MLUCIER2,
One thing I tell new members as well as to our regulars is this,"don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.
You've made great process losing that 65 pounds !! As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". Give yourself credit for the POSITIVE things you do for yourself and don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy. The fact is, a donut, cookie, cupcake, soda, etc... CAN all be a part of a healthy life style as long as you are mindful of the portion.
Spark People isn't about deprivation. It's all about moderation and portion control. So, don't beat yourself up if you don't eat right every single day or maybe you go over your calories once in a while. it happens. Be patient with yourself and your body.