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2/5/10 7:54 A

Yes, but it was about not having them... he's thinking about getting a vasectomy- We have a dog, and a 1 niece and 1 nephew so far. I love kids, I just don't think having them is for us, you can have two kids for us :)

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2/4/10 11:29 P

Yes we have! We are planning on trying after we get back from our honeymoon. We're going to Vegas, and I'll be drinking, so we don't want to risk it until we get back. We're keeping our fingers crossed!

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2/1/10 10:18 A

It seems like everyone I know is having a baby. We have talked about having kids, but we would like to wait a couple of years after we get married so that we can have time together going out with friends and doing whatever before we have to settle down with the little ones!

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1/28/10 3:59 P

Yes. I think he's more excited than I am. We already have names picked out. We just got engaged so I said definately not until after the wedding. Give us two years.

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1/28/10 10:12 A

My fiance and I talk about kids all the time. He's really anxious and excited that he often plays with the dog like she's a baby! We're going to start trying at the end of this year...fingers crossed.

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1/27/10 7:05 A

Yes, we've talked about it and we both want them. No definite timeline yet as we need to sort out some financial things first. We'll probably start trying in two years or so.

We don't really agree on how many though, I think he's thinking two (as he was one of two) and I want at least three or maybe even four (I'm one of three). I figure we'll see what happens, there's time for both of us to change once we will see what life with kids really is like.

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1/27/10 5:45 A

Yes we have :) AND HE WANTS TO HAVE EM!!!!! ** doing the happy dance ** but only after we are married both in canada ( my family ) AND in india (his Family) for it to be proper, and after we move somewhere were people speak english since that's my and my family's first language!!!!

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1/25/10 12:54 P

Me and mine had planned several names before we even got engaged. We're hoping to have 2 or 3!

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1/24/10 10:56 A

We talked about kids before we got married we both want kids at the right time we want at least 2 but would welcome more not going overboard or anything though our cut off is 4 lol

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1/22/10 4:14 P

We both want kids. I want 2, hopefully one of each; 1 I give birth to and 1 we adopt. We already have names picked out for the first girl and boy. We'll see how it goes.

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1/21/10 4:29 P

Yes, we have. I want 2 and originally he said the same but now he wants 3. We will see because while he is 26, I am 30 (and will be 31 when we get married) so I am not sure how possible that will be at the time.

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1/21/10 4:10 P

When we first started dating ( 5 years ago) we both said NO KIDS. Now that he is almost 34 and I turn 30 this summer we are saying maybe kids... LOL! I guess as you get older and you start having more patience and longing for a child. Never say never!(this is to the younger girls)sometimes you can be so solid on something and change as you grow older.

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1/21/10 3:33 P

I want one, he wants two. I don't want many children because of the carbon footprint of raising a child in the U.S, and I don't want to contribute to overpopulation.

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1/18/10 11:21 A

We talked early in our relationship about kids. I only want one, maybe two when our first child is already in school. I would love to be pregnant by our first anniversary, but we'll see if it works that way. We won't actually be trying, but we won't be preventing it either.

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1/3/10 12:36 A

We talked about children LONG before we got to the dating stage of things and way before I agreed to marry him

Finding out his was ChildFree by choice was a great blessing!

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1/2/10 5:55 P

My fiance already has 3 kids from a previous marriage, who he supports but doesn't see often because they live out of state. He's never been keen on the idea of more kids. I'm only 23 and this is my first marriage, so I definitely want kids! We've kinda talked about it, but one day a couple weeks ago he totally surprised me when he asked how many kids I wanted. Now, we're definitely planning on having 1-2. :-)

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1/2/10 1:21 P

We talked about kids very early on...we know its a deal breaker for some relationships and didn't want to get in too deep and then realise either one of us couldn't compromise. Thankfully we were and always have been on the same page :)

We want 2, maybe 3. We always throw out 'do you like this name?' randomly...so the time is getting near and we are both excited for when it happens, but conscious that we are still working overseas and want to have a little more time for ourselves, before the pitter patter of tiny cute feet!

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12/14/09 12:12 P

We have been talking about kids since about 6 months into the relationship. We both want 2 and i could go for 3 but he really wants to stick with 2 and i would be ok with that. I definitely want to start a few years after we are married, around the time when i turn 30.

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12/8/09 9:51 A

It's never too early to talk about kids. Once the relationship is serious, it's something that needs to be discussed. This isn't an area that you can disagree on and get over it.

My FI and I both want 2 kids (we both had one other sibling). I will be starting graduate school in August and plan to go right into a doctorate program, plus we both like to travel and we want to travel a bit before we have kids. We agreed that we would be ready in about 5 years.

