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Ugh, that's tough! It's hard to resist when those foods in your face. Luckily you've got a beautiful dog who you can burn lots of calories walking with. emoticon



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If he HAS to have them, I think that you have to make choices that are right for you and show some restraint (not to say you already aren't). You are probably making healthier foods available to him. Eventually, he may buy into it and begin to eat more consciously. I also think that if you fall to temptation whenever the chips are there it's almost like proving his point (e.g., "If your health foods are so tasty, you wouldn't eat my chips").

The best thing, for both of you really, is to reduce your intake of chips maybe to one or two times a week and hope he follows suit. Although you have vowed to spend your lives with each other and supporting one another, the health condition of each individual really is individual

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I won't let him make me feel guilty for eating healthy when he eats junk. Shouldn't it be the other way around?



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I've found the best way to wean people off junk food is slowly and to try to turn junk food into healthier dishes! For instance I love cookies but they just aren't good for me. So I made some healthy cookies! For that recipe you can check out my blog. =]

I've also made healthy pizzas and healthy ice creams that I'll be sharing on my blog as well.
I've got some great picky boyfriend approved meals that are all natural and healthy too.

I've also found that baking the outer layers of brussels sprouts with some olive oil and salt and pepper make AMAZING chips. I've got a brussels sprouts recipe on my blog too ;)

hope you like them! Thanks & good luck!

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I also have the same problem with my husband and his "I can't survive without chips, cookies, chocolate, etc." He supports me, but does not want to have to give up his favorite foods. It is inevitable, you will eat some if they are in the house. But as long as it is SOME and not the entire bag, I think that's okay. My strategy for weight loss might be a bit different than others as I have found if I completely deprive myself of certain foods, I then crave them and binge. Therefore my trainer allows me to eat some of my favorite junk food, but I have to count it in my calorie intake and not go over the limit he has set for me. I have lost 30 pounds so far and I am still eating Cheetos, Doritos and other things, but it has been in very small amounts - usually 1 serving and I have found that it is just enough to satify my craving and my husband is happy he gets to keep his junk food. I usually portion out 1 serving, eat it, and then immediately brush my teeth so I don't go back for more. Also, I make sure if I eat my portioned junk food that I also exercise after I eat it so I can burn some of it off.

Another option might be asking your husband to store his goodies in a place you can't get to easily. We have a high shelf in our pantry that my husband keeps his chocolate on as I don't have as much self control with that. Out of sight, out of mind. :-) Good Luck!



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I must have married the most supportive, understanding man on the planet because he doesn't push to have junk in the house, he only eats junk when I want to, and he is willing to take his chips to work and keep them there so he can have them at lunch and not tempt me. I think he understands how important my health & fitness is to me because I communicated it to him without telling him he has to do "this" and he has to do "that". I told him MY personal goals and asked him to be supportive. I think the right communication is key. Or I'm just the luckiest woman in the world to not have to deal with this? Try finding a better way to communicate your goals so he can be supportive without testing your limits.



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I sat down with my hubby- told him one time I felt like he was sabotaging my diet strategy, told him why I felt that way and he realized that what I said made sense.
We still have issues as he is as fit and trim as he was in his 20's (30 years later...pfffftttt!) but he also gently reminded me that it is still MY responsibility to watch what I eat.
I cave, then I feel guilty, then I try to do better. Constant cycle in my life.

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3/21/13 9:39 A

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I know how he feels my sweet tooth drive me crazy sometimes



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I think this is a problem in most households. Right now my husband is craving sweets and every night he has asked me if there is anything sweet in the house. I tell him, besides me LOL there is fruit, yogurt, pudding, but that's not what he's looking for. He wants cookies, apple pie or ice cream. These are all things that are trigger foods for me and I know I cannot have them in the house. Yesterday I gave in and bought him some fig Newtons which are not my favorite so it's been easy to avoid. I love to bake, but I just can't go there right now. So, I stick to my healthy foods and if he wants something sweet he will go out to the store and will get a single serve for himself.

