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3/18/13 4:04 P

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In our household we've gone through many of the different options mentioned in this thread, and have combined a lot of them all into what works for us.

Generally, junk food does not come into our house in large quantities, since I do most of the shopping. But my daughter and SO are allowed to buy stuff with their own money and bring it home.

We have an agreement though, that if it's left open and sitting on the counter, at the end of the day, I get to toss it in the bin. I don't have a problem avoiding unopened treats, usually. And if someone else bought them, then they're not mine and I also don't have trouble keeping my hands to myself. But if they're sitting there on the counter, open and begging to be munched, then my willpower will eventually give in. So now instead of giving in, I throw the offending treat in the garbage. I do give the family at least a day to eat it first though.

My SO and I also have an agreement - he has a severe weakness for chocolate, and while I love chocolate, I've also managed to get my addiction to it under control, although I still have a strong weakness for soda. In return for him not bringing home soda and slushies, I don't bring home chocolate. --- This 'rule' has been amended recently. Due to a significant lactose intolerance, I have found the sweet treats that I can safely eat has become restricted. However, I have managed to find some good vegan dark chocolate. I now keep a single bar of this in cupboard, out of his sight, so that I can have a bite whenever I need a sweet pick me up. He doesn't raid my stash because he knows it's hard for me to find here, and expensive, and there's not a lot of other treats that I loved so much but can still have.

Generally I have a whole host of other snacking options available - a bowl of fruit on the counter; healthier than chips crackers; cut veggies in the fridge; the list goes on and varies every week. It helps to have something else to snack on first, even if I do eventually give in and steal some of his chips.

It took trial and error for us to come up with solutions for our snacking situation at home. Healthy meals are still a battlefield, but having managed the snacking combat without bloodshed, I hope to avoid any mortal wounds with this battle as well.



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My dad quit smoking cold turkey, from three packs a day. If anyone has quit smoking, you know what an impossible feat that can be, and he did it.

When he quit, not only was my mom still smoking, she didn't even bother not to smoke AROUND him - she still smoked in the house, in the car, and at their business. She lit up when she wanted to, kept her cigarettes around, etc.

She did quit smoking, permanently, about a year later.

What does it have to do with junk food? I just want to echo what so many people have said - we are responsible for what we put into our own bodies. It is a lot easier with a spouse who supports us or who is in the same place re: health that we are, but sometimes we have to come to that place in our own time and our own way, not being dragged kicking and screaming by someone who tells us what we have to do.

I don't know about you all, but I was only ready to make the commitment to healthy lifestyle when *I* was in the right place mentally/emotionally to commit. No one could chose that for me.

That said, fortunately my husband is very very supportive of my health goals and in return I recognize that his and mine are not one in the same. I don't try to restrict what he can eat and he doesn't try to tempt me to eat something he knows I would regret.



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How about parents and junk food. I currently live with them because I am in school and they are always bringing junk food in. I try not to eat it but it can be really frustrating to have it there all the time, but there is not much I can do about it. The big bags of chips from Sam's Club and the box of Dunkin Donuts are the worst. I do most of the regular cooking though so I do have more control on what we eat for regular meals.



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I totally agree with we are responsible for what goes in our mouths and can't blame it on any one else. I also agree that putting tempting foods in our paths is a temptation that isn't very nice at all!

My family has come kicking, screaming, and hanging onto door posts to the healthy lifestyle table. I am the chief cook and bottle washer at my house. If I don't buy it or make it, they have no choices but to eat what I prepare for them or buy it themselves. My 2 adult daughters refuse to spend their money on snacks so they are good. My father-in-law, when he wants treats, will go to the corner diner and get pie and ice cream, eat it there, and I have no worries. My teenage son likes the healthy food. My husband ... well .... he will often bring home the chips, dip, beef jerky, cookies, etc. For the longest time in the world, I got so angry when he brougth home the chips and dip because I love them. Let me put that in past tense ... I LOVED them! After eating clean for a couple of years now, I don't love them anymore and they tend to make me nausous if I do indulge.

