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EGRAMMY
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No co-worker, but have a co-habitater. He needs to eat high calories due to health. All the opposite of me. Not easy.



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Hi, EVERYONE!

Did you all know that Hidden Valley Farms makes a flavor of dressing called (drum roll please)
"Fiesta Salsa Ranch"?!

You might think it's gross, MANDIETERRIER1, and you're entitled to that opinion... but have you tasted it? You might try salsa and ranch, and find that you still think it's gross. And that's okay.

For me, living is about learning, and how will I learn if I just stick to the same stuff all the time? I don't always like what I try, but I do try before I decide...

There is no way on earth I can eat bamboo shoots--or ANYTHING with Saffron in it--and not have something disastrous happen... found out the hard way! LOL

Then again, I now love using turmeric and corriander in cooking, and I have a GREAT lentil recipe that calls for currants or raisins and/or apples, which I'd always thought would be kind of weird! It's not, at all. It's scrumptious.

Everybody has their own set of taste buds, y'know? Kind of what this whole discussion is about, in a way. We can't and shouldn't take responsibility for, or judge, what other people eat. Our "judgements" should apply only to ourselves.

We all have to make our own choices, and live with the end results, y'know?

The key is right there-- L.I.V.E.
... and we all know the rest of that old line, don't we?...(Why am I hearing James Bond music?? That's the WRONG answer!...lol)

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"The real secret of success is enthusiasm..." Walter P. Chrysler said it, I believe it. That's what I want in my life--to give my imagination a chance, to live with energy and enthusiasm!

Ralph Waldo Emerson said 'Life belongs to the energetic.' But you don't have to be frenetic and hyper--some energy is quiet and steady, like a heartbeat... and that works too! LOL

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@CORA_REGINA: "Unless you are opening it to put *your own food* in it, keep your kalehole shut."

That's great!

"I owe everything you see here to spaghetti."

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@Bitterquill - where I once worked, our "special sauce" was Branch - bbq sauce and ranch dressing.

It was the bomb!!

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I got totally busted on this about 10 years ago. Someone kept bringing in a big box of various muffins from Costco. I wanted one so bad. I pulled the nutritional information out of the trash (I know I know, but it was harder to get info back then) made my decision and then taped the nutritional information to the counter so others could see it. When people got mad, I started to defend myself by saying that I wanted the information and figured other people might too. I was told the point of eating a muffin is not nutrition and to take the sign down. I wouldn't do it again. I felt bad for making people think they were being judged. Even if you are trying to be helpful by giving people information, it really just isn't helpful. Now when someone puts a load of muffins, cookies, etc on the counter I stand up and walk out of the office and go get a bunch of fruit. I pull out a special bowl and put it on a counter in my area. It helps me to cope and there are many people that share the ritual. I can't begrudge the cookies for others just because I have the issue of eat one-eat them all.



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Biggest loser charity post..Personally, I would feel self-conscious eating in the lunchroom after taking my co-workers donations and then gaining the weight back.

I use to work in a large company where someone always brought in gooey cakes for birthdays, girl scout cookies,or "leftovers" that were too good to throw out. People mean well, I guess. On Saturday (overtime) free pizza or Burger King stuff was available.Now I'm employed at a small place, and eat lunch at my desk or go out..


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This thread makes me happy. Commenting on coworkers' eating habits is among the rudest things you can do in the workplace, in my opinion, and it's encouraging to see so many people think along the same lines. With the frequency of such comments in some places, it's easy to think that most people think it's a perfectly acceptable discussion topic. I wonder if SP members, as people who tend to pay more attention to their dietary habits and thus might draw attention and icky comments, are particularly sensitive to the idea compared to everyone else.

As a few other people have noted, it's a great idea to get people involved with eating healthfully and getting a little movement in. That sort of thing makes people feel included rather than criticized.

"Sarahannah, salsa and ranch mixed together? I like both, but mixed together would be gross."

One would think so, definitely. One would be very, very wrong. ;) My husband turned me on to it. I don't even like the food on my plate to touch (and I'm not a huge fan of ranch alone), but ranch with salsa, or with just about any other hot sauce type substance, is delicious. Worth a shot if you like them both, anyway, and a good way to cut the calories of the ranch if it's something you want to keep in your condiment arsenal.



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I don't say anything to my coworkers that eat unhealthy foods, I just continue to eat healthy in their presence and once they see my results, they start asking me for my advice. That is when I give it



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Your co-worker didn't owe anything to anyone except herself.

No power in the 'verse can stop me.