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My husband downs 2-3 sodas per day, devours ice cream in front of the tv at night, drenches popcorn with butter, buys french bread for dinner only to inhale half of it before anyone sits down, eats M & Ms by the handful, the list goes on and on.... he wonders why he isn't as trim as he was in his 20s!

It's really hard to keep on track with a husband like this. It's even harder when he gives me "that look" when I do reach for something "not so healthy". Or after dinner - "Oh, did you want cake?" It really sabotages my progress, and I'm trying soooo hard to keep my goals in the forefront of my mind! I find that sometimes I just have to go to bed when the kids do to avoid late night junk eating.

If anyone has any suggestions, I'd be happy to hear them!

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This sounds like a great strategy! I'm going to use it. Thanks for posting!



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Opposite here. Trying to add in calories to him for his health. We have found Breeze nutrition drink that has 250 calories and 9 g of protein. Tastes good. Nutritious

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The only thing that has really worked for us is to make sure I have stuff in the house that he loves but that I would never touch. I HATE things that get stuck in my teeth. I buy him Oreo cookies. I have horrible acid reflux if I eat spicy food and meat cooked with sauce so I only stock meat frozen pizza and only super spicy chips. That way he gets what he wants and every time i open the cupboard to snack nothing speaks my name!



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OMG !! Are we married to the same man??? He gets up at 9pm and leaves the house. He drove down the street to Target and bought cinnamon rolls. Came home and baked them. Asked me if I wanted one, of course I did, but I refused it. So hard to stay on track when your husband is driving down the wrong side of the road.
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Way to go! and way to go everyone for this great topic and wonderful suggestions. It feels really good to know I am not alone in this. I have been reading these great posts, and my hubby just went next door to the gas station to a get a Mountain Dew and asked me if I wanted anything, and I politely told him "no thank you." And, knowing I have been struggling lately with a few extra pounds I had gained recently, and I finally have been getting back on track since yesterday, he comes home with 2 candy bars, because I "deserved it." hee hee emoticon I told him I am finally losing some of the weight I had gained, and I appreciated him getting me something, but will eat them after I get weighed this weekend. Then I put them in the fridge, and hid them. Out of sight, out of mind. We Can do it! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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My DH says he will eat whatever I make, then he throws things in the shopping cart, or gets something when he is out on his own, that is definitely not healthy. Just today he was snacking on cheese curls before he left for work. He bought them. I didn't touch them. Though it took a few days, he ate the whole thing. Don't get me wrong, I have my setbacks, too. Once in awhile I give in to the desire to have a cream filled donut. But mostly I pass them by. emoticon

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I've resorted to cooking two different menus because its not worth constantly nagging Him about his unhealthy diet



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My husband isn't very conscious about healthy foods either. He thinks eating his salt-fat-sugary foods is more important than living healthy and longer. He says life is not worth living without his foods, despite the fact that he has diabetes, high blood pressure, and had a quadruple bypass.

When I was determined to lose weight he went along with it for a while, having most of his treats out of the house. But there came a time when he said what I was buying and cooking just wasn't doing it for him. So he took over the grocery shopping. I still cook supper, although he usually cooks his eggs and bacon or sausage in the morning and fixes his sandwichand chips at lunch. When he buys meats that are too fatty, I have cottage cheese or Boca burgers or tuna fish. Or sometimes I have one ounce of ham or steak and low sodium beans as my protein. There were times I thought he purposely was trying to provoke me into eating -- like leaving 3/4 of a pie and several bags of chocolate candy out on the counter. For a while I would quickly hide them, but then I decided that I wasn't going to let it get to me. Yes, several times I slipped, but I soon found as long as I didn't give up and got right back on track I'd be okay. Now there are always chocolate candy and crunchy peanut butter in the cabinet and ice cream in the freezer (my 3 biggest trigger foods.) I'm not perfect by any means, but I've lost 86 pounds after being overweight/obese for 5 decades, and tomorrow I celebrate 4 years at goal weight.

