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5/7/13 9:23 A

I too do the same thing - I get busy with my day and then realize I haven't eaten anything. I alo have to balance my sugars and I am trying to figure out my insulin doses so I've had a couple of lows so I need sugar, but I'm not hungry.....well nobody said this was going to be easy. And as long as we keep picking ourselves up and staying the course despite the set backs - we're on the right path!

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5/7/13 9:14 A

Don't beat yourself up..ToBMe.....It's a journey where you learn how to eat..not just what to eat...I do the same thing..even trying not to! I don't eat enough calories during the day...Then I am too hungry at night....Always fighting that feeling that I could eat the house down all evening! Have been doing a little better with it....Keep trying, sparking, etc...! We can do it!

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5/7/13 8:54 A

Ok - one of the most important things to this weight loss journey and/or maintenance is 'being honest' and acknowledging the pitfalls. Such a good week last week - but I blew it this weekend. Got so involved in outdoor chores that I did not focus on good food choices. I went for the easy to grab foods.....and did the don't eat all day - be famished at night and eat too much too late. Back to logging this week. Hope everyone enjoyed their weekend

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5/5/13 9:51 A

Have a great day, everyone...Get out there and hit the pavement!

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5/5/13 9:25 A

Cheers and good vibes to all the dedicated folks on this thread!

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5/4/13 6:45 A

GoOd for you To Be Me! You are on a great track! Keep up the strong attitude....Very motivational! Going to Zumba this morning..then walking the dog.....Keep smiling...and keep sparking!

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5/3/13 8:19 P

5 Days down! -- Yeah! I am feeling so good about being back on track for the week. I know I can do it -- I did it before and promised I would NEVER get back to the shape I was in when I started. It feels good to go to bed at night knowing that your day time determination paid off. No regrets this week. Can't wait to post some results on my weight tracker. But I am not weighing in and posting til next week.

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4/30/13 7:42 P

Laurie, Thanks for the supportive post. So sorry you are still getting snow. I know we've had some pretty cool mornings around here and can still have potential frost - but overall the weather has broke from winter. That will be encouraging for you I'm sure when you get some warmer weather. Oh I can so relate to the carb comfort foods. I got so way out of control with them which was a real culprit to my regaining weight. I have to keep them to a minimum...but will still allow
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4/30/13 7:11 P

Good for you!!! I've been really struggling with eating the high carb comfort foods - breads, pasta, pastries, cookies. We haven't seen much of spring so far - today it was -5C with snow on the ground when we woke up. We've had winter since Oct - didn't even get the leaves raked from last fall and you can really see how it's starting to make everyone miserable. At the mall today you see people still in their ski jackets, touques and gloves and others in their capris and tees trying o force spring. Can hardly wait for green grass, leaves on the trees, and flowers - and trying so hard to stay optimistic and upbeat and NOT eat all the wrong stuff - and cocoon. Don't even want to go outside. Anyways, this about you and your success, so way to go!!! Your words lifted my spirits and I put down the sour dough roll - lol.

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4/30/13 7:03 P

I've posted and monitored my food for 2 days now -- It makes such a diffefrence. And eating the right foods again - I feel so much better already. Reminded me how I was able to stay on track for almost 2 yrs before...One day at a time and at least today I am finishing the day positive.

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4/27/13 9:48 A

Yes, I've been there before, you just have to keep working at it!

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4/27/13 5:45 A

This is why we are utilizing this website...It let's us know we certainly aren't the only ones with this problem....We all struggle each day with food, exercise, stress,etc....We CAN succeed by following the steps of our programs......Have a great Saturday, everyone, full of good choices! Smile, relax, spark, and eat wisely......

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4/26/13 11:35 A

I hear ya! It's so tough and every day is a struggle - it just doesn't seem to get any easier. But I do believe that as long as you keep getting back up and on the path, you are making positive steps. Each time you stray, it only makes you stronger for when it all falls into place. So, here's to getting on the right path and staying the course!!

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4/25/13 7:10 P

I haven't posted since January. where does the time go. I don't know but I should have lost the 20 lbs I wanted to by now -- and instead of losing I have put on 10 lbs. Crazy! I have got to get a handle on this. I keep looking at the pictures of where I was 3 years ago of which I said I would NEVER go back.... and then I put 10 lbs on and said that's ok, I can get back on track, then it went to 20 lbs. and now here I am at a ridiculous 30 lb gain and there is NO excuse except I just am not following the Spark people habits of tracking my food, and exercising regularly. I hate saying "Today is the day" again and again. So maybe this post will get me on the right path. and I can feel good about myself at the end of the day and get the results I need to.....get back to where I was a year and a 1/2 ago.

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4/3/13 6:13 P

WE CAN DO IT!!!!

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4/2/13 9:18 A

Hi All! New month, new season, new starts and a renewed determination to get this right! Still feeling very nauseous with the new diabetes meds, but using some essential oils, accupressure points and tea to cope with the side effects. I've had a few good days so looking forward to more of those as my body gets used to the drugs. Suppose to be a beautiful day today so the plan is to get outside and enjoy as much of a walk as I can handle. Cheers to all and good vibes for much success this April!!

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4/2/13 2:47 A

Love this thread.

