Wow. This is a major problem. Hopefully you can find the cauliflower. Does she have any say in what is served, or can she eat mashed potatoes with gravy, while you eat steamed cauliflower?
If you can eat healthy, then you might just have to say " Sorry, this is what I eat. You enjoy your own food, and I'll enjoy mine, and let's not ruin Thanksgiving, by counting calories. "
Sometimes you have to worry about yourself before others. I live with my brother, and he loved going out to restaurants. Problem is, they serve 3 X the calories needed. I could have tried taking 2/3rds home, and trying to help him enjoy his restaurant meals, while I had a tiny serving of food I didn't like, but eventually I just told him to go to the restaurant himself. I wasn't going. He doesn't either now. It was just a social thing for him. We used it to talk about our day.
Now, we both eat at home, and are both healthier. I would stand your ground, don't worry about your friend. If they are really your friend, they will accept whatever you do, and may even ask you for tips. A lot of times, people want a cheat buddy. Once you break that, your friend will either spend less time with you, or change the way she eats when eating with you.
You both have to decide which is more important.. food, or friendship. Just coming at it from different directions. New friends are easier to find, than health on a bad diet. Hopefully , it doesn't come to that, but if it does, do what is best for you.. eat healthy.
Russell - current BMI 28.6
197 - bmi 30 - done
164 - bmi-25
| current weight: 181.0