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11/12/12 7:16 P

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One of the things that kept me from the gym for many years was a fear of those fit, spandex-clad gym rats. I thought they would look at me funny for wearing old t-shirts over my soft pale body. However, that is not at all what I found.

There were people there of every shape and age. I found many 'hard-bodies' that were friendly and more than willing to help when I didn't understand how to move on to the next level. There will be impatient people too, but those aren't the ones that actually have good form. I found that out after being in the gym a while.

In any case, the only one you need to please is yourself. Do the best you can. I congratulate you for making the jump into a new environment. Keep your eyes on the prize!

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I used to feel like that all the time at the gym. And what made it worse was that I knew a bunch of people that would go there. So I felt like I was constantly being looked down upon and judged, I know it's ridiculous but I just didn't feel comfortable.So rather than it effecting my weight loss I looked into other options, and I'm so happy I did. I'm now a workout-at-home junkie. I've been through the whole insanity and p90x workout and am now looking for my next program to conquer. Has anyone done the Les Mills Pump Deluxe?? Here's the link if anyone wants to reference what I'm referring to -- www.beachbody.com/product/fitness_programs
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Anyway, I just put my order in for it and I'm so excited. It comes with three Les Mills programs - Step, Sports Attack, and Combat. I definitely know where you are coming from about being judged at the gym. I would try out different programs and see if this is a good alternative for you.

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I used to feel like that all the time at the gym. And what made it worse was that I knew a bunch of people that would go there. So I felt like I was constantly being looked down upon and judged, I know it's ridiculous but I just didn't feel comfortable.So rather than it effecting my weight loss I looked into other options, and I'm so happy I did. I'm now a workout-at-home junkie. I've been through the whole insanity and p90x workout and am now looking for my next program to conquer. Has anyone done the Les Mills Pump Deluxe?? Here's the link if anyone wants to reference what I'm referring to -- www.beachbody.com/product/fitness_programs
/les-mills-pump-cross-training-workout
-deluxe-package.do
Anyway, I just put my order in for it and I'm so excited. It comes with three Les Mills programs - Step, Sports Attack, and Combat. I definitely know where you are coming from about being judged at the gym. I would try out different programs and see if this is a good alternative for you.

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The only thing I can say is to get past it. I have learned that if you are focusing on your goals then the jeers and laughter of others won't matter.

During my time in the service I was one of the slowest runners in my command and a lot of senior people jeered me for it. Only one of them actually offered to and did run with me and we are the best of friends. It helped me greatly.

Now at my new job I am one of the oldest employees who works out. When I go into the gym I actually ignore everyone else because this is MY time to improve me for me. Since that time several co-workers have complimented me on my attitude and work-out effort. I can't stop people from laughing or jeering at me but I can prevent them from interfering with my goal.

Edited by: BIGTOSS03 at: 11/12/2012 (15:39)
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11/12/12 2:40 P

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I think its the gym or area that you work out that makes the difference. I tried one gym, thought everyone was staring and judging me... but brushed it off thinking it must be in my head. One day (after a few weeks) a chick came up to me and said it was inspirational that Id turn up every day... even though everyone was laughing about the fat chick huffing and puffing... that fat chick being ME. I was so upset to find out that my fears were real. I changed to a womens only gym that was more expensive... I never felt judged or anything there. Because we were all the same... regardless of our size or fitness level. We were just real woman trying to get/stay thin and fit. Everyone at that womens gym was very supportive.
My advice is to choose a place you feel comfortable with. If you are not comfortable... you wont give it your all.

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11/12/12 12:06 P

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Always remember, that you are doing this to get better, and to be a healthier person, and someone (if anyone) judges you for doing that, then they are the ones with the problems :)



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11/12/12 9:58 A

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This is specifically about running-- but it applies to the gym as well....

http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/vsg/4537415/Hey-you-Fat-girl/

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11/12/12 9:40 A

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I used to think that way too. Especially when I just started gaining weight then I completely stopped going to the gym. WORST decision of my life. Because I am not good working out at home or in the streets either. The weight kept piling up, self confidence down and I ended up miserably unfit for about 8 years. I decided to get a Personal Trainer to motivate me. In the beginning I still felt awfully self conscious. especially with some of the move (squats) I had to do. But I lost some weight and now I can't wait to go to the gym. I still do not know how to work the machines sometimes but who cares. I take my time setting it and do my reps. I feel a Personal Trainer is more effective but doing it on my own cannot hurt either. The aim is to move and burn. Noone cares what you look like or how confused you are around the machines. The gym is ultimately a sanctuary to a better you anyways. Good Luck, Stay Motivated everyone. xxx



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11/12/12 8:58 A

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I have all but given up going to the gym because of embarrassment. I always feel like I am not good enough with the equipment and that I am just in the way. I wish I could go and not worry about what the others think I need to get back to the gym... I hate being this way...

