Hi. What the last poster said is absolutely right. If we believe everything will be perfect and we'll love ourselves if we get to some magic weight on the scale, we're setting ourselves up for failure.
So you need to start loving yourself now. Practice saying it to yourself when you look in the mirror. Sure, you won't believe it at first, but the more you tell yourself positive things the more you do believe them.
I suffer from clinical depression and going to the doc and getting the right meds as well as working with a counselor made a huge difference.
Check out some of the articles on talking positively to yourself and loving your body. They helped me a whole lot.
I believe in you and believe you can do this. One baby step at a time.
Robin VA EST
Pounds lost: 79.6
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824 3/25/14 6:18 A
Life when you are skinny and pretty is pretty much exactly like life when you are pretty and fat, or skinny and ugly, or fat and ugly, only it's easier to buy clothing.
We think that the whole world is going to react differently to us, but the truth is, so much of how the world responds to us us based on how we feel about ourselves and the aura we project to the world. If you are thin and depressed and unhappy, you are still going to project that out into the world, whereas if you are fat and confident and happy, you are going to project that instead. I've been over 300 pounds and wearing a size 24, and I've been a size 10. And honestly, I was not significantly happier at one size than the other.
It sounds like you have some depression issues going on, and would benefit from some talk therapy, and possibly medication. Try talking to your doctor.
If you have formed the habit of checking on every new diet that comes along, you will find that, mercifully, they all blur together, leaving you with only one definite piece of information: french-fried potatoes are out. ~~Jean Kerr
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~~Anais Nin
Life is too short for self-hatred and celery sticks. ~~Marilyn Wann
Pounds lost: 39.0
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26 3/25/14 4:38 A
Well I think journaling will help so im going to start that. Starting to do small things that will change my lifestyle. However all these feelings keep getting stronger. I hate feeling like this, hopeless, alone, sad, conflicted and ugly. Im not sure these feelings will ever truly go away though I wish I could feel complete.
"I have tried diets, pills, shakes everything I am about to give up and just eat myself in too a coma. My weight has been a huge cause of my depression lately and I need help. I honestly think I am addicted to food. When im happy, sad, mad, worried and frustrated I eat because that seems to make me feel content till I eat again."
Let's look at this.
Diets don't really work (in my opinion) I'm talking about the kinds with the plans (eat this for breakfast, eat this for lunch, etc)...neither do the pills or the shakes. So, trying them and failing is no biggie...they don't work and all you lost is $.
Now - You are an emotional eater. And that's ok, too :) You need to find strategies to combat it, though, in order to lose weight.
Get rid of junk food in your house! Fill your house with healthy food - and here is one example, which while drastic..proves a point:
A head of cauliflower (a whole head of it) has 200 calories. Yep. You could pig out and eat a whole head of cauliflower for only 200 calories!
Apples average 100 calories. You can eat 4 for only 400 calories - and that's a lot of apples, lol.
Well, I guess you see where I am going with that :)
A lot of emotional eaters journal to release the emotions - start a journal and write down what is going on, how you feel about it, etc.
Take a walk. Nothing clears the head like a brisk 15 minute walk!
Well, I hoped this helped you a little. Next time, post in the Panic Button area...you will get more and faster responses that way :) And I do hope that you post again.
The best exercise in the world is to bend down and help someone up.
current weight: 111.0
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26 3/24/14 6:05 A
SO over the weekend I took a picture with some friends and then I cried for hours and locked myself in my apartment. I feel like a beached whale. I sat all weekend thinking of ways that I can cut the fat off my body. Hating all people that looked skinny and healthy as I sat there hating everything about my body. I need to lose weight I need to be healthy.
I am looking for support and motivation. I have tried diets, pills, shakes everything I am about to give up and just eat myself in too a coma. My weight has been a huge cause of my depression lately and I need help. I honestly think I am addicted to food. When im happy, sad, mad, worried and frustrated I eat because that seems to make me feel content till I eat again.
Sometimes I wonder what life would be like if I was skinny and pretty. Would I still be depressed. Would I still sit and cry because the sight of my pictures makes me want to throw up. I feel like I have lost all hope and I want that hope back. Im willing to work really hard and take any advice that people can give me. any support is welcomed; emotional, mental, and physical (health).
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