My suggestion is to food prep so you always have readily available food when the munchies hit. Don't buy him his snacks. Make him make the extra effort to go get the garbage food himself and if you budget, make it come out of his spending money and NOT out of the grocery budget. And keep focusing on yourself. Soon those cravings will leave you. You will feel so good and healthy that even though you will know there are no foods you aren't allowed to have, you just won't want the unhealthier choices!

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My boyfriend is a junk food junkie as well. Luckily - I do the majority of the grocery shopping and I just don't buy all that crap. I get us the necessities needed to make dinners, pack lunches, and have small snacks. There is zero need for a person trying to improve their life and live a healthy lifestyle to be bring home and abundance of overly unhealthy food.

Now I do get him chips for his lunch, or have blocks of cheese for him to snack on. But I also put special k bars in his lunch and weight watchers string cheese as he's figured out he likes some of the healthy stuff! He doesn't complain. If he wants icecream - he goes out and buys it. He indulges in nachos and fried food when we go out rather than keeping it at our home.

He recognizes that I need him to be supportive. I also hold myself accountable. If I eat chips and cheese with him rather than baked tortilla chips portioned out with nice healthy salsa - it's my fault, not his.

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No one buys more junk food than my husband. He doesn't buy bags he buys in bulk. (costco). I have begged, pleaded and screamed for him not to buy junk food, but to no avail. So what I do is put the junk in one cupboard and not go in there. I leave the foods that I eat in another part of the kitchen. If someone is not going to support you, you cannot make them, you can only make adjustments on your part. Put the "junk" food in a designated place, and just make sure you don't go there.



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Wow, your husband is being a real whiner. I'm sure there were actually things for him to eat when he complained, but because they weren't chips he didn't want them. If you're only hungry for chips you aren't really hungry, no?

Four bags of Lays for two weeks is ridiculous, never mind the other stuff you bought. There's a big chasm between not wanting to eat a restrictive diet and going through two bags of chips in a week. Dude needs to get a grip.

Think about it... would you cave to a child the way you're caving to your husband? If a child wanted you to buy four bags of chips would you do it?



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My husband really likes junky sweet foods. He complains if there's nothing of that kind in the house. So I only buy things for him that I know I can resist, like those little deep-fried fruit pies. One of those once a year is enough for me.

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My husband will go out with a list I provide him and yet he will bring back junk food. Not for him to eat but for me. He knows I watch what I eat and I really don't care for junk food unless it's cheese pizza then all bets are off. But I have noticed lately that I think there in an underlying issue with him. He has put on a lot of weight recently it's almost to to the point it's out of control. Others have noticed this as well... and that being said, I think this might be why he is trying to get me to join him in overeating. I have lost 3 pounds and I'm not going to claim them back!

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I try NOT to send my hubby out for anything! He always brings back chips or cheesecake or pepperoni sticks...

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My husband is the same!!! He LOVES his junk food. I make very healthy dinners, and he will eat them, but he will either eat more or just end up having junk later. *sigh* I'm lucky my 3 year old takes after me mostly. I'm hoping my 4 month old will follow in my footsteps as well and not his.

He HATES veggies unless I roast them in the oven, which is fine by me!

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Actually I am the junk food addict between us. I love snacks. Mine likes snacks occasionally, but he loves fast food more. He usually doesn't bring it in the house.



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Mine has got a really sweet tooth, eats sweets and junk all day and complains when he puts weight on. I make healthy filling dinners but he prefers his junk.