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4/1/13 9:52 P

I'm sorry I disappeared, everyone!
My husband got a job, 6 hours from home.
So we've been trying to get moved, and settled in.
I've been doing very badly when it comes to my health and my weight.
I'm hoping the move will help, I'm going to put all of my focus into myself and my relationship.
One day at a time, right?

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3/23/13 11:23 A

Thanks Laurie! I know I think too much. I'm workin on being more lax about my eating and stuff. Have a great day guys!

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3/23/13 10:22 A

Hi Daisy - waaaay too much thinking for me lol. I think the experts say to average your caloric intake over the week. Stay strong though and make good choices over the weekend and you'll be fine. And don't be so hard on yourself.

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3/23/13 7:46 A

You are all doing great...Just don't give up!!!!!

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3/23/13 12:03 A

I have used MyFitnessPal before and follow what it says along with posted activities. I do what it says for calories to maintain each day to lose 2 lbs a week. I like to treat myself one day on the weekend.....so in essence I go over for that one day a little but only 200 calories over. I feel when I do that I don't feel deprived in any way.

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3/21/13 8:46 P

Hey guys! So i have a math question for you haha. I have been playing around with online calorie calculators to see what my required calories per day should be. I've done it before but after a couple high calorie days the last couple days, I wanted to re-examine how many calories I need in hopes of discovering I should be eating more, hence not feeling so bad about the last couple of days haha. I normally wouldnt stress about it but I have a big weekend of temptation coming up so I am trying to figure it out.

I use MyFitnessPal app on my phone to track my calories. Does anyone else use that? It tracks your total calories per day, and week as well as your AVERAGE calories for the week.

I am horrible at math and can't figure out which matters---the total calories per week (which is ALWAYS over by about 3000 calories per week because my calorie goal per day is 1000 and weekends i always indulge...OR if i should pay attention to the AVERAGE calories per week which is normally about 1500.

I usually focus on the average, thinking that I usually eat about 1000-1200 calories a day during the week and then usually fridays i have a big splurge and eat 2000-3000 (i know you arent supposed to eat less than 1200 but i actually am eating at least 1200 because when i plug in how many calories i burn during my workout it adds those calories to my allotment. For example, if i burn 250 calories during my workout, my calorie allotment will go up to 1250.)

Which do you guys think i should focus on? the total number or the average? I know this is a lot of number talk haha but i'd really appreciate some input!!

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3/20/13 9:38 A

Laurie, that's awesome!! So glad you found something that works for you. It is hard for me to even imagine not obsessing about food so that must feel GREAT :) maybe I can live vicariously through you! Have an amazing, healthy day!!

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3/20/13 9:24 A

Hi Everyone! It's been a while since anyone posted - hope everything is going well! I've had quite a roller coaster ride with the addition of insulin. Gained 13 pounds in the first 2 weeks - how very discouraging. Anyways, I've got an amazing diabetes educator who is also my pharmacist and she put me in Victoza - it works on a hormone in the gut - so what a diference. I've lost 6 pounds this last week, so hope to be at least back where I started in another week. This drug works as an apetite suppressant as it slows the time it takes for your tummy to empty. It's been amazing - I think this must be how people who don't have food and eating issues live. I used to think about food constantly and what I was giving up and now it just doesn't matter. I eat when I need to and just to when I'm full. OMG!! I tried to explain it to my Mom who is tiny and never had any weight or food issues and she told me she thinks about food all the time too. NO, she doesn't get it - it's thinking about how to get that sweet in, obsessing over the bread in the pantry....I know you guys understand and can truly understand how BIG this is to not think about food and eating all the time.

Well spark friends, my news for the day. Here's to all off us staying on track, making healthy choices, loving ourselves, and fresh beginnings on this first day of spring!

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3/4/13 7:42 P

Thanks Daisy! Let us know how your interview goes on Friday. My husband and I are off to Montreal to see Pink this weekend. So, lots of challenges with staying on track, eating well (always difficult at restaurants and when travelling) and now adding the insulin. At least for now my doc put me on a dosage, so I don't have to worry about figuring out how many carbs I'm consuming and working out how much insulin I need. Take care and good luck with your interview studies!

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3/4/13 7:34 P

Welcome to those of you who are new to this thread! Thanks for joining us and great job so far

Laurie, I'm so sorry to hear about your doctor's appointment. That stinks that you have to be on those meds. Hope you are keeping you head up and carrying on because you are a strong woman who is NOT defined by silly diagnoses and medications. You are defined by the choices you make and the person you are and i know we have never met but you are an inspiration to me! We're here for ya girl!

I have been doing pretty well with my eating and working out with the exception of the GIANT hibachi meal I had with my parents the other night. I was craving real hibachi with all the fixings---rice, steak & shrimp, salad, soup---the whole nine yards. I easily could have gone for sushi or just a salad but i decided to treat myself since i have been staying on track really well lately (I also gave some of it to my dad to shovel in his mouth since he only got a salad and soup so the portion was smaller). My meal was actually very high protein and it didnt make me feel sluggish and gross like chinese food sometimes does.

Anywho, I have a big interview on Friday so I must get back to studying the 13 PAGE study guide I made myself of potential questions. Have a great night everyone! Feel better Laurie!

