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BEHAPPY24-7 Posts: 30
7/21/14 7:56 A

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I think every MIL gives you problems. I know from experience! We have a relationship that is good one day and strained the next. Lately its been strained! Hang in there!

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7/21/14 2:54 A

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She sounds like my MIL. Very overbearing & super sensitive to any requests to cut back. I would definitely have a good talk with your husband about everything & include WHY you feel how you feel. If she is how she sounds to be, ANYTHING that comes from you, she will take defensively, it should definitely come from him. Maybe just have him start by telling her that you guys decided not to drink when the kids are home & go from there. That may be enough to have her back off a little. Good luck.



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7/19/14 1:18 A

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I've been married for 13 years and we have four children, 7, 9, and 2.5 y/o twins. My MIL issues didn't start until our oldest was born. I will tell you that, after 9 years now of dealing with this, you and your husband need to talk about what you're okay with and what you're not okay with and HE needs to have a conversation with her (or both of you if you're comfortable with it) and set some boundaries, or it will continue and continue adding stress to your life. She may think it's all your idea, but that's her problem, not yours. You have every right to do what's right for your family. Let her know what you ARE okay with in terms of visits so she can't say you're keeping her grandchildren from her.



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7/15/14 11:06 P

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If he were to ask her not to come by, it would turn into something that /I/ told him to do. It's happened in the past. Then it would turn into a big mess and I'm "keeping her from her grandchildren". Whoa now, way too much drama.
I feel like I'm just kind of stuck between a rock and hard place, lol.

I know she doesn't mean any harm. She's just been acting overly wild. I want to say midlife crisis? But she really isn't going to find kindred spirits with us, we just don't find enjoyment out of the things she is wanting to do.



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LUANN_IN_PA Posts: 16,014
7/15/14 11:06 A

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Your husband should be the one dealing with his mother.
Does he tell her she can't come over? If not, he should!

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7/15/14 2:05 A

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My mother in law and I started out with a very strained relationship. 2 years ago, after the loss of my youngest daughter, our relationship drastically improved, however, I am always nervous that one wrong word or slip up on my part will undo everything.

The issue I am facing right now is that she is constantly wanting to make plans to come over and drink with my husband and myself. This isn't exactly something I am okay with. I can't get a baby sitter for my little ones, and I just don't want them to be around the activity (and really, drinking isn't something that is going to help me in weight loss journey).

She's been acting like a teenage girl the past few months and honestly, I just feel incredibly uncomfortable and irritated around it.
Obviously I could never say as much, but I also wish I could drop a non-imposing hint that the way she is behaving isn't fitting for a household with small children.

I've suggested on multiple occasions to my husband that he should go over to her house and spend time with her, but even he finds it all uncomfortable.

There must be a way I can settle this without it turning into full-blown drama. Does anyone have any suggestions? It's getting to a point where it's stressing me out more than I would like to admit.



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