CAMCHELMUM - GOOD LUCK!!!

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12/7/09 4:19 P

I already have 1 of each form a previous relationship so we have talked about our own and the most exciting thing is that i might actually be pregnant at the moment but will have to wait until the end of the month before we find out x

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12/2/09 11:59 A

Yep, not even engaged yet but we want one of each. We'll try for that until we hit 3. That's the absolute limit. And we're probably not going to start trying even until at least 5 years from now. Besides we got a whole engagement period and wedding the plan. :p
I know, we've gotten ahead of ourselves.

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12/2/09 8:34 A

We're set on having at least 2, if we're blessed with them. We will not prevent them, but we won't actively start trying until maybe our first anniversary. I wouldn't mind a honeymoon baby - we'll be together 5 years by then.

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11/18/09 11:21 A

Yes. We have agreed that we do not want to have children (I know that we're in the minority on that).

...plus it seems like everyone else is doing a good enough job at populating the Earth! lol

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11/18/09 4:50 A

yea! we want 3 we think, already have names lol xx

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11/16/09 2:22 A

also, we've even decided on a name if we have a daughter: annika emery blair.

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11/16/09 2:22 A

we've talked about kids for sure. but he's gonna be doing 4 years of grad school (seminary) and i'll be supporting us and paying off my student loans those 4 years. so we probably won't plan on kids until he's out of school for good. we'll be 27 then so it's not too late :)

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11/10/09 12:30 A

We've definitely talked about kids but until we have a home together, are married, and are financially stable, it'll just be talking. I really want kids asap but I've seen way too many people struggle, including my own parents with money issues and having kids too early. We have picked out some names, too. I'm just really hoping everything falls into place.

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11/9/09 12:26 P

My husband and I were together for 4 years before we got married. We had touched on the subject, but never really got into it. Before we got married we went to marriage counseling with our Priest a few months before the wedding. It was great because talked about a lot of future major decisions that might otherwise cause a fight or disagreement. It was nice to know where each other stood. After a bit we decided that we will wait 5 years before trying to have kids. I'm 25 and he is 27. We still want to travel and relocate a few times. That would be too selfish to do with a newborn. Talking about kids before marriage is really important... and fun!

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11/5/09 10:27 A

I have been a nanny for a while now and I know that kids are a lot of fun but a lot of work. We eventually want to have kid, but we are going to wait a couple of years to get settled and save some money!

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10/26/09 11:08 A

we have a 1yr old son together

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10/25/09 8:15 P

Yep! He wants 3 and I want 4 because I say 4 is no different from 3,lol and he disagrees. I'm working on convincing him for 4...j

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10/13/09 12:37 A

Yes we want babies! Actually, we've already started trying :)

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10/8/09 11:59 A

We dated four years before we got married so we had LOTS of time to talk about EVERYTHING, lol. We both love kids and ADORE our nieces and nephew, but we don't want any of our own. We decided that long before we even got engaged. He'd be okay having kids if I ever decided that I wanted them, but he's just as happy not having any of our own. We do hope to be foster parents when we hit our 30s, though. :)

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10/5/09 9:36 A

My fiance has a son from a previous marriage and he lives with us. He is my pride and joy. No need for biology to help with that. In the beginning I wanted to experience having a child, but now we have decided that one is enough.

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10/2/09 5:31 P

We each have a child from a previous relationship, so I have the problem that I *think* I'd like one more and he's not so sure. I think maybe it's just because it seems like I've been in nursing school forever and he's not sure I'll ever finish :)

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10/1/09 7:53 P

We've talked about it and even discussed names we like. We're both excited to have a family.

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10/1/09 12:19 P

This is a tough one only because between us we have 5 kids, he has 2 boys ages 12 & 8 and 1 girl age 2. He has full custody and the mother is not in their lives.

I have 2 boys, ages 16 and 8. We have talked about more kids because in my heart I always knew i wanted one more. My older son wanted to try living with his dad when he was 10 years old. We share custody and all that. My younger son lives with me full time.

He is fine with having another one. But now I am having second thoughts but my clock is ticking and I dont want to have regrests if I decide not to.

Not to sure what to do???

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10/1/09 11:20 A

we want two definitly. And if we have a girl and a boy we'll stop there. But if we have 2 boys or 2 girls we will try one last time to get the other. Three is my limit.

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9/30/09 5:05 P

my fiance and I totally talked about having kids. Apparently its in our future to have 3 kids lol. We can't wait!