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i have never ever ever had co-operation - just complaints - despite me making TWO dinners - one with all of his whims and fancies and the other for myself and the children.
there has always been a horrible attitude - and let me say - it was not that he was skinny and did not have to look in the mirror at his gut too!!!
i struggled and have kept myself on the straight and narrow - not just for the weight aspect, but because i know eating as healthy as i can IS THE PAYOFF for me - no matter the insults, complaints and bad comments that were always hurled my way.
SELFISH AND MEAN - are states of mind that only the idiot who has them can change!!!
just do yourself the best you can - in the end you will be happy you did.

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Make a deal with him -- he keeps *all* his junk food where you won't see it (a plastic opaque bin in the garage or storage area, a separate drawer as recommended by another poster, etc) and he doesn't eat it around you, and you won't bother him about what or how much he eats.

Has he said what it is about the junk food that attracts him? My H also loves chips and other salty snacks and foods, especially when watching tv. He's started to eat pickles and olives instead of chips some of the time. Maybe if your H can work what it is about junk food that he likes, he can come up with some substitutions.





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It's amazing how many of us deal with the same things. DH is a workout finatic but he eats junk as well. He's actually gone to get ice cream as I type this! There should be a Spark team for husbands w/junk food! emoticon

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My husband and I have been married for 23 years. During that time he gained 55 pounds, and I gained 50. That sounds just horrible, but when you break it down it's less than 2 1/2 pounds a year, and it doesn't sound like very much.

When we first got married, he was a much better (nutrition wise) eater than I was. I was the one who was the junk food junkie, love those chips, and being a southern girl, everything was deep fried!

I became the one who did the grocery shopping and prepared the meals. And guess what we had!!!!! And I could eat bite-for-bite the same amount of food as he did. We were both working, professional people, who ate out for lunch, and then, if I was tired, I stopped and picked up take-out and brought it home for dinner. So you can see how the pounds packed on. Plus, the only real exercise either one of us got was the housecleaning and yard work, that we crammed into our week-ends. And we were both strong and athletic in our younger days.

He had a triple by-pass in 2001, and I had lower back problems for 10 years.

I tried to follow the diet plans prescribed by his doctors, and he hated it!

After much physical therapy for my back, I finally got it through my thick head, that exercise was going to be the best medicine for me, and it was! I joined the gym, got a personal trainer, and dropped about 30 pounds. But I didn't really change that much about what I ate, and I believed that I could eat whatever I wanted as long as I exercised like crazy. (Like I did in my 20's).

Fast forward to 2008. I joined Spark People. I'm meeting people who are in the same boat as I am, with the same issues and struggles, and I'm reading and learning more and more about nutrition......but I'm not applying it.

Then, my weight loss stalls and stops, and I wonder what the heck is going on!

I go to a hypnotist, which was very helpful, and I start paying attention to what I ate. Being snowbirds in Florida, I have access to all kinds of fresh fruits and vegetables, and I find I really like them, and so does my husband. I stopped going to the drive through, and started taking my lunch.......and wal-la, I start seeing weight loss again.

So I've turned into an exercise fanatic, paying more attention to nutrition, thinking I'm being an example my husband wants to follow, and for the most part, I received criticism and skepticism, and there were times, I would slink back into my old ways, and I would gain, and wonder what the heck in going on.

Fast forward to 2013. With all my Spark People Friends and Support, and believe me, I couldn't have done it without ya'll, I have lost 16 more pounds! My husband, is still at 230, and I'm almost to my goal.....8 pounds to go!

Hey I still love junk food! But I just don't buy it. (Very much) If he wants it, he can buy it himself. I qualify that .....very much....because, if I do partake, I know what a portion serving size of ice cream is, and I stick to it. And I have found that I can have it every once in a while, as long as I stick to the portion size, and I'm OK. But I just don't buy tons of chips, which are totally my favorite, because I would sit and eat the entire bag until it is gone!

I'm dealing with a shoulder surgery this year, which has put a crimp in my exercise for now, but I'm doing good, and I'm going to hit my goal very soon!

Bottom line is, you have to look out for yourself.

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Ellie xxx

What a fantastic post, thank you. It applies to all areas of life and not just food.

