Hi! Congratulations on sharing with such admirable self-honesty. I remember family celebrations where I didn't know what to do--have cake or not? Enjoy good food prepared by loving hands or abstain?
But that was not the real issue. The real issue was how I felt afterwards, so I finally worked out two new behaviors that have honestly helped me walk away from those gatherings feeling really good. One change is to be removed physically and mentally for a short time. When cake is served, I discreetly move to the back of the room, sit and smile with good will, but no cake. If I really want cake, I immediately go to the one who is serving and whisper a request for a half piece.
The second new behavior is to "story board" in my mind before I leave home. I try to imagine what will happen and plan how I would LIKE to respond. These 2 actions have upped my enjoyment because I can relax and leave with healthy self-esteem. And prayer helps me tremendously, always, so I don't feel alone when making difficult decisions, even small ones. And, of course, checking in with SP as you have done. Good Role Model, my Friend!
From the sounds of your message, you already have all the essentials to be successful and are willing to apply them on you journey forward. Happy Sparking, Mary
It's best to assume that NOTHING is wrong with you!
I think it takes practice to learn to stay on track during challenging times. I also feel that building steady habits around food and exercise are your best bet. Then, trying times will not be able to change your behaviors so much. So be consistent. Use the 'other goals' function here at SP and make it a fixed habit to come here daily and fill in the 'other goals'. Set 'other goals' like - Exercise x minutes per day / week - Eat x servings of vegetables per day - Go to bed before x pm And so on. Simple goals that are doable. And by all means, brag about your accomplishments on your team forums and in your blog. Or ask for support and advice.
If you can train yourself to be consistent with these, not going overboard when times become rough or challenging becomes easier.
Edited by: 2015TODAY at: 5/13/2014 (11:39)
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5/12/14 10:36 A
Nothing is wrong with you ! Don't beat yourself up because you've been eating a little too much these past couple of weeks. I give all new members and anyone who will listen to me one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.
We've all had things like this happen. It doesn't make you a bad person or an unhealthy one.
What to do ? Start with some simple changes. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Set some simple weekly goals to slowly ease yourself back into a routine.
Take baby steps literally and figuratively.
The fact is, there are going to be more weddings and birthdays and holidays and all sorts of other events where we are going to be presented with yummy food. As long as you don't eat like this every single day, you really will be fine. I can't imagine living a life where I wasn't allowed to eat something because I was worried I'd gain weight. that's not healthy. Do your best to eat right and watch your portions when you can.
It takes time to find the right balance, so be patient with yourself and your body.
No one is perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy.
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159 5/12/14 10:22 A
After having a fairly easy time staying on track with most of my new healthy habits for months, I have let two weddings and a one week holiday turn into 3 weeks of not tracking food, eating chocolate and snacks, slacking on exercise, sleep and freggies, and gaining back 4 kilo of the 23 I had lost!
My first reaction would be to stop logging into SP, feel sorry for myself and console myself with even more chocolate. But I know that's no good. I really need to stop this destructive behaviour before it is too late.
What is wrong with me? Why do I feel so out of control, apparently trying to undo all the good work of the last year? And what worked for you to get your focus back?
Any advice on this would be very welcome!
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