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9/30/09 4:02 P

My fiance is fixed. He got fixed after his first child from his first marriage. I have 3 of my own but I always said I wanted at least one more. He says that he decided after his divorce that if he met someone else who wanted another one he'd reverse the vasectomy. So after we are married he'll reverse it and we'll try for another one. I CAN'T WAIT!!!

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9/29/09 9:35 A

My fiance and I both want children, the number is still up in the air. I don't want 3 because then you have the middle child, which was me when I was growing up. And I don't want my kids to have that. But we'll probably start trying a year or so after the wedding.

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7/12/09 12:01 P

I thinks whether or not to have kids is one of those topics you absolutely have to agree on before you get married. Otherwise you're in for trouble later.

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7/11/09 1:08 P

I'm 30 my partner is 39 - we are both finacially stable. He's got 2 kids from a previous marriage.
I'm in no rush for kids since I prefre to enjoy a bit of time just for ourselfs and would like to travel a bit more before we try.

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6/24/09 11:43 A

It seems like my fiance and I started talking about kids before we were even really a couple! He's older than me, and he is ready to settle down and start a family. As soon as I get done with nursing school, I'll be ready to do the same.

One of my main motivating factors is the fact that I want to have children. And I want to have a healthy, uncomplicated pregnancy.

Katylee, I'm praying for you girl...and praying for your husband's safety. 5 kids...that's a lot! You're a strong woman! LOL

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6/23/09 8:33 P

I have only been married a month but all ready i am starting to feel like i have been married for years. I dont want to let myself go!! I still want to make our life as spicey as possible, and feel good about myself too!!

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6/11/09 3:11 P

We talk about having kids all the time, but a couple years from now. We want to spend as much time together building our lives, our careers, buying a house and traveling before we dedicate our lives to our children.

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5/27/09 10:07 A

yes, we've talked about it, and we both agree we want a few kids--theoretically two. but the other thing is, we're definitely going to wait for a while. We'll be married at ages 24 and 25, so we want to at least wait for three or four years before we start expanding our family. The reasoning is mostly that we want to have a secure financial situation started to provide for the kids.

Not to mention that the thought of being pregnant terrifies me! Not the kids part...just pregnancy, haha

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5/26/09 7:38 P

We've talked, extensively, about children because it's such a huge step - and an even bigger responsibility.

I have to agree that married couples need a little time to enjoy and get used to marriage. Even if you don't need it, it will pay off for your children. You'll be a better parental "unit" for it - and it never hurts to wait a little while! =)

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5/20/09 10:55 A

We've talked about it. We know that we want at least one child...eventually. We're in no rush to have a baby. I'm 23 years old, we'll be married when I'm 24. I'm hoping to stay child free at least until I'm 28. I want to continue working and be 100% stable before having a child. I don't want it to be a stressful time for us. I want it to be joyous and planned.

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5/19/09 3:58 P

Yeah, wehave talked about having kids before. I want three and he is ok with that. He is so good with his little cousins that are 5 and 3. I love kids that is why I am going to school to be a teacher. I would like to wait at least 1 year before we start trying because of that special time together alone.

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5/12/09 7:34 A

Yeah, we have decided to start trying the day we get married!

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5/9/09 3:48 P

We talked about it early on in our relationship. It's definitely a conversation you need to have before you get married. You need to know that both of you agree on whether to have kids or not.

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5/5/09 3:46 P

We have definitely talked about kids. I have an 11 year old daughter, and he has a 15 year old son, both from a previous relationship. We definitely want a child together. We are going to wait 2 years after we're married to have one. I am really excited about it. It's like we're starting all over fresh as parents.

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4/23/09 8:28 A

I think it is a MUST to talk about having children before you get married. But my fiance and I are in no hurry to have children. We weren't even sure if we wanted them, but now we do. I know we don't want more than two. He has his undergrad degree and i have one more semester and then it's off to Grad school for the both of us, so we have other things in focus for the next 3 years or so. I would like to enjoy being married for while before we rush into that. Although, it we got a surprise along the way...that would be okay too!

I dont think that anyone has the right to say when it is a good time to have children for everyone. Everyone is different and has different goals.

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4/22/09 11:03 A

Darin has told me, "When we gonna have a baby, baby?" I know he's wanting to have one and I am fine with it too. I wish the new car was paid off though. lol.

It's a good time to do it now because I may still have my job next year at the school, and it's a good time to have a kid due to insurance benefits.

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4/22/09 2:13 A

I don't want any kids and my fiance says he could go either way. We're more of a pet and disposable income people. His only rule is that, if we do decide to kids, we'll be in our thirties.

