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You can do it!! You have a plan for the remodeling and just think how wonderful it will be to have a new kitchen afterwards.
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Me too! I'm with you. Every big birthday it was the same goal. Lose weight, but I failed miserably. I too was bad at keeping track.
BUT!!! now I have the best goal in the world.....my health! I have the biggest motivator out there, My Diabetes is skyrocketing..... All the women in my family die in the decade I'm living in right now! I have no more chances left.
I don't have a lot of weight to lose, so for me, this is quite difficult. The scale doesn't change very much after the initial water weight loss. I've been stuck around this same weight now for about 10 days. This is usually when I give up. NOT THIS TIME.....I want to live into the next decade. The next hurdle, I will have to meet is ridiculous.....
This week, my kitchen is being gutted for a new one. Last August I broke my oven, and after buying, and returning two different sets of cooking stoves, and cooktops, and returning, we had to face the inevitable fact that I needed a new kitchen. The house needs an electrical upgrade, along with a relocated gas line. After running out of options, and changing contractors we realized we had to do the whole kitchen.
NOW WHAT? Going to try Seattle Sutton for 6 or more weeks. Sewing room just became kitchen (if you want to call it that). Toaster, Coffee Pot & small Toaster Oven/Broiler. That's it! Refrigerator will be on the first floor, Mickey Mouse kitchen 2nd floor. Don't want to undo the weight loss, hoping for the best.
Now rethink your problem of loosing weight. You can do it...especially when you have a kitchen.
What do you think, will I make it?



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Congrats on getting moving. It's amazing how good you feel once you start.

I agree, this will only make us stronger.

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I have been going it alone since last July. I had to get a dress for my step daughters wedding and when I saw that the size that fit was a 22 I knew I had to get my butt in gear! I put on most of my weight when I went through a bout of depression after my husband passed away unexpectedly and from quitting smoking. I just decided to get up off the couch and walk. I am amazed at how far that I have come and how strong I am. Sometimes going it alone is tough, but it makes us tougher to realize that we CAN do it by yourselves...



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I started back to exercising, alone, with a Groupon Coupon to a local Boot Camp. I had no idea what was in store. I made it through all 4 weeks (3 times a week) and felt AMAZING! I made a deal with myself that I would continue at home and if I did, my reward would be an elliptical.

I am finding out, that for me, I need the structure, but I also seem to be getting better at keeping "deals" with myself.

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exercising using ideas from Leslie Sansome but doing my own also



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Thanks for the motivating words. I stayed busy yard work, then 3mile walk after dinner. Has kept me busy, so food is a non-issue tonight.

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I, too have those late night snacks,,, how I ever got into that, I'll never know, but, if we put our minds to it, we can stop that, one way is to drink some water when we have the urge to "snack"... This morning I had to have some blood work done and it was 12 fasting, I stopped eating and drinking at eight p.m. all except water and we can have that... emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Amen

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JoAnn, My prayers will be with you....I can relate to the late night snacking, am working on the issue everyday. Don't know about your schedule, I, however have decided that for the past 40+ years that I have said yes, yes, yes to everything and everybody and now I'm 71 and if I just don't want to do things I can say no and feel good about it. That has helped me a lot and I seem for today to be in control. I can only do it one day at a time, sometimes only a minute or two at a time. Hope the walk helped. We're here for you. emoticon

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I took my prayer to Church this Sunday morning. I have been overeating like 'no tomorrow' the past 2 weeks. I do feel like I am alone when I open the refrigerator in the middle of the night. I seem to do fine all day but late late night is the pits. I'm tracking nutrition and reading forums . . . . I'm heading for a long walk now. . . . I'll see what that does for me. . . I have had some meetings (after breast cancer, last year.) with a therapist, but did not discuss my eating habits. . . . I don't want to see him for this. . . . . maybe I can find a woman therapist or nutritionist. . . . . . . .just considering. . . (I do not want to gain back my good winter loss!)

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I do have my daughter who encourages me and gives me praise when I do really good and tells me that she is proud of me.. when I do do good.