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I agree with the MYOB idea, except this topic reminds me of something that happened at my workplace. One of my coworkers who was very heavy, and always complaining about how she needed to lose weight, she just needed the motivation etc. signed up for a biggest loser charity competition. She told the whole office about it and everyone in the entire office donated to the cause in her name and and wrote positive messages of encouragement on her page. At first she was very motivated and obviously changed her food choices and proudly told everyone that she had lost 10, 15 pounds. But when the weigh loss slowed down and she lost motivation, she went right back to her old food habits, with the subsequent weight gain. Nobody said anything to her face but it felt like a huge letdown and almost a slap in the face.



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I could not have said it better, what has happened to just having good manners?



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To LADYCJM you might want to suggest to your bosses that encouraging healthy habits would benefit the company and could be fun. My employer send weekly emails about healthy tips, sponsors once or twice yearly competitions to motivate folks to walk or move more, and recently solicited some healthy recipes for a new employee cookbook. Perhaps you would want to volunteer to help with it, or start the ball rolling.

In general though I would never say anything to my co-workers unless as others have stated, I was asked directly for advice or help. You can certainly offer by saying " hey it's a nice day outside. Anybody want to join me for a 10 -15 minute walk (on break, before lunch, etc.)?" Then you can ask some innocent questions such as "gee I'm having trouble coming up with new ideas for dinner - what do you usually plan?" If someone wants help they will share and if not - like they respond with or we get greasy KFC or pizza takeout most nights then you know not to go there. But if the response is, I make too many packages meals & I'd really like to learn some short cuts to better eating then you can be prepared to trade some good info with that person.

I work in a large office and we have folks who eat super healthy - like vegetarian or restricted diets - those who work out daily and ride their bikes for miles and run marathons - to the rest of us who fall somewhere in between. Sometimes we are dieting and sometimes we fall off the wagon. We are fat & thin & young & old & healthy & disabled and you can never tell who is in what frame of mind on any given day. It's a stressful work environment and food is often how people distress by grabbing the wrong thing, working thru lunch or breaks, etc or splurging on too much of the processed junk. Far be it from me to criticize others - I have my own struggles with the scale and my motivation. Knowing what's right and wanting to do it are two very different entities.

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The only thing that bothers me a little is while yeah someone is always bringing in cupcakes, pizza, candies, chocolate etc.. all the time, I can resist, it's moreso the "encouragement" that I need to join in and eat it when I brought a healthier lunch already. I Always so no, but I also see some of them with their fast food who complain after eating it... I've chosen to stay out of it, if people want to talk healthy habits absolutely I'm let's swap recipes! but I can only see problems in criticizing their choices without them asking.



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I think they would ask if they wanted to know something, otherwise people generally do not want unsolicited advice. If they notice you look and feel good they will probably be inspired to emulate some of your habits.



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About the.."Food with a Face" post...I go to a monthly nutrition class. The instructor is very informative, and the lectures are lively. But...she is a vegan. Last month she handed out graphic animal slaughtering flyers. I found this agenda offensive. I'm there to learn low-cal
cooking tips and such....not about how cows are unmercifully killed.




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It's better to help people feel good about themselves and try to steer them to a more positive way of interacting with you and your co workers. Just my opinion. This may not always work and it is difficult not to get annoyed with people who are already frustrating.

And I usually don't make concessions to eating healthy for anyone's sake. If they don't understand that I can't eat what they brought to a pot luck, I can't help that. My health and weight loss have to be first and foremost on my agenda.

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I totally agree with everyone that said mind your own business! I have a coworker that's constantly offering unsolicited advice on everything - and she's usually wrong. If someone asks my advice I give it, otherwise - keep your nose out of it!

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Friendship is more important than "being right". My friends know I mostly eat healthy. If we are having a special function and there are less healthy options, I'll take a small sample to be considerate. I know it won't kill me to have it on a rare occasion. That way no one feels uncomfortable.

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Unless you are opening it to put *your own food* in it, keep your kalehole shut.



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I would hate to be Policed by a food zealot.

How do you know the so called gastric distress would not have happened even if they were eating what you would term healthy.

Thing is "one man's healthy food...could be another man's allergen"
I have come to realise that there aren't "any as zealous as the newly converted"
Let them be...leave them to their food choices, a judgmental person is usually less favourably regarded than a person with a bad diet.



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I have to agree with those that asked "Why do you care?". We each choose what we want to eat. I have a vegetarian friend is marrying and wants only a vegetarian meal served at her wedding, which brought some negative comments. I suppose I found it amusing from two perspectives - from the bride's point of view in that would she willingly attend a wedding where only meat was served and eat it? Also from the other side, in that if the bride chooses not support carnivorous behaviour, why should she? We tolerate/respect vegetarians because it has a sympathy aspect (not killing animals). Personally, I will attend the wedding because I want to be there for the bride and groom regardless of what they serve, but I would order vegetarian out of respect and frankly because I like trying new things.

