a lot to be learned from these people. <BR> <BR> But marriages don't fail from big problems, at least not all the time. Very often, people end up splitting over the small things, especiall... Wed, 11 Dec 2013 10:28:15 EST 3 Steps to Triumph in Your Trials http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55944311 3 Steps to Triumph in Your Trials <BR> <BR> Step 1 – Remember Job – He is God in the stillness and in the storm. God knows every detail about you including the worst thing you are facing right now. The book of Job gives us a “peek behind the curtain.” Satan is at work – in every trauma, trouble, and trial we face – but so is God. <BR> <BR> God never gives you the grace for someone else’s trials but He always gives you the grace for what He calls you to walk through. <BR> <BR> Step 2 – Be... Wed, 11 Dec 2013 10:21:54 EST How To Deal With Stress and Anxiety in Four Simple http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55931384 How To Deal With Stress and Anxiety in Four Simple Steps <BR> <BR> Why Worry? <BR> Stress and anxiety do have their place. They push us to make necessary changes in our lives. They signal when we may be in danger, and inspire us to take action to get ourselves out of danger. (This danger can be any type of threat to our physical or emotional well-being, from not doing well on a test to losing a job to losing a friend.) In this way, feelings of stress and anxiety are healthy and necessary; w... Tue, 10 Dec 2013 09:27:12 EST DECEMBER TEAM LEADERS http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55919614 December Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> 1.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 2.RAPUNZEL53 <BR> 3.CERACOBBLER <BR> 4.CJBAGGINS <BR> 5.DRAGONSDAWN <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> 1.SUZIPAM1 <BR> 2.SALLYANDGENE <BR> 3.JESSIJESS8058 <BR> 4.SOCDIRECTOR <BR> 5.RETIREDAT60 <BR> Mon, 9 Dec 2013 10:21:18 EST Prepare Your Marriage for the Holidays http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x55901425 Prepare Your Marriage for the Holidays <BR> <BR> 1) Communicate your expectations: Often we assume our spouse knows what we value and expect over the holidays, but it’s usually worth a conversation or two. You might be both be surprised at the honest answer. You also might find that these things change over time. <BR> <BR> 2) Hold your traditions loosely: Traditions can be delightful – but they should never be held above your relationship. God cares more about the love and peace between... Sat, 7 Dec 2013 19:28:10 EST Perseverance: Love Never Ends http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x55884038 Perseverance: Love Never Ends <BR> by Mary Jo Pedersen <BR> <BR> When Courtney crossed the stage to receive her diploma a small crowd in the hall exploded in applause. Her husband Stan cheered loudly, standing with both hands in the air. Exiting the stage, she looked up, pointed to Stan and blew a kiss. <BR> <BR> That said it all! <BR> <BR> They both knew this moment was a joint victory for them, the culmination of a “steady persistent course of action…in spite of difficulties and discou... Fri, 6 Dec 2013 06:27:59 EST Finances http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55883998 Do financial problems cause divorce? <BR> <BR> Financial counselors often point to finances as the most common cause of divorce. That’s only partially true. A study by Jason Carroll of Brigham Young University looked at 600 couples from across the nation from various ethnic, religious and economic backgrounds. According to Carroll, the study showed that “financial problems are as much a result of how we think about money as how we spend it.” <BR> <BR> One of the first things couples need to... Fri, 6 Dec 2013 06:21:44 EST Overcoming Obstacles- -Household Duties http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55883965 Overcoming Obstacles--Household Duties <BR> By Mary Jo Pedersen <BR> <BR> The Situation <BR> <BR> It’s not just the ‘uns’ that irritated Heidi: the unmade bed, the un-emptied dishwasher, the un-folded laundry. It was the fact that Sam had been home all day and was asleep when she returned from her extra weekend shift at the hospital. She was tired and resentful and felt that he hadn’t done his share of keeping up the apartment, but always had time to watch his favorite sit-coms and sporting... Fri, 6 Dec 2013 06:16:03 EST Stages of Growth in Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55883940 Stages of Growth in Marriage <BR> By Paul R. Giblin, Ph.D. <BR> <BR> Stage One – Romance, Passion, Expansion and Promise <BR> <BR> In the beginning of a relationship partners often communicate effortlessly and at length. They seem to intuit each other’s needs and wishes and go out of their way to please and surprise each other. Couples begin to develop a strong sense of “we.” Individual differences are minimized, if noticed at all; partners are very accepting. Joy, excitement, happiness and... Fri, 6 Dec 2013 06:11:28 EST Your Marriage is Important to Your Children http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55872328 The most important thing you can do for your children has nothing to do with their education, entertainment, athletic endeavors, or even their physical health. The most important thing YOU can do for your children is to have a GREAT MARRIAGE with your spouse. <BR> <BR> It's hard to be a good parent unless you have a good marriage. Why? Because teaching your children how to succeed in love is your MOST IMPORTANT responsibility. <BR> <BR> There will be nothing more important in your children'... Thu, 5 Dec 2013 06:42:04 EST Are You Growing Together? 10 Questions to Ask http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55856689 Are You Growing Together? 10 Questions to Ask <BR> <BR> Are you building your relationship, or has it grown stale? Are you growing together, or are you growing apart? Here are ten questions you can ask yourself. <BR> Do you pray for your marriage often? <BR> Do you cherish your spouse? Does he know that you cherish him? <BR> Do you spend time together away from distractions? This doesn’t have to be complicated. It can be as simple as reading a book together in the bedroom or kitchen. <BR> Do... Tue, 3 Dec 2013 21:23:24 EST Who Are You Behind Closed Doors? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55856542 Who Are You Behind Closed Doors? by Courtney Joseph <BR> <BR> Sometimes I can be cranky… especially when my husband parents differently than I do. For example, I like an early bedtime and lately my husband has been allowing the children to stay up late… too late for mommy’s patience! lol! And when I get cranky… I get critical… <BR> <BR> It’s easy for me to slip into the role of teacher and judge to my poor husband. I think as wives, we see our husbands faults and point them out – but does ... Tue, 3 Dec 2013 21:08:27 EST 50 WAYS TO TALK AND TOUCH LIST http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55681894 MORT'S 50 WAYS TO TALK AND TOUCH LIST <BR> <BR> 1. Express confidence in one of your spouse's decisions <BR> <BR> 2. Share dessert with one fork <BR> <BR> 3. What was "your song" when you were dating? Call your spouse and sing it to them. <BR> <BR> 4. Surprise visit your spouse at their office or home and give them a kiss... and then leave <BR> 5. Play footsie next time you sit together <BR> <BR> 6. Learn a new joke today and share it with your spouse <BR> <BR> 7. Ask how your spouse's ... Mon, 18 Nov 2013 14:46:55 EST TALK & TOUCH http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55681870 SECRET 2: TALK & TOUCH <BR> <BR> 2 small acts to make a big difference in your marriage <BR> <BR> Did you ever hear the Paul Simon song, "50 Ways to Leave Your Lover"? It's a humorous song about a not-so-funny subject (the break-up of Simon's marriage). I don't want you to hop on a bus or drop off your keys, but the song does make a good point about how to succeed in marriage. <BR> <BR> See, the song's ultimate point is that once you make up your mind to do something, action is sure to fol... Mon, 18 Nov 2013 14:44:13 EST PUT YOUR PROBLEMS ASIDE http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55681857 SECRET 1: PUT YOUR PROBLEMS ASIDE <BR> <BR> If you're reading a report about how to save your marriage, you're probably expecting to learn problem-solving strategies, communication