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My husband doesn't try to lose weight (and needs to) while I eat (mostly) healthy food and exercise a lot in order to lose about 7 more pounds (these last few are hard). He likes to have junk food in the house, and I don't really mind. I usually eat my healthy stuff, and if I want something salty/snacky, I eat air-popped popcorn, make kale chips or make "baked" sweet potato chips in the microwave. If I'm feeling especially junk food-y, I will give in and count out a serving of whatever it is I crave most (usually potato chips). I stay within my calorie budget, get my fix, and move on. Yes, there are times (PMS) when I can't stop, but when I go overboard, I still count how many I'm eating, track it, and try to make up for it with exercise and eating better the next day. I know it can be hard, but you can learn strategies to deal with your husband's junk-food habits. I have given up trying mine; he resents it and is his own person. He is enjoying healthy food more now, and I'm hoping that (if i refrain from nagging and keep preparing healthy foods) he will eventually change his way. I can control only me.



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in our house the rule is I dont want to see it or see you eating it. So he has to hide it or eat it at work. For us this works, I am not telling him he cant have the junk food I am just needing him to support me.

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Both my husband and I work out, and slowly we are losing weight, however, my husbands issue is he just plain eats way too much. I will try to fix a healthy dinner and he will eat it but right after that he will fix himself something else (sandwich, cereal, snack cakes if any available) etc. Just way to many calories, when I ask him about this he gets hatefull and says he is just hungry, yet then he wants me to tell him he is looks like he is losing wt....

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Man verses woman.....I think it will always be there. All we can do is take care of ourselves and hope it rubs off on them.



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Wow! Great ideas on how to win the Junk Food Junky battle.




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This has been something since day one with my husband. Even when we were dating you could look at the plates and tell which was mine. All anyone can do is live their own life. Someone else's choices are not mine. I choose to eat the vegetables and not smothered potatoes. I would say a good thing is that when I cook everything in the evening he makes no complaints and even compliments the meal. But habit-wise he is in the frig at least twice over the course of the evening eating of whatever is in there. I do not point. I do not even comment. He sees the number of perscriptions he is taking and I am no longer on anything. I would wish he is healthier so we will have retirement together but I admit that I am bracing myself that he will not be around to retire.



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Surprising how many people are fighting this battle. It has been going on for 20 years at my house. The other night he bought six Dunkin' Donuts...all for him. At the store - chips, cookies and candy. He is begging me to fix him Kraft Macaroni and Cheese. He drinks five or six cans of (non-diet) carbonated beverages every day (either Coke or Mountain Dew) - he drinks no water and all food is pizza or fried. I finally decided it isn't my problem. I haven't bought him the junk for years but he still buys it himself. I fix healthy meals and he immediately raids the cabinets afterwards for junk. I have made the decision that I am NOT going to eat the stuff. Ever. I want to live a long healthy life, preferably with him, and the junk food was making me fat, which made my back hurt, my joints hurt and my stomach hurt. Plus I didn't like my face when it was fat. So I just think of all of that and I am not tempted to eat the junk.

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Yes, it is frustrating when we go for a ride and end up at the donut shop, or when my husband sits in front of the TV with a box of Little Debbie cupcakes, but I need to remember that I am my own person, and what he eats shouldn't affect me. If he wasn't around, my excuses would be loneliness and boredom, so I guess he can stay!

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Wow, how great that there are so many with the same problem. My husband is an emotional eater and likes to eat anything loaded with sugar and fat. I have tried over the years to help and we have done the whole weight loss journey together and even though he had good results, he gives up, which in turn I gave up also. So I have now come to the conclusion that the only person that can change the way his mind works is him and my journey is my journey and as hard as it is when he brings home a big bag of MM's or a tub of icecream, I WANT to be a healthier and happier version of myself and will not cave into temptation.So as much as I would like to see my husband get on board, for once in my life, I choose to put myself first. Husbands are adults not children and as such they can make their own decisions on healthy eating. If they choose to eat junk food all day everyday, that is the choice they make.