I am all for let anyone eat what they want - manage your own diet the way you want.



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For HawkThree: "
I have a coworker who manages to throw in a comment about "he doesn't eat anything with a face" every time there is a group lunch."

Well, about 30 years ago, and yes, I still remember this clearly, a "vegetarian" friend kept remarking at my meal, "Dead cow, dead cow" in utter disapproval.

The very next day I found her eating a chicken sandwich.

In my only ever unsolicited verbal disapproval of someone else's food choice, I couldn't resist uttering... "Dead bird, dead bird..."

(I seriously don't think she got it...)

Yep, there I am, swimming through the desert sands. Might just be a mirage, after all. But this is life, and we learn best about it if we explore it, and take our chances. A life unexplored, after all, is one of the saddest things out there.


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I try not to judge others choices because I find it very frustrating that I get ridiculed and picked on because my husband and I shop organic or directly at a farm that produces grass feed, pastured raised foods. It's a choice that we made over a year ago because of some health problems that I was having and my husband just had half his lung removed do to Aspergillus and an Aspergilloma...it's a choice and it's a life style.

Sure, I have a co-worker who munches on chips for lunch and I mean for lunch...and co-workers that go to McDonalds (and you have to know, I'm not a fan) but we all have our own lives and our own passions...don't ridicule or preach to others what they should be doing because you think its wrong or right.

Be supportive to your co-worker if they ask you what your doing to drop the pounds...but don't give advice that isn't requested whether the person is overweight or not. ...

Celeste

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If they ask, answer constructively. If they don't... MYOB.



Yep, there I am, swimming through the desert sands. Might just be a mirage, after all. But this is life, and we learn best about it if we explore it, and take our chances. A life unexplored, after all, is one of the saddest things out there.


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Should you give advice on your coworkers, food, even if they are not overweight?
Are. You. Crazy?
That said, if they ask, sure, as parto f a conversation.
We have lollies at work anyone colleague brings in cakes etc. I keep meaning to bring in fruit to share more often but usually don,t get around to it. And I do buy lollies for the team, then don,t have them myself.
That said, I have lost over 100lbs, my colleagues can,t fail to notice! And the plumper ones have each asked me what I have been doing, they see that it has been easy for me, and confide in me when they are dieting. I encourage them warmly and discreetly and only very very occasionally.
And in conversation, I might say that I found that having a protein snack instead of the candy bar seemed to sustain me better through til dinner, or that I'm not having that mid afternoon slump anymore these days..
My team are pretty health conscious and fit for the most part, we do talk about our fitness activities as part of our chitchat. But do you know what? I am not even slightly interested in their diet advice. And I don,t think they care a hoot about mine.
And actually, when I am eating in the lunchroom and people comment on my food, even though they are saying how delicious and healthy it looks, I just wish they would let me eat and leave me alone.


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regardless of what others eat, i am the one who shops for myself and puts food in my own mouth. the way to deal with it to remember i am in charge, no one else decides what i eat. It is my choice, no one elses



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Hard when I try to eat healthy and I have someone at work try to get me to eat something else.

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I would say you could be encouraging without pointing out anything they are doing wrong. You could bring so healthy treat or lunch dish one day. It might give some of them a way to ask you about healthy recipes.

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Sarahannah, salsa and ranch mixed together? I like both, but mixed together would be gross.

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Even though I have reached goal. I still don't know everything about weight loss.

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never give unsolicited food advice. everyone knows that grilled chicken is better than a Hamburger. Also don't compliment some one for making the right choice when they usually make the wrong one. I hate it when I order a grilled chicken salad and some one comments on it.



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I would tread very carefully here - this is a potential landmine! If someone asks you for advice, then you can give it. Otherwise, you're better off leading by example. Demonstrate healthful eating and better choices, and eventually they might catch on!



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As others have mentioned, any time you comment negatively on the food choices of others it is uncomfortable and rude. You know NOTHING about how they eat when they are not around you.

To me, it is also CREEPY. Just one experience from a couple years ago in my own life as an example:

I was out to lunch with a group of people that I had not known for very long at the time. Everyone wanted chips and salsa for an appetizer (which I love), but when it came out everyone instantly thought it would be a great idea to mix the salsa with ranch (which I can't stand). Since everyone wanted ranch and I had a whole plate of food coming out soon I just chose not to eat any chips and salsa. This guy rudely asked me why I wasn't eating it, and I nicely said that was just looking forward to my meal and did not want to spoil it. Then he almost flipped out when I did not eat half of my enormous restaurant portion and got a to go box.

