I'm sorry you're having such a struggle. I think you're probably going to have to take over responsibility for some or most of your meals. You'll have to manage your grandmother's hurt feelings, too. I'd suggest looking for recipes that you can make with the things typically on hand in the house, and simply cooking for yourself. Or, if you currently pitch in financially for the food budget, take back some of that money and do your own shopping and cooking as much as possible. If that means having a little mini-fridge in your room so you can have produce and dairy that is appropriate for your needs (and not have to worry about it disappearing), that might be a good strategy.
Perhaps you can think of the things your grandmother prepares as "condiments" -- have a spoonful of something to supplement what you're making for yourself. Compliment her. Let her know you appreciate her cooking and her efforts to nurture you ("food is love" and all that). I'm guessing she doesn't know any other way to cook. Maybe if you take an interest in learning the family recipes, so she knows they're appreciated, even if you don't eat large portions, that might help. Ask her to show you some cooking techniques, stuff like that, so she feels valued.
But in the end, if your grandmother (or anyone else in your life) isn't able for whatever reason to be supportive of your health, don't be dependent on them for your health! Find support elsewhere and just love her for what she can give to you.
You can't wait for inspiration. You have to go after it with a club.
-- J. London
Started DASH Diet Weight Loss Solution (book by Marla Heller, M.S., R.D.) on 3/8/2013.
Lost 40 lbs total and reached goal weight on 10/23/2013.
| current weight: 0.5 over