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7/6/14 9:56 P

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Just wanted to say thanks to all the great comments on this tread. This is a great topic! I am considering another and I just turned 41, I feel a little crazy to be starting again. My only child is 15

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6/26/14 4:48 P

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Yes! I had my first baby at age 36, my fourth and last at 42. All of my kids are beautiful, but I want to caution you about doctors and our society that tries to discourage babies. The doctor who delivered my first three children, actually told me my fourth would be suffer from downs syndrome and recommended that I abort my baby, who is now almost 12 and not downs.

He stried to scare us so, but we told that doctor that if "God gave us a beautiful, loving downs baby we would be blessed." He ordered us to genetic counseling and recommended amniocentisis, then he quit being my doctor. I refused the amniocentisis because I knew it could cause spontaneous abortion. We did go through genetic counseling, which mostly continued to scare us because it could not verify whether or not our baby would be downs. But it could tell us our baby did not have spinal problems.

It took a while to find a new doctor, but she helped deliver my baby boy naturally, announcing at his birth that he was not downs. Problem is, she wanted to tie my tubes and pushed and urged me to do so right after giving birth, how ridiculous. My child bearing years were just about done, why would I mutilate my body?!

Our society is goofy, and I was lucky to have had a grandmother who had 9 children, the last two born in her 40s, at home! Be careful, society has gone too far down the population control road. If I would have listened the my doctor, I would have murdered my beautiful boy, and would have always wondered if I made the wrong choice.

As for any weight gain, I found breast feeding to be a miraculous calorie burner, and was so thin pretty quick. It wasn't until later when kid activities cut into my fitness and caring for myself that I let myself gain a bit of weight. But, like any weight gain, I am now addressing it, and am confident I can get back to being thinner, thanks to Sparkpeople!

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3/24/14 6:52 P

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I was 42 going on 43 (two months after they were born) when I had my twin girls. It was a great experience. Even though they classed me as high risk because of my age, and weight all was great and I went 37 weeks and they weighed 5.2 and 6.1 and were both healthy. They are now 3.5 years old. I had a C-section but that was all good. I do agree with the previous poster that there were a lot of doctor's appointments and closer to my due date I had to have more testing to monitor the babies and myself. All went well. Age can play a roll in having a baby after 40 but it sure should not stop someone if that is what they want to do. If I didn't do it then I would never have my two wonderful girls.

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3/24/14 4:26 P

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Like a previous poster, my twins were my 40th birthday present. I had a 5 year old at the time. My twins were born at 38 weeks, weighing 6.5 and 7 pounds. No complications, but it was a very medicalized pregnancy with lots and lots of tests and appointments. I had a c-section because they were both breach (sideways and upside down), and had previously had a c-section. Recovery was fine.

Gained about 55 pounds, but lost all of it. But, I'm gaining some back....I'm thinking everything is slowing down except my kids. I have to be incredibly strict on my eating to lose. Can't let anything slide or I find that I quickly gain (not even maintaining). The eating is the key for me. Exercise is awesome for many health reasons, but it won't work for me unless I'm really on track with food. Way harder than at age 35!




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3/17/14 3:29 A

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I really want to thank you for posting, we had baby 2 last summer. Forty at the time and the weight is just not coming off.. I do not even know where to start. I've tried eating better, walking and walking so far I'm not losing anything. Have you had any success you could share? I am not afraid to work hard!:)

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I had my son at 40. It was my first and only child so the delivery was tough, but it's been wonderful having a child. If I knew how meaningful my life would be, I'd have done it years earlier.

In the end, the best things in life came from our own inner growth and that came from dealing with things that we wish didn't exist and making them better. So in that way, bad things are a huge blessing.


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9/13/13 4:14 A

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I just wanted to thank you all for writing your experiences here. I'm 41 and hoping to start a family, as for one reason and another - medical and personal - that's not happened before. There are a whole lot of depressing stories on this topic online, so some good news for a change was really great! Thank you.