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3/4/13 7:18 P

Hi Everyone! Hope everyone is working hard to stay on track. I've had a tough go the last week or so. Still sick, so that is starting to get me down. Worse yet, I had my doc appointment today and got put back on insulin 5 x's a day, metformin, lipitor.....I knew it was coming as diabetes is a progressive disease and I have had 4 years without any medications, but still......Young doctor asked me if I was ok with everything. Ummmmm.....no, but obviously I need it. My blood pressure was high at the office, but it's good at home, but high cholesterol, high blood sugars and high blood pressure clusters, so I expect to have to add blood pressure meds soon too. Well, here's to staying on track and rucking along making good and healthy choices!

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3/4/13 5:56 A

Great! Me,too!!!!!! Keep pushing!!!!! Have a super Monday!!!!

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3/3/13 10:07 P

...but not today. Today, I've stuck to my eating plan and tracked my food

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2/26/13 10:05 A

It's a wonder any of us can resist the temptations by the time the day winds down. We are bombarded by food messages constantly. Food ads on TV, in magazines, on billboards. Whole TV channels dedicated to food, magazines dedicated to food. The streets we drive on with the golden arches and any number of fast food restaurants neon signs flashing at us. Massive grocery stores that cater to our every food desire. So, we get up determined - and look at how many temptations and food traps we do avoid in a day. Yay us!!! Have a very good day to everyone!

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2/26/13 4:03 A

I can sure relate to this!! I always wake up determined to have a good day..but somehow blow it by the evenings....UGH!!!!! I try not to keep temptations in the house...but had a lot of company this week,too!!! I keep plugging away,trying, and will do it.....Have a super day, everyone!!!!

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2/25/13 7:28 A

Thanks for the encouragement Blondie! I really appreciate it :)

CSJ, I created this thread for the exact reasons you just said. We all have problems with self control and are working toward bettering ourselves. You CAN do it. Sometimes all it takes is that ONE time where you say no and then the next time you will remember that you DID say no to that donut and you can do it again! I

I know it is easier said than done (trust me)! I have major issues with self control but when I do have my small victories over food, I post them on this thread and it really helps me so feel free to post your ups and downs on here and we are here to help!

Here's to a healthy, happy day!

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2/24/13 10:30 P

I saw the title of this and just want to say that I relate. I usually mess up somewhere throughout the day and don't understand why I sabotage each and every day. I completely understand that it's ok not to be perfect but at some point I need to learn how to control things better.

When I get to work and there are bakery donuts sitting there, I don't HAVE to have one... or two.
Working out won't kill me so just do it.

These are my two biggest down falls.

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2/24/13 8:25 P

Happy Birthday Daisy...just get back on the right track...you know you can ! My birthday was the 18th...ate chocolate too!enjoyed every calorie !

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2/24/13 6:24 P

I definitely enjoyed every bite of the birthday food and even though I ate over 4000 CALORIES (i feel ashamed just saying that outloud...or typing it), I am not beating myself up because I ate really healthy the rest of the week and I know I will get right back on track this week, starting today! I can feel my body craving veggies and protein after all that sugar and carbs so I'm listening to my body and giving it healthy fuel.

I'm sorry you are still sick!! That stinks :( Your banana bread sounds delicious though. Hopefully it'll be just what you need! I'm glad you are listening to your body. I guess we are both getting better at doing that. Go us!!

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2/24/13 1:30 P

Hi Daisy! Just a couple of comments: I hope that you enjoyed the food at your GMa's birthday and I hope that you took the time to savour those indulgences without beating yourself up. That you recognize that tomorrow is a new day to make healthy choices just shows that your attitude to food is healthy - so pat yourself on the pat for that victory. Me, I am still sick, but accepting that that does mean some odd food choices, not always healthy, because I need to have "comfort food" when I'm sick. Enjoy what's left of your Sunday! I have some banana bread in the oven - sugarless, no fat, healthy spark recipe - can't wait for a piece of warm bread and tea, then a bubble bath and an afternoon nap. Listening to my body and trying to get better.

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2/23/13 7:57 P

Don't sweat it girl!I ate three days worth of food at my Gmas bday party today. I feel sick I'm so full :( but I know tomorrow is a new chance to make healthy choices!

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2/23/13 7:11 P

I regret not watching my food intake today...hubs made spaghetti sauce and I ate a cup of it...yummy...too many calories for a meal.

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2/22/13 5:52 P

Aw man! Sorry to hear that Laurie! Hope you're feeling better. I am doing the same thing today. I had a rough day at work so i'm just walking on the treadmill watching food network and not pushing it or anything. Sometimes ya just need those days (especially if you're sick!) Maybe use this sick time as recovery for your body so when you are feeling better you'll be nice and ready for a more intense workout.

Hope you're feeling okay to go to your son's tournament! Sending you cyber soup!

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2/22/13 4:00 P

Nice job!! I've been sick the last few days with a cold - it turned really nasty last night. So, I never realized before that I turn to those basic carbs when I am sick and that comfort food I thought I had under control. Hmmmm....pb sandwiches, chocolate chips, noodles with butter....Anyways, I did stop myself before it got outta control so , bonus. But it's the exercising that's tough. Wheezing, coughing, nose running - so tonight is say yes to the dress all night on TLC so I think I'll put my treadmill on slow with no incline and stroll my through at least an hour. Small victory to be moving, but I ned to listen to my body when it says no as well.

How are you doing Daisy? Remember the small victories are just as important as the big ones! Have a good weekend. My youngest son has a volleyball tournament all day Sat, so I'm hoping to be feeling well enough to go - and well enough that I'm not spreading my bug to everyone there!

