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you will have to learn to tune out the nagative and focus on you :)

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Never let others de-rail you. If you do you give them control over your life. You have already made great leaps and you should be proud. Most people make hurtful comments because they are jealous of your accomplishments. They believe that tearing you down will make them feel better about their failures. emoticon emoticon

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It's funny (ironic) that this topic came to the top of the list today, because I am working through a few hurtful comments made by others recently. It's easy to feel defeated and derailed by their insensitivity, and it's tough to let go of their words and re-focus on the positive changes that have already become GOOD habits, but I have decided that I'm no longer going to stew over their cutting remarks for days or weeks, or dwell on how far I still have to go. This is my journey and my health, and their misguided opinion of me is none of my business. Rock on, Spark Peeps!!! emoticon



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I really got to watch this one. Sometimes it's easy to get drawn it if your own frame of mind is negative. So it is great to have a good support team in place to heal the cracks in our armour. Thanks to all those we communicate with on here.

"One of the secrets of life is to make stepping-stones out of stumbling blocks." -- Jack Penn


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Care for yourself first. Look at others as those you can help and don't take negligent inaction as an intended slight.



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Today I encountered something that happens only occasionally, but I let it bother me for some reason. The group of people I work with are the office types and the rest are Union workers. Today the office support people all got together to take special pictures of the group. Guess who was not included? I work in the warehouse area by myself but I go to meetings and associate with them every day. We all support the linemen in their daily work. A lot of times they will go to lunch together but leave me out. When we work storm duties they order food and conveniently forget to tell me until it is all gone or dried up leftovers.........But if there is charity work to do I am right on top of the list! I wonder if I was young and attractive they would "forget" about me all the time? It's hard to care about myself when no one else seems to...................just having a bad day I guess emoticon



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I remember my own grandmother telling me that it is a very bad thing for women to run because (as EVERYONE knows) your uterus will fall down if bounced up and down too hard. It's a generational thing.

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Great options.....

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People in your social network might feel threatened by your lifestyle change. For sure your healthier lifestyle choice puts pressure on the others in the group to look at their own choices and that can be difficult. That might be part of what's motivating your mother and your co-workers to discourage you.

Personally, I'd cut that off right at the knees with something like, "I haven't lost any weight. I just weighed myself this morning." Leave them confused and full of doubt. emoticon



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I will try this technique, sometimes it is painful.

All things are possible if you only believe, even losing 15 pounds


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Thanks to everyone for the wonderful answers! They were all helpful.
The one answerer was right " I think there have been lots of helpful comments here."

This is a lovely and helpful community, God Bless ALL of you! Ann



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If it's my family, I try to avoid them as much as possible. They are a lot of the reason I have a bad perception of myself in the first place. If it is strangers/co-workers/friends, I am learning to shrug them off, while looking at the comments critically. Were they meant to be negative and hurt me or were they meant to help me, but didn't based on the source? I know exactly how much weight I have gained frommy medical condition since my initial loss of almost 40lbs. I don't need to be reminded by others how pudgy my face is or why I'm not wearing that great suit I did before. Ugh!! Please!!!

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I grew up with a very negative attitude but somewhere (with age) I grew into a positive attitude. So when I hear negative comments I tend to say a pray for that person...they have issues that I use to live. I don't take them personally any longer - it's their talk and I do not have to own it! emoticon

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How I deal with negative comments is by letting them roll of and think of new positives to counter act the negative.





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emoticon "Cast all your anxiety on me, because I care for you". 1Peter 5:7.

The creator of the UNIVERSE wants to help us, who better to fix a messed up situation?



No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

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I commented on this post back when it first started and here I am again. Just yesterday someone told me that if I get any skinnier I won't be able to walk! Then someone else told me today that I shouldn't lose anymore. These people are just acquaintances that I see at work, not even close people or people I work with - just people I see in passing. I am actually working at maintaining now but if I did lose more, I don't think it would be a bad thing. My current BMI is 22.6 and I am 5'5" but pretty small boned. I am a size eight right now. I don't think that getting to a size six would be all that terrible. But I am happy where I am and I just tell people that.

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Depends on who is making the comment. If it's a stranger I brush it off. Most of my family and friends know better than to say anything. There is one cousin who still makes comments, but I tend to have fun with it when she does. This woman is hilarious to pick a fight with (I have a very dark sense of humor.) One memorable time she told me I was going to die of heart failure and I told her to have fun with the emphysema and liver failure, and that she had chosen far more creative and painful ways to die than I had, being a heavy smoker and drinker. It shut her up for a little while.

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can you please tell me how you lost the weight?