 
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10/15/12 3:06 P

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Not me, but my mom. She was 34 when she had her first child, 39 when i was born and had 2 more children at ages 41 & 43. (She was pregant for the last time at age 45 and lost that baby. She was devastated!)
This was also in the 50`s and early 60`s and dad had rare blood, but none of us had rh factor.


Just realized I had already posted on this! oh well my parents were old, but they were the best! I was blessed from day 1 and thank God everyday for it.

Edited by: 1GROVES2 at: 10/15/2012 (15:09)
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10/8/12 3:08 P

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I had my 4th child one month before I turned 40 and now, thanks to SparkPeople and exercise, I have more energy than I did in my 30s, before having my kids (including twins!)

Good luck in whatever you do in life!



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9/25/12 7:50 P

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I had my son at 41, after a miscarriage at 39. Pregnancy was sooo easy, I had 'metal mouth' but apart from that it was plain sailing. Labour, what labour.....my ward mate had her baby 2 days before me and had no labour, baby came in 20 mins and I thought wow...Until it was my turn....doctor checked me, I was 0mm dilated, sent hubby home...."nothing happening here for a few hours'. I felt a little discomfort 15 mins after hubby left, dr checked for dilation again and I made the comment 'with my luck....I know I'll be fully dilated', guess what.....I was.....time to push. My bundle of joy was out within 10 mins, thank God my sis stayed with me, as hubby had gone home. Baby fine, mum fine....hospital turfed me out after day 1! I'm 44 now and would love another.....all in good time!



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5/4/12 2:53 P

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I had twins when I was 40.

The pregnancy was difficult, but mainly because it was twins, not because of my age. There were no complications or anything, I just had a double-dose of morning sickness, water retention and weight gain. I spent a few weeks on bed-rest in the hospital, and they were born 6 weeks early.

My youngest two (one boy, one girl) are 2 1/2 now, and such a blessing. There's a significant gap in age between my older children and my youngest 2, so the older ones are able -- and WILLING -- to pitch in and help. I'm at a point in my career where I'm sufficiently established that I have a flexible schedule and can take a bit of time off to deal with child-care emergencies, something that was much more difficult when I was younger and building my career. Every lesson I've learned with the younger children is making parenting decisions with these two a simpler process. If I could do it over again I wouldn't change a thing.



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5/4/12 2:14 P

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I was born when my mom was 39, my sister was born when mom was 41 and a my brother when she was 43. Mom was 29 when she marriedand was 35 when she had her first baby....(she had 5 in 9 years) We are all in our 50`s now,except big sister who is 60. There have been so many medical advances in the years that a lot of people are waiting. It really is a miracle that we all not only survived, but were full term and healthy from the start! We were born in the 50s and at a very small rural hospital...My Mother was absolutely the best! Oh and Daddy was great too!First time father at 36 and attended his youngests HS graduation at 64. I guess, I really didn`t understand the question.

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5/1/12 10:37 A

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The main down side is that I feel older and as if I have less energy. But she's a fairly easy child, so less energy isn't critical. Plus with SparkPeople and encouragement to be active again, I have hope that I will have the kind of energy I did when I was younger.

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5/1/12 9:08 A

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My sister is over fifty and she just adopted her son's daughter who is under two.



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I was 41 when I had my youngest daughter. She arrived 4 weeks early, but everything is ok. Twelve years later, the early arrival is not an issue.

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4/29/12 11:39 A

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I had my last child 18 months ago and for me its been hard only because I fell into depression and had to rethink everything I thought and now I am blessed to have her. After having gone through several miscarriages, she pulled through thr tough times to make it out. there are times I felt I regretted having her but she didnt asked to be born and its truly a blessing to have her in my life. our lives. she makes our day.

wow! all this is so amazing. Amazing site. so much motivation that I fee like I have so many coaches and trainers rooting for all of us. Awesome.


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4/29/12 10:40 A

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Not yet but we are trying. I am 44 and so far we have had 2 chemical pregnancies and a miscarriage at 10 weeks. Heartbreaking but I am not giving up hope! I know of so many women having babies after 40 now. Good luck if that is what you are trying for! :)



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Almost, I was 37. Its been both a joy and at times exhausting. I now know why most people have kids in their 20s! hah! much more energy. That said, our little boy is the joy of our world and we'd never change a thing about him!