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Crunch (and salt) are things I crave. My spouse, who eats whatever he likes and remains thin as a rail, loves chips. I never buy them, but he gets his own fix at the grocery store and brings them home. Lately, I have taken to buying a head of celery, washing and cutting it up into strips, and storing a huge bag of them in the 'fridge. When I get a salt-munchy craving, I go to the celery (which sometimes I eat with hummus, which is pretty lo-cal, too). If I'm really craving salt, I'll put a small sprinkle of coarse sea salt on the celery sticks. That usually satisfies the craving (at a small fraction of the calories).

I've had NO luck interesting my spouse in healthier eating (I can't get him to give up cigars, either, though he's good about smoking outdoors); but I see that as long as I keep fruit, etc. around, he's willing to eat it. I just know better than to try to take his potato chips away from him...



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On this topic I am an expert. I live with the Junk Food King of the World. DH has carried on a 45 year affair with "Little Debbie" There's a photo on my spark page that you would not believe. Still, after 45 years of marriage, we've made it work. You cannot save someone if they don't want to be saved.
I will not buy the stuff, but if he gets it on a grocery shopping trip, I just ask him to keep it out of sight and he has agreed to that.

He eats what I make for lunch and dinner because he doesn't cook, so it's me or starve (or sometimes a "Hungry Man" dinner. He's a hungry man, not always a "smart" man.

Good luck to everyone who has to deal with this.

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"and just as soon we didn't either"

Oh my GOSH this can be such a big issue!

I have gone through this myself, and as a result have come to the conclusion that I will happily accept "lack of active sabotage" as a sign of "support."



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What a firestorm we have started! I guess it's supportive to those of us struggling with spouses, mates and other family members who have no desire to eat healthy and just as soon we didn't either. I've always said my DH was my worst enemy when it came to food, at least now I know I'm certainly not alone emoticon

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I am lucky my hubby doesn't like anything with chocolate so there is not much of that in the house. His big thing is ice cream he would buy it by the pailfull and sit and it out of the pail watching TV. It took some convincing but finally after 40 years I got him to use small bowls for all of his ice cream and snacks. He even goes and puts his peanuts in the shell in a bowl now. We both love sour cream and onion potato chips so that is never allowed in the house. years ago we ate a whole bag driving home from grocery shopping we decided we would never do it again and so far so good.



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Sometimes when i feel like "he should be doing this along with me and caring for his health to the same degree that I am caring for mine" I stop and consider...

How would it have gone over, if he had ever attempted to take the Chips Ahoy bag from my hand and tell me "honey, do you know how much fat and sugar are in these things? I'm putting them in the garbage and don't you be bringing any more of these into the house, starting now! Here, have a half-grapefruit, a much more sensible snack option for you, given that you've really started to round out around the middle, lately...."

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HAHAHAHAHAHAHA yeahhhh, no.

So it really doesn't make much sense to expect that one's husband will respond positively to any sort of direct attempt or request to modify his behaviour.

I see a difference between wanting/needing/expecting your partner to support your own efforts by keeping his treats out of your reach/sight and expecting/demanding that he JOIN you in your efforts.

Be the good role model and let them come around on their own, in their own time, when they're ready, if ever. In the meantime, what you DO deserve from them is their support and respect for your efforts.


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My husband gets a little crazy with his eating habits, and it can be a challenge to convince him he is wrong about calories and the importance of knowing what you are eating. I am trying to lead by example and show him, in the nicest way possible, how many calories are actually in the foods he eats.



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I encourage my husband to get his fill of junk while he is at work. He is a snacker and you'd never know it. Me...I just look at the stuff and gain 5 lbs. My biggest struggle is keeping soda out of the house. He will go a week or two and then bring in two or three cases of soda. He tries to bring the kind I don't like, but sometimes that doesn't even matter. I have finally decided that I have to keep telling myself I would rather look fab and feel better than have a can of Mt. Dew. It has been working this week. We'll see!



