I posted this in the Cafe, but they recommended I post here as we'll for a male opinion. I reserve the right to delete this later as it is a very sensitive topic for me.
I need to put this out there to people who don't know me. I don't know if I'm making a mistake or if this is normal behaviour.
I've been with my boyfriend from almost 2 years and lived together for the last 9 months. I don't know if I'd describe his behaviour as controlling, but I'm not sure how else to describe it, but all I do know is that it has gotten worse. For example, yesterday it rained. I went to let the dog out and kicked off my slippers so they wouldn't get wet, but I guess the bottoms of my pants got wet. My boyfriend started complaining that I was going to track mud through the house, I stated that I would just take off the pants but he didn't want me to let my kids see me in my underwear. Basically, there was no right choice for me. I chose to take off my pants in the basement and I've been paying for that decision ever since. He hates my dog (which he knew was part of the package) and tells me so everyday. I fear that we are nearing the point that he's going to say it's him or the dog. Myself, as well as my kids, are super attached to this dog, and he doesn't "do" anything, I don't know why he hates him. I tried to talk to him last night about how ridiculous he was being and he wouldn't talk to me, so I went to bed. He came to bed a few hours later and made a ton of noise waking me up just so that he could b&*$h at me some more.
I packed his lunch last night and this morning he threw it all on the counter saying he didn't need anything from me (I pack his lunch every day). Also, at some point last night, he threw out my kids candy because he didn't think it belonged where I had put it.
He's now not speaking to me at all. I'm at a complete loss. I swear, I have no idea what I did to make him so angry at me. I love this man with all my heart and I am so hurting right now. He has never once in our entire relationship apologized to me, and I don't expect him to. I just need to know if his behaviour is normal or if I have somehow, yet again, gotten myself into a relationship w/ a controlling jerk.
You get whatever you settle for.
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