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2/20/13 8:21 P

Small victory of the day---I stayed within my calorie range today (granted i don't blow it after i write this but i'm determined not to!) and really pushed myself at crossfit today. I was getting discouraged because I can't lift NEARLY what the other people can, but I know it's about competing about myself, not others and I tried my best.


How was everyone elses' day?? Hope you're all doing well!

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2/19/13 7:35 P

Don't sweat it Laurie! There are worse things to binge on and you are doing awesome with your steps!! You go girl!

As for me, I had a much needed healthy eating day. My body was craving veggies and protein so that's what I gave it. It felt great to have a low sugar day after all that icing and ice cream the last couple of days so that is my small victory for the day.

Keep up the good work ladies!

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2/19/13 7:20 P

Bit of a rice krispie binge - oh dear. 14,000 steps though, but it is a bit discouraging to work so hard and blow it, but I know it was totally a stress attack, so I've shaken it off and will be okay until bedtime and tomorrow is a fresh day.

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2/19/13 9:36 A

Very nice start to the day Daisy! Keep up the good work - just like the little engine that could - I know you can!!

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2/19/13 8:09 A

Nice work Laurie!! Every step is a step toward positive goals! wooo!!!

Well off to crossfit! Have a happy, healthy day!

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2/19/13 1:05 A

Awesome Daisy!!! I got 16,000 steps - love my fitbit. Here's to small victories tomorrow. Good night everyone.

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2/18/13 7:57 P

Small victory of the day: I had a healthy dinner, brushed my teeth and forgave myself for today's binge. Tomorrow is a new day!!

Anyone else have a victory to share?

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2/18/13 1:56 P

Back atchya!

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2/18/13 1:29 P

I never really thought of it like that Laurie. Thank you! I guess I just need to accept that it isn't going to be easy but I need to push through and focus on the times when I do resist temptation, no matter how few and far between. Thanks again. You're the best!

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2/18/13 1:22 P

Hi Daisy! Been there done that! Venting about it is good, so count that as a victory. The one thing that I wanted to say is that there is NOTHING wrong with you. We have a food addiction and that's no different than having diabetes, asthma, arthritis or any other chronic disease. This is something we will have to deal with the rest of our lives and so we need to learn how to live the best and healthiest life we can - without beating ourselves up. Our brains respond very differently to food than someone who is not addicted to food, so this is a very difficult process to fight against. I know you feel bad about eating the cream cheese icing, but I want you to continue your day with your plan in place and know that you are making such positive steps. And when you fall again, because we all do, pick yourself up and keep going and know that that too is success. I have faith in you that you will fall fewer and fewer times and that you will win the struggle. And don't be afraid to kick those temptations to the curb ie toss that pasta out, don't make enough to have left overs...Here's to a great day ahead.

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2/18/13 1:01 P

Thanks Laurie! Those are great suggestions. I love using gum as a life savor but my mom ALSO tells me how bad it looks! I guess I will have to chew discretely. I looked at the menu online and want to get the salad & add shrimp with minestrone soup. The bread basket will probably be the hardest part to resist at the restaurant so I may make a couple pieces of that my indulgence.

Right after I posted on this thread an hour or so ago, i was determined to turn my day around after my frosting binge. I wanted to get out of this house and drive back to my apt to start my healthy day. WELL i was sidetracked. I went to the fridge to get some water, spotted the icing again.....and finished the entire jar AND afterwards finished off a bag of pretzels and some leftover pasta. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME? I dont know why it is so hard for me to resist these things. My intentions are so good. That's why I started this thread to begin with. I feel like i can talk the talk but when it comes to walking the walk i just keep failing over and over.

Its like once i start binging, i keep going and going because in my mind, i already blew it. Once i have something sweet--i want something salty. Then I want something sweet. then something savory. It's horrible. I know we are supposed to forgive ourselves and move on but it's so hard when i keep doing it to myself over and over. Sometimes I think i might actually have a problem and see someone about my binge eating but i wouldnt even know where to go and i feel silly explaining it to anyone except you guys.

anyway, that's my vent for the day. I am so full so my small victory will be if i have a small, healthy dinner (omelette or salad) later tonight and hten brush my teeth and call it quits, instead of continuing my overeating late night. If i can do that, i feel like i can forgive myself for all of the damage I just did.

Well, off to go do errands. Thanks again Laurie for the suggestions!

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2/18/13 12:44 P

Hi Daisy! Family celebrations - loaded with lots of temptations! One of the things I do when we are heading out to a restaurant is check online for the menu. If it's there, I choose what I want before we even head out. My family likes to get appetizers; I never order one and I try ad keep my hands and mouth busy playing with my glass of water. I also chew gum. My Mom told me once how awful it looks, but I find gum a lifesaver, so I chew gum until my main course comes. I ask for sauces on the side and I try and doggy bag half my meal. The warm bread basket is one of my down falls, so I've asked my family to not get it any more and they are supportive of me that way. When dessert comes around, I order a tea. It's funny, but I can be very good at the restaurant, so for me it's when I get home that it sometimes goes off the tracks, because now I feel like I should reward myself. That's when I try and get out of the kitchen and into my bedroom to get away from the food.

So, keep your eye on the prize, ask your family to support you, plan for one indulgence - and you'll be fine.

