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I put off going to the gym for ages. The one I joined has trainers that ensure you know what to do before they let you loose on the equipment and you get a weekly session with the trainer for the first month and then one session a month thereafter. That's really helpful, and there's always someone on hand if you need help. But I also find the regular gym users who are much fitter and stronger than me are happy to help if I need anything. I'm sometimes, but not always, the oldest one in there. This time of year I'm not usually quite the largest as people are still keeping to their new years resolutions! But I get the feeling that people are more likely to respect the fact that I make an effort and go, rather than judging me for being overweight, too old etc.

On a practical note - is there a friend who you could persuade to go with you at least for the first couple of times? All new situations can be difficult even without social anxiety disorder and going with a friend could be a big help.



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I agree with Timothy53. Everyone else is too busy worrying about themselves and what they look like to really pay much attention to you!

There's is no getting away from the fact that people do look around at others when they are at the gym - but you have to remember that we are all at the gym for the same thing - to improve our health, whether that is by losing weight and getting fit or building strong muscles - so we are all on the same side. If people are judging you they are judging you with kindness and compassion, and a sense of encouragement. When I see very obese people come into my gym I mentally praise them for making the effort and trying - something that many others don't.

So just remember, most people are too busy judging themselves to judge you: but if they do notice you and think anything about you, it's likely to be positive thoughts, not negative.






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I am going to give you something to help you overcome your anxiety. Most people there are not judging you negatively. They are too into their own gym anxiety to notice yours.
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Or they if they see you and actually notice you and think about you, they are pulling for you to be successful.

Most are too busy with their own workouts to be bothered with judging you.

Look around. Find someone who seems to know what they are doing. Ask some advice. Anything. Pretend you don't know how to use the lat pull-down machine:
youtu.be/UMC48BO-GQE

OK, you don't have to pretend.

Believe me when I tell you, almost everyone in that gym is not judging you.



Start by doing what is necessary, then do what is possible and suddenly you will be doing the impossible. -- St Francis of Assisi


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I "hide" in the classes. Realistically there are two types of people who take the classes at the gym, people who have been doing it for a while and really enjoy the format or are just addicted to exercise usually really skinny youngsters or former fitness instructors, trainers, what not but they tend to be good natured and not very intimidating and on more than one occasion I've seen some of them stop what they were doing to take the time to show someone new how to do something. The second type are people who are new to exercise and want to learn, often people who are very intimidated by the setting. The classes are designed with beginners in mind, the vast majority of the exercises are either modifiable or can be readily associated to something you already do. Of course they can be intense but why would you do it if it wasn't and there has to be a draw to keep the regulars coming back. The plus side you will learn how to do things and in good form. Its safe because you don't have to do anything you're not comfortable with and most instructors do not shy away from modifications, its the same workout so you're not looked down upon. Once you're confident you can workout, alot of the stuff can easily be transferred to your own workout and you'll have a base of knowledge to reference. A lot of anxiety comes from feeling like you're doing something wrong but you can't be doing something wrong if everyone else is doing the same thing, then everyone would be wrong. Anxiety in this sense is a good thing, it means you value it enough to be worried but just give yourself a chance and you'll see in no time that its fairly easy to overcome.

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I've never had any type of "anxiety", but since I'm OLD at 64 and I go into a military gym full of young people who are all in shape, I just ignore them and do what I do for me.



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Oh that is so beautiful Simone!

Once you stop living, you start dying.... I ain't got time for that!!


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Here's an article from a gym regular: http://ericamillard.com/?p=1566

Simone

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I'm right there with you on the gym anxiety! I've purchased an awesome strength training plan that I have yet to use because I'm to anxious to wander into free weight land. I do go in and use the cardio equipment and sometimes the weight machines. To do that I do what most have said. I put on my music and focus on that. A playlist of my favorite tunes is a God send on the elliptical. One annoyance is at the gym I joined last September, it seems to be acceptable etiquette to approach and visit with people during their work out. Grrrr. Leave me alone! I am in my zone! The really sad thing is that the trainers do it too, they should know better. I don't think I'll renew here. Once this contract is up I'm going to Gold's, at least there people leave you alone during your workout!