I needed a kick up the bum to do some stuff I've been procrastinating over and making excuses for not doing. Loved your post, very inspirational. Stop whining, start shining, that's my new motto!



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Thank you all so very much for your insights! Not all suggestions fit with our situation, but they have inspired me and definitely have me thinking creatively.

Thank you so much for the support!



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My husband likes salt and vinegar chips I can't stand them so I make sure I buy him those kind. I've found some baked light crisps that satisfy my desire for chips and I just make sure I try to stay within a serving size even with those. Now when he brings out the wine and chocolate while watching tv at night;that one's a little harder to resist. emoticon

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my hubby does not eat candy. he likes oreos or chips ahoy but does not eat a lot of veggies or have a varied pallate. he had a scare earlier this week and said he wants to eat better but he both have a lot of bad habits. i do well when i am at work and have no excuses to blame any one else.



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I think the trick is to always have healthy snacks ready e.g. carrot sticks and hummus, peanut butter and celery sticks, rice cakes, fruit, etc in portion sizes... something YOU enjoy so that when you feel tempted to eat the chips you can go and grab your healthy snack instead. One of the attractive things about chips etc is that they are easy just to grab, so be prepared!

You are responsible for what you eat so take ownership of your snacking habits. Set a good example to your husband and let him see that you are enjoying your new eating plan and lifestyle. If he chooses the unhealthy items then that is his choice but you don't have to follow suit and in time when he sees that it isn't what he expected then he may well change his own habits and join you.

Personally I found that mentally "earmarking" those foods as belonging to someone else e.g. my daughter, helped me to avoid eating them.

For those rare occassions when I really want a chip I buy a multipack of individual walkers french fries packs with less than 100 calories per bag and nibble them. They often sit in the cupboard for weeks before I finally eat them all and I never buy myself the large family sized bags because an open bag just begs to be eaten!

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My husband is diabetes and keeps making bad choices also : chips, chocolate bars/peanuts, cookies. He buys it. I don't. I buy healthy stuff.
I used to whine at him and eat the junkfood too. I was listening to my negative voice, making bad choice and blaming it on him, on the fact I was lonely at home in the afternoons, etc, etc...
I used to whine at my job because my shift had changed, so I could not exercise today.
Then a health coach told me something : if you want to get healthier, you have to take ownership of your health and weight. Tell your negative voice to shut up and take control of your life.
And I did. I changed my way of thinking. There was junkfood in the house so what ? There were also a lot of healthy things, and I was not binging on the cucumber or the apples, was I ? My shift had changed, but I still had time to watch TV or play games on FB or not ?
Our negative voice is telling us lies : we are weak, we have to have the junkfood, we are too tired/we have no time to exercise... the negative thinking about ourselves and others makes us bitter and miserable, and affects all the people around us.
We have the power to turn the things around. We have to stop blaming ourselves and others. Let's stop whining and start shining.
Exercising and eating healthy foods cranks up our mood and our energy. It gives us strength to face our negative voice and nail its mouth shut. It gives us the energy to make the right choices and take care of our home and our family.
It fills us with positive energy that affects positively all the people around us. It makes us better persons, spouses, sons/daughters, brothers/sisters, friends, collegues. It brings light and joy back into our lives.
Don't obsess about your goals, find the joy in the journey !



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I echo Barbanna. Other people are not the problem. I decide what goes in my body.


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If I walk into the kitchen and see something that is tempting. I immedietely tell my boyfriend to hide it, and that if I ask where its at not to tell me. I do this because if I look at it long enough I will talk myself into eating some. Out of side out of mind.

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I eat healthy and my husband and daughter do not but I will stick with my plan.

