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12/29/13 10:00 A

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Sandra, I hope you find some successful ways of coping with the stresses.

This is a thought from outside the ballpark. Your family loves you, and they don't want their problems to become your problems, but they probably can't help it any better than you can with the bingeing. You are not the cause of their fighting, and, really, (from the outside) it's not 'your' problem. Try to distance yourself from the fighting while still loving the fighters--that's a tough one, but in the long run, it's the most positive thing you can do. Separate your problem from theirs.

I wish you success. Recognizing your triggers is an enormously useful step.

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12/29/13 5:54 A

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You may want to read the book 'Brain over Binge' by Kathryn Hansen.

It offers a different perspective on binge eating. One of the the ideas in the book is that you don't need to do 'other things' instead of eating and that it may not be useful to see a binge as 'eating your feelings'. But that it's best to learn to not see the drive to overeat as important, and, from that insight, not act on it. It's hard to explain it but the book does a good job.

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12/27/13 11:47 A

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I'm glad to read that you got some helpful replies and feel supported! You are not alone in this struggle. I have found that journalling and blogging have been very helpful to me.



Edited by: SUNNYSIDEUPMARY at: 12/27/2013 (11:48)
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12/27/13 1:46 A

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Thanks a lot for all your replies! This is a really supportive community :)

Well, I will try all your suggestions, from going out to walk, to listen to music and write… I will start to go to the Dr. to talk about all this. I said that to my mom today and she supported me. I feel kinda bad because that means more expenses in the house and right now we don't know what is going to happen, but I can't take it anymore. I hope for the best and will pray to God daily to be prepared for the worst.

Again, thanks a lot for all your replies you guys are the best!



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Remove yourself from the situation as much as possible and use exercise to work out your frustrations instead of food.

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12/26/13 5:16 P

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Sandra .... my heart goes out to you & even to your parents.

The other posters had some great ideas for you so I have nothing original to add. What I *do* want to say is GOOD for you for recognizing what triggers this binge. It may seem like a small thing, but it isn't! Lots of people wouldn't be able to "put their finger on" what causes them to head to the fridge or the cupboards.

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Is there any way you can change your living situation?

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Hi, Sandra !

Dealing with family stress is never an easy thing. No one will fault you for turning to food for comfort. Many of us have done the same in similar situations. You are in a tough situation, but one thing you need to try to do is find other ways to vent your stress that don't involve food.

The next time you feel like running to the kitchen, put on your jacket and take a walk. Literally walk away from the situation. If you're not near the food, you won't be tempted to eat it. If you don't want to take a walk, how about putting on your favorite music ? music can be very relaxing. sit and have a cup of tea or maybe take a bubble bath. Do you knit or have some other type of hobby ? engaging in your favorite hobby is another way to reduce stress.

You don't want to stuff your face with your feelings. Find other ways to reduce your stress. If you need to, punch a pillow. I've taken boxing lessons. believe me, hitting a heavy bag can be very therapeutic. So, can writing. Have you ever considered writing out how you feel just before you eat ? Why not try writing or blogging whenever you feel the urge to eat. Writing can be very liberating.

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When I had family issues and fights going on in the house, instead of sitting and listening I would go and and take a walk by myself. I also used to keep a journal and write down how everything going on effected me.
Getting away from the drama and writing things down helped me a lot and I felt better.
I don't know if this will help you but it's just a thought.

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Hi Sandra

Have you ever sought professional help for dealing with what's going on- either the emotional issues in your family or your eating disorders? Although SparkPeople is a great place to get support, we're not a replacement for one-on-one, professional help. Have you tried talking to your parents about what's going on and the effect it's having on you? Perhaps some kind of counseling for the whole family might be an option?

I'm sure you realize that food might make you feel better in the moment, but it ends up making you feel worse in the long run. Here are a few articles I'd recommend reading:

www.sparkpeople.com/resource/nutrition_art
icles.asp?id=1703


www.sparkpeople.com/resource/nutrition_art
icles.asp?id=812


www.sparkpeople.com/resource/wellness_arti
cles.asp?id=1396


I hope this helps. Please keep us posted on how things are going.

Coach Jen

Edited by: SPARK_COACH_JEN at: 12/26/2013 (07:23)
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Lately I've feel terrible, I've been really sad because in this holiday season my family is in ruins: I don't have the security that my father will stay with us anymore and I have the constant fear that something bad will happen (my mom explodes and becomes very aggressive when fighting with my dad). This has happened for many years and although they calmed down for a while, they are starting again … and badly. I've tried my best to not over stress because of this but today I couldn't take it anymore. I had a bad binge, I ate 6 pieces of sweet bread and a piece of cheese and chicken lasagna. I know that the food will not help and will only make me feel bad, Im trying my best to let go of my binge problem and although Im happy that I have detected when and why I start to binge (when I've had family problems) I don't know what other activities can I do to get away of the habit… I really want to lose weight and my binges and over eating disorders get in the way… I've done the first step by recognizing when they start but I have problems finding what to do in those terrible moments. What would you do?

PS. I've tried to talk to my parents about this but they just don't listen, they say they will try their best but then they do it again…



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