Once you stop living, you start dying.... I ain't got time for that!!


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I decided once to look around, really look and for me, I decided everyone is into their own thing. I tell myself too. Like a mantra. I deflect any negativity. I feel stronger in mind and body.

You keep on moving!

I love music!


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I put on my music and concentrate on my form and breathing. Block everything else out!



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What about going with a friend, would that help?



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you have the same problem that i have what i do is put my music on and tune everyone out and think about what i will look like once i hit my goal weight.

i gotta stick with my goal. i can see my way through this this and i will succeed.


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As others have suggested, I started out by going at the last hour the gym was open, 10 pm, when it was usually almost empty. Also although this philosophy has taken me a long time (too long) to adopt, I've finally learned that unless they're my doctors or my trainer or my tailor, it just doesn't freaking matter what people think about my blubbery arms and saggy belly or that i don't run fast and I'm not very strong and it's h hard for me to do things that are simple for most people... .this is one of those situations where "what other people think of me is none of my business" definitely applies.

Of course, I still wish there weren't quite so many mirrors....



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I love to go on off-peak hours- I like to use weights and getting side-eye from the young dudes in the muscle shirts is always unnerving.

"I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do."
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I'm in the same situation! I've been going to the same college for two years and finally this week for the first time worked up the nerve to work out in the on-campus gym. I was pretty much petrified - I actually stretched before and after in the bathroom because I felt awkward about it - but when I went in to work out I just put my earbuds in and tried to focus on myself and not think about anyone else in the room or what they were doing or thinking. It was actually a pretty positive experience and I'm hoping to go back next week. Good luck!



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There is no easy answer. I find when I'm in a situation like you describe is to take advice from Nike and "Just do it". It's never been as bad as I thought it would be. After going a few times, you'll feel like you belong and you do. It's just taking those first steps. It's a shame not to use the facilities especially when it's so handy!
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I have been a gym-goer most of my life, but after periods of not going, or joining a new gym, I have some anxiety. There are a few things I do that really help...

1. Get a new workout outfit that you really feel cute and comfortable in.

2. Listen to music that really boosts your spirit and put it on before you walk in. Focus on how the music makes you feel.

3. Ignore everybody else and focus on how proud you are that you are actually overcoming the anxiety and that you made it in!




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I have anxiety when it is a new situation and I don't know exactly what is going on. I get the same way when I start at a new gym since I don't know where everything is. Is there someone who you can have give you a tour? It may help you feel a bit more like you belong.



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have someone from the gym take you around and show you how to use all the machines that you are interested in - each time you want to learn something new as the gym as that should be part of your membership -

most gyms have an intro to the gym so also get a personal trainer to work with you on the weights and ask them if they can write down the routine so that you can follow on your own - so now you have equipment you know how to use, and free weights and a written routine to follow

What now is there to have anxiety about??

if your gym is not willing to do that , then join another gym

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I didn't overcome, I just exercise at home and outdoors.
The reason is only partly the gym anxiety, the other part is that I'm lazy to get dressed up and shower a second time ; )

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My dad brought me into a Y to work out for the first time as soon as I was old enough, so I don't have quite the same anxiety about being in a gym!

However, I do remember feeling very awkward at my college's rec center, too. It was different from the Y - no older adults, for one thing, and way more toned physiques! I found the best way to get around that anxiety was to do one of the following:

1. Get a workout buddy! I would ask one my girlfriends to go with me. Even if we didn't actually work out together, just knowing there's someone else there that I know and trust helped a lot.

2. Take a class! My school offered a bunch of different classes - everything from weight lifting to archery. The classes can help you learn how to use unfamiliar equipment or even just help you get more comfortable being in the facility itself.

