As others have said, you should start with something small, if you try too hard from the start you just do it once and quit (we all have experience of that!).
Firstly, you need to keep busy. Sitting at home, within easy reach of the fridge is just asking for trouble. Can you find some kind of activity to do (a class or course in healthy cooking or sowing or Spanish or gardening or anything that interests you!)? That way you get out of the house, you keep busy, and you are away from the fridge. You also make your life more interesting in general, this is important to keeping happy.
Secondly, as others have said already, you are in a bad feedback loop. You are tired because you don't exercise, and you don't exercise because you are tired. A really small change in your lifestyle will give you just a little more energy, so you can change your lifestyle a bit more... etc.
Keep trying and remember that there are thousands of us out there feeling (at least some days) exactly like you are feeling. You are not alone, don't stop trying.
HAYLIE123
Posts: 28 11/20/09 1:50 A
bless you! maybe you are clinically depressed....
I hope it gets better for you!
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Posts: 3,216 11/19/09 11:16 P
My heart goes out to you. Knowing that you're not alone is an important part of dealing with your challenges.
I have diabetes and when I consume too many carbs, I feel really tired, slow, draggy and sleepy. I make sure to limit the "white" foods so I have some energy.
Perhaps you can do mini exercise bits. No need to try and do it all at once. Your body still responds. I do mine in 10 minute increments 'cause that's all I can do right now.
Bless you dear. I'm here for you anytime. Hold down the fort. The cavalry (Spark People) has arrived.
vicki
vicki
The will to persevere is often the difference between failure and success. -David Sarnoff
I love my Lord Jesus Christ!
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Posts: 286 11/19/09 9:16 P
I feel for you Snoppy. I am the very same way in a lot of sense. We just need to get up and go. I know we don't feel like it but we have to. We all don't want to get up and go to work or school everyday but we do because we have to. Consider this a have to. Once you start seeing results, even just one pound, you'll feel so much better about yourself. Start out small, just don't drink sodas and drink more water and you'll probably lose a good 5 pounds or more just because of that. Just take baby steps, slow and steady wins the race.
Good luck and God bless.
Take twice as long to eat half as much.
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BH7272
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Posts: 2,099 11/19/09 9:10 P
Snoppy, Nancy and others have given great advice.
You have the power in you to do things that may seem impossible today. Just believe in yourself, and give yourself a little love. Sometimes we think we can't do things, when the truth is that we haven't challenged ourselves by trying to do them. So many people on this site started where you are and decided that they would get past self-doubt and negative thoughts and just give it their best shot.
So, start with small, baby steps. Walk for 10 minutes and keep it up for at least a week before you decide whether it has made you more or less tired. It's so true that exercising gives you energy -- it does not take it from you. I know this from personal experience, as do many other Sparkers.
Please use this site for support, encouragement, and learning about better nutrition and fitness. The tools are here for you. The community of Sparkers will support you. The rest is up to you finding the desire to do it, and the courage to go beyond wanting to actually doing.
AND YOU CAAAAN DO THIS!!!!
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Posts: 143 11/19/09 5:00 P
You can do this!
Keep your chin up and as a piece of personal advice (in addition to all of the other wonderful advice posed so far) I recommend starting by focusing on the exercise. It'll give you more energy over all - even if it's just a few walks each day. Wear a pedometer and start setting little goals about how many steps you'll get each day. The eating right will feel like the right and natural thing to do when you start working out - at least it does for me and many I know. Then too when you're tempted to eat something not good for you, you'll thinking about the work you've done so far and you deserve better than to let temptation undo that.
Hopefully too this isn't completely out of line but I would recommend maybe finding a way to talk to your husband about being your partner in this, helping you cook right...making him part of your support system and the solution. I get a huge amount of support from my boyfriend and I couldn't do this without him. All of us are here for you too always!
you say you started at 230 how much do you weigh now and how long did it take to lose it, also you look young and it comes off easier when your younger, thank you for replying to me it helps thanks
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SUPERSNAZZ
Posts: 1,100 11/19/09 2:32 P
Hi SNOPPYPOO!
Hang in there! You're embarking on a lifestyle change and change does not happen overnight. Take your time, set attainable goals, don't give up and trust the process.
Here's a secret I recently discovered: the more a person exercises, the less tired a person is and the MORE energy a person has. It's a little counter intuitive, I know!
:-)
IBTINK
Posts: 14 11/19/09 2:23 P
Have you been tested for vitamin deficiencies? Many women are vitamin B deficient which makes you tired among other things.
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Posts: 13 11/19/09 1:51 P
I started at 230 too. The problem with exercise is, unless you do it, you are too tired to do it. It gives you energy, but getting started is so hard because "resting" drains your energy! Maybe a fun activity that doesn't feel so much like work will help kick-start a new routine?
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TSANDE13
Posts: 40 11/19/09 11:06 A
Everyone has made good points about slow and steady is best. Just the feeling of accomplishing one positive thing a day can make a huge difference on your perception. Also do you have a positive friend or family member that you can go to for support. Also sparkpeople is wonderful place to meet people who are going through the exact same struggle. If you ever need words of encouragement or just need to vent I am here for you.
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DIATOM
Posts: 317 11/18/09 4:18 P
Coach Nancy mentioned some very important points.
Start slowly. Set small attainable goals. Read some of the success stories on SP. Some people couldn't even get up or got out of breath walking to the kitchen and now they are walking and exercising. Do something you like---just start being a little more active. They have 10 minute workouts on SP. Start out doing the warm up. Do it for a week or 2. Then start doing the rest of the work out.
Think positive. Use the tools and suppport on Spark People.
If you need an accountability partner, let me know.
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Posts: 25,147 11/18/09 2:27 P
Snoopy,
Changing life-long habits takes dedication, determination, and most of all time. So many of us have made unhealthy habits such a big part of our life that it is going to take more than a few weeks to truly integrate the new habits into our lives so that we no longer have to think we just do.
That being said, setting small, actionable goals is a how many of us started on our own journey. Just walking 10 minutes 3 times a day doesn't seem near as daunting as doing it all at one time. And trust me, those small pockets of exercise can bring us motivation when nothing else seems to.
I wish you well! Nancy
"The finishing of a marathon bestows a unique sense of worth that can last for a lifetime - regardless of finish time. We need to salute the efforts of those at the back who did not inherit the genetic material to run on a collegiate cross country team, but who inserted training into busy career and family schedules, improved their health and inspire others." Jeff Galloway
RRCA Certified Running Coach
Member of the Road Runners Club of America; USAT&F; Dallas Running Club; Plan
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SNOPPYPOO
Posts: 106 11/18/09 2:21 P
i started on here i was 217 now today i'm 230 all i do is eat, i make myself sick i look awful, i have no energy to exercise my husband gets mad at me because i don't exercise, but i'm just so tired i've been to the drs. they say i'm fine they tell me to walk, how can i walk when i'm to tired, all i want to do is sit and eat, i'm fine if i clean all day then i dont eat, i dont get out of the house much at all, can someone help me, i'm at my end.
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