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11/12/12 8:49 A

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At first when I started going to the gym, I thought everyone was staring at me and judging me. But it was all in my head. If people are looking at me at thy gym, it`s because they are smiling at me or complimenting me that I am doing a good job.
I prefer it when the gym isn`t full of people though. It makes me feel more at ease.
I usually wear headphones to get in the zone, but only when doing cardio.



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11/12/12 6:45 A

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yep, that's why I choose to workout at home

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11/12/12 1:32 A

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Honestly less people judge than you think. Most people are more than happy to share gym space and are willing to help 'newbies'. I know I personally have alot of respect for people who I can tell are using alot of courage to get in the weight room.

THERE IS NO SHAME WHEN YOU ARE BETTERING YOURSELF!

The minority that may be judging you are not worth your time worrying over. Do your thing and don't be afraid to ask the weight room attendant for help- they want to help you and would rather see you ask for help then to quit or hurt yourself.

I am a personal trainer, a group fitness instructor, and a weight room attendant- based on experience from both ends of the spectrum I feel the fear most people have that people will 'judge them' is more in thier own head than a reality =] Have confidence, you got this!

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Someone already said it. No one cares, and if anyone is watching you, it's because they are impressed. Don't worry about it -- but if you are intimidated in the weight area (been there, done that!), then get one or two personal training sessions. It's totally worth it, to get you over the embarrassment and also get you to learn about safety -- the latter is much more important.
Someone mentioned the earphones but I don't recommend that in the weight room until you are more comfortable. I have heard many scary stories about people who completely tunes themselves out in the weight room. I for one never wear them when I'm lifting.
I hope you'll have fun while you work hard at your goal! Good luck!

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11/11/12 8:32 P

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I find that bringing a smile to the gym helps immensely with other gym-goers. People who are there to work out smile back and people who are there to demean others get embarrassed/deflated. Having gone to a university gym that was well known for having both kinds of folks, I've found this to be the best way to get around my insecurities (besides bringing a friend, which is also great for saving on gas).

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Agree w/Leb0401. Headphones are a must! Helps you block out others and get into a zone. emoticon

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11/11/12 6:42 P

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I've seen perfectly healthy people using the wrong form on some lifts. It just happens, The thing is, not a lot of people are going to criticize you for it. Though, honestly, if I was doing something wrong, and someone pointed it out to me, I'd thank them because that minor interruption benefits me in the long run and probably prevents an injury.

I used to be very intimidated by the gym. I was worried that I'd look ridiculous and sweaty and people might laugh at me. I'm there to work out just like everyone else who goes there. Sweating is just proof that I'm NOT just the 'fat girl' in the corner trying to do something. I AM doing something.

You can do this! There are plenty of options, and gym employees are generally pretty eager to help out. Some gyms have a separate rooms where you can do stretches. Maybe your gym has one? If that's the case, you can take the weights in there and do your exercises.


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11/11/12 5:25 P

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Yep, I've felt like that plenty of times. Headphones help me tune out everyone else and just focus on my workout. Keep at it!!

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11/11/12 4:38 P

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I'd rather embarrassed at the gym than in my wedding dress. Even if you never get over it, won't the embarrassment be worth it?

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i go to 24 hr Fitness. It is a Silver Sneakers gym. That means that there are alot of seniors. Everyone is so supportive of each other and they come in all sizes. I carry alot of weight in my butt and legs and have bad knees. I have to have my caregiver with me in order for me to do what i do safely. If i get overheated, i can pass out. If i get to talking to someone,i dont pay attention. I have even had a young man try to help me get out of the whirlpool.So dont let your size or like of mobility keep you from the gym. . Think of it this way, you give a young person an opertunity to help a senior and do a good deed emoticon



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I recommend that you turn the situation around. Instead of focusing on how you feel focus on how they act. My point is that people who do not support others in their quest for better health
are simply shall I say "jerks" who do not deserve your respect or consideration. Go to the gym work out and eventually you will look like one of them who however will provide the respect and encouragement to people who are currently where you are now. Do not let others inhibit your life.