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For me, it's more the whole family and junk food. I've tried not buying it, but they will not eat my cooking, and then daddy caves and buys it behind my back. His complaint is that my style of cooking has changed since I wooed him with food. I have four really picky eaters and it's hard to find something that anyone, all of them will like. So I have decided to blow them off. I cook healthy, what I want. If they don't like it, they can eat peanut butter and jelly. Daddy complains that I spend to much on groceries, and while I could point out that it's the weekday trips to buy hotdogs that are crashing the budget, I just persevere. I don't have much trouble avoiding the chips, cookies etc but the processed meat is my down fall. I have been known to eat cold hotdogs in the middle of the night. If he didn't buy them, I couldn't binge on them. but I am working on it. he thinks that we should eat simpler, like plain hotdogs or pizza while I think we should eat simpler like grilled chicken and steamed asparagus. I am not sure which one of us will win but since I control the majority of the shopping, my money is on me.



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By ignoring or using tough love on the whining, I have successfully taught my child that whining about it to me is not a way to solve a problem. (People who whine generally do so because someone is willing to listen and take on the other person's "problem" as their own.)

I'm not saying that your husband is the same as a child, but really, he has many options open to him to solve HIS "nothing to eat" problem other than whining to YOU about it. He could go to the store (maybe walk to the corner store, depending on where you live?) and get himself something. He could find an alternative to the food he thinks he wants. Or he could just be an adult about it and put up with the situation without complaint.

I don't know what your exact situation is like, but maybe you could point out to your husband that he, as a full-grown man, has other options than whining and complaining. You could then reinforce this by ignoring the whining (the way you might if he was your child in a store whining for you to buy him a toy). Just a thought.

From a more practical perspective, regarding myself and chips: I am lucky to be able to keep chips out of the house, but when I want that salty crunch, I sometimes have pretzels (carefully measured into a bowl -- even counting individual pretzels!) or a mini-bag of "light" microwave popcorn.

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Don't buy the CRAP food. He is a grown man, if he wants to eat garbage you tell him to save his own money and buy it himself.

Ignore him; he is jealous that you are capable of changing and he is trying to sabotage you because he can't do the right thing.

If he wants to continue being an unhealthy slob, fine, that is his choice, but don't allow him to drag you down with him.



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I'm glad to see that I am not alone in this. One day I was late to prepare dinner & he ate almost a whole pound cake. I want to test his glucose since I have plenty of meters. I have diabetes. He sees. How many pills & injections that I have to take. I tell him that I'm going to have to share them with him. He is horrified by what I'm going through but won't stop standingh in front of the Macktruck that's barreling down on him. I feel that he is mocking me every Time he eats the half of box of donuts in front ofme everyday.
P. S. He's gaining the weight I'm losing.

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my husband loves chips and snack foods in the evening, so i have found him some healthier alternatives (pretzels instead of doritos, air popped popcorn instead of chips)... is it still really hard some days to watch him snarf down junk: YES! but it gets easier and easier, especially with solid fitness goals to motivate me

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My husband loves junk food, positively REFUSES to eat healthy, and then complains about gaining weight. He gets absolutely NO sympathy from me.

If he wants to eat crap, then he has to buy it for himself. I will not put any of that junk in my shopping cart. I have told him that I care too much about his health to indulge his addiction to being unhealthy.



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I live with my sister, a junk food addict. She is gracious enough to hide her food when she knows I'm making an effort. Honestly, if I don't see it, I'm usually ok. That's how weak *I* am. Heh. Plus, I've learned that I can't be successful unless I get a treat now and then, too. My favorite is the slow churned Dryer's ice cream. 1/2 a cup of that is fantastic and I have it right with dinner and I'm good to go. I'm thinking of even scheduling certain days I can have my treats, so I have something to look forward to. (My friend keeps her desserts to Sundays, which works for her.)

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I do think it helps to have him keep his junk food out of sight - someone below had mentioned a special junk food drawer. When I started on Spark I asked my husband to keep his half gallons of ice cream in the basement freezer instead of in the freezer part of the refrigerator where it was calling out to me every time I opened the door. He would just transfer a small amount to a plastic container to keep upstairs. Over time he started eating less ice cream and buying smaller containers, and over time I lost my ice cream addiction.