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3/19/13 12:31 P

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My fiance' has just started to come around to eating healthy and losing weight so I am relieved but before that he was hard. He loves Outback Steakhouse so we were going there all the time. He always asks me to make him a strawberry malt and icecream is a weakness for me. Thankfully that time has passed and he's now serious about his health and mine. :)



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3/19/13 11:55 A

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Yep, there are a lot of GREAT suggestions here! I use a combination of stuff I don't like and portion control. My husband LOVES sweets - donuts, snack cakes, candy, and most of all, cookies. He is really good about buying stuff I don't like so I won't be tempted. "Oh you bought cookies? Oh, PB cookies. Ew." Hahaha!

I'm with everyone who said ultimately, it's up to YOU what you put in YOUR body. So I think you should focus on strategies to help you avoid his bags of chips; harping on him about having them in the house, when he has no interest in changing his eating, just ruins your waistline AND your relationship.

Stuff I've found helpful:

1) Have him buy stuff I don't like. Works for sweets, and chips. BBQ flavor chips, bleccch.

2) Substitute. When I'm not feeling strong enough to have a small portion and stop, I have something similar but not chips - popcorn is WONDERFUL for this need for salty-crunchy. Either get the microwave bags that are reduced fat, or get a popper. I don't like air popped popcorn as much - it's not as crunchy. But I found a microwave popper at Target - it's a special, extra thick plastic bowl with a loose lid. The bowl gets hot and pops plain corn in the microwave! Then I can add a tiny bit of melted butter, OR NOT, as my daily plan allows. You can eat a huge bowl of crunchy slightly salty popcorn for a fraction of the calories of chips. (I hate the baked ones, so that doesn't work for me.) (Plus a big bag plain popcorn kernels? SO CHEAP.)

3) Portion control. Look at your tracker and see what fits in your day better. Many times if I can't fit a full serving of something in my day, I'll have a half serving. Weigh out 1/2 ounce of chips, or have a half of a serving of chocolate or ice cream. This works really well for me to not feel deprived, and be proud of myself for sticking to my goals.

Look at it this way. Having junk in the house, and learning to eat it occasionally in moderation instead of mindlessly in huge quantities is great training for parties and events where there are snacks around you have to be able to resist. None of us are going to stay in our houses with a bowl of veggies and the doors locked for the rest of our lives, so not banishing all junk from the house is not the worst thing ever. It's just Potato Chip Life Boot Camp. emoticon

As far as chips being easy because of no prep, check your grocery store for already washed, already cut up veggies. Yes, they cost more than peeling and washing yourself, but it's worth it if you actually eat them instead of junk. I get this kind of stuff ALL the time. In my house we call it Lazy People Food. I've trained myself to get that instead of sweets or other junk when I feel like I want to "treat" myself; I'm so decadent, I had someone else cut up watermelon for me! Swooooon! emoticon



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3/19/13 10:35 A

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I have been there, my hubby was a major chipaholic, but as mine always says "I'm a man, I can change, if I have to, I guess." LOL

I started with providing other healthy snack options like nuts and such, which I think you said you did too, then I moved in to using small bowls, like ramekin sized, to put chips, nuts or what ever snack (ice cream) in.

Then I moved to when buying chips getting the smaller bags, and then I brought home a bag of "Eat Your Vegetables" chips. I wasn't sure about them and how they'd go over, so I hide the bag but served them in the small bowl. Let's just say they were a big hit, I think of the two bags that have come through the house I've gotten about 4 chips LOL!!!

I know he will never give up chips and I don't really expect him too. But in the past several months he has cut back greatly and THAT makes all the difference, to me at least.

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3/19/13 6:31 A

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I've got a similar strategy to HappyLisa - encourage the husband to buy the junk food he likes but I don't (bacon cheddar fries, really?) if he really must have it around. Anything he buys that I do happen to like goes up on high shelf in a cabinet where its out of sight and hard for me to reach.