techniques, and insights about gender differences. Do I have a SURPRISE for you! <BR> <BR> The key to renewing your marriage is NONE of those things. <BR> <BR> How do I know this? Because I experienced it! <BR> <BR> Unlike other relationship experts who approach the topic from a clinical perspective, for me sav... Mon, 18 Nov 2013 14:42:41 EST 5 Traits of a Loving Wife http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55653311 1. She's affectionate - all human beings benefit from affection. A smile, a kiss, a warm embrace when you walk in through door... These are the things that remind us we're loved. <BR> <BR> 2. She's understanding - Although we don't always agree with one another, it's a blessing when someone makes an effort to understand our point of view isn't it? It takes an open heart and a listening ear. <BR> <BR> 3. She looks to God to sharpen her character - When we pattern our lives after our Savior w... Sat, 16 Nov 2013 07:04:51 EST Virtue of Purity - Part 2 http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55653269 Virtue of Purity Part 2 -Darlene Schacht <BR> <BR> Another name for the virtue of purity is "pure in heart." To be pure in heart means to have good intentions. The opposite of that would be doing things merely because we feel obligated to, or doing one thing while thinking another, otherwise labelled a hypocrite. <BR> <BR> I remember driving in the car one evening with my oldest son when I said to him, "I'm not like that. I'd never been so rude to a person..." <BR> <BR> As far as I was c... Sat, 16 Nov 2013 06:59:37 EST The Chain of Unforgiveness http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55653255 The Chain of Unforgiveness Isn't Worth the Price You'll Pay <BR> Matthew Jacobson <BR> <BR> I’ve totally forgiven him. <BR> <BR> I really have. But, I’m just so angry. Why did I have to endure that pain for so many years? <BR> <BR> She continued looking me right in the eye, insisting that she had forgiven her husband (who had humbly asked for forgiveness) while recounting his many infractions. <BR> <BR> It goes both ways. Husbands may not be as vocal, but years can pass after we've to... Sat, 16 Nov 2013 06:56:26 EST WELCOME CMOMMYFLY, TWITTYDAY & DRAGONSDAWN http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x55591907 Wow, it is wonderful to have you all join us--what an honor. I hope that each of you take a moment to introduce yourselves. Welcome to the team and feel free to jump right in!! Mon, 11 Nov 2013 05:42:17 EST GAGGSISAWINNER , welcome http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x55591886 What a delight it is to welcome you to our team! It is such an honor to have a friend join us!! Welcome Gary, it is wonderful to see yu posting and getting involved!! Mon, 11 Nov 2013 05:37:31 EST Tips for a Time-Starved Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x55591809 Tips for a Time-Starved Marriage <BR> By Belinda Elliott <BR> <BR> When couples are traveling through life at a break-neck speed, they can sometimes lose touch with each other. <BR> <BR> In the midst of careers, church activities, children’s activities, and all the things we fill our lives with, keeping a close emotional connection with your spouse can take a back seat to other matters that seem more pressing at the time. <BR> <BR> Les and Leslie Parrott have been there. Yes, the endearing... Mon, 11 Nov 2013 05:19:10 EST Put More Fun in Your Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55591803 Put More Fun in Your Marriage <BR> By Belinda Elliott <BR> <BR> Feel like your marriage is missing something? Maybe you need a little more fun! <BR> <BR> “Couples who know how to play and have fun together develop a bonding that can carry them through the most difficult of times,” writes Dr. Steve Stephens in his book, Blueprints for a Solid Marriage. <BR> <BR> King Solomon, the wisest man who ever lived knew the value of fun. In Ecclesiastes he advised, “Enjoy life with your wife….” Si... Mon, 11 Nov 2013 05:15:10 EST Examining the Virtue of Purity--Darlene Schacht http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55583655 When we consider the idea of purity, the first thing that comes to mind is one's sexuality. By protecting our purity, we save ourselves for marriage. That's an important step for every Christian to take, but there are many ways that we are called to purity, and several ways that we exercise the virtue of purity in our lives long after we say, "I do." <BR> <BR> In the Bible we often see purification as being a ceremonial cleansing. For example, Esther went through a purification process befo... Sun, 10 Nov 2013 10:54:43 EST Learn How to Care For Your Wife http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55583449 Learn How to Care For Your Wife--Steven Shomler <BR> <BR> It cracks me up that guys can come up with great ways to improve their favorite team and yet they seem clueless when it comes to doing what actually cares for their wives. <BR> <BR> Guys who know football have invested effort into learning the game. <BR> <BR> If you have a wife who does not feel cared for by you, I challenge you to invest effort into figuring out what you can do that will help your wife feel cared for. <BR> <BR> Le... Sun, 10 Nov 2013 10:31:55 EST How to Add Value to Your Husband http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55583350 How to Add Value to Your Husband <BR> <BR> 1. Be a Helpmate--Many say, "I am his helper by taking care of the home and children." That's very important, however, remember that your husband's world is more than his home and his children. In fact, it's often stated by psychologists that a man's two most important factors in their self worth are their job performance and their sex life. You cannot fully be a helper to a man without understanding his work world, and offering to help wherever he... Sun, 10 Nov 2013 10:21:10 EST Five Best Gifts for Your Spouse http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55583213 The Gift of Kindness – I want to offer him soft words and thoughtful gestures. In this mean and ugly world that we live in, I want him to return home to find sweetness and compassion here. Not even “random” acts of kindness, but purposeful ones – ones that are intended to say, “I love you” and “You’re often on my heart and mind”. <BR> <BR> The Gift of Loyalty – He need not worry about what I’m going to say about him to anyone else. I am faithful and true. He can count on me to have his back... Sun, 10 Nov 2013 10:06:01 EST How to Find Inner Peace http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55583115 How to Find Inner Peace <BR> <BR> How you feel affect your marriage. When feeling stressed and doubtful, it is easy to have these emotions control the way we see things. Finding inner peace can be a wonderful way to start looking at things in your marriage in a more realistic way. <BR> <BR> Instructions <BR> 1 Accept things the way they are. Feeling peaceful doesn't mean your life is perfect. Peace is a state of mind. Instead of feeling trapped in your life, accept where you are and appre... Sun, 10 Nov 2013 09:56:21 EST November Team Leaders http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x55496408 SparkPts: <BR> <BR> 1) SUZIPAM1 <BR> 2) CERACOBBLER <BR> 3) RAPUNZEL53 <BR> 4) SCHADWE <BR> 5) TWITTYDAY <BR> <BR> Fitness Mins: <BR> <BR> 1) SUZIPAM1 <BR> 2) SOCDIRECTOR <BR> 3) BAROSS <BR> 4) JKHAYES90 <BR> 5) RETIREDAT60 <BR> <BR> <em>380</em> <em>243</em> <em>242</em> <em>250</em> <em>345</em> <BR> Sun, 3 Nov 2013 07:46:56 EST Romantic Things to Do As a Couple for Free http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55487326 Romantic Things to Do As a Couple for Free <BR> <BR> It is important to spend quality time together as a couple to keep things exciting. A tight budget should not deter you from spicing up your relationship by planning romantic activities. There are enough free resources available that you can take advantage of in your area -- all it takes is a little planning and creativity. <BR> <BR> Romantic Evening at Home <BR> <BR> Make your home a romantic oasis. Turn off all the lights and enjoy yo... Sat, 2 Nov 2013 12:09:10 EST Fun Things for a Couple to Do for Evening at Home http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55487217 Fun Things for a Couple to Do for an Evening at Home <BR> By Natasha Burton, eHow Presenter <BR> <BR> <link>www.ehow.com/video_12200500_fun-thin<BR>gs-couple-evening-home.html </link> Sat, 2 Nov 2013 12:00:11 EST MARRIAGE & MASKS http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55448844 MARRIAGE & MASKS <BR> <BR> October is the season of harvesting and Halloween. You may not be much of a gardener, but maybe you like to pretend or practice at it. Halloween, however, is a time when we get to pretend to be a different person, without any guilt or shame. Perhaps as a married couple you can explore what “masks” you sometimes put up to protect your ego or make yourself into more (or less) than your true self. Here are some possible masks to try on for size. Pick one that fits you... Wed, 30 Oct 2013 10:04:40 EST Marriage Communication http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55434721 Marriage communication – sometimes building a bridge to Mars seems less complicated. Why is that? Why do the simplest things become another opportunity for tension or disagreement? <BR> <BR> “I don’t care if I’m wrong. I just want to know that you care how I feel. I want to know that you are hearing me.” <BR> <BR> Being listened to, having the sense that you are being heard. Can you identify with that? Do you want your husband to hear you when you have something on your mind? <BR> <BR> ... Tue, 29 Oct 2013 08:47:55 EST Devotions for Married Couples http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x55424128 Devotions for Married Couples <BR> <BR> A Holy Partnership <BR> <BR> “Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself.” <BR> Ephesians 5:33 <BR> <BR> To properly define the God&#8208;ordained role of husbands, there’s no better place to turn than Scripture. The apostle Paul instructs: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy. . . . In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies” (Ephesians... Mon, 28 Oct 2013 11:57:03 EST How to Strengthen Your Marriage with Grace http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55424098 How to Strengthen Your Marriage with Grace <BR> Whitney Hopler <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> How to Strengthen Your Marriage with Grace <BR> <BR> Whitney Hopler <BR> <BR> <BR> Editor's Note: The following is a report on the practical applications of Tim Kimmel's new book, Grace-Filled Marriage: The Missing Piece, the Place to Start (Worthy Publishing, 2013). <BR> <BR> Grace is a vital part of how God expresses His love to us. But, too often, marriages lack this ... Mon, 28 Oct 2013 11:54:11 EST Cmommyfly, welcome!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x55422755 <em>244</em> we are happy to have you join us!! Welcome! Mon, 28 Oct 2013 10:11:22 EST Welcome Bubbletoes153!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x55422746 How happy we are to welcome you to the team!! <em>104</em> Mon, 28 Oct 2013 10:10:29 EST Handling Slef-Centered Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55238131 We have looked at Jim, a passive self-centered spouse, and Eddie, an aggressive self-centered spouse. But if we were talking to them instead of about them, doubtless we would hear the rebuttal, “This can’t be all me. Counselors always take the side of the crying woman. She’s not innocent. What about all the stuff that she does that upsets me? Am I supposed to let all that go, and she gets to unload on me?” <BR> <BR> This poses a difficult question in counseling a self-centered marriage. No s... Sat, 12 Oct 2013 13:18:45 EST Eddie” The Aggressively Self-Centered Spouse http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55238053 Eddie” The Aggressively Self-Centered Spouse <BR> <BR> Eddie was good, but he was not nice at home. If you watched Eddie from a distance, you would see that he was successful at many (maybe most) of the things he did. If you heard Eddie speak to a group or in a private conversation, you would walk away impressed at his breadth of knowledge, quick wit, and convincing delivery. <BR> <BR> This meant that most people who knew Eddie casually, liked Eddie. And most people who knew Eddie only knew... Sat, 12 Oct 2013 13:12:09 EST How to Love When You Feel Unloved http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55191334 How to Love When You Feel Unloved <BR> <BR> In the spirit of truth-sharing, I’ll tell you that being the wife I am called to be is my weak area, my Achilles heel. I never feel so much like Paul in Romans 7, battling with the flesh, as when marital issues arise. Often Satan and sin have me so ensnared that I even become confused as to what “right” really is. <BR> <BR> Lately I’ve been reminded of this weakness as our marriage is under extra strain. I could make excuses. Truthfully, the p... Tue, 8 Oct 2013 17:01:51 EST A Marriage Quote for this Week http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x55190823 Success in marriage is much more than finding the right person. It’s a matter of being the right person. - Unknown Tue, 8 Oct 2013 16:13:18 EST 2 Steps to Keep Your Marriage From Going Stale http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55188464 2 Steps to Keep Your Marriage From Going Stale--by Dennis Rainey <BR> <BR> A husband and wife often begin drifting apart so slowly that they hardly recognize it's happening. <BR> <BR> <BR> I find it interesting that the first human institution created by God was marriage. Its importance is clear in the words of Genesis 1:27 when we see that the relationship between a man and woman actually reflects the image of God, in Genesis 2:18 when God declared it was “not good” for man to be alone... Tue, 8 Oct 2013 12:26:37 EST Six Characteristics for a Potential Spouse http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x55188429 What to look for as you contemplate marriage... <BR> by Dennis Rainey <BR> <BR> I am often asked, "What should a single person look for in a potential spouse?" Singles want to know...and parents want to know so they can pass the information on to the children. So I finally came up with the following list: <BR> <BR> A woman should seek a man who… <BR> 1.Fears God. Some of the ways you can tell if a young man fears God is by his language and how he treats other people. Does he treat them ... Tue, 8 Oct 2013 12:22:59 EST God’s Purposes for Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x55188403 God’s Purposes for Marriage <BR> <BR> Understanding God’s design gives your marriage a sense of direction and stability. <BR> by Dennis Rainey <BR> <BR> While in Southern California on a business trip, I stopped for a red light early one morning. Waiting at the intersection, I noticed a construction crew already busy renovating an old restaurant. Like ants, the carpenters and other workers were scrambling through the building, and almost every one of them possessed the same thing: bluepr... Tue, 8 Oct 2013 12:19:38 EST What Are the Secrets for a Lasting Marriage? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55188372 What Are the Secrets for a Lasting Marriage? <BR> <BR> Is lifelong marriage still possible? Couples married 50 years or more share advice for your marriage <BR> <BR> In an age of widespread divorce, it is becoming less and less common for marriages to last a half of a century. Between 2006 and 2008, Mary Larmoyeux talked with some couples who had reached this milestone. <BR> <BR> Lifelong marriages <BR> <BR> Bill and Jean Barber: "We’ve been through so much over the years—good and bad."