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The more I read, the more I realize that each of us is going it alone. Even with many people around us I have learned it is for me and just me so I'll keep on doing it "alone". My goal for this week is to set the clock early and get out for a walk before the heat comes in. Will plan every other day for 2 wks, then add 1 day a week until walking early 6days a week. Then take another look at where I am. emoticon

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Wow, I'm not the only one doing this by myself for myself. I come from a family that talks to other family members saying how fat you are and then when you lose weigh they say you won't keep it off. There is no support, none @ all. So, I got to learn, I'm on my own. If I'm going to lose weigh, I must do it for myself and no one else. It's hard but, I got the support from all you Spark people and reading that I'm not the only one doing on her own helps a lot. emoticon



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I'm changing my evening nibbling to fruit. Tonight it is grapefruit. friends brought it back from their tree. They winter in the south. Tomorrow night it will be frozen blueberries or strawberries. Also the rhubarb is ready to pick I'll cook up with Splenda & water, maybe put in the blender with something. I have apples & oranges in the fridge. Just rambling on this blog. . . . keep me out of the other stuff. . . I talk to myself. . it does help!

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Thanks for all the great ideas! And good luck to everyone.

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I can relate to you. If I didn't know any better I would of said I wrote that. I'm an emotional and stress eater. I just gained back 12 pounds from losing almost 60 pounds. Need to get back on track so I don't gain any more weight. So good luck on your journey to a healthier lifestyle.



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I've had a hard time with motivation as well. I am of an acceptable weight, and everyone around me acknowledges that fact. So more often than not my change to a healthy lifestyle has been and up and down one. I agree with most of those who posted. You must do this for yourself. Take the time to tune in to how your body is responding to a healthier lifestyle. I've noticed I gain energy when I get back on track (and trust me, I've fallen many, many times. My workplace doesn't help either as there are extra cookies and cakes every shift I work on...).
I make sure to find a role model, even if I only see someone who is running down the road, they motivate me. I say to myself "I want the kind of energy that person has." Children are also great motivators, during my student teaching experience, I noticed kids want to run EVERYWHERE they go. I would think to myself, I want to be like that again!
Also, notice how you look once you start healthier habits. I notice my skin looks so much better, and my feet and hands don't become puffy --like they would if I eat too many sweets.
Whatever you do, if you fall behind on things, just pick back up again. Starting a healthy lifestyle is like quitting a bad habit. It's going to take time and perseverance.



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Hi. I'm single and trying to do this too. I second the people who said to make a group of Sparkfriends in order to cheer you on. Also take advantage of the Sparkteams. You can find people who have similar interests, live in the same geographical area, or have the same weight loss or health issues as you.

Offline, you can always take an exercise class or join a walking or running club. All of it helps you be accountable.

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Hi, I'm starting over, again, but at least I'm still trying - right? I just found this board and want to introduce myself - I'm Monica. I am trying to get control of my health before it controls me. I'm 56 and lucky to not be on any major medications. I want to keep it that way, but at my last check-up, Doc told me to lose weight or diabetes and cholesterol WILL become a problem. It's just beginning to sink-in.

I'm going it alone because while I have a supportive husband and son, neither understand my low self-esteem or what it's like to truly have to watch what you eat. While I know my hubby thinks he is helping, he has no weight problem - never did, never will and he loves to spoil me with treats. He does take no for an answer, but the ice cream, or sweet, is already in the house. Most of the time, I can avoid it, but when emotions kick in, it's hard to avoid.

How do ya'll handle such issues??

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Way to go! I'm just finding this topic also. Keep up the great work.

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Would love to hear about the book



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Wow so excited to find this topic :). Let me introduce myself I'm Arkilia when I first started my weight loss journey. May 9 2012 I tip the scale at 289lbs, I now weigh 237lbs. I remember that day because I went to the doctor and I was so embarrassed by that number, I couldn't believe I was almost 300lbs!!! I lost 9lbs that month. The next month I joined weight watchers, my friend was working out with me but that ended and now I'm at it alone. I do Taebo, Zumba, Jillian, and YouTube. When the weather is nice I walk 4-5 miles uphill. It's nice I have found strength in myself that I didn't know exsisted. Sometimes I can lose motivation when I don't get the results I expected. I just keep trying to picture my finish line. emoticon emoticon emoticon



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I have started PMing different members and create a buddy system to encourage others. I found a book several years ago that helped me with food issues get your body in a good sugar state and the cravings to eat will be easier.



