not so happee girl

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6/19/12 2:18 A

Thanks, everyone, blunt or not :-) Your support means a lot to me. I know i can do this. I just need to realize i deserve to do this for myself. God bless

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6/18/12 12:07 P

When I have relationship troubles (with my husband, family, coworkers...) I channel it into exercise. A good power walk around the neighborhood does wonders for my mind. If I'm really upset, I will take my frustration out on my exercise bike. (More than one swear word was uttered while I have ridden that bike.)

A wise woman once told me that if we never got upset about anything, nothing would ever change. So, use this situation to fuel your change.

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6/18/12 1:53 A

Great advice from members........some rather blunt...but TRUE none the less

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6/17/12 10:22 P

I agree witih everyone. It is one day at a time, sometimes it is one hour at a time. I was doing so good this week until last night we had potluck which gave into tempation and ate more calories than I can even count. But I am beinging to reconginize that change starts one choice at a time and you build from there. If you make a bad choice don't beat yourself up and make a better choice next time. Good luck to you. I wish you the best.

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6/16/12 2:20 P

HAPPEEGIRL97,

You can't beat yourself up because you've regained any weight you've lost. Every single member of Spark People is an expert at gaining, losing and regaining the weight. It's happened to us all. That doesn't make you a bad person or a weak willed one. You know you want to make a change and that's what matters. I know this won't be easy, but you do have to put yourself first. And that means, putting any unpleasant relationship stuff behind you. You can't change the past, but you can influence and change the future.

What to start ? As I tell all new members, start with some simple changes you can stick with. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Set some simple goals. Example, if you're not used to eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruits and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not used to drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not used to regular exercise, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, you set new ones.

And that's how good health starts. It starts with some very simple changes because in the end, everything really does add up quickly.

So, no more beatings. the beatings aren't productive. You know you want to make a change and that's what matters. Now, you have to set some goals and decide what you need to do to achieve them. Every little bit really does add up.

If you need to vent, try blogging. Writing out your feelings can be very cathartic. If you need support, that's why the Spark Community is here. We'll support you when you need support.

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6/16/12 1:44 P

My first suggestion would be to put yourself first. Perhaps journal or blog about the reasons why losing weight is important to you. From there, you can start to set specific goals and make a plan.

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6/16/12 12:35 P

Actually, you gained the weight back because you consumed too many calories!



Set yourself a goal and work to achieve it.
A good start would be logging your food intake. And you can find some other manner of dealing with your relationship problem than with excess food.... exercise, hobbies, etc.

Edited by: LUANN_IN_PA at: 6/16/2012 (12:36)

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6/16/12 12:29 P

One thing I've noticed about myself is once I am back on track, I feel better. Once I am at it for 2 weeks, I feel fabulous. Its all about just STARTING. Take one day at a time, one meal at a time and make the right choices, you will start to get out of your funk! Go for a long walk and I'm sure you'll feel better!

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6/16/12 10:57 A

I feel so discouraged right now. I have gained back all my weight because of relationship problems and i just quit caring. How do i get motivated to start this all over again?