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WANNATHIN
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9/6/13 9:38 A

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You sound like you are focussed and conscious of what's going on, rather than just letting a binge happen to you. That's a great step! I have also found that being AWARE of how I feel, why I'm eating, whether I'm thirsty etc. helps me keep on track. Everyone says it, but it REALLY is about the little things.

I'm so glad you found a workout activity you're able to stick with. Once it's routine, you'll miss it if you can't do it for whatever reason, and want to get back to it and that's a great feeling.

Lots of luck in your journey forward. I'm sure you're going to be successful, but remember to be nice to yourself, hey!
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9/6/13 9:30 A

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I actually forgot about the tracker! I haven't updated it in months, since our scale got misplaced during the move. I just dug it up, and I'm up to 135. But you are right, this is a minor setback, and I shouldn't be to hard on myself.

Looking back at my initial post, I was just venting due to frustration caused by my aversion to exercise. Since I've found more appropriate workout videos, I'm much happier, and have been exercising every day for the past 3 days. They are only 20 minute low impact workouts, but I think at this point it's building positive momentum and good feelings towards exercise that are most important.

The afternoon snacking is a persistent problem that I have struggled with for years. I've adjusted my lunch size and nutritional content dozens of ways, tried many different planned afternoon snacks (sometimes completely splitting lunch/snack into two small but full meals) and it still troubles me. What I'm finding helps most is a cup of hot black tea. Maybe today, rather than start the snack binge cycle, I'll have the tea as a planned part of my afternoon snack, then go out for a walk in the park (it's supposed to be beautiful out today!).

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9/6/13 9:03 A

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With all due respect, I think you are being WAY too hard on yourself when according to your tracker, you only have 5kg to lose. You obviously don't feel comfortable at the weight you are now, but you weren't being very kind to yourself in your post. All you need is a little motivation to get active. You have got some wonderful advice already.

I would add that perhaps you need to look at WHAT you're eating for lunch. Perhaps you're missing out on an essential nutrient or some volume to fill you up enough so you don't have the snacking craving in the afternoon. Maybe if you sorted out a really sustaining lunch, you wouldn't have to worry about snacking at all.

I definitely think that if your husband is eating at the office, you need to make sure you have dinner ready as early as possible. Going to bed on a full stomach is a bad idea.

It also sounds like you are trying to do too much too soon, if you are so sore for DAYS after a workout that you can't continue on day 2. You need to start slow and build up, so you enjoy it and get into a routine and a rhythm. Sadly, we can't get fit overnight. Darnit!!!! ;)



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9/5/13 2:12 P

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I can relate to you, we moved a couple months ago for my boyfriend's job and I'm in the same situation. I haven't been able to find a full time job yet, so I'm just working a day or so whenever the company needs me so money is tight. My boyfriend usually works long hours so that just leaves me bored at home with the refrigerator, couch, and tv which equals a bad situation. I was getting depressed being home all the time with no routine or purpose to my day so I would eat badly. I'm still struggling at times but I have been trying to get up in the mornings and get ready and leave the apartment to find something (anything!) to do for a little while. I'm used to working full time and always being busy and having a routine and helping with the bills and by not having that I think I got depressed a little bit. I don't like feeling like that and just by getting out and about for even a short time everyday seems to help. Keep making yourself go out and explore or just go for a walk each day. It will help with your mood and will motivate you to eat healthier and get back on track to working out. Take it one day at a time like me! Good luck!

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9/5/13 11:06 A

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I find added motivation now SP allows us extra calories if we exercise! It sounds as if you enjoy exploring and walking once you've managed to get out of the house. Maybe you could track your main meals to start with - and any planned snacks that come within your calorie allowance. But then make yourself jolly well earn any other snacks you choose to have if they would take you above your allowance.

Tonight, for instance, I decided to have sausages, potatoes, vegetables and gravy - taking me a little too high. I've cut the grass, which I think makes that meal OK but, as it's a lovely day, I'm also planning in a 2 mile walk this evening just to make sure.

And who knows, if you keep going out to the park, you might find yourself a friend to go walking with once or twice a week.



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9/4/13 9:21 P

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Haha, yes, when I get myself out the door, I enjoy exploring, but it's easy to stay inside. I need a little imp with a poker to push me out the door!


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Wow, there are so many wonderful places to walk where you are! You don't even need to own a car. I am jealous! You could spend months just exploring in your free time.

Just get out there and go! I would think that New York would be one of the best places around for being ignored by the general pubic. Put on your walking shoes, carry a pepper spray and get to it!

P.S. I might enjoy exercising with someone who curses like a sailor as long as I was warned ahead of time...it sounds like you might spice things up. :)

Edited by: AZULVIOLETA6 at: 9/4/2013 (21:11)
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9/4/13 8:50 P

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That's another thing that's throwing me off, I have moved from a fairly large house in a rural area to a small apartment in Manhattan. I used to be able to work out in my basement, go outside for a walk in my garden or to the nearby park. Now I feel self-conscious even walking down the street.

Exercise classes are in the same boat as the gym, not practical for the budget right now (and I've never been a fan of group workouts, the self-consciousness again, plus the fact that I tend to cuss like a sailor when I exert myself!).

I was able to stay on track with food today! And my husband should be home early so we can try to exercise together.

