I can only speak for myself, but I had to be mentally ready to make changes before I could start on the physical side of things. I was diagnosed with type II diabetes when I was young (around 23) and only about 30 pounds overweight. I immediately figured that I didn't deserve it, since I wasn't obese and middle aged, and spent the next several years ignoring the condition and getting fatter while my eating habits got worse. Eventually I ended up very sick and on insulin.
I had to take some pretty dramatic steps in my care, including therapy to help me wrap my mind around having a chronic condition. It's a big step to take, and sadly a lot of people don't take it until they hit rock bottom. In my case, I'd almost lost my job and nearly ended up in the hospital.
The good news is that I started making changes after that, and I'm now completely off insulin and any medication. My A1C has been at non-diabetic levels for a year and a half, I've gone from 'obese' to a healthy BMI, I'm active, I eat well, and I feel a thousand times better than I did when I was sick. I thought diabetes was a life sentence (which is especially hard to deal with when you're young), but now it's just extra incentive to do the things any healthy person should be doing.
The only person who can make the changes is the diabetic. Until they're ready - really ready - it's not going to happen. It's far too easy to lie to yourself when you're in that state. It's hard to get started, but I can tell you from personal experience that it's so worth it in the end.
Since you have some medical issues yourself, I'd look at trying to make some positive changes for the whole family. And 'positive' is the key word there. Don't think of it as a diet or punishment for either of you. My husband and I both had some pretty terrible habits before we moved in together, and over the last few years we've slowly transitioned to an almost entirely clean diet and active lifestyle. Start by making some small changes, possibly cutting portion sizes, and adding more veggies to the menu. In the end, losing weight has to be your husband's decision, but you can set a good example with yourself first and by being supportive of the positive changes he does make. The key is to make a healthy lifestyle the norm.
Good luck to both of you.
Edited by: CHRISTINA791 at: 1/26/2013 (15:56)
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