3. Set a specific goal, like running in a race over the summer or swimming a mile by next school year or bench pressing a certain amount. Having a goal to focus on may help you pay less attention to what anyone else around you might be thinking, and if someone does talk to you, you can tell them about your goal!

4. Most college facilities also offer "how to use our equipment" tours, so maybe schedule one of those during that convenient class break. Learn how to use the equipment, then spend some time on it! Even if you already technically know how to use it, just scheduling that appointment will get you in the door.


I miss my college's facilities! No other gyms have the variety available on a college campus, so I really hope you get in the door - this is too good an opportunity to pass up!

Take life one day at a time - enjoy today before you worry about tomorrow.


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I felt the same at first. Now I can honestly say I love going to the gym now. I got over that first fear by starting small.
1. On day one, just go in, use the rest room and leave.
2. Day two, go in, walk on the treadmill for five minutes and leave.
3. Day three, walk on treadmill and try one machine and leave

and so on. If you feel confident enough to do more, then you will! Good luck!

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Positive self talk and prayer.

All things are possible if you only believe, even losing 15 pounds


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The main thing is to remember that everyone else at the gym is thinking about how THEY look, not about how YOU look. Most people are focused entirely on their own self-consciousness or pride in their appearance. A gym is full of people who are in a self-absorbed frame of mind: My workout, My thighs, My flabby arms, etc. So! You have nothing to worry about as far as being the focus of anyone's eyes...they're all busy watching themselves in the mirrors; or, trying NOT to look at themselves, and watching the TV's at the gym, or reading a magazine, or zoned out with their iPod, or whatever! When I was young, I used to worry about how I looked, at my ballet class. Then one day I had an epiphany. As I glanced around, I saw every pair of eyes fixated on herSELF in the mirrors. Nobody was looking at me. If they looked at anyone, it was at the Miss Perfect in the center front row, the teacher's pet with the perfect slender ballet body and the posture and turn-out of a professional dancer. Nobody notices the regular ole you-and-me type of people! So, don't worry about it. You're practically invisible! :)

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First and foremost I found a gym that was accepting. I'd heard about other gyms in town and knew they weren't for me. The place I go now has supportive staff and the people who workout there don't really care. It's not a fitness contest and I like that. They also have a women's only room that is nice. Since the gym I go to has a good morale I really don't mind or think about if others are judging me. If they don't want to look at me there are plenty of other places they can hop on a treadmil. I think it's all a matter of finding the right place and being comfortable with yourself.



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You are very much not alone!
I have a gym membership as an employment benefit, and it took me a year to use it initially. I am still very hesitant about trying new things, but I do go for cardio at least. I started out just using the stationary bikes, since it was a piece of equipment I'm familiar with and they're located at the back of the cardio room, so I didn't feel like anyone was watching me. I've progressed somewhat and feel more comfortable, but I still haven't braved the weight room as the equipment is unfamiliar and I feel like I'll look foolish in front of the very fit & athletic weight lifting types who are there. Logically, I know those same people would probably be more than willing to help me figure out what I'm doing, I just can't get over my own anxiety enough to give it a try! I do body weight exercises at home instead. I've considered signing up for a few sessions with a personal trainer to learn how to use the equipment and get a good routine going, but that's intimidating to me as well!

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I don't go. Have never really gotten into the gym. I use what I have at home.



