Well, when it comes to "his" snacks, you could just keep tossing them up on the highest shelf, out of sight out of mind...
but this "AND always with some special treat he knows that I like"... you'll have to do something about this. You have to tell him that although you appreciate the gesture, food-treats are just simply not-on right now... ask him - TELL HIM - to respect this request.
If he doesn't - the next time he comes home with something "just for you" - ask him, if he will be eating it? If so - high shelf. If he says no, it's for you hunny - say thank you, and then PUT IT IN THE GARBAGE. When he expresses shock and dismay, remind him that you DID ASK that he not bring these type of "treats" home. This might help him get the idea!
Honestly, just because it's there, you do NOT have any obligation to eat it. It just becomes a battle with your willpower, which doesn't feel good at ALL. I have been known to eat things that were "tempting me" just so they would be gone, so I wouldn't have to do that emotional-struggle-with-myself - it's hard! So i'd eat to be rid of that struggle. Sigh! If that's my only reason for consuming, it is something better off in the trash.
I HAVE had these kinds of issues with my spouse. About my 2nd or 3rd day in to my current "fix my life" effort, we went to a bakery-cafe for a "cup of coffee." I ordered coffee. HE ordered coffee and a HUGE greasy sugary apple fritter. The important thing in this story is - *He does not like apple fritters.* I am the apple fritter fan! But for him, they're his least favorite of the entire donut family! Soooo i sat there and drank my coffee. He picked at the fritter, offered to "share"... i said "no, not hungry, thanks anyways" (inside i was just dying lol). He tried to pawn it off on me several times. "You sure, it's really good..." as he picked and picked at the darn thing, eventually "are you SURE? it's just going to go to waste..." - and eventually we finished our coffee and left a half-eaten fritter on the table. SUCCESS.
In the subsequent couple of months, the sabotage ended and he's gotten on board... first by becoming "considerate" and more recently by jumping aboard the Healthy Train himself.
It is possible to deal with "spousal sabotage" but you have to be prepared to do what it takes to "Win" a few battles early on. They will get the point, once you show you are determined.
Goal 1 - break 200 (46 pounds lost)**DONE**
Goal 2 - leave obesity behind (BMI 29.9, at 185#) **DONE**
Goal 3 - BMI = Normal (154# or less)
| current weight: 174.0