...That buying a house and starting a career would lead to the end of a relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for three and a half years, through lots of struggles. Since June of last year, he's been living in Ohio while I live in Iowa. At first, we almost ended it. The night I was ready to call it off he changed my mind by saying he had realized he made the worst mistake of his life by leaving me and everything he had here. Now, not even a year later, I have finished my master's degree and started the job of my dreams. I purchased a house near my job, and all along he was supportive. Now that I've closed on the house and started my job, he's decided that he can't "shine" in Iowa and needs to join the military and that we are moving in different directions.
He has always had a lot of issues with things like finishing what he starts. He is two classes away from finishing an undergraduate degree, but has spent the last two years not getting it done. He's changed his mind at least 6 times in 4 years on what he wants to be "when he grows up". Now it's the military, the end all be all that will accomplish everything he wants in life.
Problem is, he wants to be an officer and on active duty, which means he could get a commission anywhere. So he sees me putting down roots as he's deciding to embark on a journey of unknown destination. So in November we were ring shopping, and now he's ready to walk away from everything.
It's a baffling situation indeed, but one that I believe is probably fueled by jealousy of my accomplishments. As much as I don't want to give up on what we've created together, part of me feels that I deserve so much more support from someone who is supposed to love me unconditionally.
| current weight: 163.6