Hello fellow Sparkers. I am looking for some suggestions on how to politely put an issue completely to rest with friends and extended family.
Here's the deal - I have a sleep disorder, so I have eliminated caffeine from my life, for about 5 years now. Friends and family members know this, but, they just cannot seem to understand this includes chocolate. I don't crave it, I'm not deprived and don't feel deprived, and special occasion or not, I simply do not want it. I never had a love affair with chocolate in the first place, I don't miss it.
Every holiday and almost all special occasions this comes up with them and they make a big deal out of it. I guess they think I'd "break the rule for special occasions." I have been given Easter baskets loaded with chocolate, truffles for Christmas, had a special dessert made just for me of a 5-layer chocolate cake, chocolate chip cookies, hot chocolate, brownies, a bottle of caffeine-infused vodka, a bottle of chocolate wine, etc.
Frankly, I'm getting a little peeved at what I am seeing more and more as a lack of respect for boundaries issue as opposed to "befuddlement" on their part. They don't get that my body is now hyper-sensitve to caffeine, and when it is unexpectedly in something I ingest, it is not pleasant for me. But they have added coffee to breads, rubs and marinades, seemingly on purpose to see if I can tell. (I can. But a lot of the unpleasantness I experience is of a private nature and I don't share that out. Especially not during meal-time.)
I need suggestions on how to get through to them once and for all. They do not push meat unto those who choose a vegetarian lifestyle. I don't want to be rude to them, but I'm getting very tired of the charade. Help!
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