When my life feels like it is going out of control I have found that it helps me to ask myself 2 questions.
First: What is the worst thing that can happen? I've found that when I think about things realistically and consciously that the worst things are not that bad ie, no one will die, I won't get fired, no loss of limb etc
If things are that bad or I'm still stressed over it I ask myself : What can I do about it or do I have any control over what is happening?
An example, my dad was very sick, he was going to die. What is the worst? He is going to die. What can I control? Nothing. What can I do? Be there for him, grieve and support my family.
I can't fix anything. It hurt like hell that I couldn't fix it but I had to accept it.
Another example, my daughter is having a melt down over school (last semester in college).
She "knows" she is going to fail a really hard math class.
What's the worst thing that can happen? She fails and has to delay graduation which will be a pain and cost more but no one dies etc.
What can I control? Nothing. I can encourage her to talk to the teacher about her concerns. And I can be supportive and let her vent and give her as hug.
BTW, she talked to the teacher, she will pass. All the drama for nothing lol!
Last example: I'm stressed that my house is a mess and I have a big event coming up.
Worst case: It's a disaster when everyone gets here and I'm embarrassed.
What can I control? Getting off this website and cleaning my house lol.
I hope things get better for you.
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