First of all, you should ask his doctor for a referral to a registered dietitian, who can help you put together meal plans that work for both of you.
Having been in a similar position (he needs to maintain or gain, and I need to lose), a few of our tricks have been things like:
We both have oatmeal - he has a double serving, adds 1 or 2 oz of nuts (I add 1/2 oz to my single serving), and he adds some hemp hearts or flax seed as well.
We both have an omelet with onions, mushrooms, spinach, and celery --- his has 3 eggs, while mine has 1, and he adds hollandaise sauce and 1 oz of cheese to his.
We both have a salad at lunch - he adds 6 oz of meat, while I add 3; he adds 1 oz of cheese, and he uses a double serving of full-fat cottage cheese for a dressing while I use a 1/2 serving.
I make up a big veggie stir-fry for dinner, have 4 oz of meat on the side, while he has 8 oz. We both take a single serving (it's very filling!), but he has a serving of brown rice with his while I don't.
During the day, we'll both snack on yogurt and fruit and nuts, but he'll have more and bigger servings than I do.
We track a lot of the vitamins and minerals, and concentrate on adding foods that will meet our requirements for those (iron, calcium, folate, B12, potassium, etc.). We always make sure that he gets larger servings, and he tends to snack more often.
It can be done, and you can have a very enjoyable (and sustainable!) menu for both of you.
Start weight: 240 lbs
Goal weight: 155 lbs (reached March 7, 2014)
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