... Tue, 8 Oct 2013 12:16:07 EST True Betrayal http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55187521 True Betrayal: Overcoming the Betrayal of Your Spouse’s Sexual Sin Pornography <BR> <BR> <link>www.bradhambrick.com/truebetrayal/ </link> Tue, 8 Oct 2013 11:03:33 EST Jim” The Passively Self-Centered Spouse http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x55187377 Jim” The Passively Self-Centered Spouse <BR> <BR> Jim wasn’t mean. He wasn’t harsh, violent, or cutting with his words. Even his wife would admit that Jim had to be really backed into a corner before she would see his temper, and then it was clear he was trying to get away instead of “win.” <BR> <BR> Jim was absent. He was distant, cold, and hard to get to know. More than being an introvert, Jim had a hard time relating to people. Emotions made him highly uncomfortable, even his own. He cou... Tue, 8 Oct 2013 10:53:09 EST A Marriage Checkup http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x55186685 A Marriage Checkup <BR> <BR> A marriage checkup can help you understand what is happening in your relationship and how it might be improved. <BR> <BR> A husband comes home and goes directly to his computer. Will this make his wife, who has been cleaning house and looking after young children, feel important, wanted or sexy? Often the man wants quick sex, but shows few other signs of affection. <BR> <BR> Women need to feel feminine, sexy, wanted and beautiful. <BR> <BR> Another husband ... Tue, 8 Oct 2013 10:00:58 EST •Getting out of Debt (Step 1) - Realize it is not http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55173959 Why get out of debt? <BR> <BR> God didn’t create us so that we could seek our own satisfaction. <BR> <BR> I believe that God put each person down here for a reason and that reason is to bless others. In doing so, we will be blessed. <BR> <BR> I have found in my own life that my most joyful moments often revolved around me helping or doing something to benefit another person. Meanwhile, my most painful, sorrowful, and sad moments were taking place when I was thinking about myself. Often ti... Mon, 7 Oct 2013 11:32:58 EST Survive a Financial Crisis http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55173808 Survive a Financial Crisis: 12 Tips For Married Couples <BR> <BR> Job loss. A lay off. Fraud. Getting fired. Robbery. Legal Issues. Credit card debt. In a moment, any of these instantaneous events can shatter your financial plan. At times these events do not come alone, but they come in groups – event after event. Unfortunately, life is filled with disappointment, frustration, and surprise. So what do you do when you get the pink slip? How do you wade through a series of financial fa... Mon, 7 Oct 2013 11:21:01 EST Making "I Do" Work http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55173665 Making "I Do" Work <BR> Marriage is a life laboratory in which we discover the real meaning of faithfulness, belonging, forgiveness and unconditional love. <BR> <BR> I love weddings! It’s a good thing because we’re going to a lot of them lately! It never gets old for me…that courageous and touching moment when the beaming couple faces each other and says “for better or worse, for rich or for poorer, in sickness and in health until death…” <BR> <BR> Of course, they haven’t got a clue about... Mon, 7 Oct 2013 11:10:51 EST “Just” Friends" http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x55173615 <BR> They go out to a movie. She likes this one better than the one they saw two weeks ago. He doesn’t say much about it. <BR> <BR> They are husband and wife, young enough in their relationship to find occasional surprises in the likes and dislikes of each other, and not realizing it will always be this way. They are good friends, coaxing each other to openness. What do you really think about that movie? Come on…I really want to know. <BR> <BR> Thinkers and singers have explored friendship... Mon, 7 Oct 2013 11:06:14 EST Welcome WHITEHEAD2013 http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x55136833 How wonderful it is to welcome you to the team!! Fri, 4 Oct 2013 08:31:06 EST September Team Leaders http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x54995837 September Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> 1.CERACOBBLER <BR> 2.RAPUNZEL53 <BR> 3.JOIFULJOII <BR> 4.FLAGLINDA <BR> 5.IAM_HIS <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> 1.JESSIJESS8058 <BR> 2.RETIREDAT60 <BR> 3.SOCDIRECTOR <BR> 4.MOMMEEOFMANY <BR> 5.CERACOBBLER <BR> Sun, 22 Sep 2013 18:19:38 EST 6 Tips for Building Relationships w Your Stepchild http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x54979400 6 Tips for Building Relationships with Your Stepchildren <BR> Improving your relationship is a challenge, so be intentional. <BR> by Ron L. Deal <BR> <BR> Improving your relationship with stepchildren is one of the greatest challenges of forming a stepfamily. Use the following suggestions to help you to be intentional about slowly building your relationships: <BR> <BR> 1. Do not expect that you or your stepchildren will magically cherish all your time together. Stepchildren often feel c... Sat, 21 Sep 2013 05:50:00 EST Young and Married! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54974783 Hi I am 23 years old and I have 46 pounds of college weight to lose to reach my goal weight. I got my Bachelor of Arts in Music degree in music and went back to school to become a Music Teacher. Not only am I busy with becoming a Music Teacher but I am also am married to a wonderful, Godly man (who is 6'2 and 175 pounds) :) <BR> <BR> I really want to lose this weight because I am not happy about how I let myself get this bad. I want to be sexy and healthy for my husband. I have been trying ... Fri, 20 Sep 2013 17:33:38 EST How to Deal With a Difficult Mother in Law http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x54972535 Deal With a Difficult Mother in Law <BR> <BR> If your mother-in-law repeatedly hurts you either physically or emotionally, it can permanently damage your marriage. Here are some ways to deal with her that can protect yourself, your family and your future. <BR> <BR> <link>www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-a-Difficul<BR>t-Mother-in-Law </link> Fri, 20 Sep 2013 13:15:38 EST What Couples Need To Do To Keep The Spark Alive http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x54972493 Marriage Advice: What Couples Need To Do To Keep The Spark Alive <BR> <BR> All marriages inevitably go through some rough patches. It's just impossible to spend more than 50 years (God willing) with a person and never have any difficulties. But one of the most telling signs of rough waters ahead is when you start to give up things you used to love together. <BR> <BR> Early on in dating, there is almost non-stop smooching, texting just to see how the other person is, and butterflies in the ... Fri, 20 Sep 2013 13:11:39 EST Good Communication in Marriage Starts with Respect http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x54972423 By Amy Bellows, Ph.D. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> Communication is the mortar that holds a relationship together – if it breaks down, the relationship will crumble. When spouses no longer communicate, a marriage nurtures no one. It is no longer a marriage. <BR> <BR> True communication involves respect for the other person as well as active energy on your part. These two skills are essential ingredients to making a relationship work. <BR> <BR> Respect Your Partner <BR> <BR> We often immediately... Fri, 20 Sep 2013 13:04:03 EST The Power of Positive Thinking Will Transform Your http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54940059 The Power of Positive Thinking Will Transform Your Marriage-BY: Tiya Cunningham-Sumter <BR> <BR> My friends are quick to point out how I view the world through rose-colored glasses. They often tease me about my ability to notice the positive in everyone and in every situation and my odd expectation that things will always work out. It’s true; it is my nature to have these optimistic expectations. For me it’s my faith and belief in GOD. Based on proof from the Word and my past I strongly beli... Tue, 17 Sep 2013 22:31:35 EST 3 Essential Things That Make A Marriage Work http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54939979 3 Essential Things That Make A Marriage Work <BR> By Lisa Kift <BR> <BR> Most of us realize that marriage is hard. The good news is that most people are willing to put effort into things that mean a lot to them, like tending to a beloved garden or other pastime. <BR> <BR> There are many useful marriage tools you can add to your personal toolbox for use when needed. Let's talk about a few of them. <BR> <BR> 1) Allow your spouse space if requested. People are different in their needs for clo... Tue, 17 Sep 2013 22:24:22 EST How to Fight Fairly in Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54939897 How to Fight Fairly in Marriage <BR> <BR> Accepting that you and your spouse will argue can help to strengthen the marriage, but only if you have the ability to fight fair. If a marital argument arises, use these tools to help resolve the conflict fairly and constructively: <BR> •Do be clear about what you want. <BR> <BR> •Do stick to the issues at hand. <BR> <BR> •Do