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just go....there are bound to be other people who aren't one of the 'perfect bodies' who would love to have someone to workout with. Connect with some of them and enjoy

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I use this trick a lot, but I have to admit that I have done it for so long that it actually changed who I am. It is kind of like smiling and then you feel happy. My totally awesome and dearly departed father challenged me when I was really really young about these kind of situations...where you don't know anyone and feel scared/awkward. He said that there would be a lot of people there (in this case the playground) that didn't know what to do and didn't have anyone to relate to. He said that I should try and be encouraging to them. I used the same line for weeks in the playground. I would start making a BIG sand castle and then look for another kid that was waundering around trying not to get eye contact and then when they were close I would announce that I can never dig a hole all the way through without it collapsing. Do you know how to do it? or at least can you think of a way to try? I think I have tried everything...geez. I think it was easier for me to do because I was doing it for them and it really did help. I do a version of this everywhere I go because I am now addicted to helping other people feel more comfortable. Fast forward 40 years to my first time at the gym. I was VERY uncomfortable but just kept moving along asking other novices if they thought I was doing things rights and making sure to have healthy laughs at my expense. Overall I think that the people were pretty cool. Even the most scary people that obviously live at the gym were receptive to my pathetic intrusion. I put it in my head that it would be like when a new person tries to learn a new game that I'm in love with. You don't judge because they are now playing correctly, you just think it is cool that there is going to be another part of the community.

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Oh, I used to fear the gym. But now, I keep my head down. And when I can afford it, I hire a trainer. None of my friends belong to my gym, so I can't really use them as a buffer.

Back in college I was a "non-traditional student" and was about 15 years older than the typical student. But their trainers were dirt cheap but REALLY good b/c they were kinesiology students. Or maybe I just lucked out. Anyway, back then it was a little hilarious b/c my trainer was pretty good looking so all the girls in the gym were SUPER nice to me b/c they wanted me to put in a good word for them with my trainer. So funny. I was the most popular 35-year-old in the place!

Now, as a 50-year-old in a public gym, I still workout with a trainer a lot, but I share the trainer's time with my son - and so he sets me up on a circuit of 3-4 kooky-looking but intense exercises and then goes to give my son something to do. And believe me, my son attracts a LOT of attention to us. He has Autism Spectrum Disorder and is 12 and fairly awkward and loud - evidently these are all fantastic reasons to look at us - ha ha. So I/we get a lot of attention.

But I just operate on the "keep my head down" sort of thing. I pick focal points during my strength training or cardio so I'm not looking at someone else. When not with the trainer, headphones are a good insulator. But I still smile when someone is using the treadmill next to mine, or asks me about using the training ropes, or whatever. No need to invite animosity. And yet I try to avoid talking to most people b/c I'm there for ME, not to make friends.

Oh, for cardio, I mostly tend to train on the heavy bag (after getting some instruction from a trainer) and it's funny, I don't think people are too eager to be mean to someone who's slamming something really hard - even if I am smiling!


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This is something I do not suffer. but I do know that back when I was 330 pounds I was a bit afraid but not of what people thought because they where there for the same reason I was, I was more afraid of getting on the treadmill and not being able to walk, so I did what someone told me I went to the gym got on the treadmill walked for 5 minutes and get off and go home.. then the next day I did the same and the next and the next before I knew it I was able to go and stay on longer and longer each day.. and all why I did this I focused on the walk, my music and the treadmill..

Try it.. go to the gym get on the treadmill walk just 5 minutes listen to your music get off and go to your next class. then the next day do the same focus on the walk, the next day go again this time stay on 10 minutes, and then then next and the next and before you know it you will be going everyday walking longer and not even noticing anything eles in the gym..
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It's not you, It's the gym!

I would look at this from another angle. Although you are paying for the campus gym through your student fees, it is perhaps not a good gym for you right now. You have to be comfortable to be successful.

A local YMCA would have similar equipment and a low student membership rate. When I went to the university as a non-trad, I would not have been caught dead at the Uni-gym. There is an unavoidable meat-market environment there. It is completely reasonable to not want to put yourself in that environment.

The Y is populated by all different types of people in the community. I am 33, 50# overweight and I swim with many lovely senior women. Their approach to their bodies and nudity has helped me get over my own insecurities. Flesh is flesh. I have used an all women's gym, a curves and private athletic clubs in the past, the YMCA is the best of all possible gyms in my opinion.