But so far I haven't had a craving for chips. They did a staff get together to taste various flavors of Doritos a few weeks ago at work- I had a few to be polite- and they all just tasted bad to me.



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My husband and I are offically doing away with junkfood, today! We have terrible sweet cravings. We have made an agreement to be good until our Easter celebration. Baby steps.

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I never belittle my husband for opening that bag of chips, but encourage him to have a few them put them away. If we do have junk food in the house, it's a flavor that I don't like anyway, so it doesn't affect me. I hate the sour cream and onion flavored chips or cheddar chips, but he loves them. Ugh!



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Long standing problem in my house. Even when I don't buy junk food, it comes in through the door anyway.

What I do is warn him about grazing and offer alternatives in their places. Otherwise, I'd learned he is a grown man and making his decisions.

Be patient. Perhaps he will follow your lead.

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Wow. Been there done that. Still fighting that battle with my husband. If I try to keep junk out of the house, he either sneaks it or throws a temper tantrum. I waiver between keeping on him and giving up. Right now, I'm on my own. And I am ok with that. Maybe when I look and feel better, he will join me.



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What a great topic! If my fiance had his way, our meals would consist of nothing but pizza, deep fried foods, and cookies. That's what he lived off of before moving in with me (and somehow he never gained weight!). Now I insist on doing ALL of the grocery shopping and cooking. It takes a lot of effort on my part (as I'm sure many of you are well aware of), but it's the only solution that works. I can't have any junk food in the house or I won't be able to resist it...and it's also imperative that I feed him low-fat/low-cholesterol meals because he has a serious family history of heart disease. I even pack all of his lunches for work (he used to eat 3 Wendy's double cheeseburgers and fries every day!). For a long time it was extremely difficult to figure out a variety of healthy meals (that he would eat) to cook so we wouldn't end up eating the same thing every other night. He doesn't like most vegetables, doesn't like low-fat dairy, doesn't like wheat bread...you get the drift. My mom bought me a whole series of Cooking Light cookbooks and out of the hundreds of recipes there are like 3 he finds acceptable. For a while I just gave up and started making his favorites and eating along with him, which of course led to my weight gain and declining self esteem. Finally it got to the point where I decided I had ENOUGH. I got rid of all the junk food in our kitchen and started from scratch. I bought the Hungry Girl to the Max cookbook and it has been a LIFESAVER! Now I can feed him chicken strips, jalapeno poppers, onion rings, chili, brownies, etc...but all low-fat and low-cal. I've also been dicing up veggies really small and "sneaking" them into the recipes when I can. I've also discovered that he loves Quakes snacks and Yoplait light yogurts so he's been eating those instead of chips and ice cream. We've both been losing weight and we have a lot more energy now. Then recently I joined Spark People which has made things even better...I'm getting so much support and great recipe ideas and I have a feeling it's really going to help keep me on track :-)



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Unless he is also on the same weight loss and get fit journey, you should leave him be. You can only change yourself... not other people.
Provide him with healthier alternatives n that, but do not try to control his own indulgences. If you do, you will cause problems.
Work on yourself and hope that some of your new habits rub off on him in time.

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I really Love my hubby, and he loves his snacks! He will always offer what ever he is snacking on (chex mix......spice drops....peanuts......doritos......cookies) to me. Some times it is hard to turn it down, but lately I'm staying strong and using the words "no thank you" over & over!!

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When l shop its healthy food with a few "treats". When my husband shops its junk food with hardly anything healthy



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Same problem, no real remedy. I love my husband so much, but he doesn't seem to care about himself. He tells himself (and me) that he deserves it, and that I don't know how hard he works (in construction). But his gut is growing, and honestly it's ruining our sex life. It's so bad that I've turned into a somewhat evil person - In the past, I've resorted to public shaming in front of his family. I know that probably will just make the situation worse. My solution? Worry about yourself only. Stop trying to change him. He will only change (or not) when he wants to. Instead of eating those chips, eat some almonds or dried fruits. Good luck!



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