For the next few MONTHS he always watched what I ate and made comments about how he really did not think I was eating enough and would make public comments at meal asking me if I was trying to be anorexic (at a size 4 I know I wasn't large but I was FAR from anorexic).

Rude. Uncomfortable. Creepy.

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I have a coworker who manages to throw in a comment about "he doesn't eat anything with a face" every time there is a group lunch.

Life needs balance


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Here's how I look at it...not that you need any more of this...but, let's say you have bad skin...you know, blemishes all over the place. And let's say that blemishes and zits just make ME crazy, because I happen to have flawless skin. Would you think it wise for me to comment on your bad skin, or offer skin care products, or suggest a face peel? Nah. I'll bet not.

Bad teeth? Bad breath? Poor posture? Huge feet?

Because such emphasis is now being placed on obesity and poor nutrition, we tend to overlook some of the other "plagues" that beset humankind. We, as humans, tend to jump on every opportunity to dog each other, even though we ALL have faults, imperfections, etc. What the heck ever happened to kindness and compassion...not to mention humility?

So, yeah, do unto others....

Live each day like it was your last.


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And you never know what they're going through.
If the person has an eating disorder, comments about their food may trigger unhealthy habits.
Just sayin!



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Yeah, that's obnoxious. Don't do it.



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Definitely not. You are not the food police. Unless someone asks you, I'd keep it to yourself.



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I wouldn't say anything even if someone directly asked me for my opinion. There are some things best left alone



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Yes it's unfortunate when you see professionals who are supposed to be examples for our kids eating in that way.
It's no wonder our kids in America develop poor eating habits. They see it at home and school.
That's great though that some are trying to set a good example. Keep it up!



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I work in early childhood, and it's amazing to me how badly some of my co-workers eat and drink. Some have soda all the time, or have horrible food in their lunches. Many places are now encouraging staff and children to eat together to help children learn manners, etc with staff modeling appropriate behavior. But that's hard for me to take sometimes when the kids lunches are a million times healthier than my co-teachers. I'm not against cheat days, or treats, but these teachers consistently bring in unhealthy things. A couple started questioning me because I always had dairy free lunches that were heavy on vegetables-our center was nut free and meat free (although fish is allowed) because of kosher rules and I can't eat dairy. Made for some interesting conversations with the older kids about allergies or personal preferences. I've also seen co-workers take on one fad diet after another. Sometimes the person gets amazing results, but whatever the fad is can't be maintained long term and they gain the weight back because they just revert to their original behavior.
Whenever asked about my food choices, I just reply that they are my personal preference and that I like the vegetables and fruits that I pack to eat. It's easier to just say I prefer them than to get into conversations about weight, habits, etc.



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4/14/14 3:27 P

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If you maintain healthy eating yourself- that's hard enough on your own let alone trying to worry about someone else! :) Maintain your health and you won't have room probably to be policing others. :)



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I agree with the others...it's best to keep your opinions to yourself unless someone asks you for advice.

If you eat well on a consistent basis and don't participate in the unhealthy office meals/snacks that inevitably get served up, you'll find eventually that some people will ask questions about nutrition if they are ready to make some changes.

Most people have no idea about nutrition these days...



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Diet is like parenting. Unless someone asks keep your opinion to yourself!

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4/13/14 2:01 A

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People usually aren't open to input unless they ask. ...in other words, they really can't "hear" what you say even when you talk. This applies to family & friends as well!

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Unless they asked, I wouldn't voice my opinion. That could be considered harassment.

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At one of my previous jobs I gained a lot of weight in a short time frame and one of the owners of the business made some rude comments to me about my food choices. I was eating baked chicken breast and green beans at the time but he was still hateful. I was so hurt and insulted. And it just made it worse for me and the guilt and anguish just caused me to eat more and more so I continued to gain more and more. I still think of those comments and it makes me feel bad. So don't do it. You are only setting yourself up for the resentment or anger of your co-workers. Like others here have said, if someone asks me about my weight loss, I tell them what I am doing...tracking, no bread (I am not eating gluten free, I just don't eat much in the way of bread or bread type items), and I tell them that I exercise almost every day, including running and strength training. If they ask for more info, I will go into more details and I will tell them about SparkPeople. Otherwise, I just keep my mouth shut. I find that a lot of the people who want to lose weight or need to lose weight are fairly knowledgeable about what they need to do; most just don't have the strength or willpower to actually make it happen and many of them are just looking for quick fixes. That is something that they must come to terms with - not your business.