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i would ignore the negative comments and not let it get to me. emoticon



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I had this same thing happen last week when I saw my grandmother. When I told her that I wanted to lose at least another 25 pounds, which is what it will take to get my BMI out of the overweight category, she argued that I had lost enough already. After thinking about it, I decided that when people say things like that, they might not be trying to be negative, they are just making judgements based on only part of the story. Like many people, the first place I lose weight is around my face and neck, so at first glance it looks like I have lost enough. What people are not considering is that there is still a lot more fat to lose that is hidden by my clothes. If we all walked around naked, no one would be saying that I have lost enough and shouldn't lose anymore!

People also get used to seeing us looking a certain way and have a hard time imagining us differently. Their negative comments are just their fear of change, which is their problem, not ours! Focus on what is right for you, and don't worry if people (who are not your doctor) tell you they don't agree with your goals. Keep strong!



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In the past when I came across this, it would hurt me to the core. I never thought what or why someone said what they said. Just a lot of self reflection on why I was a bad person.

Lately I have put some thought into it... Its this weird victim mentality that I have had.

At this point I know that yes.... I am fat. But being fat is not a life sentence. It is my body type right now. The only thing wrong with it is the way I feel about it.

I emotionally eat. I own up to it, need to nip it in the bud, for me! Not some person who informs me of my body as being wrong. Sure it might be wrong for them but did I ask their opinion?

So glad now my guy is going on the paleo diet with me! Support ladies and gents! Support!



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I just ignore it and find a positive

I make this looks good!


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I feel bad and will calm for a while to rethink myself. Of course sometimes I will cry.



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You can't control other's words, only yours. Some people are just negative, misery loves company! As suggested, stay positive, use positive words and don't fall into their pit. You are not losing weight for the Negative Nelly's, you are losing weight for yourself.



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Well, in your head say 'fudge you'...if you know what I mean.
And externally, why just 'Smile an' wave, boys!' like those penguins from Madagascar.

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It would be nice to hear helpful comments from those you thought were on your side in your weight loss efforts, but if you cannot rely on them for helpful comments, I would look to the SP community for support. At the end of the day, it's the opinion of the person who is looking back at you in the mirror that truly counts. Do this for you and no one else. emoticon emoticon

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I think there have been lots of helpful comments here.
I have recently had someone ask if I am planning to lose more weight, and I know it is out of interest. I told that person, and other people who ask me about this
yes, next year I plan to be at my goal weight. I 'm going to see how I look and feel at that point, and pretty much let my body decide where it wants to stick. Hopefully it will be at around my weight when I was thirty. I was so fit and felt so good then, and that's what I'm aiming for.

That usually gets us on to talking about what it is or was like to feel in peak condition, and we have a happy conversation, with them doing much of the talking.
You might not be able to do all that, because you are only 25 and are talking about getting to your teenage weight, which may or may not be doable or desirable. I guess you're going to find out when you get there. Perhaps the most helpful thing you can do is to ask your doctor for his opinion about the best weight range for you. Then you can say, actually, my doctor says I am in my healthy weight range, but I'm going for the bottom of that to see how it suits me, or because I am training for a run... By then your interlocutor's eyes will have glazed over. Because you know, they are only saying. They are not that interested.
Remember that when you are hugging their comments to yourself, and letting them affect you. It is your choice whether you take these comments on board or not. And if they're not helpful to you, why in the world would you let them in? Unless you are worried about that yourself. In which case, own that and find out how to deal with your own concerns.
As to your mother, for Pete's sake, it's her job to worry. Set her mind at rest by telling her what the doctor has said. And give some thought to what the poster said about, am I beng a pain in the a$$ about this? Or showing signs of OCD or anorexia? Because if you are, you should truly be grateful for people's concern and feedback, IMHO, and you should deal.
BTW, I NEVER talk about how much I weigh. I ONLY talk about how much I have lost on this site, because this is the purpose of this site.
I have actually been asked how much I have lost, and my response is, why would you want to know that? Quite a bit, and I feel fantastic with it, thanks for asking. With a great big smile.

I did have someone say, really loudly, and I'm sorry to say, not in the nicest way, My God, you have lost a LOT of weight! I said, And I feel fantastic, thanks for noticing. (with a kind look.)That response left me feeling good, it was neutral and kind, and them not feeling terrible, and I hope thinking, I showed myself up there. The people around me smiled a tiny bit and we moved right along.
Aren't we lucky to be having this particular problem to deal with!
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Ignore or shower them with some positive words as they may need it

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And remind yourself that the negative just isn't true. There is no inherent reason for anybody to think badly about themselves. It's just put there by others. Tell yourself the good things about yourself, that will be the truth!