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I belonged to the student gym at the place where I work. It was very intimidating for me to go to the gym. Everyone there was at least 25 years younger than me. I have since joined a new gym that I love! All ages, all sizes, all fitness levels. It made a huge difference.

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I am about 15 pounds overweight but I am 68 and gyms do not attract too many of us Seniors, although more then there use to be. I do my cardio first and then my strength routine. I pay my money just like everyone else. I don't bother them and they don't bother me. Sometimes a smile or nod is exchanged. I have gotten to know the trainer/manager and he helps with any questions I have.

My new motto: Tired of starting over? Stop quitting!


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I stood naked naked in front of a mirror and told myself nothing is going to get better if I don't suck it up. I signed up online so I wouldn't have to talk to anybody. I knew I would never actually go in otherwise. I work out alone. At first I wouldn't use the Ab room if it looked busy and would pick machines away from others. But as time went by and I started looking around I could see a lot of people like myself. I felt better seeing people who probably had just a big embarrassment even walking in that door to start with. Gyms for me have always been where skinny people go and show off their fit bodies. My gym I'm not the biggest girl nor the smallest. I still avoid the weights or ab room when its really busy.

I go to Planet Fitness despite the flack some give them. They have a zero judgment policy and they will kick someone out for it. Trainers don't walk around bothering you. But are available for help. I go and zone out of the world. And each time it gets easier. I feel like I'm not being judged or swimming in a sea of people. But I do plan on my gym times being the less busy hours as I do get really nervous when its busy.

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I just got all the way down to the bottom and read your real question and I really was like you and didn't use the gym back then, but using the gym gives such better results that I would do it if I knew now what I knew then.

Mostly, show up with the clothes on is a comment I agree with and take a shower at your dorm. Other than that, it is just bring an ipod. The more you have something like music to think about, the less you will think about other people.



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I was anxious about going to the gym for years, because of my weight and because the ones I went to when I was younger were intimidating with people dressed in spandex and sports bras and intense instructors looking over your shoulder.

I got over it by changing which type of gym. My coworker kept saying, "Go to Planet Fitness" but it took me years to go and now I love it. 99% of the people are doing cardio or the weight machines and watching television and nobody at all is looking at anybody else, at least in the one I go to.

They have 24 hour schedules most days a week, so going off-peak can help that part. They aren't so great at showing how to do the moves, but they have written instructions on the machines and I watched Youtube videos to learn how to use everything. Where I am everybody shows up in comfortable street clothes. The YMCA was similar - lots of elderly people and families, much fewer fitness buffs.

Curves used to be less intimidating, because it is just women, but I think I get intimidated looking at the touch the floor exercises that Jillian added.

I would suggest reading the Web sites and finding ones like that or ones that work with people referred by doctor's offices. Also, places like Planet Fitness will let you pay $20 to use any of their locations, so if you hate the people at one you can go later or go to another place.

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Don't have any gym anziety...just gasoline cost anxiety....



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Thank you. I will look for a gym with private changing rooms. Maybe that will ease my anxiety.

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MSMalin,
I have to say, I go months without going in the locker room. Every once in a while, I change clothes there, but I go home to shower and usually I come dressed to work out.
My gym also has a couple of around the corner spots and 2 dressing rooms for folks like us!
I grew up average weight or thin, but was never comfortable in the locker room at school. I guess I'm just very modest.
I admire folks who are comfortable in that environment - and i think that is healthy.
Do what works for you.



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Thank y'all for this post. I am going to have to go to the gym because I need to exercise in the water. I am terrified. People will be there! I am petrified of the locker room. I feel so vulnerable there. I don't know how many memberships I've had where I went for a while, but something made me anxious so I stopped going. Like maybe someone looked at me sideways. Any ideas?

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As a grown-up, I don't feel I have to "overcome" things I don't want to do. I don't like gyms. Period. If I had a gym membership, I'd never work out.

