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KBOORE
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4/16/14 4:55 P

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losing it for my health and to live life more fully



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4/14/14 5:49 P

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My boyfriend loves me, even with my extra. He doesn't care. Now not all men are like that, some are superficial about looks. If your guy wants you to be fitter because he is concerned about your health, that is ok. But if it's just because he doesn't care for a fluffy gal, then maybe keep looking. Your guy should love you the same amount no matter what size you are.
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SHYBEAR11
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11/5/13 1:46 P

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i belive that i can do it on my own i can ask out this guy matthew



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SHYBEAR11
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4/12/13 3:37 P

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I am eating now at a portion meal a day and lost 24pounds.



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MMEEAAGGX3
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11/6/12 3:49 A

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If you need to earn your love from a significant other by changing yourself, then you do not want to earn that love because they aren't, in fact, that significant!

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LUANN_IN_PA
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11/5/12 9:35 A

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"I just cry and think about everything and I just want to find my true love"

You have to love yourself first.
Have you seen a doctor and discussed possible depression?

“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.”
~ Randy Pausch

"There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results."
~ Art Turock

"We have a saying in Tibet: If a problem can be solved, there is no use worrying about it. If it can't be solved, worrying will do no good."
~ 7 Years in Tibet


JENNILACEY
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11/5/12 8:31 A

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Does your boyfriend say things to make you feel this way? Or is this how you feel about yourself?

I am going to give you a few hard truths here;

1) If you are losing weight for someone else and not yourself, you will fail.

2) I will admit I could *tell* my husband was less attracted to me physically when I was overweight. But he still loved me, he still showed he loved me and he has been a very encouraging and positive supporter during my weight loss. He never once told me I needed to lose weight. It was entirely my decision. One of the most encouraging things he said to me when I started losing weight is that he was more attracted to me and feels like he's falling in love with me all over again, not because I was losing weight but because I was finally acting like I care about myself and I was so much more happy. Which was all true and meant so much to me to hear him say that.

3) As a person who has suffered from eating disorder since I was 12 years old, I can tell you that they are not pretty. And if you have a lot to lose, you will lose a crazy amount of weight in the beginning and then it will stop completely and you will end up in the hospital or dead before you manage to lose just one more pound. You will never see your goal weight.

4) You will slow your metabolism down to a crawl and will not be able to eat like you could of (normally) without *gaining* weight. For example: Let's say you're only eating 300-500 cals a day. Your body will think it's starving and go into fat storing mode. So where you could have lost weight eating 1400-1800 cals, you will now gain weight if you try to eat over 1000 cals.

5) Because of 4 you would have to keep it up for the rest of your life, eating between 300-500 cals to keep the weight off. Which obviously isn't possible because you'd eventually end up in the hospital or dead before long. You will also be extremely prone to binge eating. You will be dying to get some food in you so every now in then you'll just go absolutely crazy and eat everything in sight which will leave you in a limbo of not losing any weight or even gaining more weight.

6) You will lose a ton of lean muscle which will leave you looking flabby, "skinny fat". You will have tons of loose skin from losing the weight too quickly.

7) I know it probably feels like losing the weight you want is a lifetime away but you have to look at it as getting "healthy" not losing vanity pounds. Losing the pounds is just a result of getting healthy. I promise if you look at it that way and make that your mantra, you will be far more successful in losing the weight, sticking to the program and keeping it off.

I suffered from depression and low self-worth when I was heavier but changing my mantra to getting "healthy" and taking care of myself over losing the weight has made me feel so empowered and my depression has disappeared. I am so proud of myself for a change and all the positive changes I've made for *myself*.

Focusing on eating healthy, balanced, clean foods and exercise changed how I feel about myself. I watched my heart rate drop from 80-90 bpm to 60 bpm (that of a professional athelete). Strength training has made me stronger and standing for long periods of time and cardio easier. I no longer get out of breath doing simple chores and I have tons of energy. I went from only being able to handle a 20 mins of cardio to over 60 mins. I couldn't jump before without hurting my knees, ankles or calves and now jumping is a breeze. 99% of my meals are now cooked from scratch when I couldn't cook to save my life 4 months ago. I now get all the required nutrients, vitamins and minerals to keep my body healthyThese are just some of the things you can focus on rather than the scale, which is vital when you have a lot to lose.