I look forward to reading your victory for today! Have a great one Daisy. Cheers!

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2/18/13 12:10 P

Good morning Laurie! I swear---you read my mind sometimes. Every time I am about to post on here, you beat me to it! Maintaining is AWESOME. it is no small feat! Awesome job!

I just gave into the tub of cream cheese frosting I made yesterday to decorate my gmas bday cake. Not too happy about that but at least I'm heading back to my apartment today which is free of sugary temptation so hopefully the rest of hte day/week will be all healthy choices! I'm kind of nervous about my gmas bday party at the italian restaurant on saturday though. They bring out course after course and all these bread baskets and then of course, we have dessert after. I overindulged this weekend and I really don't want to do it again. Any tips? I always try and drink plenty of water and focus on family, not food but it's easier said than done!

Hope everyone has a terrific day and I am determined to post a small victory on this board today and you guys all should be too!! LETS DO IT!

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2/18/13 11:49 A

Good Morning!! Hope all is well in your universe. Me, no weight loss, but still maintaining. I question that this may be it for me, but then I wonder if I didn't indulge at night just maybe the scale would move down. Anyways, here's sending good wishes out to everyone o this post for a wonderful day with many successes!

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2/17/13 7:46 P

Awesome MizMinnie!! Much success to you and your husband, something to celebrate! Cheers

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2/17/13 7:13 P

Thank you so much, both of you.
And I love the idea of posting something positive each day.

My positive things today:
Got on the scale, and saw that I've lost 5 pounds.
Husband had an interview.
And I've eaten really good today.

Well, mostly. I had some really healthy soup, but ate a piece of bread and butter with it.

But hey, baby steps!

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2/17/13 6:20 P

Hi Daisy and MizMinnie: We have a long weekend this weekend, the Family Day weekend, so 4 of my kids are home today - and it makes me feel very happy. I totally share the whole eating too much at the wrong times because - I'm bored, tired, angry, happy, celebrating, it's there, it's cold and dark outside, that food looked so good in the magazine, on tv, my kids are eating, my husband brought my favourite chocolate home....It's so easy to beat ourselves up when we make a poor choice and so hard to be nice to ourselves and even harder to pat ourselves on the back when we make good choices. The conversations we have in our heads, well we would never talk to someone else like that so why do we talk to ourselves like that....Anyways, you are beautiful no matter your size!! So, I put out into the universe my best wishes for you MizMinnie and that with all the positive vibes we on this thread are putting out for you things will turn around!

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2/17/13 4:30 P

I understand that feeling all too well. It's a vicious cycle but together we can break it! The key, i think is trying to separate the stress, and negative feelings from the food. Food SHOULD be fuel for us and make us feel good but instead, in our cases, it makes us feel like crap because we overeat and then feel guilty.

How bout we do do daily check ins and try and share ONE tiny victory each day---even if it's something as small as saying "no thank you" to a cookie at work or walking past the fridge without grazing. We will do this the POSITIVE way instead of focusing on our downfalls.

WHO'S IN?

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2/17/13 4:07 P

As I was reading your reply, the list of foods you ate made me drool. I really need to work on that. Like I said, I have a lot of medical problems. And those on top of my eating habits caused me to gain 100 pounds in less than a year. And I've been struggling to lose weight for over a year now. Nothing seems to help. I will say that I'm really glad I found this website, and this forum. Talking to people that are going through the same things and understand makes it feel not as overwhelming. What I'll do is be upset and binge. Then when I'm done, I'll be upset with myself for eating so much... and my solution is to eat even more! I don't understand. I'll eat until I feel like I'm going to throw up, but if it's still sitting close to me, I'll pick at it. I turn 22 in just a few days. And it's hard wanting to go out or really be around people. I'll see someone looking at me, and think to myself, "They're looking at my weight. They can see my neck. They think I'm fat." I think one of the most important things about all of this is self esteem. We really need to learn to love ourselves again. Or for some, for the first time ever. I went from a size 8, to a size 22! And even at my smallest size I would put myself down.

But the main thing right now is depression. My husband lost his job a couple weeks ago. And it was a great paying job. Now we're having trouble knowing what's going to happen in our lives. I'm too sick to work, and jobs are hard to find. So we're in fear of becoming homeless, car-less and animal-less. We have two cats, and it seems silly, but I just can't live without them! On top of that, I have about $20,000 in medical bills! I'm having so much trouble keeping positive. I've been sleeping for 12 hours, awake for 5, sleep for 16. I know sleep is helpful in losing weight, but not this much!

I read the entire post, and you all seem so supportive and easy to talk to. And that's something I could really use! My husband is here for me, but he doesn't understand the weight problem. He's literally half my size. And he'll say "You're beautiful. You're not fat." And in his eyes, I'm not. Which is great! But working out next to him, or eating with him sometimes makes me feel blah. I'm sorry I vented so much! But I just needed to talk about it with someone that understands.

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2/17/13 3:43 P

Welcome to the group MizMinnie! We can all identify with your struggles for sure. We wouldnt be here if we didnt! It's good that you voiced to your husband that you would rather him bring you non-food items to cheer you up. I'm sure he will learn eventually. Men take longer to process things like that haha.

