You shouldn't have to give up on taking care of yourself, but I also think it's important to spend time with your family.
Is there a reason that you and your kids (& husband too) can't plan meals that would satisfy everyone's needs? If they would still like to go a favorite restaurant, then maybe they can go once while they are there. When I visit my family and they want to go to a particular restaurant, I look up their menu's and nutritional values in advance to see if I can eat anything from there (looking at calories, protein, sodium, and fiber, etc.). I try to find something that I can eat...if not, we don't go there. If I think we can go there, I may have to make some changes to what I plan on eating later in the day. Sometimes, I may have to suck it up (too many calories or on the higher end of the sodium intake) and move on. I want to visit with my family. Yes, my health and losing weight is important, but sometimes I just have to deal with a trade-off (although a small one).
I do understand the frustrations of losing weight when around your family. I have lost some weight and still have a ways to go. When I visit my parents (or they visit me), I end up in maintenance mode during the visit.
| Pounds lost: 26.4