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I have had a problem with this negative commentary. Growing up in a household where to constant message was how worthless you are. You pick up on that language as normal and wonder what is up when positive comments are said. So this take lots of work to accept and focus on the positive. Reflect off of myself the hurtful negative comments. Strive to place personal value and worth on myself, the heck with the outside's opinion.

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i simply say to myself...........that person has a problem with themselves, do not feed into their problems.

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Hi again, My first short and simple about, " As I tend to defend the positive energy I create." was, I thought that was very well said, and thank you....with no going off on a tangent! Ann



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Hi, Yup, the high road is the best road to take. You're exactly right and I really enjoyed your post as it made me think about it.

No coincidence but today on Dr. Phil it was all about a sister who was very negative to her sister and her friends and family. It was very interesting and gave me more insight to people who are negative.

Funny, was typing insight and at first I typed incite ( stir up ), then insite then finally the correct word, insight! My Dad was so right...he came from Europe and he said the English language is crazy lol,,,,bow, bough, insight, incite, no, know, but you say knowlege differently, stoop..to bend over....stoop...front steps of townhouses in New Yew city, new and knew....He learned to read English by reading the newspapers everyday...the headlines at first and asking me...then slowly learned to read more and more. He eventually read the Encyclopedia Britannica through TWICE lol! Goodness, I go off on tangents too much...oh yes...to, too and two lol!



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I just blogged about this subject yesterday..I usually take the high road and keep going. Although there are times when I have confronted the negative person head on. I don't like to do that, but if the situation is better served by facing the negativity, I am confident enough to do so. It's not by choice, rather a matter of principal. As I tend to defend the positive energy I create.

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It is so true that some people are so insecure, that in order to feel good about themselves and their own faults, they have to say something bad or mean to others.
If I was feeling honest and strong and truly compassionate that day, I'd probably tell her (and mean it).

"I truly feel sorry for you, that you never had anyone be there for you, and that the only way you can feel better about yourself is to put people down.... Who or what made you feel so bad that you don't know how to feel good about yourself? "

I'd really ask her to tell me who it was and let her talk about that person or event. Sometimes people are so hurt because no one nurtured them or supported them, that they take it out on others. They hurt others before others can hurt them first. Like a wall, a defense.

They've done it so long that it becomes a habit and they don't know any other way. How can you feel good about others when you don't feel good about yourself!

I have come to the conclusion that it is HER that needs to feel good about herself, and the only way she can accomplish it is putting others down.

I'd say it every time she made a mean remark to me or others in the family.

One of two things usually happen.
1. She'll get angry and tell you you're crazy, but if you continue to tell her that, she'll stop saying mean things so you don't keep repeating it to her.

2. She'll get angry and tell you you're crazy, but if you continue to tell her that, she'll eventually open up and tell you. Either way, she won't have any power over you or others anymore.

Pity her as she's continuing a cycle that was taught to her.

I accidently came across a show on the OWN (Oprah Winfrey Network) a few weeks ago and was stunned by the way this truly compassionate and strong woman helped others understand what and why they were doing harmful things in their lives and inflicting harm on themselves and others. She is so honest and compassionate!
If you combined Dr. Phil and Mother Teresa, you’d get Iyanla Vanzant lol!
She's an amazing woman with a true gift for helping others understand themselves and others using their HEARTS FIRST!
She gives them the tools and walks them through it. She always leaves them with continuing help.
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It All Depends...

If my buttons are pushed. I may react defensively.

I may consider the source; some people have clouds of doom hovering all the time. In these situations I may ignore, use humor, or ask about them.

The comment may be given out of real concern so I would listen. I would evaluate and determine my best response and course of action.



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If the negativity comes from people I know, I laugh it off and keep it moving. From strangers, I completely ignore them.



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11/27/13 2:29 P

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I usually use a one word response for strangers I look at them and say "Really?" sarcastically
It usually works

For friends - I usually ask them "Are you having a rough day? You seem really negative today. Did something happen?"

For family - I am usually just silent and stare at them. this is not because it works, it is just because I do not like family tension, so I am a whimp.

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11/27/13 1:32 P

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That would be something my mother would say. Matter of fact she has there was one time shopping with her she was shopping for underwear sorry for the tmi but I asked her what size and it was the same as mine so I couldn't resist I said to her so your ass is as big as mine!! it shut her up for a day but till this day she still says mean and hurtful things not just to me but the whole family. I have come to the conclusion that it is her that needs to feel good about herself and the only way she can accomplish it is putting others down. I ignore the comments most of the time sometimes I call her out on them.

