while i'm not in the same situation as most of you- my daughter is 21- i am the other side of 'mommy guilt'. i was there, always, and to be honest i SHOULD HAVE TAKEN SOME TIME FOR MYSELF!! i didn't take care of myself- everything in my life revolved around her. while that's great, the big picture shows me that she needed to learn to take care of herself and love herself by watching me. that didn't happen. soooo... let this be a cautionary tale- maybe a gentle motivator for anyone that struggles with this now. the guilt of leaving your babies for taking care of yourself can NOT be as bad as the guilt of your children growing up having not learned the vital skills-and self love- of taking care of you. i hope this doesn't come off as harsh. i just hate to see people hurting because they want to do something healthy and necessary for them... /hugs and love to you all
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9 Days since: smoking
Fitness Minutes: (98,283)
10/18/13 6:30 P
Mom's need me time and time to recharge their batteries, so it's important to find that time for yourself and exercise is one of the best ways to do that. You'll be a better mother when you take this time for you - more patience, less resentment, more energy, positive feelings....We've all seen those Moms who loose it and are yelling at their kids, hauling them by their little arms - everyone's miserable and the guilt that those Moms when they loose control is far worse than taking the time away from the kids to look after themselves. I have 5 kids and have been a stay-at-home Mom for 25 years - my kids are 25, 23, 21, 19, and 16 so when the baby was born they were 8, 6, 4 , 2 and baby.
current weight: 178.4
Fitness Minutes: (28,847)
1,951 9/30/13 5:58 P
I work in my 9 year olds school 2 days a week. I walk to the school and back. I walk my daughter to school every morning and walk to meet her at the corner to pick her up. My daughter and I walk the dog together. The walking is my exercise. Since getting the dog 6 weeks ago, I have lost 10 pounds. I know its hard for you to be away from your kids, but maybe you could incorporate them in your work outs. Maybe take them, especially the older one to the park and play tag or kick ball or something. Or walk around the block with them in the evenings.
I am in a similar situation. I also have two children who are 17 years and 11 months old. I go directly from work to the gym at least three days per week, so I don't even see them until close to 7pm.
I don't worry as much about leaving the older one because she is up later and I can interact with her later in the evening but the baby goes to bed at 7:30pm. On gym days I come home, feed him and put him to bed. I try to take comfort in the fact that they are with their dad. One on one time with dad is important too.
I also know that I am happier, sleep better at night and more energetic to take care of household responsibilities when I am working out regularly. That "me" time is important for my sanity which ultimately benefits the kids.
I have two small children ages 4 yrs old and 9 months. I have been taking a boxing fitness class in the evening for the last week but I am starting to feel guilty about leaving my kids in the evening. They are away at childcare during the day, so we come home, I fix them dinner then I am off to my class and return in time to put them to bed. How do other moms deal with this feeling of guilt when working out in the evening?
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