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Wow so excited to find this topic :). Let me introduce myself I'm Arkilia when I first started my weight loss journey. May 9 2012 I tip the scale at 289lbs, I now weigh 237lbs. I remember that day because I went to the doctor and I was so embarrassed by that number, I couldn't believe I was almost 300lbs!!! I lost 9lbs that month. The next month I joined weight watchers, my friend was working out with me but that ended and now I'm at it alone. I do Taebo, Zumba, Jillian, and YouTube. When the weather is nice I walk 4-5 miles uphill. It's nice I have found strength in myself that I didn't know exsisted. Sometimes I can lose motivation when I don't get the results I expected. I just keep trying to picture my finish line. emoticon emoticon emoticon



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When I first started working out, I did so alone. Walked, used DVDs and VHS tapes. I had great success. Trying to start again, I am self-motivated to go for it.

I suggest keeping your focus on YOU. You'll find after a while this is a preferable way to work on you than the distractions of others around you. Sometimes this can cause you to lose sight of what you're trying to accomplish.

LOL. I can struggle and grunt in the privacy of my own home and not be subconcious about it. I actually interract when the instructor "pushes" me to the final reps, but I feel so good afterwards.

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Get the brands and kinds of foods that you prefer- don't skimp. If there is an activity that you want or like to do, watch other people doing that activity on YouTube; for me it's dancing- I watch old clips of American Bandstand from the 70's, and besides being entertained by the clothes,shoes and hairstyles, it's great to see people smiling and having a good time as they are being active.



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I also have a hard time with evening snacking. We have to be our own cheerleading team!! emoticon

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Going alone is hard, but it helps me to have a visual of my goals. What do I want to look like, how I want to feel, where I want to be, my goals, etc, etc. Being on here helps so much, because looking at my minutes pushes me to go. Just remember why you are doing this, and put up a visual where you will look at it all the time.



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That night time eating has been a thorn in my side for many years. Sometimes I wonder if I'm trying to fill loneliness with food. Spent several days last week with a "healthy friend" watched how she ate, followed her example and actually lost a little weight. Since returning home I remember how/what we ate at night. Maybe a small snack and I ate as slow as she does and so far 6 days it has helped. Have recently discovered that if I have a full, satisfying meal at night that I do better. emoticon

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The rec center is less than a mile from my home. I guess it wouldn't hurt to walk by there and find out what sort of classes they offer in the mornings after I take kids to school. Now I just need to figure out what to do in the evenings with my appetite. Should I fill up in the evenings with lots of veggies? What do you guys do when you're hungry and weak?




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emoticon Alone isn't fun but it can be done! Don't give up on yourself. If you don't do it for you...no one else will do it for you. I agree that finding someone to offer support is a good idea. Even if you only walk/dance/run/exercise once a week with this person (the other days you can do what you want for movement) you'll find this an incentive.

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I can understand the frustration with cooking for one and changing to a healthy lifestyle alone. I'm single and I've been on this journey for three years. One thing that seems to really work for me is a meal plan. It's a royal pain in the neck, but the hour or two I spend each week really helps me stay on track through the week - for the most part. For meals, I half the recipes I can (it's challenging to use only half of a garlic glove!), then use the leftovers for lunch the next day. I also pawn off some of the leftovers on my boss. He also plays the role of guinea pig when it comes to new recipes. I will admit that it is very hard to stay motivated when you're doing it alone. While I do have some friends I can exercise with, if I choose to do so, I typically like exercising alone. But I mix it up with a class that meets twice a week. My main advice for those who feel like you're in it alone would be to find at least one person who will support you and encourage you through the process. One time I told my boss that I was about to give up on a healthy lifestyle. His response? "Don't you dare!" That was enough to slap me out of my frustration and desire to quit. And if there is absolutely no one in your life to encourage you or to notice the changes, just remember that you are doing this for yourself - not anyone else.



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I am going on this weight loss journey alone and it is very difficult. After being diagnosed with Fibromyalgia over a year ago, I gained 20 pounds. It wasn't until just recently that I discovered how to control the pain. Now I am much more active, and I have been back on here to keep up with my food and my excersize, but I'm having a hard time. In the evenings, I lose all willpower. I do so well at controlling my diet, but by the time dinner time rolls around, I am so hungry that I break down. My children are hungry too, so I splurge while letting them snack. My husband is a great man, but he isn't much help. Here it is almost summer and I am not ready for a new swim suit which I promised myself I would buy if I could just lose 10 pounds. What can I do? I need help!