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The gym makes me feel: old, not dressed fashionably, fat, wrongly shod, frumpy, sweaty, inept at using the machines, weak when I have the machine set on the easiest settings, and like everyone is staring at me. Needless to say I have major issues using the gym. Wish all of these would go away so that I could use a health club without all the baggage. Also, do not like the televisions everywhere! Intimidation poster girl!



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I think your concerns reflect more what is in your mind than in the world around you. Strength training is by far the best exercise, because muscle burns calories when you're resting, sleeping, sitting, etc. instead of jsut when you're doing the exercise. Its doubtful people will be judging you for lifting. When I see a woman lifting, if I think anything about it (it is not uncommon enough to require thought,) I think, "good for her, she knows how important strength training is." If you catch someone looking at you a lot at the gym, it might just be because they find you attractive. I definitely started one relationship that way. And if they are being as judgemental and negative as you think they could be, are you going to let a few idiotic jerks keep you from living your life? Avoiding places you want to be because of a hater merely gives that idiot power. And remember, if you catch someone staring, it might be a good sign. I'm married and 100% faithful, but I do get a little ego boost from all the little smiles I get at the gym--they don't know any better...they're not staring at my ring finger.

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Just had to put my two cents in - the first day I went into the gym I had all the emotions and feelings I have read other here share - then I looked around - so many of the people were there for therapy - they were barely moving on the treadmill but you could tell that they were proud that they were able to do even that much. It made me appreciate the fact that I still have good knees, few aches and pains but I do have the ability to improve my situation. I can go - do what I consider a good workout - then use the sauna and whirlpool - both of which warm me up for the next few days, keep the pains for my workout from setting in and allow me a little time to relax and enjoy the pampering. I guess in the final analysis - it's all in how you look at things - if you're at a rough stage in your life or uptight about yourself - people are usually sensitive enough to just let you do your thing - but as time passes and you see the same people there - if you care to comment and joke you can make some wonderful friends. It's all about what you want - but you're in a wonderful place to accomplish whatever is important to you.

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11/10/12 2:22 P

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I agree with everyone else here. People will not be looking at/judging you. That being said, for myself, I know that I cannot (well... will not) push myself as much in a gym setting because I will be embarrassed. Yes, it's a personal issue, and yes, it's self-centered, but it's how I feel regardless of what other people are or aren't doing. I exercise at home (we have a treadmill & Jillian Michaels' DVDs) and I can give more than I would give at a gym. Rather than shortchanging myself at the gym, I prefer to work out at home. If ever we move (and I can't use my treadmill), I'll probably look into a gym and just deal with it, but for now working out at home is a better solution for me.

As for the dress (congratulations by the way!), if you can lose the weight by then, great! If not, don't beat yourself up over it. Your fiancé loves you and you will look beautiful on your wedding day whatever you weigh. I got married this July & did not lose a single pound (in fact, I gained about 10 between buying my dress (in January) and the wedding day - wedding planning is time-consuming and stressful...). I found a dress that I loved and I felt absolutely gorgeous on my wedding day! Whatever happens, don't let your weight make or ruin your special day!

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Simple solution....DON'T GO TO A GYM! Exercise doesn't have to cost money...it's FREE. You just have to tie your tennis shoes & hit the pavement! Walking around your neighborhood costs nothing & is not embarrassing.

Bad weather? Icky roads? Head for a mall & walk inside...again, for FREE. Or walk up & down the stairs in your house. Jump rope in your basement. Watch an aerobics show & workout where no one will see you.

Just MOVE daily & forget the gym...you don't have to keep up with everyone else & do what they do...you just have to DO IT FOR YOU.

It Is What It Is.... :)


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when i first stated spinning i could not stand for long periods of time or do the jumps. The teacher kept screaming to push push push. It finally sunk in she has been spinning over ten years I can't measure what I do by what she can do.

I bought a spin bike and several dvds and am progressing nicely.

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Have you already picked out a gym, i.e. do you have options or have you locked into one. It's worth making a couple of field trips to make sure you feel good about the place you're going to be hanging out.

In my area, there are four or five to choose from (actually I live in the country so they're all about 20 to 30 minutes away). When I checked them out I knew I wanted a place where the staff were friendly and helpful, the members were focused (not a "pick up" place), the equipment well maintained, the environment welcoming, and the locker room clean. Short list, huh?

One place was floor to ceiling mirrors on three sides and giant windows on the front, the music was very, very loud and frantic (think disco on steroids), and a lot of people were standing around glancing at themselves in the mirror. Average age was maybe 24 and no one appeared to be overweight. Another advertised itself as family-friendly, and it was. There were always classes being held in the pool, kids running around (although under control in the weight room), and a very cheerful, upbeat atmosphere -- if I were bringing kids with me, it would have been a great choice.

