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11/24/09 6:46 P

Thanks for the advice everyone.
I know we need to get moving on this if someone has to be ordained and legal where we live. I do have a few friends in mind so I guess the first part would be to ask if any of them would be willing in the first place!

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11/24/09 7:20 A

I really want to have my and my fiancee's college professor officiate my wedding, but it would depend on his health.

Ask around, who knows which of your friends or acquaintances are already ordained.

If you do want a friend to marry you, get them started on the process early. I know a couple who had to find a JOTP at the last minute because their friend's license didn't come through in time.

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11/23/09 8:58 P

We wanted to have someone we knew but our province wasn't letting anyone new sign up. We ended up finding someone we both knew and respected a lot on the list of marriage commissioners and it made a big difference for our ceremony. I really think you should try to find someone you respect because their role is sort of to bring home the importance of the marriage and give it their blessing. Since we got totally lucky and found someone we knew I now couldn't imagine having it another way.

I don't want to scare you though, if you find a nice person off the list I'm sure they would do a good job too.

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11/20/09 3:26 P

It would be cool to have one of your friends be ordained to perform the ceremony. Just make sure that your state recognizes their ordination.

Or you could go to your local courthouse/ justice of the peace, to make your union official. And then have your friend perform the ceremony for show. Also check to make sure this is legal.

And of course you and your groom should pay the fee to have your friend ordained. If that is the route you take.

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11/20/09 8:21 A

I have no previous experience with this situation but I just wanted to say that I think that is a fabulous idea...I'd so do it if it was one of my friends asking...whoever you ask will probably be honored to do it.

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11/19/09 6:06 P

We are having a tough time deciding about the officiant. Neither of us are particularly religious so we aren't going to go with church clergy. Heck, we haven't officially decided on the ceremony site even though I'm sure it'll be the same place as the reception.
Anyway, he wants to just pay for some random person's service who has the authority to do it in our state. I would prefer to have a friend become "ordained" and do it for us. I don't have a specific person in mind, but I would offer to pay for the cost of the process and their time. It seems more personal if the officiant knows us and can truly be happy to make us "official." I just don't know.
This isn't really a sticking point between us but we don't have any outside advise so I'm posting here.
Does/did anyone have the same problem? What did you do?

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