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11/25/13 11:06 P

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I totally get what you mean---sometimes it's a lonely thing. But at the end of the day, it's just you and your body. You know what you want, you know how to reach that goal, and you have what it takes to succeed. As a pretty new guy myself, I've had a few weeks like what you describe---where every day turns into "just this one day." What I've done each time is say, "Okay, now I start again." I also found it helpful to write down the little traps I fell into and just pick the trickiest and decide it won't get me again, and devise strategies to defeat it. For example, I started dropping in at fast food places one week when I was crazy busy. That weekend, I filled a box with healthy snacks and put it in my car, so I had something for those busy lunchtimes. You've identified the solitude as a problem and you reached out, so you've tackled one obstacle. Use this site! Loads of tools no matter your style.

Look around. God gave you this precise moment. Use it.

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11/25/13 4:10 P

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I give all new members one pece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". if the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. that's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. Change takes time. thus the need to be patient with yourself and your body. NO ONE ever became a healthy eater overnight, it's impossible.

That's why SP encourages its members to start with simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. If you're not used to exercising for six days a week, don't start with six days, start with 1 or 2. You need to slowly ease into a routine so that your exercise will become just that, a routine. The same is true of eating. Don't drastically cut your calories too low to start or you will end up binging later. Start with some simple changes such as drinking more water or eating more servings of fresh fruit and veggies.

Be kind to yourself as you would to others. It really does take time to learn new habits. If you need support, post on the forums. the SP community will support you.

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11/25/13 3:09 P

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My best advice: create a spark page, start blogging about what you have done everyday and join a few teams that you like.
You will get LOTS of support.


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11/25/13 12:40 P

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" It's like I have no support around me, and I feel like everyone needs that push."

The lack of external support is common, typical... that's why the "push" (that I agree, we all need) has to come from WITHIN.

If something is "extremely important" to you - do not allow success/failure to rely on external forces. You can't control external forces. If you frame it in your mind as "I will lose weight and get healthier (but only IF I get support and encouragement from my mother/sister/spouse/co-workers/diet-buddy/etc.)" then you cannot succeed, because nobody can provide you with sufficient support/encouragement/motivation. You have to frame it as "I will lose weight and get healthier - NO MATTER whether anyone helps me." Then any help or support you get, will be an added bonus - but your program won't be at constant risk of failure due to the fading-away of external support systems.

Goal 1 - break 200 (46 pounds lost)**DONE**
Goal 2 - leave obesity behind (BMI 29.9, at 185#) **DONE**
Goal 3 - BMI = Normal (154# or less)

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11/25/13 12:35 P

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You're being so hard on yourself when in reality you already know what to do in a sense, you come here! We're all here for the same reasons as the friends you had that started with you. Make us your new friends. We all are here to get healthy and help others. You know why you feel like giving up slowly, and haven't already? You might think its all will power, but it has a lot to do with the part of the brain that you do not control. When you start exercising and eating healthy like we need to, your brain likes it a LOT. You function a lot better inside and out with the help of a good diet/exercise program. When you start slipping off track and start having those guilty feelings, it is because your brain is telling you STOP! GO BACK TO WHAT YOU WERE DOING!!! Just remember that. You can do this. We are all rooting for you. Don't quit! If you quit now, you'll be here 1 year from now wishing you didn't. Just think..6 months until my dream body, or 80 more years of life hating my body.

Take it one day at a time. :)

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11/25/13 12:28 P

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At the start of all of this I had people doing it with me, I had that buddy to go to the gym with and the person at home who refused junk food with me. But now both people have decided it's not for them, and to go back to their old habits. I completely understand that for everyone you have to get to the point where you want it bad enough you stick to it.
I did really good for the first two weeks, I ate enough meals a day, worked out daily, and lost six pounds. I was so excited! It seems like lately though I feel like i'm falling back into old habits and I'm not quite sure how to stop. :( I still eat healthy, and have replaced things with more healthy alternatives but I keep catching myself getting fast food or eating unhealthy and thinking "It's okay, just this one time". I know it's okay to have those days, but not when everyday is becoming one of those days. :(
Being healthy and the healthy weight for my height is extremely important to me, but I feel like giving up lately. It's like I have no support around me, and I feel like everyone needs that push.
I have no idea what to do!

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