Hi, dealing with the Holidays and Holiday foods can be stressful. I found to keep from offending anyone, I eat just a "taste" of everything and plenty of salad and veggies. When offered more food, say- I'm feeling stuffed, I ate so much already, the food was wonderful, thanks. Leave it at that..offering to clear the table of any "finished" plates to help the hostess. Make the holidays more about socializing with family and friends and less about the food, no one will notice how much/little you ate!
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11/10/13 7:07 P
Can you try to take the emotion of their hurtful words out of it? I find that people are defensive and accusing when confronted with change. I would do my best to see that they are uncomfortable with the changes you've made and want to deflect that discomfort. Let it fall off of you "like a duck's feathers." (Where the water just slides right off, LOL)
On the other hand, remember that a holiday meal is just one day and eating mashed potatoes and turkey doesn't have to be the worst part of your day.
I am exactly in the same situation that you are. I have tried to convince them to join me but they are very stubborn in their bad eating habits. The only thing I can say is that my mom got sick from her bad diet (heart disease) and that was a wake up call for her but not entirely (she still eats processed foods, white bread, she still puts some oil in the food, etc even though she is not allowed to). So the change must come from them and there has to be something that triggers this change. I just don't know what that trigger can be, since even their health is not enough of a scare.
Edited by: JUSTIMEEM at: 11/13/2013 (14:56)
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21,433 11/10/13 12:03 A
Taking something healthy to contribute to the meal is a good idea, PROVIDED they aren't defensive about it.
you could always say that your Dr advised you to review what you were eating because it was starting to cause problems, and that fried foods were out and lots of fresh fruit/veges were in, minus the dressings.
Along those same lines, I've made salad my specialty at potlucks. I bring a large bowl of lettuce and then a tray of about 7 different toppings along with my homemade dressing. It's nice to show off salad as a fun side. Plus, you usually can add the protein from the meal to your salad.
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11/9/13 2:48 P
That's actually a fantastic idea! I hadn't thought of that before, and I love showing other people that healthy recipes can actually taste really awesome! Next time we're invited over for dinner, I think I'll simply let them know I'm bringing something I wanted to try cooking. :o) Thank you so much!
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11/9/13 11:20 A
Can you bring a dish of your own, maybe on the pretext of helping out with all the work if your family is particularly touchy about it? If you could manage that, then you could maybe fill up half your plate with what you brought, and just take small amounts of some of the other things to fulfill social demands. If you could do that, then as long as this is not an everyday occurrence it shouldn't be that big a deal to your calorie counts.
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11/9/13 11:04 A
What are some good ways to deal with family members and friends who are unsupportive of or simply don't understand your commitment to healthy eating habits? This is particularly an issue with the holidays approaching when I'll be spending quite a bit of time eating at other people's houses. My in-laws in particular are fans of traditional comfort foods, and often times there's very little food available in a meal that fits into my eating habits (i.e. a meal of fried chicken, mashed potatoes made with whole milk and butter, white bread with butter, and a vegetable cooked and doused in butter too.) Sometimes the only thing that would be acceptable to eat is the salad, and even that has dressing that I don't approve of. I don't want to be rude, so I try to eat something at my own home first, and then just eat a minimal amount there. However, this generally leads to a repeated guilt trip, as if I don't like their cooking, and criticism of my eating habits and the questions about whether I'm eating enough these days. I'm tired of trying to defend my lifestyle and choices, and although my husband is supportive, I hate putting him in the middle of this too. I don't want to give in and just eat these foods to avoid the conflict, but I don't know how else to address this. Any advice or suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thank you!
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