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11/19/13 1:26 P

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That's the point at which the motivation failed for me, too. You need something else to keep you going past that point. Fortunately by that point I was also quite comfortable physically with how much I was eating, and I actually *liked* the overall lifestyle I was living. I'd gotten into a habit with it and was happy with it and so why change? I could feel very distinctly mentally that I was no longer gung ho like I had been; it just didn't matter. It would have taken an active effort to sabotage myself by that point due to how comfortable I was, so why bother? Momentum carried me, motivation didn't.

So I think you need to find that "long-term comfortable" place for yourself too, whatever it might be for you specifically. Everythign becomes so much simpler then.

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GIRLONTHEGO2010
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11/18/13 3:29 P

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Thanks so much. @honeybeelissa I totally agree with what you said about lifestyle changes. When I first started out I was only eating a few different foods. Realistically thinking I know I can not maintain such a limited diet over the long haul. I stopped drinking soda a couple months ago and now I don't even miss them. I occasionally have an iced tea but that also is rare.

Thanks so much for all the great suggestions. I am going to try to focus on other areas and see how I do. I am kind of stuck in an all or nothing mindset. I am trying hard not to do that and give up like I have in the past. Thanks All. emoticon

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11/16/13 5:49 P

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Change up the routine! If you've been focusing more on your food, start focusing on your water. Don't give up what you've done on your food, but add something new. Or pick up a new exercise routine! Try not to look it as exercise. If you enjoy biking do that. Ice skating? try that. Make it something you enjoy! This is your LIFE you are building!!!

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11/16/13 5:29 P

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Like HONEYLISSABEE said, it's about long-term. I too have lost motivation time and time again (oddly, when I was close to losing my 100th pound, I lost motivation, and gained about 40 of it back). I am back on an upswing, and I have been working to truly create habits. For example, every day when I wake up, I automatically put on my workout clothes.I kind of zone out, and then when I finally realize what's going on, I'm already out the door going to the gym. Even if I don't want to, it just happens. It's become as natural as brushing my teeth.

I noticed that once I stopped obsessing about the weight loss itself, it has been so much better. I realized that I needed to just stop weighing myself so much, and basically, just do it. Just exercise, count all calories, and eat within the correct calorie range, and the weight loss will come. I started looking at it from a day-to-day basis rather than looking too far into the future and feeling discouraged about how much weight I still have to lose.

If you are truly not feeling motivated, hold off or lighten the exercise mode and just worry about counting calories for maybe, a week (this is what I do when I feel the "lull" coming on) and then get back to the workouts. as long as one habit is in place, you're doing fine.


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GIRLONTHEGO2010,

Don't beat yourself up because you're not feeling overly motivated. This is something that has happened to us all. What most people don't realize is that weight loss can be down right boring. So, what to do when your get up and go has got up and went ? It's time for a change. Have you been eating the same foods day after day ? If so, time to change your menu. Have you been doing the same workout day after day ? If so, ditto, time to try something new.

Variety is the spice of life. While it IS important to maintain a routine, you do want that routine to engage your senses in some way. That's why I'm a big believer that exercise should be fun. Because when we enjoy doing something we look forward to that something each and every day.

Tell me, what ARE some things that you've done these past couple of months to improve your health that you enjoy doing on a regular basis ? Whatever those things are, keep doing them. If you find there are things that seem tedious, then let's find ways to make them more interesting.

I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. Every little bit really does make a difference. And if you're getting bored with your routine, it's time to change your routine.




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11/16/13 12:55 P

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I've been there many, many, many times. In fact, I'm currently going through another honeymoon phase, so I'm apprehensive about the upcoming weeks.

I am somewhat of a "prude" when it comes to relationships. In many ways, I am like the Duggar family (the family with about 100 kids). I don't plan on holding hands with a guy until we are engaged, and I plan on saving my first kiss for my wedding day (as well as everything after that, obviously).

When it comes to marriage, people don't do it for the honeymoon. That's a week or two. I've never heard wedding vows that say "Until the plane lands back home from the honeymoon." I have, however, heard "'Til death do us part."

I find it interesting that people compare the first couple weeks of a "diet" to a honeymoon. We seem to forget that the entire thing is supposed to be for life. We tend to marry and divorce our "diets" right after the "honeymoon."

I think my best piece of advice is to really look at what you have been doing. Can you see yourself do it for life?

I'll admit, I have my doubts. I gave up soda back in 2008, and I pretty much only drink water (including unsweetened flavored and flavored seltzer waters), iced tea (unsweetened), and whole milk now (I do like making meal replacement smoothies with fruit, veggies, yogurt, milk, and nuts/seeds). Right now, I've been working on eating more real foods. With the exception of eating out, I haven't eaten any artificial colors, flavors, preservatives (BHA, BHT, nitrates, nitrites), MSG, [partially] hydrogenated oils, high fructose corn syrup, or white flour (I don't like white rice). I have had some limited amount of sugar, but I primarily use honey and maple syrup to sweeten plain yogurt (I couldn't resist the $0.88 Chobani Bites though!).

It's tough, but I'm realizing that I miss the idea of eating Oreos and milk more than I miss the Oreos themselves.I find I'm just as (if not more) satisfied with a sweeter treat (like some homemade french toast or a peanut butter and jelly on homemade bread) paired with a glass of milk. Even after less than 2 weeks, my desire for junk has decreased. It's becoming easier and easier for me to say "no" to processed foods.

I think that's where a diet becomes a lifestyle change. When it becomes the "norm" and you continue eating in a certain way even after the excitement of a honeymoon phase is over. I don't think twice when I turn down soda or white rice because it's become a part of me.

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GIRLONTHEGO2010
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I was doing great. I was measuring and logging everything I ate. I was walking almost everyday. I was seeing results I lost actual pounds. Now it's been almost two months and I am loosing steam. I have a huge amount to loose to be at a healthy range. I feel discourage for loosing my motivation so quickly. I'm trying to get back on track but I just am not sure how. Any help, advice or suggestions welcomed. I don't have much support so I have been going along this journey on my own.

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