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6/17/13 2:10 P

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Praying for your sons girlfriend might be a good idea. I don't know why she's doing what she is, how it impacts her life and her kids, or really anything about the situation. You may want them to break up and don't seem to like her at all. Even with everything she's doing, judging her and being mean spirited about her taking your son away, wont help anything. If the relationship does last, driving your son away by him leaning more into her isn't what I would want for anyone and their kid. Praying for people you may not like can do the most for you and the person you don't like.



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6/13/13 9:31 A

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Based on the first post about this situation and the current post, I still think that this is not necessarily the disaster you think it is. From what I gather, she's not that much older than your son although, she has much more life experience. Your son will either learn from this experience that it is too much responsibility or he will rise to meet the challenge. In both scenarios he will grow up a little bit or a lot. Have you tried getting to know her? It seems like you're making judgments without the benefit of knowing her.

Of course, I understand the need to protect your son and to try and direct him down the path you think is best for him.

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6/13/13 1:53 A

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THEY GO THROUGH "STAGES" TRUST ME. HE'LL CHANGE.



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6/13/13 1:13 A

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Thank you for your kind words and concern. I pray every night for the strength to just "sit and watch" while also praying that God will somehow break them up. I see my son wasting his teenage years. I honestly believe and have told him that he just went from one mother to another. Best of both worlds. He certainly seems to have it made. He's not out in the REAL world or on his own. She cooks, cleans, maintains the house and makes sure he gets full time work at the other office. The most he has to do is go to work and babysit on occasion. I'm hoping SHE will get tried of having another "kid" around the house!

Again, keep us in your prayers. Thanks for the hugs!




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6/12/13 11:44 P

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WOW, this was totally unexpected and I bet you were livid and sooo shocked when you found out... nothing like stabbing in the back when they lie to your face about it esp. your own..

I am soo sorry you had to find out what he was doing...

I will pray for wisdom and understanding that will hit your son and open his eyes, unfortunately, he seems this wench is very important and has a huge hook in him "which he think is love"
He will learn this lesson only a few years too late, as I did with my EX as well....it takes maturity and it takes something in his life to break it..which can happen.

It took 15 yrs for me and my EX and my family kept telling me the same stuff...but ya know, It wasn't until I was ready in my own time that I was sick of his *blank* that I was ready to get out.. then my family was there for me...

Now, I am so much better off now than what I was. I finally married someone whom everyone loves .. my family and friends come over all the time now and everyone is content...it does happen, but hopefully not in years like mine...

huge hugs to you and so sorry to hear this.

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I am sorry that things have gotten bad. I think that maybe you should voice your opinion. You are a smart lady, practice what you want to say, so that way maybe you won't sound so emotional. Try to stick to the facts. Now that they are living together he is a father figure, is he ready for that? Is he ready to have every decision he make affect others? I think not. You have been the quite supporter, I think you need to be heard. Just tell him how you feel, and also let him know that you will be there no matter what, but you don't think this is the right decision for him. Maybe even try to talk to the women. Ask her who she would feel if she were in you shoes, she is a mother, maybe mother to mother she will understand, maybe not, but you should be heard. If you chose to talk to them I would do it one on one with each of them. Good Luck.

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5/29/13 8:46 A

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I'm so sorry to hear that this has gotten worse. I will be praying for you, and your son.

I don't think that he has ruined his life, however, I don't think he grasps the gravity of the situation that he is in. He will be a "father" to these children, and he might not be ready for that. Maybe by "living together" they will implode.

Just make sure that you are there for him so that he can come to you if the relationship ends.



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5/28/13 1:13 P

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While I thought my son, Blake, was staying with friends after work, he was in fact staying with "boss lady." Now he claims they are "living together." In my opinion, he has just ruined his life and simply gone from one mother to another. It makes me sick. I am trying to take everyone's advice and stay quiet and supportive so if you have an extra second in your day, would you consider praying for my son and me? Thanks.



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