I too, eat when i'm bored, tired, mad, sad etc. Just today I had so much free time on my hands being home for the day and binged on buffalo chicken dip, icecream and cupcakes. I feel terrible after. I know i only did it because i was bored. I feel frustrated because I worked out so hard this morning---only to ruin my efforts in such a short amount of time. I understand how you feel and we are all here to support each other, not judge so feel free to post whenever you have questions, good days, bad days--whenever!

Hope you have a positive rest of the day. I am going to try and turn my bad eating day around NOW!

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2/17/13 3:21 P

I have a similar problem. I'll go to bed, excited to get started the next day, and wake up sick. (I have a lot of medical problems) And there are a lot of things going on in life that are causing me to be depressed. I'm an eater. Not just emotional. I eat when I'm bored, when I'm hungry, when it's sitting in front of me, when I'm angry, when I'm depressed. And my husband has a bad habit of bringing me a snack to cheer me up. A candy bar here, a bag of chips there, fast food for lunch. And it all adds up so quickly. I've asked him to stop doing it, and bring me a card or flowers or something instead, but he's having trouble remembering. It's so easy to be prepared to do something. Some working out, eating healthy. Then it comes up to it, and you just don't have it in you. It's hard to be so tuned into something when there's distractions coming up every which way. I like the idea of drinking water and thinking before you eat something. I will definitely try this with you. I haven't read the full forum yet, so I'm not sure if it's done good or bad for you. (I probably should have read it all before posting)

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2/15/13 11:10 A

LAURIE! It is so weird---I had on my to-do list for today to write in this thread! I have been thinking about you guys but keep forgetting to post. I'm glad you are maintaining! That is awesome news. I have been doing pretty well with my eating as well---no big time binges in awhile which is a huge feat for me. I do however, have my grandmas birthday party coming up this weekend at an amazing italian restaurant. They bring out courses and courses of food to sample and THEN have you order a meal too. AHHH! Then we are going back to her house for dessert which is always my downfall (along with hte bread basket) but luckily im making the dessert so i'm going to make my famous greek yogurt cake. yum yum!


How are the rest of you doing? Back to watching my man, Dr. Oz!! HAVE A HAPPY HEALTHY DAY!

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2/15/13 10:34 A

Hi Everyone! It's been a while since anyone posted a message here. Hope all is well and everyone is experiencing much success! Me, I haven't lost any weight, but am still maintaining which in my books is awesome! I have gained weight my entire adult life, so even though I still need to lose another 35 pounds, maintaining makes me feel good too. Cheers!

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1/27/13 8:32 A

Yes, we definitely understand your dilemma! First of all, your family is lucky to have such a good chef who is always thinking about what they want to eat and making it wholesome and delicious. I can relate to your portion control problem, but my problem is more self-control than portion control since I do portion out all of my food (usually). If you dont mind, I have a few suggestions for you that have worked for me:

1) Try not to make SO much food that you have a lot of leftovers. That way, you can portion out your portion of the meal (try to use measuring cups to gage portions) and then divvy up the rest among your family. Then when you are done, there isn't a huge pot or pan of more food to go back for seconds, thirds, fourths....etc. Trust me! I know how hard it is to resist more of something so yummy so this makes it easier to resist.

2) Use smaller plates. You may not feel deprived of a bigger portion of deliciousness if you are putting it on a smaller plate. This is so simple but it is something that has really changed the way I eat. I use dessert plates for my meals so it looks like my plate is packed and I'm getting more food.

3) You mentioned you usually start with a salad and then move onto your meal. This is a great idea! However, maybe you could try serving hte salad and meal together so that you can fill your plate mostly with the healthy salad, and then your smaller portion of pasta or whatever it may be won't seem restricted because you still have a whole plate of delicious food. This also prevents the inevitable "the whole family is still eating but I'm already done just sitting here" feeling. I know that feeling all too well!

4) Homemade mac and cheese, chili and chocolate chip pancakes are two of my favorite foods so I can understand why your kids would love them! Maybe try making lighter versions---not usually artificial ingredients but by making healthy swaps! For example, try cutting your sour cream with half greek yogurt in your chili or substituting some of the oil in your pancakes with applesauce or greek yogurt (I use greek yogurt in place of eggs AND oil in my cakes and they come out SOOO moist! No one ever knows the difference ;-) ) There's nothing wrong with indulgent treats but maybe small swaps like this makes all the difference if you do have a larger portion.

Welp that's all I have for now! I hope these suggestions help. Remember, your happiness is just as important as the rest of your family. Making small changes to make resisting temptation and overeating EASIER for you is worth it! Your family will understand. Going to bed proud is something I strive for every day, and often I fail but the nights I am a success, I feel AMAZING and wake up the next day ready to take on the world!

Good luck and keep us posted!!!

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1/27/13 3:32 A

It's good to see others are having the same complication of feeding others and still trying to make good choices. My kids eat healthy, but they also like rich foods like homemade mac n cheese, and chocolate chip pancakes on saturday mornings, crockpot chili loaded with sourcream and cheese. We make everything from scratch in our house using only 100% whole wheat, or even gluten free grains, but the food is always so good. Portion controlling is hard, and salad starts a meal instead of being the meal. I often start my day with good intentions making my fresh oatmeal with fruit and flaxmeal. Have my portioned snacks set aside for inbetween hunger pangs, almonds and dark chocolate chips are a favorite, I have lunch and dinner planned but always the portions. It kills me everytime. I almost wish there was a magic dust I could sprinkle on to make it all taste like brussel sprouts. I wish I didn't cook so well. I have even started limiting how much I make so there is not enough for unlimited seconds. Only problem is everyone is starting to notice. It's not going over very well either. I have a large family of myself and husband and 7 children that are homeschooled and thus eat every meal at home. I often go to bed loving my family and being proud of how I've cared for them, but hating how I've cared for myself.

