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11/18/09 5:08 P

I am so sorry to hear about everything that's going on in your life right now.

My husband and I have weathered some pretty tough storms with the help of proffesional counselling. I reccommend you find one, and both of you go. If he won't go, then you can still go on your own. Don't give up! Good luck!

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11/17/09 10:39 A

That's great that you have a family trip to plan and look forward to - have faith that the "gumption" to move forward will show up beneficially in so many ways (including the scales).

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11/17/09 8:18 A

Tina - Way to go. Keep us posted so we know how you and your sister are doing. Enjoy Disney Land or Disney World!!!

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11/17/09 6:55 A

update ... things seem to bet better this week got back to the gym after being sick for almost 2 weeks feels like i have motivation again... and we booked our trip to disney in feb that i wans;t going to do because of my sister i decided we still have to live too...
thanks for caring
tina
now if i can just get those scales to move
have a great day ...
thanks

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11/16/09 2:17 P

Tina - Please take a moment to let us know how you are doing. There are several SparkPeople who care and would like to know that you have found a way to express yourself and get back into the swing of things.

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11/16/09 1:27 P

Kudos to you for posting about it - writing about something so intense can be a very powerful tool.

Thoughts and prayers are with you during these rough seas !

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11/12/09 5:01 P

Tina, I'm so sorry to hear. Hugs and prayers - a lot!!!

I wish I could add to what the others said, but, uncharacterisitcally, I really can't. They have said somne good things. Take care of yourself; get some space for a bit if you need.

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11/12/09 1:01 P

First of all I am so sorry to hear about your sister, this must be an incredibly difficult time for you.

I recently went through a rough patch where I took everything out on my family. I blamed my DH for all my anger issues, I yelled at my kids constantly. I almost lost my family. I was finally convinced that the problem was really me. I went to counseling (available for free through my work) it only took 3 sessions and I felt better than I had in weeks. That was 2 months ago and I am still trying to repair the damage I did to my relationship. I came to the conclusion that eventhough there were things that he was doing that I was unhappy with, I could only control my own actions. If I did what was right the rest would follow and so far so good.

Hang in there things are bound to get better.



Edited by: FROGGIEBEAR at: 11/12/2009 (13:03)

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11/12/09 10:41 A

I agree with the last post .. the best thing to do is reach out to someone you can talk to and show you the compassion you are looking for. Recently, a friend of mine was put under extreme pressure and I found out so I actually called her! It helped for her just to talk. Her life is loaded with a lot of stress all the time and her husband is of no help!

I believe you have a heightened sense of aggravation with your husband now but now is not the best time to deal with it. But I believe that as soon as you feel more in control that you need to speak with you husband about how you are feeling and what you both can do to get the support each other needs.

Best wishes to you and I will be thinking of you and sending good thoughts your way.

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11/11/09 3:12 P

Hey Tina -

You need lots of hugs right now and I am sorry that all of the SparkPeople members aren't there to physically share them with you.

Please call someone that you can talk to. Where do you live/work? Do you have access to a help line? I know that many employers offer a free help line to call when you feel like there is just too much going on. Also, there is 211.org to find assistance. Many areas you can call it from your phone just like 611 or 911. Other areas you need to go to the website and enter your location to find the toll free number for your area.

Please let us know how you are doing. This time of year is very difficult for many and reaching out is the best thing you can do.

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11/11/09 2:52 P

i am ready to explode soon emotionally its a long story try to make it short .. in sept my sister was dinosned with brain cancer (grade 4 astrocytoma)sistics are not great .... i am angry, and noting feels right it has added great and i mean great stress to me and my family life ,, i am just getting over being very sick for a week .. my husband and i are fighting like cats and dogs he slept on the coach we have had some good blow ups before and he has never done that ... he never finishes tasks and screws alot of stuff up ... witch affects me and our family i am so sick and tired of dealing with him i resent him for years when i have wanted to go home with my family he always had reasons not to go ... now i am pissed and can't let anything go he asked me last night if i hated him that bad .. i honestly can't answer that right now cause i will hurt his feelings.. i just don't have the time or want to deal with him right now i have a full plate... i don't know what i want i want an easy button i guess i am so sad, angry and confused .. not once has he held me and tried to comfort me i resent him for that tooo .. he told me he has feeling to i told him for 12 yrs he didn;t have feelings i don't have time for them now .. i am very mean and unforgiving at this point where do i turn what do i do????
i feel like i am gonna crack ... i have yrs of resentment coming flooding back
what now..
thanks
tina

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