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I've done exercising/diet/lifestyle changes as a single person, single but living with a partner, and also married. My basic feeling is that in any instance, I am basically going it alone whether married or single.

In any case, I feel it's important to reward yourself with small gift or rewards along the way as you make good decisions and the right choices. Be your own best friend so to speak. emoticon

I try to remember in life, every day is a gift.


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Achieve your goals, one day at a time.



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Great attitude!!!

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If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves. –Thomas Edison

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After years of trying to "find a buddy" to keep me motivated, I have decided that I , and I alone have to make this change for me and I have to keep ME motivated!!! I have to find something to keep me on track and I think this is what I need...a community full of people who understand me and will cheer me on when I need it and to help me when I struggle! Thanks! and GOOD LUCK TO ALL!

Keep a smile on your face and laughter in your heart.- Michelle Martinez



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I totally get where you are coming from. It can be very hard to keep going with no support (or commiseration).

Since my goals have to do with maintenance and health/fitness at this point, I have found it helpful to focus on a fitness goal. I happen to be a runner, but you can do this with any fitness activity you find motivating. I choose a stretch goal event and I pay my money! It's helpful if it is a "destination" event, where I can travel and see someplace I haven't seen before. That makes the event itself a reward. Then I have to keep up my training for it, both to make a good showing and to enjoy the trip.

Last year for my 50th birthday I decided to do the Disney World Wine & Dine Half Marathon. I committed the money, booked the trip, then I HAD to commit to the training. There was a goal and a deadline and I wanted to be able to walk the rest of my vacay so I had to be fit enough. :-)

You can do the same thing with a local event--runs, walks, triathlons, Zumbathons, whatever you are into, there's an event for it. Just make sure it is a fitness stretch for you, but a reachable goal. Then you only have to be accountable to yourself, but you have a tangible reason to keep on track. That sort of motivation helps me, at least. And I have met the coolest people and seen really fun places on top of it!



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Happy to know we're helping you. If you haven't exceeded your daily calorie intake a piece of fruit or something after dinner isn't bad (especially if your tummy is rumbling for a 'little' something). emoticon

Never Give Up! Never Surrender!


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It's very difficult to go it alone. Every time I tried I failed. You can make friends here on Sparkpeople to help keep you motivated. You can celebrate your small victories as well when you join sparkteams. I didn't really think anyone would notice on here, but one day I was so excited that I lost 7 inches from my waist so I posted it, I got tons of support and congrats from people. It felt very nice to have people to celebrate with.

Insanity all the way


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Have been reading the posts, very encouraging...Am learning to not eat after dinner, works best if I have a well rounded dinner, walk for 40 mins and then can control myself much better.

You're never to old to set a new goal or dream a new dream. C.S. Lewis


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Going it alone is sometimes your best bet, but having support helps make it easier too. My family isn't key on me not buying all the usual junk food. Or going out to eat whenever they want, and since I buy they food, I cook the food and I decide 85% of the time what goes on the table they are stuck with it. Sometimes I will be nice and make them something unhealthy such has hotdogs and potato chips, but then I find the healthy version, turkey dogs, and rice crisps. I try my best to find a way around and don't deprive them fully. My mom, and my sisters, and my sister in law also want to lose weight, but have no ambition to actually go for it. So I just brag how great I am feeling and how easy it really is, and I know one day they will want to do this as well. Keep your head up, whether we go it alone or don't we still have our spark family.

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Good topic and good responses. Thanks for all who shared.

Slowly and surely wins the race.


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I kind of understand your dilemma. I am on this weight loss journey alone. Actually, I to see a nutritionist who is amazing and helps me to understand why I failed miserably in the past. However, I live with my parents who are decently supportive of me. My biggest issue is that they bring in all the junk food and stuff I've given up and it is soooo tempting simply coming home. One thing that I found helpful is being the cook. If they don't like what I'm making, they'll go out to eat, simple as that.

Also though, you have to realize you aren't really alone. Think of all the friends you have here on spark that are supporting you!



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working out your meals at the start of the day




Join the 10 minute challenge and get exercising.

Put mind into gear and you can do anything.

Don't forget to make your workout fun so as not to get bored with it.

See trevcannon.blogspot.co.uk/


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you got some insightful ideas. emoticon



 
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