Some more encouragement, my sister lost 110 lbs using Spark. She is definitely my inspiration.

Edited by: JENNILACEY at: 11/5/2012 (12:02)

Take your focus off the Marshmallow.

www.leangains.com/2010/01/marshmallo
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"Toning" is marketing muscles to women who are afraid if they pick up a barbell, they'll leave the gym looking like She-Hulk. If you don't want to get bulky, lift heavy!

I can bench Nicole Richie, eat more than she does in a day before noon, I have a good 20 lbs on her but could still wear her pants.


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SHYBEAR11
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11/2/12 3:21 P

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Okay cool



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SHYBEAR11
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11/2/12 3:19 P

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I just cry and think about everything and I just want to find my true love



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KRISTINGETSFIT
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5/27/12 9:43 P

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do this- and other things- for yourself. not someone else.

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go...”
― Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Places You'll Go!


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LDMCNIEL
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5/26/12 9:26 P

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I lost weight not for anyone else, but for myself. If you're trying to do it for someone else. It will not work.

EST Zone. Love yourself first, and others will soon follow.


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HEALTHNBEAUTY
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5/25/12 1:56 P

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You can do bad by yourself. You don't need ANYONE to bring you down!!

"To thine ownself be true"


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5/23/12 11:47 A

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Want to know how to lose 100+ pounds, really fast?

dump that lowlife of a boyfriend. it'll feel much better than starving yourself.

“Sometimes the moments that challenge us the most, define us.” - Deena Kastor

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HBARNES5
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5/23/12 8:21 A

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You have to be happy with your self! dont spend your time trying to always please others, do what makes you happy and is also healthy!



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5/23/12 1:29 A

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Weight loss should never be about love of someone else. You need to love yourself, first. If he has an issue with your weight, you shouldn't be with him - he is being selfish and self-centred.

Ditch the guy and find someone who will treat you like the most beautiful woman ever, no matter what your size.

And if you do need to lose weight, do it for you and your health, not by refusing to eat, but by moving your body. I had to find out the hard way I wasn't eating enough for how much working out I was doing. Spark trackers are awesome for doing that.1



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DRAGONCHILDE
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5/22/12 5:24 P



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If your boyfriend doesn't love you, then why is he your boyfriend? His problem isn't your weight. It's him, for being a bad boyfriend.

If you stop eating, you'll die. Your body needs fuel to function, and starving yourself slows your metabolism, and sabotages your weight loss efforts.

This is not a healthy response. YOu need to get to a medical professional to be evaluated, you may have an eating disorder, suffer from depression, or something else.

Heather
Writer, mother, wife, and breadwinner. I love to run, but running doesn't love me, so I'm switching to my low-impact bike.

I'm not pregnant, just fat: My blog.

fatnotpregnant.blogspot.com/


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KAMILLAVIRAG1
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5/22/12 1:31 P

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Uh, poor you if you really think wasting away will get him love you. Love yourself, treat yourself right and find someone else who loves you the way you are.




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TJANDJESS
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5/21/12 10:40 P

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If he doesn't love you the way you are he doesn't deserve you. A man should love you unconditionally. You can do better!

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JENMC14
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5/21/12 2:56 P

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Huh? You think that if you don't eat you'll lose weight and your boyfriend will love you more? Seriously. You need to get professional help.

I am 5'4".
Starting Weight (4.6.11) 164.6
First Goal 130 - Reached September 2011
Currently maintaining under 120 and working on changing my mental image of myself!


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SHYBEAR11
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5/21/12 2:44 P

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I feel like not eating any more , so that I loss weight and I get my boyfriend to love me more, andi feel if I do that it would work



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