It sounds to me like you are blaming yourself for the bad news???
Where it comes to work outside the home, there are many things that perhaps you should be asking yourself:
Do you WANT to work outside the home?
Do you have the time on top of your homecares?
IF you got work, would you have regular, reliable transport?
Do you have children at home? If so, what happens with them? (Sometimes day care or after hours day care can make your pay not worth it.)
Does your HEALTH (emotional or physical) allow you to work (regularly)
I am sure that you would be able to think of some more questions to ask yourself.
IF it turns out that you might be able to get some part-time work, then be prepared for many knock-backs. Think of things that you CAN do, including perhaps child-minding at home, or taking someone's dog for a walk (good way to get your exercise in, too :-)
I don't work - I am on a Benefit. Prior to my late husband's death, he was on one, too - both of us because of health issues. I know that financially things can be very hard, but there are ways of getting through it, and the best way to start is to write down a list of every little thing you spend your money on. Make columns to track more easily - food in one, power/gas in another, petrol/bus fare in another, clothing, medical, amusements, etc. Do it for a month and then have a good look and see where you can cut costs. It might be forgoing a regular coffee out, or not buying as much, make-up or clothes. It might be looking in your pantry and finding ways to cuts (financial) corners by substituting this for that (i.e. reduce some meat and increase lentils/split peas etc.) Based on this information, you can create a very accurate budget.
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