Instead, I own a treadmill, an exercise bike, jump rope, hand weights, ankle weights...and I work out at home--every single morning. 7 days a week. 365 days a year.

If the weather's nice, and streets are dry, I can walk outside. If I feel like it, I can use a work out video in my living room (although I prefer watching TPIR & Drew Carey on my treadmill!).

Tons of options to stay healthy & strong & fit...most of them free. And not a one involving gym fees. :)

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Hi - everyone has great ideas here! Going to the gym, in the beginning, can be very intimidating. But just remember everyone is there for the same reason - to be fit and healthy. Most people are so busy thinking about themselves that they don't even notice you are there. I like to bring my iPod and my kindle so I can read and just totally zone out.



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Everyone is there for the same reason is what you need to always remember. I am aware of other people at the gym but only because I see them doing something new I haven't tried. I always let them know what I am doing so they don't think I'm "stalking" them. You can learn many new things at the gym.

Focus! You can do this!


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Kara623 speaks for me too. As an introvert, I was very resistant to joining a gym, but I need the financial commitment to motivate me to go. I try to choose off times and don't work out next to someone unless it's unusually crowded. I stick to a women's only gym until I feel better about my body.

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Thankfully, I've never had gym anxiety.
The way I look at it .... everyone is there for the same purpose ultimately... to be healthier. Some are doing maintenance, some are working towards a goal, some are professionals with all sorts of shapes and sizes.

There's room for EVERYONE in the gym!

As for those strutting around in teenie weenie cute gym clothes, I say: More Power to Them!
Its great seeing people who are proud of their bodies, and certainly a nice thing to look at.
For those in shape curvy, More Power to You too! Great to see people working on improving whatever they've got going.

Its all good... don't let the imagined unkind thoughts of others keep you from doing what's right for you.

Have fun peeps.
Life is short... make it sweet!
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The first step is the hardest. I'm an introvert, and though I did get to where I enjoyed group classes, I typically prefer to workout alone. Now, when I use the gym, I take my iPod and get in my own zone. I'm in my own little world and ignore others unless they're talking way too loudly. At my school gym, I usually use the spin bikes, which are in a room by themselves. I'm alone in there 95% of the time because I use them when there is no group class. That's an option for you.

Just go. Listen to your music. Eventually you will just forget about everyone else.

Motivation will get you to the start line; discipline will get you to the finish.

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By the way... my ticker looks like I have a measly 7 pounds to lose, I know — but overall, I've lost about 40 so far — I just stuck there for a long time — so, definitely I'm not a person who's always just struggled with that 5 or 10 pounds! :-)



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CWSUPG, confidence is awaiting you — you'll get there! And I, too, am so glad you found something that works for you. True story that just happened today: I met one of my business associates' wives for the first time — she's spectacularly gorgeous and has a new baby — and a body I would murder for. I told her how great she looks and how she doesn't remotely look like she recently had a baby. And she said, "Oh my God, that is so good to hear because I have been so self-conscious and scared about my weight — years ago I lost 110 pounds and I have been so scared of the baby weight!" She's gorgeous... I mean gorgeous — and so are you. Every day you are one step closer to the confidence that is already yours — your confidence is just waiting for you to catch up. :-) It'll happen!



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Thanks LULUGIRL! I realize now probably no one cared at all what I was doing in gym class, but at the time, I hated everything about it. I was seriously injured in gym a couple of times during my awkward years, once enough so that I spent the night in the hospital with a head injury.. Took me years to overcome the belief that I couldn't enjoy physical activity. :)

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Carrie, I am glad you found what works for you! I hated gym so much that I thought I would NEVER like fitness and exercise. I was wrong! It was the MEAN GIRLS that made me miserable, not the gym!

I like that you didn't allow the aerobics class to turn you off from fitness! Everyone is different and I like it that so many people here figure it all out, one way or the other! Whatever you are doing, keep doing it because its obvious ITS WORKING! Good luck to you!

