Hi TRIPLEGODDESS - I am very sorry to hear of your losses!
My husband died very unexpectedly just before Xmas. Apart from 3-4 days of eating anything that I felt like, I have mostly been back on a very healthy diet/calorie range.
I COULD have felt "What the heck" .... "Who cares?" .... "Too bad" .... etc. etc., but instead I told myself that I would be doing not only myself a big disservice if I gave up, but also a big disservice to my husband. I owed it to the both of us to go on in as healthy a way as possible.
Eating doesn't solve grief, but it CAN add to it! It can increase guilt, too, and end beating ourselves up. I don't know about you, but I don't fancy that! There are many other ways to deal with this emotion. I found looking at photos and looking at his hand-writing to be more therapeutic. I found I was putting his music on - he absolutely loved (IDOLIZED) The Rolling Stones. I could take them or leave them. I have found that I have put "HIS" music on - partly to play to him, and partly because, strange as it may seem, I have found it to soothe. In the car, the last tape he had on was "Queen" - that tape I have played nearly every time I go in the car, for the same reason.
It may be that if you have a hobby, you may be able to turn to that to help you, or go for a walk to help clear your head when you are feeling down or foggy. It may ALSO be that you turn to your SparkFriends - ask for help, or even offer help/suggestions to others. That can be a very powerful Therapy.
Also, if you find your grief overwhelming, it would be helpful for you to make an appointment with your Dr and discuss what is happening in your life. He /she will be able to prescribe a treatment (Therapy and/or medication) to help you through. The last couple months I have been finding things really tough for me, and as a result restarted counseling today. You can also turn to a Church, even if you aren't a member they often provide therapeutic help for people suffering grief.
Edited by: SLIMMERKIWI at: 5/20/2013 (03:36)
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