I am going to say something which you may not like. The behavior you are describing is characteristic of someone how is emotionally abusing their ďloved oneĒ. Being constantly put down and basically being told you are fat is only going to hurt your goals and cause you to hate yourself, your life, your goals and eventually your husband.
If this is your life journey then he needs to realize that you will take it at your speed and that you should be able to enjoy it not feel sick and tortured by it. Life isnít about withdrawal and diets and all this other crap the ďfitnessĒ industry tries to sell to us. Itís about loving your life and the choices you make. Sure trying to be healthy and such is admirable and good for you and advisable; however, this is a life long process that cannot be forced down your throat by you or him.
These pressures are only going to make you constantly guilt yourself for minor slip ups which are just that slip ups and no one slip up will put even a few pounds on you. Also we must keep in mind that it takes much more time and effort to remove weight than it does to put it on.
So here it is, you need to sit him down and let him know he is hurting you if he says he doesnít care and or continues this behavior you may want to seriously consider your relationship and what it is doing to your health. No marriage/boy/girlfriend is worth the destruction of your self-worth and self esteem.
As for things like shopping habits and such it is good to only buy in small portions for a number of reasons; it limits waste (of money, food, resources) it limits over eating. You canít eat what isnít there. It also helps us to understand what we truly need and how little really to be healthy and sustain our lives. Just be sure you are eating enough to properly sustain your body.
The point to all of this is that life is not about putting ourselves down and it most certainly isnít about letting others put us down. Live your life, enjoy it and as long as making healthy choise a lot allows you to do that then great.
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