Hi Tatt - I am really sorry to hear that you and your family are facing such stressful medical conditions. I know from the perspective of having been a caregiver, one of whose specialties was caring for people with this sort of need. I saw first hand how it affected some family members - the feeling of not knowing where to turn, of the uncertainty, and the feeling of being alone.
I strongly suggest that you talk with your Dr and your parents' Drs. It is quite possible that you may be able to get some help with the caring. You could check out Hospice and see if they are able to help. If they are, they are a wonderful source for the entire family. You NEED to be able to have time out, to lighten the load. Hospice have people who can provide some therapy to help you with the emotional side. They can put in place physical things in your house to help - things like chair raisers, special beds, toilet raisers, wheel chairs, etc. etc.
Is there a Church around you where you could turn to for help - even just to come and sit with your parents, or do some meal prep while you and your sister are able to get out for breathers, either together or separately, to do what you each want/need - (perhaps a walk as part of the reliever???) You don't have to be a member of most churches to access this sort of help - they often have some parishioners who have put themselves on a roster for exactly this sort of situation.
As far as exhaustion is concerned, make sure that you are eating nutritiously and regularly. That is very important to help you through. If you don't get the nutrition, then your body can't energize itself. A lot of people end up relying on processed take-outs, and that will drain even more energy. If your mother finds that the smell of food cooking is too much, then perhaps the Church members and/or friends may be able to make some soups/casseroles in their homes and bring to you.
I'm sending BIG hugs your way, and wishing your Mum and speedy recovery, and that your Dad's MS goes into remission. MY best friend has MS.
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