I SOOOO agree with Coach Nancy and Archii. Like they say, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. All you can hope for, is to make him thirsty.
I would love it if my DH would exercise, but I've been at this seriously for over a year and he hasn't joined me for one single 10 minute walk yet. I bought him a pedometer after his doctor told him he needed to aim for 10000 steps a day. He carried it for a couple weeks, figured out he gets around 3K a day, and stopped using it. sigh. Motivation is indeed an "inside job". It may be that it will take some sort of health scare or something, to get him going. idk.
I really like the, one McDonald's a week suggestion. Personally I think your DH is trying to do something nice for you, more than he's trying to sabotage your efforts. Same with the slim fast thing. People who don't eat healthy or "study up" on nutrition & weight loss, have not got a clue about what-all it takes. They say married men live longer, and I reckon it's because their wives learn about all this stuff and then quit serving all the meals fried or meat plus potatoes, corn, and peas with bread on the side, all at the same time.
All I can do is keep going, for myself, and be a good example. I will say that after all this time, DH has gotten used to my healthier way of cooking. He's even quit wanting fast food for lunch, and we now pack him lunch from home every work day (sometimes he packs it, with my suggestions, and sometimes I do it for him). Personally, I see that as a major victory.
He's not especially encouraging, but he's also not especially dis-couraging either. Personally, I get more encouragement from my Spark friends than I do from him. But part of that I think is because we women as a whole tend to be more concerned about our weight and shape, than men in general are about theirs? I work at a marina, and in the summer there's a lot of people prancing around in bathing suits. A lot of the women choose a suit, based on what they think their figure flaws are-- a little skirt or boy shorts, for those thighs. Some shirring around the tummy. Ruffles or blouse-y stuff for a smaller bust. And some of them won't get off the boat and come into the store without slapping on a cover-up to just... well, cover it all up. But the men? No matter what shape they're in, they put on whatever pair of trunks and strut around like they look like Mr. Universe, great big gut and all.
So. Keep on doing what you're doing!! You've done so fabulously well!
Ruth in Cookeville, TN Central Time Zone
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