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4/20/09 10:18 P

My fiance and I each have a child from a previous relationship. My son is 3 and his daughter is almost 18 months. We have already talked about having more and we plan on trying shortly after our wedding in Oct.

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4/20/09 8:22 P

Yes we've talked about it and God willing we'll be able to have at least one.

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4/13/09 1:13 A

Actually the fact that I am ChildFree and not interested in procreation what so ever is part of what got my mate interested in me to start with - he has no interest in them, and shares my dislike of them in general

we've agreed our only children are furred and feathered.

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4/8/09 3:11 P

Here is an odd one. I always wanted kids and planned if I ever had a girl to name her Lauren. Well...I never knew ANYONE with this name. So I met my fiance and his name is Loren. LOL Well...he wants kids...and I did when I was younger but now I am not sure. He knows I am not sure and says we will make the decision together after we are married. Who know what life will bring ?

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4/8/09 7:47 A

We talked early on but just said he wanted a better job and to be married.
Now the wedding is just under six months away and he heads to Police College in a few weeks.
Our next hurdle is to get a house before we start trying. I think that will be within the next year.
I told him I'd like to go off the pill just after we get into a house (and married) since it could take a while. I've been on the pill forever and my Doc said coming off for a few months would be good.
He follows a different calendar so our Christmas and new years run from normal Christmas (dec 25) all the way to January 13th. I thought after all that silliness (and drinking) is over - we could start then. I'm still working on the 'final' lose the pill date.

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4/7/09 12:34 P

we have always said that we didn't want children of our own--we love to travel and do things spontaneously. However, after my best friend and her husband and his brother and sister had their baby...it seems like we've begun considering it more and more. I'm still not sure becasue I turn 30 this summer and I don't want to have babies too late in life--mostly for health reasons. He's five years younger than me, so he doesn't really see the problem. Anyway...that is just my long winded way of saying that yes, we have talked about it, but we haven't reached any firm decisions.

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4/7/09 9:48 A

I can completly understand your dog being your child - our cats are ours! :)

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4/7/09 7:56 A

This recently came up in conversation and funny thing is we were watching a show on TLC about women who didn't know they were pregnant until they gave birth. He turns to me at some point and asks when I wanted to start having kids. We have talked abut this before, when we first starting living together and he wanted to be a dad or have one on the way before he was 30.

Well that was over a year ago and he turns 30 this June and no kids yet. We have decided that we want our finances in check, to be in a house and for me I want to be 120-125 lbs and on a steady workout schedule before I get pregnant. Talking about this at the right time is always good and I am glad we are both on the same page about it.

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4/6/09 9:27 P

It's good to talk about it whenever! Open communication is always good. My fiance have talked about it and we both are not sure for now. At this time, we are both not ready for kids. Our dog is our baby! He knows I want to work and don't want to stay at home and we have a lot we want to do before thinking about kids. We agree that we'll see how we feel about it later on in life. Also, he knows that pregnancy scares me and I'd consider adopting. Some people don't agree on this, so it's VERY important to talk about it.

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2/15/09 5:33 P

We've both always known we wanted kids. My best friend has two already, who are going to be our flower girl and ring bearer, and we have both spent a lot of time with these kids. If it was up to me we would already have kids, but thank god he has a level head. We have talked about it a lot since we got engaged. We will probably start soon after we are married. A lot of people think we should wait until I'm done with school but If I have to wait I will probably drop out again. I hate putting my life on hold because of school. That's why I hate it so much. He wants 3 or 4 and I want 4 or 5...so depending on how the early kids behave and finances we'll end up with somewhere between 1 and 5 LOL

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2/15/09 9:54 A

FH and I had the kids talk after we'd been dating for about 2 weeks. We had a huge talk about what we wanted out of life and a partner which we both saw as a sign that we were each looking for a serious relationship and looking for the one we would spend our lives with.

We both want kids. I've got the baby bug wicked bad so thankfully our wedding is only 2 months away because I want to start trying ASAP! I have PCOS so I may not even be able to concieve on my own. FH and I have talked about adoption too, just in case, and he's ok with it, which is amazing because I know some men are not.

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7/4/08 12:49 P

Yep, we've talked thoroughly about how we can't stand them and don't want any. We're fans of the small, furry variety.

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6/22/08 10:11 A

We have been together for 10 years and we already have 2 kids together both boys they are actually walking me down the aisle

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6/22/08 2:01 A

My FH and I both have children from previous relationships and we won't be having any actually together. It was a decision we both made very early in the relationship. We currently each have a son living at home 17 y/o and almost 14 y/o and FH and I are both looking forward to having 'our time' when they have left home (sounds terrible eh!) and are making plans for that (eg overseas travel etc). We both had children when we were quite young (I was 17 when I had my son) so we have never really had time for ourselves as such.