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To add- is there any type of chips that he loves but you cannot stand? Maybe the compromise is that you purchase the ones you don't like. Just a suggestion... :)



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Keep encouraging the spouses to get on board with you. When my husband and I started supporting each other we both began to reap the benefits. Plus, it was something nice to do together and for each other.



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I mentally learned to label his junk food has Jeff's food.

By calling it His food, if I ate any of it - it felt like I was Stealing his Food.

It made me stronger, able to resist the crap food we have in the house.

It is a mental game which helps to improve my internal strength.

His DIET does not Have to be My Diet.

I give myself permission to Eat Healthier.


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If it is going to be it is up to me!!!


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I am going to turn this on you ladies. My wife is an awesome cook, loves to bake and try new things. I have been fighting cupcakes the last 2 weeks, and some sinful buffalo chicken macaroni and cheese last weekend. We had 12 people at the house, but she made enough for 30. It was soooo good, and guess who gets to look at those leftovers in the fridge.(she finally gave it away)

I didn't bring those things into the house she did!

I have lost 67 lbs and she has lost 35, but sometimes I just don't get it!

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My husband is Super Skinny, way underweight, at 110 pounds for 6'1". His bones stick out (cheek bones, ribs, hip bones, etc.) But he eats really fattening things. Mozzarella sticks, pizza rolls, ice cream, apple pie, cookies, cheeseburgers, etc are his usual fare. I worry about him dying of malnutrition but he has always been thin. I don't eat anything like him. I eat lots of fruits and vegetables and plain fish and struggle with my weight. It doesn't seem fair ! I guess it's all genetics and metabolism.

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My husband doesn't want to eat healthy either. I have decided that I am going to try and trick him into eating better. I am finding recipes that have tons of flavor and are also good for him. He doesn't want to get healthy but I am sick of paying doctor bills and listening to him complain that he doesn't feel well or is tired. Will your husband try the baked chips? It is hard when it comes to junk food, I would tell him you won't buy it for him anymore and if he is going to eat it then please don't do it around you. Maybe compare it to second hand smoke, you would want someone smoking around you because of your health and your weakness for chips is like second hand smoke. It's a stretch, I know. Good luck, I know how you feel.



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The reason he's fixating on those chips is because in his mind, you've told him "no, you can't have chips."

If he's not ready to join you on the road to healthy living, then you can't force him.

You have to focus on you. You need to come up with coping strategies to deal with the chips in the house. It's okay for you to have them; either plan when you will, or figure out ways to cope with the cravings and redirect them to something healthier.

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I completely understand your dilemma. My husband and I have struggled with this. He will often eat the healthy food with me. Then there is the junk food. He now has a drawer for his junk food. If it does not fit in his drawer, (a standard kitchen drawer) he doesn't buy it. That has cut down the amount of junk food in the house. He actually eats his snack in the kitchen and not sitting in front of the TV. That solution has been effective in decreasing the amount that he eats and not tempting me further. At the end of the day I have to take responsibility for what I eat. And it is not easy. Friday nights he like to eat a less than healthy dinner. I choose not to. Last night was particularly difficult. The smell of pizza filled my house for several hours. But how could I fault him when he is making an honest effort to support me? I found some strength and ate the healthy food I had prepared. But I am so glad that is a once a week occurrence. My point is there are multiple strategies to tackle this problem. Good luck.

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I hope you and your hubby can come to an agreeable conclusion.

Mine was just put on metafornan (I'm pretty sure I've spelled that wrong) and other meds for high blood sugar, low B12 and a bunch of other stuff.

Although he's been adapting his menu as I've been adapting mine - he still indulges in things I do not. Now, he has to re-think once again, and try to make more adjustments.



