If anyone has some advice it would greatly be appreciated, because extreme stress makes me eat when and what I shouldn't....hence I gain back some of the weight that I've lost.
I have a job that I love very much. Been here for over a year now. It's a great job, lots of work during the busy season (like right now), but sometimes there's not enough work to keep two of us in the office full time all the time and the Office Manager has been here 5 years now so it's only right that she has the full time all the time hours.
My problem is this, when we have deadlines (like right now), there are nights like last night that I stay until 11:00 pm or so. This doesn't bother me, I don't mind getting the extra hours on the paycheck! The problems start when I get home. My husband threw such a fit last Friday that I was supposed to work on Saturday that I didn't work. He threatened that if I went to work on Saturday, he wouldn't be home when I got home. Last night was the same thing. I got home about 11:30 pm, got the stink eye from him, and he said he'd have his stuff gone by Saturday. He said that I needed to be home by 9pm at night (giving me a curfew like I was a teenager). Pish.....I'm 40 something years old. But this causes a lot of stress, he absolutely HATES my job, even though the money is good. He states that I shouldn't choose my job over him. Now if the OT like this happened all the time, I can see him getting upset, but it only happens a couple of times a year (last year at this time I pulled over 130 hours in a 2 week pay period, the hours were exhausting, but the paycheck was nice!). He gave me an ultimatum last night to turn in my resignation by Friday. I can't do that. #1, Jobs are hard to find, #2, jobs that you like are REALLY hard to find, and #3, I don't feel that he has the right to give me ultimatums like that or to throw a fit when I have to occasionally work over to meet a deadline. I'm worried because we have another stringent one the week after next. There is some work that I can take home with me, but since we use MAC's at work and I have a PC at home, there's not a lot. I try to come in early for these deadlines to work on stuff, but somethings we don't get until the last minute. Yet, my husband tells me that his job will be ramping up and he will probably be working 10 hours days coming up soon, and will have to go in on Saturdays and expects me to be ok with that.
I love my husband very much, and I don't want my 15 year relationship to turn sour and end, but I've been through one controlling (not to mention verbally, mentally and emotionally abusive) marriage, and I won't go through it again.
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