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6/21/08 11:52 A

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6/16/08 3:17 A

My fiance and I talked about this pretty early on. I want 2 kids MAX, in other words there is no chance on God's green earth I am willing to go to three or more. One of the reasons is because I was a middle child and I had a tough time with that so I don't want my child to have that "middle child syndrome" too. Also I just think 2 kids will keep me more sane than the four that my fiance would like if he could get his way lol I know I'm definitely not ready for kids right now. I think in about 4 years I'll be ready, but possibly as early as two years from now.

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6/14/08 8:54 P

I was very upfront with my fiance when we first started talking. I let him know that I wanted children, and I wanted a lot of them. When we first met, I was up to 8, but he has since talked me down to 4. He thinks he can talk me down to 3, but 4 is where I draw the line. He wants kids, thank God, or I wouldn't be with him. That sounds mean, but it's true. That's how important it is to me. We have been talking about a time frame of when to start trying. I want them right after we get married, and he wants to wait until he gets a teaching job. I totally understand that because we don't make enough right now to bring a baby into the picture. If he does have the job that he's applying for by the time the wedding gets here, I hope to be pregnant by January or February. I've been thinking about it for so long that it hardly seems like it could be happening so soon. I'm so looking forward to being a mommy, though!

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6/13/08 8:59 A

ya we have....i dont want them but he does. i have seen to much stuff happen with my brother with his kids and the mess that my soon to be ex sister in law gave him. and also his now fiances daugther who i watched all summer like two years ago she was a BRQT literally. gave me headaches all the time was very stressful....i kow that my two nephews cant help it they are special needs kids and i love them dearly. i seen how my fiance is around him he loves them and vice versa. i know that he would be a awesome dad i am not worried about that...but honestly i am scared to death to have kids. i dont think that id be a good mom. that id be one of those strict go by the rules noholds bar moms and hed be the easy going dad. idk i am right now just happy with my one dog as our kid. (even though we cant have her at our apt.).

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6/12/08 11:32 A

We have talked about kids, we know we likely want two but we really haven't set a timeline, I'm 28 and he's 33 so we really could have them anytime but I am enjoying this stage of my life and not ready for kids yet, ideally I think in two to three years I'll put more thought into it...but funny enough we have names picked out!

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6/12/08 9:24 A

We're not having kids. He is 49 and I am 41 going on 42 in August. I am self-employed so I have no maternity leave and my sweety does not make enough money to support us both. Anyway, I feel too old to start having kids (yes, I know 41 is not old but that's just me.)

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6/11/08 1:20 P

It's funny really. For years and years I didn't want kids, but in the past year or so I have made a 180! I told my SO about it, and he's not too happy. He said that he (at this point) still doesn't want kids but that might changed in the future, so who knows. I am ok with that. I mean I wanna get through school first, and we want to enjoy our marriage w/ just the 2 of us for a few years. I figure that we would start talking about trying again when I am like 31-32yrs old.

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6/11/08 11:33 A

Yes... we've both agreed to wait until after my first year of law school to start trying. That's a HUGE year for me and I need to be completely focused.

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6/11/08 10:01 A

We've talked about it as well and we'll probably wait a year and a half or so to start trying. We want to do some things as a married couple before we bring kids into the mix! I am 27 now and will hopefully have our first when I'm 30!

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6/10/08 11:06 P

My fiance & I discussed kids early on in our relationship. However just recently we've been discussing how soon we're wanting to get started on that. Ideally, we want to wait about a year after our wedding (October 11th, 2008) & we must buy a house before that. He did say the other day that he'd be happy if we bought a house by next summer & if I was preggers while we signed the papers. So, I think he's getting more & more anxious about having kids. He knows that I'm baby crazy right now since all of my friends have had or are having babies. I just want to enjoy marriage before we jump into parenthood so quickly.....BUT I'm not getting any younger! Haha!

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6/10/08 7:29 P

We're the exact opposite. When we first started dating, one of our earliest conversations was that we both didn't want to have kids. He's already had a vasectomy! Talk about commitment!!

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6/10/08 12:31 P

I've always known I wanted a large family (thinking five kids or so), and so my fiancee has always known, too. We joke about it a lot, because I have all the names picked out, but only recently have we begun seriously talking about when we'd like to start a family. Because he's in the military, the timing is everything as far as working around his training and deployments. I think we may start soon after our wedding date in March 2009, but my parents and most of our friends think we should wait longer. I guess you're ready when you're ready, though.

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