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My hubby and I agreed to each only buying 1 treat or junk item a week at the grocery store - to a max of $5 each. So he would get a bag of chips, I might get a pint of ice cream, and we would enjoy that much more, having it spread through the week than having an unlimited amount of junk.

I hope you find a strategy that will work for you!

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I am reminded of a quote: "Love does not consist of gazing into each others' eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction.”
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I would suggest seeking someone out (a friend, relative, coworker, PT, etc) who is looking toward the same goal (self-love and health) to spend more time with during this next 30 days as you are transitioning and making your new lifestyle a habit. Love, whatever the source, is the most powerful thing in the world.
Additionally, I think it is important to take responsibility for one's actions; buying junkfood is enabling. Love is honest; and honesly, I think it sounds as though you don't want to buy it. I would try to listen to my heart, the answers are all right there.

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try and find a middle food ground. if he thinks good for you food doesn't taste good, then ease up on how you're making it to make it a little more appealing to him. in other words, add a little more cheese, a little more salt and a little more fat. you can't get from a to z without going through the alphabet [or maybe you can, but he can't]. so use those handy little stops in between that are the rest of the letters to ease your old way of cooking into something better. when you cut a stick of butter and a half pound of cheese out of most recipes, someone will notice. but if over the course of six months or a year you ease a stick of butter and a half pound of cheese out of a recipe [say a Tablespoon of butter and an ounce of cheese a month], then most people won't notice the omission. if you slightly adjust the way you cook the old stuff, it makes the new that much more appealing.

also, make sure you have healthier snacks that are just as available as that bag of chips. it's easy to eat chips if there isn't anything else, but if you make sure there is something else then it's easier to skip the chips. and make a pact with yourself. if you are going to have chips, make sure you have a fruit or a vegetable with them.

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Hi JANKE1028

When it comes to the chips.....
When you get home open the bags and portion out what you intend to eat until the next shopping trip. Put smaller portions in Ziplocs, this way he has his portions you have yours.

Change your mindset...
Stress can be a hindrance to goals - so learn to let the small stuff go.
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Unfortunately we can't be responsible for others' actions, and this includes their likes/dislikes, wants and want-nots. We cab, however, be responsible for our own actions.

Have you thought about making your own healthier versions of this? That way you can enjoy some when he has his 'fix'

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What do you both do with your days? Does husband have a workplace he can take the chips to so they're there for him to enjoy at/after work, but not accessible for you?

You can't talk some people into things. The only thing you can do is be a shining example. Never talk about deprivation in front of him. Let him see you making delicious meals that you clearly really love eating. Rave about how the changes are making you feel so much better - not just get slimmer, but have more energy, and be happier with yourself as a person.

Perhaps he'll want to change if he sees that change is not only not full of nothing but "bad tasting food and unhappiness" but even fun and tasty and worth it!

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So I am trying to eat better, get fit, and loose weight. My husband on the other hand is not. He thinks "eat better," "get fit," and etc are all synonymous with bad tasting food and unhappiness. Of course we all know that is not true! But, I can't shake HIM of that. Here is my problem: my husband and the junk food...and me.

I have gently tried to get him to agree to purchase less potato chips each grocery store run. He agreed, but always towards the end of the week, he does nothing but whine and complain about how he has nothing to eat. So this past trip, I gave in and bought 1 bag of Frito's, 1 box of cheese its, and 4 bags of Lays (we grocery shop 2 weeks at a time...long explanation to why I do this, but it works for us...except the chip problem). I'm sure I'm forgetting something, but that's a lot of junk for two (one) people! I do buy other healthier snack foods for him too that he does like, but he has a fixation on the chips.

I'm not going to lie, I eat the chips too. I have a hard time resisting their alluring saltiness and how easy they are to eat: bag + hand = done...no prep work; however, if I never buy them, I won't eat them. Simple as that; however, he can't go without. How can I alleviate this?

Does anyone have similar problems at home that they have remedied?



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