I had a traditional but small wedding years ago and am glad I did but when I married the second time, we went to the neighboring county and got married on Valentine's Day at the courthouse, had a cake on order just for us, then went out to dinner with friends. I completely understand doing something less traditional
Do you know someone that is a member of a VFW or AM Legion or Fraternal org that has a hall for rent, or someone at an apt complex with a clubhouse? Get some old movies to show on various screens like cartoons and silent films. Have a sing-a-long and hire a guitar player.
Have the reception first then do the ceremony during or near the end. Hire different entertainments like magician, fortune teller, have a photo booth, people who make balloon shapes & figures, play bunko to get people moving around and talking with one another especially if your families aren't too well acquainted.
Hold a progressive dinner at various relatives or friends places along the way of they all live in the nearby vicinity. Then your hubby can share the day with those who matter but not a big traditional wedding. You can get married at a local fair - see if the carnival that comes thru every year will dedicate on night early in the week and allow you to have use exclusively for a fee.
What about a park with a sheltered area in case of bad weather or rent a tent? Use picnic tables, serve fried chicken and all the sides; have old retro music playing in the background. Set up games like a picnic - volleyball, flag football, card and board games. Do a mystery theatre and ask the "wedding party" to play parts - detective, crime victim, and suspects.
Also went to a wedding that was outside at a nice quiet park. Wooden floor was brought in for ceremony. Lots of daisies in old jars, a few porcelain serving pieces for the food. Afterwards, everyone danced to the fiddle player, drank lemonade or beer, nothing fancy. There were haybales for seats, denim skirts for the bridesmaids, red handkerchiefs tied in their hair, jeans and white shirts & bolo ties for the attendants. The bride wore a long skirt with a peasant style white lacy top, and the groom wore jeans boots and a nice black vest. The minister looked like a character from the old west with a handlebar mustache and long gown. Very western but not kitschy. Gingham checked cloth was used on the tables and benches were set around the perimeter to supplement the haybales which were also stacked here and there. The bride & groom did a special "dance" with hobby horses - it was cute & funny as they later traded partners by offering the stick horses so others could join them.
I would figure out what means something special to you. Do you like to read? could you rent a library for an evening, maybe on a campus? How about a museum or aquarium? Those lend themselves to themes. If he's a car buff, find a car club who are hosting an event with a ride and see if you can merge that.
So much depends upon where you live. Something special about your hometown? Find it and use your imagination. People get married on cruises but perhaps there is a little pond with rowboats that could be adapted. You want to enjoy your special day, and don't forget to have backup photographers - your friends and family. Make sure that the important folks get their picture taken.
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