look at both sides of the story. <BR> <BR> •Do listen more than you talk. <BR> <BR> •Do apologize when you’re wrong. <BR>... Tue, 17 Sep 2013 22:17:09 EST What Makes Marriage Work http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54939873 What Makes Marriage Work <BR> <BR> What is the one indispensable ingredient for making marriages work? Family life educators usually answer: communication. This is good news, because effective communication can be learned. Skills such as active listening, using “I” statements, paying attention to my feelings and those of my spouse, and learning tips for “fighting fair” make marriage easier. Some couples use these skills intuitively because they saw them modeled in their own upbringing. Other... Tue, 17 Sep 2013 22:14:54 EST Since we're celebrating our 21st anniversary http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x54866476 Since we're celebrating our 21st anniversary - by the grace of God - here are 21 things I'd tell you... <BR> <BR> 1. Hold hands whenever you can. We do and always have. We'll clasp hands when sitting next to each other on the couch, while we're driving along in the car, and when we're out walking. A simple connecting that goes a long way. <BR> <BR> 2. Pray for him every day. Faithfully. What better gift than to offer up a prayer for him? Ask God to bless him, protect him, and work in his ... Wed, 11 Sep 2013 14:22:19 EST New Challenge http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x54852113 Add one extra fruit or veggie to your daily meal. Tue, 10 Sep 2013 11:55:46 EST How to be a good husband & father http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54835480 Interesting & good imformation: <link>www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Good-Husband-an<BR>d-Father </link> Mon, 9 Sep 2013 07:42:08 EST Be a Good Wife http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54835451 Here's something you may find helpful & interesting: <link>www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Good-Wife </link> Mon, 9 Sep 2013 07:39:26 EST September Team Leaders http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x54826278 September Team Leaders <BR> <BR> SparkPoints <BR> <BR> 1.JOIFULJOII <BR> 2.CERACOBBLER <BR> 3.RAPUNZEL53 <BR> 4.IAM_HIS <BR> 5.FLAGLINDA <BR> <BR> <BR> Fitness Minutes <BR> <BR> 1.JESSIJESS8058 <BR> 2.SOCDIRECTOR <BR> 3.RETIREDAT60 <BR> 4.CERACOBBLER <BR> 5.MOMMEEOFMANY <BR> Sun, 8 Sep 2013 12:40:21 EST KIMMIE110588, welcome!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x54825915 KIMMIE110588, we are excited and honored to welcome you to our team family. <em>244</em> <em>235</em> Sun, 8 Sep 2013 11:55:57 EST This Week's Challenge http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x54825855 I like to keep challenges simple and obtainable, so I am making this one a 7 day challenge. <BR> <BR> We are to eat 2 cups of fruits and 2 cups of vegetable per day. Therefore, our challenge is to do just that. <BR> <BR> Please post how many fruits and vegetables you have eaten each day: <BR> <BR> 9/8 <BR> 9/9 <BR> 9/10 <BR> 9/11 <BR> 9/12 <BR> 9/13 <BR> 9/14 <BR> <BR> Sun, 8 Sep 2013 11:50:33 EST SparkPeople's Motivational Calendars http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54814187 SparkPeople's Motivational Calendars <BR> <BR> Get Healthy, One Day at a Time <BR> <BR> -- By Nicole Nichols, Fitness Instructor & Health Educator <BR> <BR> <BR> Get your copy for each month: <link>www.sparkpeople.com/resource/motivat<BR>ion_articles.asp?id=1031 </link> Sat, 7 Sep 2013 11:01:20 EST Come on Just say hello or chat http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54813751 <em>213</em> Hello everyone. Today I am waiting to hear when our exchange student from Mexico will be here. I cannot believe how complicated things that should be so simple can get. Our poor student's family is trying to get in touch with the travel agency that the sponsor uses. No one is calling them. So I just got in touch with the owner. I sure hope something happens. <BR> <BR> A special hello to Laura...Happy Birthday! Hello to Linda & CJ too! <em>247</em> <em>247</em> ... Sat, 7 Sep 2013 10:22:37 EST Welcome, IAM_HIS! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54801412 I would like to take this opportunity to thank, and welcome, Sharon (IAM_HIS) as our new leader of the Married Life Team. <BR> <BR> I wish you well as the new leader, Sharon. <BR> <BR> And <em>304</em> again for your kind offer of "taking the helm". <BR> <BR> <em>247</em> <em>220</em> <BR> <BR> cj Fri, 6 Sep 2013 08:37:32 EST Tell Us a Little about Yourself http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54801177 We have lots of members and sure would like to met you. So please tell us something about yourself. Fri, 6 Sep 2013 08:19:01 EST Hello, I am Your New Leader http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54801092 Today I have become the leader of this team. "Married Life" is very important to me. It is what keeps our society "healthy morally". Yet, it is in the most danger. So many couples today fall for the world's messages and give up on their marriage when they are asked to truly love their spouse. (According to statistical analysis done on various demographic groups, a marriage starting out today has about 41-43% chance of ending in divorce.) Scripture is clear about marriage being a holy and... Fri, 6 Sep 2013 08:11:53 EST What do you like about your spouse? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x54797102 I really like my husband's crazy humor. He sure can make me laugh!! Thu, 5 Sep 2013 21:39:58 EST What will you do for your spouse this week-end http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x54796814 I am going to make my husband an apple pie Thu, 5 Sep 2013 21:25:14 EST What is your goal for this Month? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x54796762 I want to get down 4-5 pounds. Thu, 5 Sep 2013 21:21:16 EST So you and your spouse exercise 2gether? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x54796745 Why not find a way to enjoy exercising with your spouse? <BR> <BR> ** Walk together <BR> <BR> ** Ride bikes together <BR> <BR> ** Go swimming together <BR> <BR> ** Take a dance lesson <BR> <BR> Find a way to exercise with your spouse this week-end and have fun. Then share your experience with us. Thu, 5 Sep 2013 21:19:47 EST Pray for Your Spouse http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x54796685 Lord Jesus, grant that I and my spouse may have a true and understanding love for each other. Grant that we may both be filled with faith and trust. Give us the grace to live with each other in peace and harmony. May we always bear with one another's weaknesses and grow from each other's strengths. Help us to forgive one another's failings and grant us patience, kindness, cheerfulness and the spirit of placing the well-being of one another ahead of self. <BR> <BR> May the love that brought... Thu, 5 Sep 2013 21:15:07 EST A good marriage is worth fighting for http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54796572 This is written by Lisa Jacobson <BR> <BR> When my husband and I married I hoped we'd turn out the lights loving one another. And wake up just the same. Every day for the rest of our lives. <BR> <BR> A few years went by and we looked on while many of our friends' marriages fell apart. He and I lay next to each other in the dark, quietly praying and weeping for them. Our hearts breaking for their hearts - for theirs and for their children's. It wasn't how anyone ever wanted it. <BR> <BR... Thu, 5 Sep 2013 21:05:56 EST Proverbs 14:1 http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x54796491 Proverbs 14:1 -Every Wise Woman Builds Her House <BR> 1The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands. Thu, 5 Sep 2013 20:58:50 EST How do you live your married life? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54796399 Have you thought about how you live your married life? <BR> <BR> Recently I started reading a book entitled, "How to Change Your Husband". Wow what an eye-opener. Also, what a wake up call for me. My marriage has not been easy and now I know why. <BR> <BR> There as been a part of me that has wanted to be independent. After all, I wanted to still be my own person. This thinking and this behavior has caused problems in my marriage. What I have been doing is not following in God's plan f... Thu, 5 Sep 2013 20:52:51 EST What Should Be the Wife's "Role" in Marriage? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54796240 What Should Be the Wife's "Role" in Marriage? <BR> <BR> Wives have unique God-given responsibilities. <BR> by Barbara Rainey <BR> <BR> Perhaps more than at any other time in history, women today need a clear understanding of how they should relate to their husbands. In fact, the significant social changes brought about by the women's movement over the last few decades have led to such confusion that the very idea of "roles" is repugnant to some. They feel as if somehow they lose their ide... Thu, 5 Sep 2013 20:41:24 EST What Should Be the Husband's "Role" in Marriage? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54796149 What Should Be the Husband's "Role" in Marriage? <BR> <BR> The Scriptures clearly give us the model for being a man, a husband and father. <BR> by Dennis Rainey <BR> <BR> There is a story of a man who died and went to heaven to find two signs above two different lines. One sign said: "ALL THOSE MEN WHO HAVE BEEN DOMINATED BY THEIR WIVES, STAND HERE." That line of men seemed to stretch off through the clouds into infinity. <BR> <BR> The second sign read: "ALL THOSE WHO HAVE NEVER BEEN D... Thu, 5 Sep 2013 20:34:12 EST 10 Habits of a Happy Marriage http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x54792509 10 Habits of a Happy Marriage <BR> <BR> 1. Smile warmly first thing in the morning. Okay, so I'm not exactly a morning person. You could say I’m more of a grumpy, where's-my-coffee, kind of person. But I have determined to greet him with the warmest, most loving smile I can muster. Boy! Does this set a wonderful tone for the day. <BR> <BR> 2. Do more kissing than complaining. This was the one I was "caught" doing. My husband had done something rather irritating. Downright irksome. And my d... Thu, 5 Sep 2013 13:59:04 EST Question http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54776674 This question was poised on another team I belong to; it was simple but has had a great response. <BR> <BR> What makes you laugh? <BR> <BR> ME?? I'm easily amused. A lot of things make me laugh (my family probably makes me laugh the most). Life is too short to take things too seriously. <BR> Wed, 4 Sep 2013 09:15:46 EST Last Call! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54714835 <em>297</em> <BR> <BR> No, not that kind of last call! <BR> <BR> <em>334</em> <BR> <BR> I was wondering if anyone was considering taking on the role of leader for this team. If so, let me know on this thread, or on my sparkpage, or by sparkmail. I am stepping down after this weekend. <BR> <BR> If someone would like to take over before then, once you let me know, I can send out a leader invitation to you. <BR> <BR> If someone would like to become leader after I have stepped down, ... Fri, 30 Aug 2013 09:23:38 EST It will soon be time to say farewell ... http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x54622771 Hello all. <BR> <BR> This summer, I have been doing much soul-searching and making decisions about how I spend my time. I work outside the home full time, as well as having a husband and three teenaged "children". For 15 years now, I have held a volunteer position with an organization close to my heart. Recently, I have accepted to begin training for another position within that organization. In addition to my current volunteer position. <BR> <em>40</em> I may be completely nuts, but ... Thu, 22 Aug 2013 18:45:39 EST Last Days of Summer Picnic! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x54534849 Hello all! <BR> <BR> I am inviting the Team on a picnic. Everyone who wishes to join us in this virtual activity needs to bring something along to share. <BR> <BR> I am bringing a giant blanket to sit on. Also, a largish tent in case it rains on us! But we'll keep that packed away unless we need it. <BR> <BR> So, are you joining us? If so, what are you bringing? <BR> <em>191</em> <BR> <BR> <BR> cj Thu, 15 Aug 2013 14:14:08 EST Marriage and finances http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x54523128 I don't know if anyone checks this often but I could really use some support-advice. My husband is a spender. Like REALLY bad. But the things he spends money on are ridiculous! Red bull and cigarettes! He spends close to $100 a week on this! I can't get him to quit or at least slow down. I'm worried about his health, and this is keeping us from saving for a house. Not only that but I'm having to sacrafice a LOT of the things i need in order to make sure the kids have what they need. I can't s... Wed, 14 Aug 2013 15:33:25 EST Hello :) http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x54096773 I met my husband working for the City of Atlanta on a sewer rehab contract (not the most glamorous of locations!). He was with one of the contractors I worked with and drove me crazy for the first 6 months I knew him! <BR> <BR> We have 3 little ones (ages 9, 7, and 2) Fri, 12 Jul 2013 07:44:07 EST Flip into Fall Challenge! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x53958758 With summer upon us, I have closed our Sexy for Summer Challenge, and we are officially beginning our new challenge. <BR> <BR> Flip <em>356</em> into Fall! <BR> <BR> Come on over to our Weekly Weigh In Thread <BR> <link>www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_mes<BR>sageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x5<BR>3958655 </link> <BR> <BR> to post your starting weight. <BR> <BR> This challenge will run from July 1 - September 1, 2013. <BR> <BR> Also, pop on over to our new Accountability Thread ... Mon, 1 Jul 2013 11:12:58 EST Fall Challenge Daily Accountability Thread http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x53958732 Here, we will post our goals for the Flip into Fall Challenge. <BR> <BR> We then post our progress daily, or as often as we are able. <BR> <BR> For example: <BR> <BR> Example 1 - My goals might be to begin strength training this summer. I will post: <BR> <BR> Goal for Flip into Fall Challenge: <BR> * begin strength training <BR> * will do this two to three times weekly, using full body strength workouts <BR> <BR> Example 2 - Or, I might want to make sure I track my food daily, so I woul... Mon, 1 Jul 2013 11:11:10 EST Fall Challenge Weekly Weigh In Thread http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x53958655 If you are joining us for the Flip into Fall Challenge, post your starting weight here, please! <BR> <BR> This challenge runs from July 1 - September 1, 2013. <BR> <BR> Good luck! <BR> <BR> <BR> cj Mon, 1 Jul 2013 11:05:45 EST How many are you. http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x53429180 Interesting article on spark. 10 reasons you eat when your not hungry. How many of them are reasons for you. I'm 8 of the 10. <BR> <BR> <link>www.sparkpeople.com/resource/nutriti<BR>on_articles.asp?id=1660 </link> Tue, 21 May 2013 18:53:22 EST Sexy for Summer Challenge! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x53285871 Okay folks. Summer challenge time. <BR> <BR> And you all get to customize it to your own fitness level and/or preferences. <BR> <BR> You have a choice of: <BR> OPTION (1) posting to the daily accountability thread (found here: <link>www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_mes<BR>sageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x5<BR>2858043&src=email </link> ) <BR> <BR> AND <BR> posting your weight weekly on this thread: <BR> <link>www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_mes<BR>sageboard_thread.asp?board=1... Thu, 9 May 2013 21:25:35 EST Sexy Summer Challenge Weigh In Thread http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x53285776 Weigh in here for the summer challenge! <BR> First weigh in - starting weight = this Sunday (Mothers Day)! <BR> <BR> <BR> Sample post: <BR> Starting weight: 205 lbs <BR> Week 1: 204 down 1 lb this week <BR> Week 2: 202 - down 2 lbs this week! <BR> etc. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> cj Thu, 9 May 2013 21:17:34 EST Daily Accountability Thread! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x52858043 I don't know about anyone else, but I am struggling right now. I started off (again!) great guns a month ago. Lost 7 pounds in that month, and now am backsliding again. <BR> <BR> <em>39</em> <BR> <BR> LAKENDAL had a great suggestion to have a daily challenge or accountability thread. Here, we will post our challenge to ourselves for the day. Then, when we have accomplished it, we will post what we did. <BR> <BR> If you don't accomplish it, feel free to post that you didn't so we ca... Sat, 6 Apr 2013 19:35:01 EST Doing It Together on Opposite Sides http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x52564628 Recently my wife and I joined the Spring BLC and were placed on opposite teams. We could try to outdo each other like some people, but it has brought us together. We can help each other to be healthier and to be good team members as well. Sat, 16 Mar 2013 20:02:31 EST Spring into Spring Challenge! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x52271704 Time for a new challenge! <BR> <BR> This Wednesday will be exactly 9 weeks until May 1. This Spring into Spring Challenge will run from this coming Wednesday February 27 until May 1. <BR> <BR> It is a straight weight loss challenge, with an added challenge. <BR> Pick one (or more if you wish) of the challenges below. Choose from the Nutrition, Exercise, or Motivation options. Feel free to pick one from each if you want. I would caution against picking too many, though, as that can get o... Mon, 25 Feb 2013 00:45:12 EST New Years Plans http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x51398935 What are your New Years plans? Anyone going out or doing anything exciting? My hubby and I are staying in. I've got champagne chilling and plan on toasting in the new year with some mimosas. We will probably watch t.v and listen to music and play cards, games, or wii. Mon, 31 Dec 2012 13:46:13 EST Countdown to Valentine's Day Challenge! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x51369483 This challenge is very similar to our Getting Ready for Christmas Challenge, except the timing is different. <em>211</em> <BR> <BR> From January 1 to February 13 we will see how much weight we can lose. <BR> <BR> (1) Sometimes this weekend, post your starting weight. <BR> (2) Every week after that, until February 13, post your weigh in. <BR> <BR> An added challenge: <BR> Either (a) spend some quality time with your spouse weekly at least (or daily if you can manage) playing a game, go... Sat, 29 Dec 2012 11:59:43 EST Getting Ready for Christmas Challenge! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x50943524 Christmas is only 4 weeks away! <BR> <BR> Even those of you who may not celebrate Christmas, there are only 5 weeks away from the start of the new year, and many of us like to start off the new calendar with a BANG! <BR> <BR> So, here we go, 4 weeks to buckle down and follow our plans. <BR> <BR> This is a straight-up weight loss challenge. Post daily or weekly, whatever you prefer. <BR> <BR> The biggest loser at the end of 4 weeks is the winner. <BR> <BR> Bonus points for the team membe... Sat, 24 Nov 2012 01:27:21 EST New Fall Challenge!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x50479885 So, the last challenge was quite, um, well, CHALLENGING. I know for myself, I got lost with all the points up and points down. Even though some team members gave it a go, we all sort of petered out as the week went on (although Sara gave it a great go, and earned many points!). <BR> <BR> Anyway, so I am starting a *new* challenge to run until Thanksgiving. <BR> We now have 32 days until American Thanksgiving (assuming I believe the site that told me you guys celebrate November 22, even tho... Sun, 21 Oct 2012 00:54:41 EST No Nag Zone http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x50356557 Over the years my spouse and I have appreciated the strengths in each other instead of nagging about the weaknesses our things we don't like. By taking up the slack we have gotten more done and taken alot of stress out of our marriage. Some people argue that they wouldn't put up with certain things but we all have habits annoying to the other. Instead of nagging because my husband is in a hurry in the morning and makes a small mess getting ready, I gladly wipe the counter and appreciate that ... Fri, 12 Oct 2012 09:46:31 EST 10 Things About You http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x50290772 As we get to know you, share 10 things about yourself. <BR> <BR> They can be any 10 things, no specific order, or specific info. It can be anything from where you live, to your favourite colour, to your weight loss or healthy goals, or anything else you would like to share with the team. <BR> <BR> cj Mon, 8 Oct 2012 00:50:38 EST Fall Challenge! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x50290665 It's fall, and that means football to many of us (or at least to our spouses, lol). <BR> <BR> I was thinking of a football based challenge. <BR> <BR> It's a plus/minus challenge, and basically you earn points for some things, and lose points for other things, but with a football theme. <BR> <BR> Earn first downs (10 pts each) <BR> • Do 15 minutes of cardio <BR> • Do stretches after strength training <BR> • Strength train your arms <BR> • Strength train your back <BR> • Strength train your ... Mon, 8 Oct 2012 00:35:28 EST Do You Know Your Spouses Favorite..... http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x50198654 1. Food <BR> 2. Exercise <BR> 3. Color <BR> 4. TV show <BR> 5. Restraunt <BR> <BR> <BR> The following are my answers (I think I got them all right) <BR> <BR> 1. Food - lobster <BR> 2. Exercise - swimming and water aerobics (water stuff) <BR> 3. color - green <BR> 4. tv show - grimm <BR> 5. restraunt - red lobster Mon, 1 Oct 2012 21:58:04 EST Our Team is Special http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x50198143 Our team is so special because we have somebody special. We are getting healthy with spouses. Now that is totally different than many. Yes yes I know there are a lot of married people out there, but really, think about how many people look at marriage as always having a best friend around? Some people believe it is an easily changeable situation. A good marriage isn't always easy but oh how rewarding. We are not without flaws; however, we should realize that marriage, whether this is your fir... Mon, 1 Oct 2012 21:25:06 EST Help please! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x50197128 Hello all! <BR> <BR> I would like some feedback from the Married Life team members. <BR> This team has not been very active as of late. <BR> <BR> Please reply to this post to tell me if you are still active on this team. <BR> <BR> I would also like to ask a few questions of the team. <BR> <BR> Please respond to the questions/make any comments in a post. <BR> <BR> (1) what sorts of topics would you like discussed in this team? <BR> <BR> (2) do you like team challenges? If so, what kin... Mon, 1 Oct 2012 20:22:04 EST We're Learning Together http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x49535553 Today was a real eye opener for both of us when I mentioned to my husband we should change up our eating. We live in a urban area where it is just as fast to go to the grocery store as it is to go get take out or sit in. The thing is on his days off we spend so much time doing things that we get hungry and want immediate fulfillment. I have a cooler I keep for me in the car and I am going to prepare more ready to eat meals for those moments. He asks me if I want to grab a bite to eat because ... Sun, 19 Aug 2012 23:06:22 EST Need advice on ruts http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x49387694 Hi team, I'm having some problems with the usual and I know I should try something new but I enjoy the things I do. I'm just finding some days I'm not looking forward to working out. I always feel better but the motivation is starting to waiver some. Has anyone else gone through this? How long will it last? Any advice on getting out of this rut? <BR> <BR> Just to add, this is not a problem when I exercise with my husband. It feels more like playing with my best friend then. Thu, 9 Aug 2012 19:58:32 EST Encouragement Needed Ungently! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x49288266 Hello folks, <BR> My name is Charles and I'm really new to this group but I expect ya'll to be ready to help. My wife has been doing an excellent job exercising, encouraging me to also and feeding us healthy meals. It has been six months since we have both been on this journey together and she is feeling very discouraged this week. Her mother made some very disparaging comments and she's been depressed since then. <BR> Her spark people name is lovingwife120 and she could surely use ... Fri, 3 Aug 2012 09:44:47 EST Tips on re-lighting the "spark" between us http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x49130888 Good morning, all! <BR> <BR> My name is Becca and I am brand new to this team. I would like to ask a little advise from you all on what you do to keep the spark alive between you and your spouse? <BR> <BR> Hubby came to me and said he wished we had more intimacy (both physically and emotionally). So - I'd like some tips as to how you keep your marriage interesting, fun, and just flat out romantic! <BR> <BR> <BR> Tue, 24 Jul 2012 10:02:47 EST Is anyone else really experiencing a down time? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x48252442 I just wondered if anyone else is really going through a down time of just not wanting to do anything to achieve fitness goals. Due to family illnesses I am having such a hard time of wanting to jump start my losing once again. The kids are now out for school but it is so hot here that being outside is way to uncomfortable and the expense of doing things is not the best either. Just having a hard time and it's very depressing. Hope the rest of you are doing well. Sun, 27 May 2012 17:05:05 EST Expressing Happiness w/o Food? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x48183812 My fiance and I have a ritual of making tea together at night, which is wonderful. However, we both have a habit of having tea cookies every single night together to relax/celebrate. My fiance is currently away, so our "tea and cookie" ritual keeps us feeling close. I am genuinely so happy to speak with him that I feel like celebrating by having a cookie and tea with him. <BR> <BR> Are there any (non-food) rituals to express your happiness that have worked for you? I would like to stop usin... Tue, 22 May 2012 13:53:31 EST Apologies http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x48166975 Sorry for posting so many times. I was incorrectly starting a new topic, when I meant to "reply" to the Introduction Thread. I am new, and now understand how to respond properly. <BR> <BR> -Jenna Mon, 21 May 2012 12:10:35 EST . http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x48166838 deleted Mon, 21 May 2012 12:02:31 EST . http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x48166628 deleted Mon, 21 May 2012 11:50:54 EST Hello http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x46436048 This is my third time to try Sparkpeople and it looks like 3rd times the charm. Dh and I have been married 30years and we are still very much in love. <BR> <BR> I saw this team on CJ's profile and it looks like my kind of team <BR> <BR> Can't wait to meet everyone. Sun, 5 Feb 2012 19:08:03 EST Nice to be a part of your Spark people team http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x45891530 I'm going to need the support! :-) Sat, 7 Jan 2012 23:22:23 EST Need some advice http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x45019252 Not sure how to ask it or where i actually begin. <BR> <BR> The story... my husband and I have had very little contact lately, its been awhile too. Wondering if you have any advice or tips i could try. <BR> <BR> I would like to plan a date night but each time i do , nothing comes of it. Its been one sided for some time. What can i do that it actually goes through? <BR> <BR> I would like to do something romantic with my husband, i tried have candles and movie , we did that but then the m... Thu, 10 Nov 2011 19:28:48 EST Get Ready for Christmas Challenge http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x44956206 Get Ready for Christmas (or other winter holiday) Challenge! <BR> <BR> We have 6 weeks until December 19, and the start of the Christmas season. <BR> Let's see if we can lose some of our excess 'baggage' before then! <BR> <BR> Straight weight challenge: post your starting weight from this weekend. <BR> Each weekend, post that week's weight. <BR> <BR> Person with the most percentage lost by the 19th receives a goodie on their page! <BR> <BR> Whose in? <BR> <BR> cj Mon, 7 Nov 2011 00:04:44 EST NEWBIE! Love to "meet " you! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x44623603 My name is Melissa and I am new to SparkPeople....Been doing it faithfully for a week now, but did not get on the computer till now! was recently blessed to meet Chris Powell from Extreme Makeover Weight Loss Edition. It was a meeting that was unexpected and he gave his time to me, sought me out, it was a God thing! He asked me one question that turned my heart around, finally. He asked me "Who are you, Melissa?" I replied, "I am mom, a fat, lazy mom"..with tears...He grabbed my shoulders a... Mon, 17 Oct 2011 03:13:09 EST Help!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=187x11877x43930479 Ok im asking for help from both men and women!! I went back to college last year only part time as I am still working full time and I have a 2 yr old at home. I am very stressed with everything on my plate and my husband doesnt seem to want to help. He doesnt clean, doenst help with our daughter, and doesnt support my weight loss journey. How do I get him to help out around the house more and with our daughter? I am trying to potty train her but i cant do it alone and I cant get him to help w... Tue, 6 Sep 2011 09:04:45 EST Hurrincane Irene prayers... http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x43807806 For those that were effected or for your friends and families. My family was fortunate the we only lost power for less then a day and had no damage. Our one friend lost her trailer and is in need of a home now. The rest of my family is stretched from NC to MN so everyone was effected in some small way. No one was hurt and so far no damage. My wife and I are praying for everyone else that was not as fortunate as we were. If you know anyone please reply and let's get a prayer chain started and ... Tue, 30 Aug 2011 07:56:56 EST Chat Thread http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x43698337 Come on in to chat about what is going on in your life. <BR> Any plans for the rest of the week or the weekend? <BR> Exciting things going on in your home? <BR> Funny things the kids did or said? <BR> <BR> Tell us about it! <BR> <BR> <BR> cj Tue, 23 Aug 2011 21:17:11 EST New Introduction Thread http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x43698281 Introduce yourself to the Team in this thread. <BR> <BR> What is your name? <BR> How did you get your username? <BR> Why are you here? <BR> Tell us a bit about yourself. <BR> <BR> cj <BR> Tue, 23 Aug 2011 21:13:09 EST The last time I went out with my spouse was ... http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x43698259 Fill in the blank! <BR> Have you had a date recently? <BR> "Honey" and you time? <BR> <BR> Tell us about it! <BR> <BR> cj Tue, 23 Aug 2011 21:11:49 EST Engagement Stories http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x11877x43698206 How did you (or your now-spouse) propose? <BR> Tell us the details! <BR> Everyone has a story! <BR> <BR> cj Tue, 23 Aug 2011 21:08:24 EST Fitness Tag http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=186x11877x43698176 Ok, let's play some tag. This is how fitness tag is going to work. <BR> <BR> I say "Do 10 wall push-up" <BR> <BR> Then someone else, maybe JCEDIT or MSTIGGERFAN, or whoever, posts: <BR> <BR> 10 wall push-ups DONE <BR> <BR> Tag: 10 lunges <BR> <BR> Then the next person would do the lunges then tag another fitness exercise. <BR> <BR> So let's play <BR> <BR> <BR> 10 wall push-ups <BR> <BR> Who's in? <BR> <BR> cj Tue, 23 Aug 2011 21:07:01 EST The hardest change you experienced with marriage? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x11877x43071981 A few weeks ago I asked what aspect of your marriage you cherished the most so now tell us what is the hardest change you faced when being married. For me it was the snoring and picking up after him that was harder on me. I was always taught you picked up and put things away and with him I am still picking up his things today even after 12 yrs of marriage, even though he has improved some. Having kids helped with that and the little hands they have. Tue, 19 Jul 2011 09:44:22 EST