Everything about you resonates happiness, now I won't settle for less.
Give me all the peace and joy in your mind.
Muse- Bliss


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9/4/13 8:22 P

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I had the same issue when I moved in February and money was tight--there is only one gym in my new area with everything I need, and it had a steep joining fee. The only difference is that I was exercising at the gym 6-7 days a week instead of 2-3, so to not have a place to go left me very adrift. It also contributed to a very long stall/plateau.

Gardening is free exercise. So are walking and running. If you can swim or find Zumba classes at a studio even a couple of times a week, that will help keep you from getting too far off track. I even count heavy housecleaning, painting, etc.

Good luck at finding your way back. Just do the best that you can, when you can.

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9/4/13 9:11 A

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Thank you! I have been planning out my daily food with the tracker, but I tend to get very snacky in the late afternoon. My husband's new job has him getting home at unpredictable late hours, so I put off making dinner until very late (despite the fact that he eats at his office!). I think I need to start saying I will have dinner ready by 8PM for ME! That way I can finish dinner, and brush my teeth by 9:30PM, cutting off the snacking and setting me up to get to bed before midnight!

Everything about you resonates happiness, now I won't settle for less.
Give me all the peace and joy in your mind.
Muse- Bliss


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9/4/13 7:03 A

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oh my gosh, I feel your pain. Last year when I moved, it messed me up big time! I just felt so stunned and overwhelmed all the time. I think what really helped me was to plan out my day's food in the Tracker first thing in the morning. If necessary, copy it all out onto a piece of paper and post it in the kitchen to remind you of your eating plan. And for cardio, I just walk outside in my neighborhood. As for the strength training-- there are a bunch of videos here on Spark with Coach Nicole that use hand weights. Plus a lot of stuff that uses no extra equipment at all-- pilates for lower body, for example. I'd second the suggestion of a resistance band, too. You can get one at Walmart and they are not expensive. Coach Nicole has done some good resistance band videos too. If Insanity is too much for you.... just DON'T do it. It is not necessary to do that, to get fit and healthy.

The biggest thing is to not give up. One of my favorite sayings is, I do not fail because I do not quit. Even if I have a day where maybe I didn't do so well.... there are still bright spots. I still drank my water. Or I still ate at least 5 vegetables and fruits. Or I still got up off my big fat butt and got 10 minutes of some sort of exercise in. This isn't "all or nothing".



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SILLIJILLI,

You're being too hard on yourself. As I tell all new members,"Don't look at good health with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.

You don't have to do a lot to start an exercise routine. Why not start with a daily walk ? Cardiologists will tell you that a 30 minute brisk walk each day can reduce your risk for heart disease by over 30%. Not bad for a 30 minute walk. So, why not take a daily walk. Walking is also a great way to reduce stress.

What can you do at home with small hand weights ? I would encourage you to buy a set of resistance bands. You can find them for cheap at any Walmart, Target, Sears, TJ Maxx, etc... There is even a resistance band team. Resistance bands are a great way to strength train at home. They are also more versatile then hand weights.


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Mostly, you can't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. Stop trying to be perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy. Every little bit really does make a difference.





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9/3/13 9:37 P

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Thank you!

I think I just needed to vent a little. I searched for a low impact routine on YouTube, and after 20 minutes I feel much better. You are right, I was try to reach a "perfect" ideal I was nowhere near ready for. Choosing exercises appropriate for my current fitness level will let me build strength and confidence.

As for the food, I think if I keep busy in the afternoon, I won't be so prone to snacking. If I just go take a walk, I get a little activity, and keep away from the kitchen! I just remembered the small dog park near my house, and how much I enjoy going there and watching the dogs frolic!

Everything about you resonates happiness, now I won't settle for less.
Give me all the peace and joy in your mind.
Muse- Bliss


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9/3/13 9:11 P

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My heart goes out to you. First of all, through perfection and demands on yourself out the window. Exercise doesn't have to be formal, just doing little things extra throughout the day, whenever you can helps, like walking a little extra, taking stairs instead of an elevator, cleaning and scrubbing by hand, using non mechanical kitchen devices or washing clothes by hand. Anything that causes you to move a little more. You won't stick to anything if you don't like it, try to find what you like.

The sure way to failure is to give up, so "never, never give up" If at first you don't succeed, try, try again and eventually, you will get it. I found with every attempt, or even success I learned something new, about me, about nutrition or exercise or some little trick. Sparkpeople has most of them available on the site, so we can learn from others, it helps. emoticon

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9/3/13 8:40 P

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I used to be so good, ate perfectly portioned meals of exactly what I was supposed to eat, went to the gym 2-3 times/week. I never LIKED it, but I did it.

I've moved, and everything has fallen apart. I can't afford a gym right now, and working out on my own is just not happening. I have always hated exercise, but when it offered a break on my drive home, and a nice hot shower after, I could make myself do it. Now, when I think about exercising, I start to cry. When I do kick myself enough to start, it is so awful I can't give it much effort, and I ache so badly after that I'm turned off for several days.

I can't stop eating either. I'm able to keep away from the worst of it, but I'm going have to skip dinner tonight because I ate so many snacks. Thankfully they were relatively healthy, but still, I feel like I have no self-control.

I can't even look at myself, I'm so bloated and gross. Every time I think of what I need to do, I freak out and start to cry because it feels so impossible.

Does anyone have suggestions for a simple exercise routine I can do inside with only a few small dumbbells? I think I've been reaching too hard (trying to do my husbands "Insanity" DVDs) and it's making me frustrated.

Everything about you resonates happiness, now I won't settle for less.
Give me all the peace and joy in your mind.
Muse- Bliss


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