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1/26/13 4:35 P

Sounds like you had a busy week Laurie! Kudos on getting your 10,000 steps in regardless of the situation and no need to fret about that chocolate slip up---happens to the best of us! You seem to have hopped right back on board the healthy train (that is really cheesy...i'm in a weird mood today). Nothin like a healthy breakfast and good walk to start the day off right!

As for the meal planning, im sure making healthy choices will get easier as you have less mouths to feed and you can focus on what YOU want to eat and not worry about if everyone else is going to like it or "consider it a real meal." For now, you seem to have it all under control and im sure your kids are grateful to have you planning and cooking away for them :)

Today I went to the supermarket and got a bunch of healthy snacks to make my own snack bags with my new food scale so that I can have pre-portioned snacks to bring to work with me. I bought different types of pop chips, mixed nuts and these funky little gummy things I found. While it seemed like a healthy idea, I consumed my body weight in nuts I feel like as I was portioning out the bags :-/ I haven't had nuts in a LONG time so I went overboard. After my nut binge, I got right on the treadmill and ran for a little, then walked while I listened to some good ol' country music. It helped relieve some of the guilt but I'm still kind of frustrated at myself for doing that.

Anyway, this too shall pass! I LOVE that Drew Carey quote. I"ve never heard it before. Thanks for sharing! Hope everyone else is doing well!!! So happy this thread is still going strong. I never thought I would get this much support when I started it :)

P.s. does anyone use a heart rate monitor or any kind of calorie counter (not the online kind---the one you wear)? I was thinking about buying one but I only want to buy one I know is accurate. Thanks!!

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1/26/13 1:30 P

Hello Fellow Sparkers! Hope all is well with everyone and that you have experienced many successes over the past week. My son and I flew from Calgary, Alberta to White Plains, New York this week to visit a prep school he is interested in attending. Quite the trip that started with a 2.5 hour delay in Calgary. At least it's a fairly large airport so I was able to get my 10,000 steps in pacing; unfortunately as the flight kept getting delayed longer and longer, I did have a binge of chocolate with some stress eating. We needed to be in NY for 11:55AM the next day for my son's interview with the admissions people at the school. We finally got to Chicago where we overnighted, almost missed the flight out the next morning because my cellphone and IPad didn't change time so we were an hour behind....Anyways suffice it to say that 3 days in airports sitting on my butt and eating airport food, well yuck!! So glad to be home today. Clipped my fitbit on my pants, got back on to Spark People, started the day with some Special K Vanilla Almond cereal with a kiwi and almond milk and getting ready to head downstairs to walk on the treadmill.

And yes, I think about food all day. Every morning my kids ask me what's for supper, so I have to think about what's happening that day, if I have anything in the freezer, and plan meals. Often it has to be something fast, filling, and easy. I wonder when all my kids have left if I will still approach food the same way and if I will cook the same way. I hope not, I hope I can still plan, but will have the time to make more nutritious meals. After all, my husband and I have very different nutritional needs than two growing, athletic boys.

Cheers to everyone. Have great weekends - make good choices, be positive, know that we are here to support each other. In the words of Drew Carey "eating crappy food isn't a reward, it's a punishment".

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1/22/13 8:41 P

Okay good ToBeMe! I don't feel so crazy now. Part of me has excepted that i'll never be one of those people that eats when their hungry and doesn't when there not. But part of me feels like its something to work toward. Why CANT I be one of those people? Why can't I just eat food I know is good for me and not worry about counting calories meticulously?

Sometimes I won't go out with my friends at night to bars etc because i know when i get home i will binge on everything in my house PLUS the added calories I already consumed in wine. I feel like life shouldn't be like that. I am 22 and single and I should be going out and having fun and not obsessing about calorie counting.

Does anyone have any tips on how to overcome the need to control the amount of calories and focus on nutrition and other aspects of life other than food? Or does anyone have an opinion about my first thought----Can a person change into a obessive eater into a self-controlled eater or are we the way we are and that's it?

I know this sounds really deep haha I apologize but I'd love to hear what you guys think.

Thanks for always being there!

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1/22/13 8:04 P

Daisy - absolutely I think about calories all the time (when i am behaving and even when I am not). My son said that I was a finatic when I first lost my 90 lbs and was maintaining. His view of me was that was all I did was measure, weigh, log, etc. I don't remember it being that bad. and this site makes it really quite simple...they've made quite a few improvements over the years. Yes, the people who can just eat when they are hungry - oh to be one of them.... I still have my portion control and cravings to try to control and manage....thus count calories.

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1/21/13 6:33 P

Hey Laurie! Good to hear from you. I have been overindulging the last couple days with lots of eating out and birthday celebrations so tomorrow starts my super healthy week! It's hard to get exercise in when you are traveling but a couple days off exercising won't hurt you. Think of it as letting your muscles recoop and eat mindfully and you're good to go :)

Hope you enjoy wherever you are traveling too! Keep us updated!!