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11/27/13 1:00 P

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I love it
Thanks for sharing

All things are possible if you only believe, even losing 15 pounds


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11/27/13 12:55 P

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There is one person that shows up at my door that totally hates me and says all kinds of mean things, so what I am learning to do is to ignore him reminding myself of this:
1 Corinthians 13 NLT emoticon
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

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11/27/13 11:50 A

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I hope everyone has a nice family holiday with NO negative comments!!! Eat what you like in moderation!



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11/27/13 11:02 A

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I try to make sure I don't get sucked in to making them back by changing to positive thoughts.

All things are possible if you only believe, even losing 15 pounds


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11/27/13 10:04 A

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I get them and try to rethink how to improve.



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11/26/13 4:38 P

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I let them know that they're not perfect and they usually zip it.
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11/26/13 9:11 A

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I try to change the negative comment into a positive comment and remind the person how great life is.

All things are possible if you only believe, even losing 15 pounds


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11/26/13 8:18 A

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I can't believe how these Mothers are treating their children. Mothers are supposed to love and support you! If you can't find love and support from your Mother who can you go to? I lost my Mom years ago to cancer so I really have no one to talk to. It makes me sad to read about Mothers who are mean and spiteful like this emoticon



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11/25/13 8:32 P

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I ignore them and say to myself.Right back at you.



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11/25/13 4:49 P

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When you hear negative/critical comments, immediately tell yourself: "They're the ones with self esteem issues, not me." I then distance myself from negative people and words and escape to a positive arena, like Spark People.

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11/25/13 3:06 P

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With unwelcome comments from strangers I tell them to mind their own business and if they persist (this is rare) I become rude.

With relatives and friends I'm also quite frank though not rude. I tell them that this is my goal and that negative comments (even if "meant to be helpful") aren't going to help and I'd prefer to simply not talk about it if they can't find something positive to say. I usually try and say it a little nicer than this but this is the gist of what I communicate. So far it as worked well though I do have to admit I have made a couple of frenemies over not wanting to hear negative comments.

If they continue with negative comments I shut them down by telling them I don't want to talk about it rather than trying to dance around the issue.



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11/25/13 12:04 P

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I have a similar problem with my mother.

When I'm overweight, she will loose no opportunity to tell me so; (even though she is), and go on about having do do something about it.

If I do lose weight, then its 'your going to far, your starting to look ill'

My response to these comments is that it is my body, if I'm happy, that is all that counts.
It may not shut her up, but it makes me feel better. emoticon


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Re the comments about gaunt faces: I've got to admit that when I look at my profile photo now I think I look quite a bit older than when my face was "fat". When I had my last drivers license photo done, I thought I looked like I was dying from some "wasting" disease (it didn't help that I was having a hot flash at the time and I had a lovely sheen of sweat on my face!).

I do think people who just look at my face might have some excuse thinking that I have already lost "enough" weight. I sometimes wish that I had managed to do this when I was younger so my face skin could "bounce back" easier, but I will continue to lose weight now anyway. I love what I am seeing in the mirror these days - saggy face and all

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11/24/13 8:30 A

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I think one way to deal with negative comments is to remember that this person(s) has no idea of what you are going through. It would be like someone who said you look good because you've lost weight, not realizing that you're thin because you have cancer and are going thru' chemo. So all you can do is thank them for their concern and move on.

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11/22/13 10:00 P

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Charlotte1947:

Thank you ...... I quit tlkg to my mother almost 12 yrs ago for many reasons. Without going into detail, it was hard at first not to pick up the phone to call her or go visit her. I forced myself to stay away from her. Had it not been for the support of my friends at that time, I have no idea if I would've ever been able to cut the mother/daughter tie. As time went by I became happier, my depression floated away and I started to become confident in myself. :-)

Now another story for this thread......
I had a guy say to me, " you're really pretty for a short, little fat chick " ! Ah hahaha
I always laugh at this because he actually thought he was giving me a compliment.
Really?!
My answer to him was, " Why, thank you David " ! Then, I just laughed and went back to work

About 6 months later I had lost all 50lbs of my "baby weight" ( child #2 ). Men who never gave me a second look before were all of a sudden coming out of the woodwork. It was crazy !!
I told them all, " if I wasn't good enough for you before I lost weight, you aren't good enough for me now ". I have to admit, it felt good saying that to them.




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11/22/13 8:01 P

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I am finding this thread extremely helpful. Most negative comments leave me speechless, so I love hearing how others handle these situations. Thanks Tess_Taylor for asking the question...(and by the way, I'm 5'3" and 118 lb!)

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11/22/13 2:55 P

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Anyone who make a unsolicited negative comment about your physical appearance is not your friend.
If it is a relative/mother/sister; you may pursue it with them, but know that the comment is more about THEM than YOU.



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11/22/13 2:27 P

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Thanks, I never thought about having less support. I won't let it bother me now that I know.



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