i need some help

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6/21/12 1:02 P

I know what you mean, I too need the help. I work 4-10 hour days sitting most of the time and very tired when I go home. I don't want to cook or do anythig I just want to go home and go to bed. I'm 42 this year and I have been told by my doctor that if I do not loose at least 100lb that he will recommend me for surgery and there is no way I'm going to have surgery. I too don't have family living around me. I talk with my husband about it but he is the type that can lose 10 lbs in 2 week with out tring, then he has to rub it in all the time. So that is really hard too. I hope that we both can find some help and motivation here.

Edited by: JSARROYO at: 6/21/2012 (13:03)

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6/20/12 9:30 P

You are special, because are perfectly and wonderfully made. You may be going through a rough spot at this time. But do not think of yourself as anything less than special.
Some people need to gain weight, some people need to lose weight. You have made a positive step towards your goal of losing weight, you have made a positive step towards continuing your education. It may not be a quick process, but along the way you will learn so much about yourself, that it will be worth the journey. You will love the support of Spark People

Edited by: GRAPHICS2 at: 6/20/2012 (21:32)

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6/20/12 8:43 P

Edited by: IAMARMSTRONG at: 6/20/2012 (20:43)

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6/20/12 8:42 P

MLANDERS3, I truly understand what it's like to have a family that dwells in negativity. The best thing I learned that helped me is that NO ONE, I MEAN NO ONE, can MAKE me feel anything- The way I feel is a choice. It is a choice to feel bad about myself when someone else says something negative- the only thing the other person can do is make noise; it's up to me how I feel about it.

It's all about perspective. What may help you, is to celebrate the very small STEPS you take that you know are good for you- notice I didn't say achievements, but steps. Focus on the joy of the journey.

When I read your post, I see opportunities for you to feel good. Don't you, my dear? I read about a little girl who can be your own personal gym! She has so much energy, I'm sure... all you have to do is play with her- you'll sweat, you'll become winded, you'll tire, you'll be sore... isn't that all WONDERFUL?!!!! That means you worked your muscles and your body. You exercised and bonded with your little girl at the same time.

You are going to school- be proud of that. You can walk around the building at lunch or on break. If you eat out at lunch, you can explore how to buy healthy meals from places that are usually considered unhealthy.

Most of all, form a private, sacred relationship with yourself that recognizes your self worth, because I know it's there. This is a process. It won't happen overnight, not even in a month or two. But every day is a chance to love yourself. And as your daughter grows, she will learn how to love and respect herself from your example.

I hope you find inspiration on this site- EVERYONE is here for you- come HERE if you need motivation and support. We are all your sparkfriends.

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6/20/12 7:03 P

I have been there myself! In fact, sometimes I still feel like a misfit. However, there are ways to improve how you feel, how you look, and give you more energy. And you have taken the first step by joining SP and asking for help and encouragement. There are some great people here and they have many tricks and tips to help you on the journey. For me, I started walking last summer and cut down on calories and fat. I lost 60 pounds, but gained 30 back over the winter (fell off the wagon for a while), and I have now taken off 20 of that 30 pounds I put back on. One step at a time kiddo. Take a short walk, and then increase it as you can. I try to get in 10,000 steps per day. Some days I don't get there. Other days, I do many more. I have even started riding a bicycle. I'm the short wide lady you see huffing and puffing.... lol. Also, I have also started putting my food into the food tracker. You will be surprised at what information you can gain from that. You can do this!! If you want, you can contact me. I'll be happy to help where I can!! :-) Barb

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6/20/12 12:30 A

I'm here for you.

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6/18/12 1:50 P

i need the help on getting my self going. i feel sad all the time and i only 22 years old and here i cant keep up with my daughtor. i want to spend the time with her and play with her but i cant keep up. and shes only 2 years old. i dont feel pretty im put down all the time by my family my friends has moved away from me. im starting school to be a dental assistant and i am going to be on my feel alot and my weight isnt going to help at all. i dont mean to put people down on here but i am putting the search out for help because i really need it.