The one I went with had professional trainers on staff, the weight room staff were always willing to show a member how to use the equipment (often several times), some would even come up and give pointers on form and making sure the member was using the equipment properly and safely, the hours were good, the place always smelled clean and it was very well maintained. It cost a little more than the others but the staff and members made it worthwhile. There were members who were in fantastic shape and there were a lot of folks getting into shape. The class instructors made everyone feel good and would come up with accommodations for folks who were new as well as those who needed a little extra help for moves and postures without bringing any special attention to it - really nice when you're feeling self-conscious about not knowing what you're doing in the first place let alone being able to master a particular move.

Most clubs offer a one or two week free membership. I strongly encourage you to "try before you buy"; if you don't like the environment, you're not going to go.

And as everyone else said, in a good gym nobody is judging - most of the time they're not even looking other than to see if the equipment is free.



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Every person everywhere at all times can find someone fitter, smaller, leaner, stronger, prettier, smarter, faster, taller, wider, whatever, usually in the same room somewhere. The fittest person at your gym knows someone who is even fitter by comparison. Most people know this, and therefore most people simply stop comparing since it is rather pointless.

Once you realize this, you see that people don't really notice your fitness level at a gym, or how heavy you are, and they therefore don't bother to judge you (lest they be judged emoticon ).

When I see someone overweight who is exercising, all I feel is admiration because I know that doing cardio with 100 extra lbs is an olympic feat compared to someone doing cardio who is already in shape.

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I can understand that embarrassment too, but most people at the gym feel encouraging to other fitness enthusiasts on their journey. I think most people feel "Atta girl!" if they notice at all, and like GRATTECIELLA said, the ones who are looking around judging people will only notice others like themselves. At worst, you're probably invisible; at best, people are probably sending you good vibes.

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This is one time where it is all about you! You need to exercise in attire that you are comfortable in. If I am staring in the mirror woorying about my clothes, I am not checking my form or making sure there isn;t anyone around I can hurt! Focus on what is important and leave the rest!

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I completey understand! When I first started going to the gym I always wore sweatpants and sweatshirts. Eventually, after I lost a little from elipticle and treadmill walking, I wanted to start running. Not so comfy in sweatclothes-so I bought my first pair of gym shorts.
I was so scared to wear them to the gym because I thought everyone would stare and get grossed out that I suffered wearing my sweats through most of may before finally giving in and wearing the shorts to the gym.
I walked in expecting that huge movie reaction of everyone dropping what they were doing, staring, pointing, and laughing
but nothing happend
I signed in
started up my treadmill
ran COMFORTABLY
and never went back.

It's scary at first
Its just something you cant give in to

and anyway
is someones opinion of you really more important than your goals?
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"The cool thing about the gym, is it eventually becomes a great big support system for you."

Yes. I threw a party last week with my dear friend, who is also one of my Zumba instructors. At some point it ocurred to me that almost everybody who came was a friend that I had made through the gym somehow. It was great to realize that all of that exercise had some social benefits as well as health and beauty benefits.

I DO notice other people at the gym if they are dirty/smelly, not following basic rules (wipe down the machines, please!), if they are dressed in a massively inappropriate way or if they are loud. Other than that...not so much!

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I had that fear once too...and now? I'm a zumba instructor. You have to understand this happened against ALL ODDS. I'm an introvert, happy to be a wallflower taking things in, not interacting with others. At some point though, I decided Screw it. I'm getting healthy for ME, and for my children, not for the idiots at the gym. lol. I'm not implying all of them are idiots, but you know the ones I'm talking about. So yeah, when I took my first class, I was the biggest girl in the room. I had two left feet. But I loved it, and wasn't going to let my fears of what others thought get in the way. Honestly, it took me like TWO YEARS almost to even be able to look at myself in the mirror during class! Now that I teach, well, I'm subjected to all sorts of mishaps that are mortifying (I spun around in class 2 weeks ago in a dramatic move...at the wrong time mind you, and my gum went flying out of my mouth towards the front row! They were freaking out, cuz they thought it was my TOOTH! lol.)

Anyway, if I can put myself through that day in and day out, well, anyone can do their thing at the gym, no worries!


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LOL! I totally agree...those chicks are so annoying! Who seriously goes to the gym in full make-up and hair?? My favorite part is when they talk on their phone really loudly on the elliptical machine right next to me...like I want to hear their entire ridiculous conversation :) It's actually great motivation...I turn that frustration into calorie-burning energy!!