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Turn this around - how would YOU like it if someone commented on what you eat? Especially if they are telling you that you don't eat right (at least "right" in their opinion)?

You would probably get annoyed, feel stupid, tell that person to go fly a kite, etc. Why create a problem when there is none? Your coworkers are adult. They make their food choices. Don't assume that they don't know any better - they may like white bread, or maybe that's all they can afford.

Back off if you want to maintain friendly working relations!!!

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Mmmm I definitely agree that you shouldn't involve yourself in other people's food choices. That being said there are times when you can gently intervene, suggest changes, or offer nutritional information without it being a necessarily bad thing, but it definitely depends on your relationship with the other person and how receptive they will be to it.

For example, in high school I had a friend who one day met me at our usual eating spot with a bottle of water for lunch. Literally that's it! And then began to explain to me how water was a meal replacement. At that point, with our relationship and because of the way in which she was bringing her food choices t my attention it was alright for me to explain about calories being like gas and that you couldn't eat (or drink) no calories and expect your car to go anywhere. After which point we went down to the cafeteria and I helped her pick out some actual food.

But that was a situation where we were close friends and where she trusted my opinion on that kind of thing, which is why I felt ok intervening. Which is not to say that it couldn't have still created tension, but in that case it worked out. As other people have already expressed, it's very tricky to be able to broach this type of topic with someone even if they are friends or family.

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I just ignore all that I see. I share the office with a man and he eats ALL DAY LONG. Breakfast bars, nuts, candy he puts in the nut can so it looks like he is eating nuts....LOL. It is hard to see him eat all that stuff.....but I stay quiet.....


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Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I would definitely not want others to comment on the quality of my lunches, and I would not think of commenting on theirs. I might say, 'that looks so good. But that is all.



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Unless someone cooks fish in the microwave or burns the popcorn, keep mum about the food choices of your fellow dungeon dwellers.



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KNT6742, I know what you mean. If I were your co-worker I would let you eat in peace, because that's what I would want myself. Just because you're eating something from McDonald's one day doesn't mean you're a habitual junk food-eater.

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It is better to keep your mouth closed. No matter how sincere your advice may be, it was not solicited and you do not know how it will be received. Lead by example. If they see you eating a healthy lunch and bringing healthy snacks maybe they will follow.



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4/10/14 1:53 P

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Yep, you gotta love those rude, uncomfortable comments people make. Yeesh.



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Definitely don't comment unless they ask for advice. I get a chicken sandwich meal from McDonald's every other week. I get comments pretty often when I bring it back to the lunch room ("I wish I could eat like that and be tiny"). They aren't mean comments but it's just uncomfortable. I workout 5-6 times a week and eat well most of the time. Let me enjoy my fries in peace.



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JENBYS, I totally hear you on the fact that coworkers made comments about your healthy exercise habits- in your case, biking to work at the library.
It's amazing how people find it necessary and/or acceptable to tear down others or poke fun at those who are trying to be healthy.
I've found, over time though, many times they are just jealous inside of your motivation and feel guilty that they aren't making healthy habits. Hang in there! :)



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I'm fortunate my coworkers are trying to do the same thing. They are knowledgeable and sensible. They make the same stupid poor choices on occasion too. Our downside is we are all on the run. & rarely eat together. We have been designated as a healthy work site. If someone brought in donuts now they would probably be fired. Not really but it's an unspoken no, no. Vending machine choices were changed to. That I don't like. I rarely use the vending machines but I would like to be able to make my own choice if I do. It's mostly fat free this or that. I don't like to eat fake fat or sugar. If I indulge I want the real thing. emoticon

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4/10/14 5:44 A

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@COCOBANDSTER1 - "Group Grazing" - I love that phrase! And I am guilty of it as well. I am a librarian, a similar breed to teachers, especially in their penchant for snacking. My coworkers jumped on any excuse possible to bring in cake. I'm not much of a dessert person, but I am very much a social person. I gained 30 pounds, ugh! But then I started packing my lunch AND riding my bike to work. I heard endless commentary about the biking, but eventually a few other people were inspired to try bike commuting as well. And I've almost dropped the library weight. So hold firm and good luck!

To the OP, definitely stay out of it. There is nothing worse than a food proselytizer - especially a reformed eater. If you want to make a difference, just keep up the good work and lead by example.

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My coworkers drink mountain dew all day. it normally tempts me to want one too. our vending machines have heart healthy items. my coworker that are diabetic hate them because they aer low fat, low protein but high in carbs or fast carbs. i sometimes want to chew them up ans tell them they should have better snacks in their desk. i amost never get snacks from the machine. i prefer to keep fruit cups, 1 serving of nuts/trail mix or fiber ones.



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