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CWSUPG, in our defense, exercising at home is not cowardly! :) If you can afford to buy a piece of home equipment or even just a decent pair of walking shoes, there's nothing wrong not going to a gym. I know if I had to actually pay a membership fee, get up, find my keys, drive across town, and exercise around other people, I'd never go. My husband bought a treadmill about 5 years ago and at the time I thought it was a waste of money. Now I've pretty much worn the belt out.

Edited by: CALLMECARRIE at: 1/30/2014 (17:57)
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You know what I did? (I can't believe it has been 5 years!)
I went. I made a schedule and I forced myself. I got a good orientation and I found the things I most liked doing (uh, least hated) and I did them. Lather, rinse, repeat.
It took a while, but I started to forget to be anxious. Then I began to be comfortable.
Seriously, you might even get comfortable enough that you make a few friends.
Just go, and promise yourself you will keep going.
It could work. It did for me.

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I hate to say it, but I overcame gym anxiety using the coward's way out--I bought a hybrid trainer to use at home. Being as heavy as I am, I just can't bear to go to the gym and exercise in front of other people--I wish I was that confident, but I'm not. I would also appreciate any tips to overcome this anxiety

I may seem calm on the surface, but I'm really paddling like crazy!


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It has taken me a a very long time to get over my junior high school nightmares of not being athletic and being ridiculed. Whenever we have moved, the whole "gym anxiety syndrome" aka GAS (ha) would start up again. To conquer GAS, sometimes you have to ease into the whole thing. Of course, finding a workout buddy is the best way to conquer GAS, but if one is not available, I suggest going to the gym EARLY in the morning when the place opens. Our Rec Center opens at 5 am and I have discovered it was the perfect time for a novice. At that time of day, people are FOCUSED on getting their workout done and out the door for work. To me it seems that the regulars don't seem to focus too much on "newbies" because everybody is kind of rushed. In other words, you don't seem to stand out so much to people who are in a hurry and barely awake, anyway. Besides, the gym is not as crowded as other times, so you can do your thing without feeling like you don't fit in with the crowd. I found that out several years ago. The other benefit is this: people who regularly workout early, seem to be the ones who STICK WITH IT! Within a very short period of time, I came to like working out early with the crazy folks who come in half-asleep, sporting "bed head" and no makeup! Seriously, the anxiety disappeared fast! Try it! You might be surprised at how different the atmosphere is early in the morning! Good luck!!!

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I deal with Gym Anxiety by not going. I took an aerobics class once and that wasn't bad, but I don't like the whole gym scenario. This may be because I hated gym so much as a kid, being weak and bookish -- I hated having other people watch me attempt physical feats. I'm slowly building my own home gym and I love it! But I realize that's not for everyone.

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finding a buddy might be a good way to alleviate some of the anxiety, otherwise, try headphones or ear plugs and just focus on what you're there to do.

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I'm 61 years old, and never exercised in my life until Oct. 15th of last year. My health started to go down hill,l so I make up my mind that things have to change for the better. So I joined the local rec center, that first day that I walked into the fitness area with all of those machines,and I not knowing anything about any of them, really scared me. I took a deep breath, and told myself I can do this, I have to do this for my health, I don't want to be one of those people that wait until it's to late. I like me too much for that to happen. I asked for help from the staff, a fitness trainer showed me how to use the equipment correctly, so I don't hurt myself. It gave me the confidence to become a regular, I now go to the rec center 4 times a week. And I'm getting in the best shape of my life. And as a bonus, the pounds are coming off.I couldn't be happier. I also have found new people to talk too. Going to the rec center in the mornings really gets my day off to a great start. Just make up your mind that you can do this and go for it. Good Luck



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TriBabe,
It is never acceptable to call someone names. People should have learned that in Kindergarten.
What to do when they continue to act ignorant?




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