It sounds like your divorce was traumatic, or at least has lingering effects. Have you considered counseling to sort that out? It's not uncommon for past events to affect the present in unexpected ways.
If you lose weight, you don't then have to enter into any relationships. You may (or may not) have more opportunities to date, but you don't HAVE to date anyone. You can just be you! If someone asks and you don't want to, you can say no.
In my experience, I pay way more attention to food and spend way more time cooking & planning menus when I'm trying to lose weight. Being a "foodie" is a legit hobby, there are lots of people who do it! But it doesn't necessarily involve eating or over eating. There's the shopping, the cooking, whether you eat organic or shop at farmers markets, or explore different cuisines.
But if all you're into is the eating itself - well, when I do that it's binge eating and I'm medicating my brain to keep from thinking about stuff I'm emotionally hiding from. That's just me, it may not be you. It's hard to break out from, but I've learned to make the effort. It was/is difficult, though.
Hope this helps.
(Edited for spelling, oops)
Edited by: DROPCONE at: 10/1/2013 (10:39)
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