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11/17/09 3:32 P

SMOKEYS_HELPER Thank you so much for you insightful advice into the situation.

TURKERW and MYCUTEGIZMO thank you as well:o)

CHHHRRRLLLSSS Thank you I do realize I need to find someone who is a stable boyfriend and who is attracted to me mentally and physical and who can appreciate my physical as well, because untimately that is what attracts a person at first is your looks until they get to know you that is.

And I wont necessarily be holding off dating until I lose weight, if I meet someone I will be dating other than that I'm not going out of my way to meet someone I'll just let what happens happpens.But then again that sounds kind of drab :o(

How do you meet a man anyway to go out with? most men I met when I was going to school or working or through someone, I've never met men in random places and land dates that way. And I don't do bars so forget about it.

And not for once do I think you're looking down on anyone who has sex before marriage. You holding out on sex until marriage, in fact it's respectable and I commend you for your strength in doing so. Keep up the great work of taking care of you.

Edited by: BROWNBOMBSHELL1 at: 11/17/2009 (15:35)

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11/12/09 1:02 P

While I am not sexually active I would say that you do need to find a stable boyfriend that will love you for You.

I've also stopped dating until I lose my weight. I don't really need a girlfriend as much as I'd like one. I plan to spend the next few months losing weight for myself and getting in shape and then see what happens. I'm in no rush and I don't plan on having sex until I'm married. (no offense to anyone that does have sex outside of marriage, that's just my view on it)

Good luck on your journey!

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11/12/09 9:45 A

Well it's definitely more reliable to find a boyfriend that loves you not by looks but by heart=)

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11/11/09 10:04 P

So true Smokey. You don't need to be perfect to be beautiful. 90% of sex is mental, your attitude determines if you are sexy or not.

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11/10/09 12:38 P

The first thing that came to mind is "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". I know..you're rolling your eyes but it's true.
You mentioned you have an on again - off again boyfriend..well, he is seeing YOU the way you are NOW and is OK with that. Meaning, you are attractive to him just the way you are. (The way it should be!!)
When I started here on Sparkpeople, I was (by the doctors charts...120lbs over weight, I'm still 85 lbs over using their charts...... However, I've lost 46lbs and feel great. Sex is even better!!

My suggestion to you, find a boyfriend that loves YOU the way you are NOW. Let him make you feel sexy and in time...you will begin to feel it too. The power of having someone hold you, caress you can make you feel sexy. Having someone tell you will make you believe it!!

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11/9/09 8:29 P

I don't really feel like my user name, but that is my goal to feel like a brown bomb shell!

I'm 63 lbs overweight and I don't feel sexy at all, my boobs are a massive triple D and I have to much tummy fat. And although I have an on again off again boyfriend, there is no way I'm getting naked while this over weight. Hence the reason for the off more than on boyfriend.

How do you other spark men deal with feelings of being un sexy while over weight and how do you handle a romantic liaison or not while working on yourself and not running your spouse off? Or how do you handle it when your woman is the one to much overweight or obese?

It has nothing to do with me feeling pretty or not, because I know that I'm attractive, but body sexy while this over weight, I'm not. I can't fake the confidence to feel sexy when I'm not at this weight.

Thanks for all replies