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I had my son at age 42. He's now 5 years old and healthy except he has cerebral palsy and partial paralysis in his throat. Unfortunately, He was born at 23 weeks gestation. He suffered a grade IV intraventricular hemorrhage with periventricular leukomalacia. Which is a whole lot of fancy medical jargon and basically means he had a severe brain bleed and the blood was in between the lobes of his brain as well as on all 4 lobes. That blood pushed into the white matter of his brain and caused brain damage which resulted in cerebral palsy and mental retardation. Although they now use the term 'developmentally delayed' in an effort to be politically correct.
I do not care for that term though, because it causes confusion.
People hear 'developmentally delayed' and assume that means he will eventually catch up with his peers and that his cognitive ability is not impaired. And sadly that just isn't true. His cognitive ability is impaired and he will not be able to catch up with his peers.
So you can see why I think the term 'developmentally delayed' is misleading.
He was in the NICU for a full 8 months. Luckily he's only been admitted to the hospital twice since then. Once for an overnight stay before a surgery and again when he began having seizures. He currently is in Kindergarten and is a happy little guy in spite of all he's been through. :-)

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4/18/12 10:32 P

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I had my children at 19, 24, 36 & turned 40 during my last pregnancy. The easiest pregnancies & labor/deliveries were the first two (my daughters)...I noticed a few changes in hospital policies by the time I had my younger kids. There was an insistence on Pitocin that made my third birth experience much more difficult than I felt it needed to be. When I straight up refused it with my last little guy I had to so many times that my (by then adult) oldest daughter started saying it for me! (she can get a skosh combative when provoked). I say the later pregnancies were harder simply because I was substantially heavier during them.



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3/9/12 3:29 P

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I had my fourth child the same year I turned 40, just 2 months before



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3/8/12 3:42 P

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Close, I had my daughter at 38.5 and she's about to turn one. I turn 40 in September.



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All I know is bless you all.I love kids but I think it would be rough for me at 40.Even though you are more laid back and can enjoy them more at an later age.emoticon

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i had my 1st at age 16, 2nd at age 23 and 3rd at age 40, 5 years ago.


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12/16/11 5:40 P

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I have three little boys, and they all came after the age of 40! The joy of our lives. I had no complications, all were healthy....however, I feel my age now and notice it is getting more and more difficult to shed the pounds.

I read that if junk food is the temptation, distract yourself with something else for 10mn., it is supposed to subside...(unless there is mint/chocolate chip ice cream in the freezer!)


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I haven't but do have a couple of friends that had babies after 40. No problems for them or the babies. I have a friend who is pregnant now (she is 44) and so far everything is going great. 2 of them it was their first child and the other her 4th.

The food you eat can either be the safest and most powerful form of medicine or the slowest form of poison. - Ann Wigmore


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My step mom had my sister when she was 42. My sister was born 6 weeks premature, weighed just over 2 lbs but she is now 12 and living a very normal life. You would never know she had such a hard beginning to life.

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I had a baby 6 weeks before I turned 40, and then another 19 months later at the age of 41. I have a child from a previous relationship when I was 19, so it is a little different medically to being a first-time parent later in life. As far as how "it" went, I'm not sure what you're asking. I was able to concieve naturally, although it took 6 months (7 cycles) for DS2, with DS3 it was the first full cycle of trying. Both pregnancies were without complications, the same with deliveries (DS1 was a long labour and ended with a forceps delivery and epiesiotomy(sp?)). I occasionally worry about my ability to keep up with two active boys aged 19 months apart, which is part of why I'm here - I need to get fitter before DS3 gets mobile! He's currently 7 weeks old. Any other questions just ask away emoticon

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I'm only 31, but two of my aunts had babies in their 40's-everything was fine. One of those was a later in life "surprise", and the other aunt waited to have children until she was finished with her master's degree and established in her career. Pregnancies were normal, no complications.

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If so please tell how it went?




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