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1/21/13 6:30 P

Hope everyone following this thread is doing well! I have found myself in front of the computer the last few days - things that just gotta get done! So, I find I eat a little more and exercise less. Nothing terrible, just not good health habits. I am trying to plan some exercise, but the rest of the week is probably a write-off. Wed and Fri I will be on a plane for 6 hours, a couple of hours in the car, so although I will try and move around it will be tough. Maybe I can get some journalling in! Here's to wishing everyone great days and NO bedtime regrets!

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1/15/13 4:55 P

Laurie---i love that you said that. You're right. As long as we are trying and we move on from our slip ups, we are successful. Beating ourselves up only leads to more overeating and unhealthy habits. For example, today i did well with my eating but i was substitute teaching all day and i am EXHAUSTED. I planned on running after work but i am giving myself an impromptu rest day to reward my positive food choices and let my muscles recoop. Sometimes we need to reward ourselves for tiny victories instead of focusing on the not-so-good choices we made yesterday or the day before.

Tobeme---I feel your pain. Your christmas candy, is my ice cream. Everytime i go home, i have MAJOR slip ups with binging on ice cream and then i think "why cant i just STAY AWAY and make myself proud and move on with this healthy life style? Everyone else seems to be able to do it!" but as long as we learn from our mistakes and try a diffrent approach next time, that is what matters. So many you have found that giving away the candy would be the best idea for now. Having just ONE day without a slip up can give you the confidence to face temptation so maybe after that you will be able to enjoy just one piece. For now, out of sight, out of mind.


Also, i wanted to ask you guys something. I have been thinking a lot lately about how MUCH time i devote to thinking about food. I think constantly about my calories and my parents are starting to get worried. I get frustrated because i feel like they just dont "get it." They have self control and eat when they are hungry---don't eat when they are not. I wish it were that simple for me but its just not. Do you guys think a lot about your eating or is it just me?

Hope everyone is having a great day!

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1/15/13 1:25 P

I just want to say to everyone that as long as we are trying and as long as we are working towards a healthier life, we ARE successful. We didn't gain the weight overnight, we didn't stop looking after ourselves overnight - this is going to take time. And as long as we are in this struggle together we are doing right. Here's to a positive day to all of us!!

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1/15/13 1:18 P

Wow, I can't believe I haven't posted in 10 days. I thought I had but guess there wasn't anything really positive to say. I haven't lost anything in the last 10 days. As far as being 'good' - I guess it is good that I have not put on any weight from the couple lbs I lost, but am getting closer to the monthly weigh in and unless I start ending my day good, I'm not going to make it. As I said - this topic is absolutely fitting. The 'right lifestyle' is at my fingertips... I just wish I could get a full handle on it. ....but there was still a basket of leftover Christmas candy that I didn't give away, which was one of my down falls as well as trying to do better on portion control - darn those 2nd helpings.

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1/15/13 12:54 P

I couldn't send ay emails out on my IPad and my phone - it was so frustrating - sorta lol. It was nice to just watch my kid play and when they were practicing I was able to walk on this amazing trail system right behind the fields. Not sure what part of the world you are from Daisy, but I live in Calgary, AB. Right now it is -18 and everything is covered in snow. At least the sun is shining, but it does make it hard to get motivated to do anything more than sit on the couch and watch TV. But, in spite of your medical condition, I know you are strong, so as you say, dust ourselves off and start today fresh. We can do it because we are strong, motivated women! Do your best and today will be successful. Cheers!

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1/15/13 12:37 P

Aw thanks for thinking of me. I'm so proud of you for staying active even on vacation. I would love to join you in dusting ourselves off and starting fresh! Today is going well for me so far. Welcome home! I hope you're rocking your day too!!

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1/15/13 11:54 A

Morning everyone! Just back from Phoenix with my son - we were at a college recruiting camp for lacrosse. I usually use a trip away as an excuse to not exercise and to treat myself. We got home last night at 1:30AM, so I did binge a bit, but other than that slip, I did really good making good food choices. Even got some walking in. I'm glad to be home though. Even in all the snow and cold. Daisy, I've been thinking about you. Let's dust ourselves off from our binges and get back on track right now! Cheers,

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1/14/13 2:00 P

Sometimes its like that.

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1/13/13 4:28 P

I was feeling really lonely and anxious today...when my parents left the house I binged on peanut butter, ice cream, rice Krispy treats,bread and leftover Chinese food. I feel so disgusted. I also have Epstein Barr which makes me go through periods of days where I am so exhausted I can't work out. Between my lack of exercise and my recent binges I am just so discouraged and it's making me snap at the people I love because I take my anger out on them. I know it's not right but i feel like I can't help it.

Ahhh sorry just had to vent. Hope you guys are having a better day.

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1/12/13 11:00 A

WOW! Great job!!! That must feel great for all your hard work to pay off. Wooo! Keep up the good work!

I have had a couple slip ups the last few days but nothing major so i'm pretty happy with how things are going too. Hope everyone else is enjoying the weather and avoiding the dreaded flu!

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1/12/13 10:57 A

It's been 7 days since my last post. I'm down a lot of weight...weigh in is Monday morning and may be as much as 7 pounds.

I'm feeling great, have found good foods to eat and get my 5 Dove dark chocolates every evening for my bedtime snack.

I plan on riding today...having great weather east of the Mississippi!

Hope you're all having a good day, too!

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