You can't tackle everything at the same time, so pick one or two things that you can manage and manage them. Small things that are important...high priority. Do those things until they are a habit.
Good luck and take care of yourself!
"Don't let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use."
Start with one step, one small thing you think you can do, and do it daily. For example: eat those 5 servings of vegetables and fruit. Or do 10 minutes of exercise every day, could be just a walk around the block.Or meditate 10 minutes per day - that may help you be more calm and feel less suffocated in all the areas.
Knowing you are doing ONE thing right consistently, will give you a feeling of confidence. Report about how it goes (good or bad!) every day on your blog or on a team of your choice.
I get overwhelmed with things too and a lot of times I want to do nothing but put my head under the covers. What I find helps is writing a chart with listing the areas of my life I need to work with (even the ones going good) at the top and along the side I list week 1, 2, etc. and then in the grid I put ONE thing I can do pretty easily (you build as you progress). (I use Excel). Sample:
week Diet exercise bills wk 1 eat 3 veg 3x a wk walk for 5 minutes after work list all my bills
then each week it gets more detail and builds on the week previous like week 10 might be wk 10 eat 3 veg, drink 8 glasses water, eat fish 3x/wk :: walk 30 minutes 4x/wk :: call 2 credit card companies and work on a payment plan
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Thank you all so much for your support and suggestions. I realize I can't solve all of my problems at once and I really must focus on taking care of myself first which gives me terrible guilt but I understand I can't take care of anyone else until I take care of myself.
I'm terrified for the future but again I realize sitting here worrying and not doing anything about it isn't helping either.
I really have no support from family, friends or my husband so I have no one to talk to about any of this and I am really alone but it does help to post here and get some support. I truly am grateful for that.
"Everything in moderation...Including moderation". -Julia Childs
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Where it comes to health, IF you and your husband's health issues are being addressed by your Drs, try to relax. When you find you are focusing on that, take some slow, deep breaths ensuring that it is NOT into your chest.
Finances: make a budget. Write down what your regular bills are, i.e. power/food/gas/medical. Trim where you can. A lot of people spend a lot more on food than they need. Take a look where you can cut back. If you buy magazines weekly, do you NEED them? If you buy more than one, perhaps just chose one magazine for that week, IF your finances allow. If you have regular take-out meals, try making a healthy, cheaper version at home. If you drink alcohol, try cutting it out except for special occasions.
I have a spreadsheet for daily expenditure. There are various columns for food; petrol; power; phone; clothing; medical; entertainment; etc. and a column for notes. That enabled me to make a dead-accurate budget for the year. I had to apply for a hard-ship grant for our water rates. It had only just started, and I was the very first person approved for the grant of $500 (the maximum.) As part of the process, I had to see a Budgeting Service. I took my spreadsheets with me, and showed that I always payed the total credit card bill each month so didn't incur any interest. Most of my spending was Eftpos, Direct Debits or Credit Card so was easily tracked. She went through my budget and was stunned that I had managed so well, because the income was less than essential expenditure. Any birthday money I got went on essentials, not wants. I had gone through the firms that I owed money to, and explained the situation and what got us there (my late hubby's heart attacks and may other emergency hospital admissions for a couple other serious health conditions) which meant that there was no income. We were lucky in that we don't have to pay for our Hospital System here, but it still cost quite a bit of money traveling a considerable distance for his many hospital out-patient appointments as well as visiting him when he was in hospital. Because I had contacted the various firms, I didn't have to pay interest and they didn't case me either. One firm even allowed me to pay $500 off over TWO YEARS!!! They hadn't had anything to do with me prior to that. It shows that if YOU make the contact and explain the situation, they are more often than not prepared to allow you to drip-feed because to them.
All of this may seem overwhelming, but when you focus on one thing at a time, you would be surprised just how easy it really is.
There is only so much one person can do. We can't do everything. If we tried, we would end up frustrated and overwhelmed.
What to do ? You need to sit down and make a list of your PRIORITIES. You can't do everything, so you need to make a list of the things that are the most important. Everything else has to wait. You work your way down the list. If you try to do everything at once, you really will end up frustrated.
Set your priorities. Don't worry about things you can't control. Start with the things you can control and go from there. You're not Wonder Woman. There really is only so much one person can do.
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You start with a plan for one thing. And then when that plan is consistent, you start on a plan for the next. One step at a time, one day at a time. Take care of yourself first and the rest will fall into line.
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