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The cool thing about the gym, is it eventually becomes a great big support system for you. I hear you totally about being embarrassed. That was me. Once upon a time if I walked in and saw all the beautiful gym rats, I turned around and walked right back out. What helped me was, as someone else already suggested, getting a personal trainer. Believe me, he gave me ZERO time to feel self-conscious or embarrassed! And he checked on me when I would come in to workout on my own, which was a nice confidence boost. And now I've met so many people who cheer and encourage me. I can't imagine not having my gym family around. Go for it!!! You'll be glad you did!

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You can do it! I was afraid to go to a pool in my 3X swimsuit earlier this year...but no one is looking!! And like it's been stated before, if anyone is making fun of you they are just lame. Apparently they are NOT working out seriously if they have time to notice that, so at least you are at the gym trying to increase your health rather than poke fun. emoticon

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Yeap....I know the feeling. Fortunately everyone at the gym I attend are very friendly and go out of their way to be supportive and encouraging.
When I first started going I was extremely unfit, uncomfortably overweight and had just given up smoking! So I found every thing very challenging. Now I'm really enjoying going, I'm able to do much more, although I struggle to keep up with somethings, I feel fitter and am losing weight.
I have made many new friends and find the social aspects of attending the gym a very satisfying part of the whole experience.
All in all I think everyone is at the gym for the same reasons....to lose weight, get fit and live a healthier lifestyle. We all had to start somewhere.
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Oh yes, couldn't agree more. Nothing better than the girl in flip flops who does a few reps on the abdominal machine and then spends the rest of her time giggling and talking loudly to some guy and that's all you can hear.

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I don't pay much attention to other people at the gym, but when I notice someone who is really overweight working out, I silently cheer them on and give them credit for working towards making a healthy change for themselves and their families. You might be surprised if you could look into the past of any of those "skinny" people and see that some of them were in your shoes not so long ago! Keep up the great work!
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blank no. I am not their for others, i am their for me.



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I was 320 lbs when I started taking Zumba classes and 300 lbs when I started at a cross-fit gym. I have knee issues from an accident 20 years ago so I am sometimes limited and have to have a 'different' program from my entire class of very fit and skinny women and you know what, it doesn't matter. I am out there, laughing, sweating and wanting to just lay down .. along with everyone one else. It's ok. Just get out there and move.

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The gym should be a no judgement zone.

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ROSEPETAL, I just started jogging (second day in a row! YAY! A new high score!) with my dog in the mornings. I'm a little worried about my neighbors making fun of my all of me jiggling as I pound the pavement too, but you know what? Whatever! If they are so bothered by me jiggling down the block, that's their personal issue. You should worry about you and not your nosy neighbors. You should feel proud that you're outside, literally running your butt off!.

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I've been doing my workouts in my living room to save the driving time but I want to start jogging and I'm afraid to be seen trudging up and down the sidewalks in my neighborhood.

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I was like you when I first started going to the gym 2 months ago. I would wear the baggiest t-shirt and workout pants I had trying to cover up all the jiggly parts (basically everything from the neck down). Then I noticed no one was even paying attention to me. At the most, we would check out each other's speed on the treadmill. I still wear the baggy t-shirt but I have moved to the tighter leggings that you can get from Walmart. Just focus on the dress and don't worry about the rest.

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Only when I sweat...which is the whole point!



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I hate going to the gym, I prefer Curves. I am the youngest one there lol!! Truthfully, if you are going to the gym and at least trying, 95% of those people there are silently congratulating you or are paying you no mind. I read a blog talking about how the average jogger looks at the "fat" jogger as someone who is accomplishing something, overcoming adversity.

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Hire a personal trainer to work with you at the gym for a few weeks. They will not only show you proper form, but will help you overcome the phobia about working out around others. It is money WELL SPENT in my opinion.

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Hi,

I had this problem when I first started. But then I sat down, looked on SP and really thought about it...

1. Everyone working out in the gym had to start somewhere, and other members will appreciate that.

2. They will likely be focusing on their workout. Studies have found that if you have a focused mindset during your workout, then you will perform better :)

3. You have to remember why you are there. You are there for YOU, not anyone else.

4. The more I spoke to people the more at ease I felt. So get chatting, but don't forget to keep moving!

5. Soon enough, you will have lost weight, toned up and gone there so much that you won't even think about it.

6. A year ago, what would you have been doing? Because now you are looking after your body and treating it with the Respect and Love it needs to thrive.

So Smile at yourself in the gym mirror and think "Hell YEAH!"

Good luck!

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