Gramcracker, I will say one thing...the more family badgered me to lose weight, the more it made me hate myself and the more it triggered my emotional eating. I don't know their situation/feelings/conditions/etc, but I can tell you...the more you push it and show you think/imply they're fat, the crappier they're going to feel and talking about fellow family members being overweight is ALWAYS an awkward subject. They have to do it when they're ready, out of their own minds, on their own time, etc. Getting a book on dieting wouldn't make me think "Well, I should finally fix my weight problem" it would make me think "Well, my mom/mother in law thinks I'm a lard," which in turn would make me just want to binge to suppress the crappy feelings.
I think the much more...indirect approach would be to help cook dinners/suggest sides you like that're healthy to incorporate into the meals. That way, nobody's looking/feeling bad and they're getting healthier meals on the down-low. :)
I know your intentions are good, but I promise, no matter how many times a family member or friend tells you to lose weight...it really makes you want to defy them for it. I've been called fat by my dad incessantly growing up with different remarks and even heard "Earthquake" from my sister when she tripped me at 12 and both of them...laughed. It's stuff like that you never forget and if they suffer from some kind of emotional eating/binging/etc....that book really isn't doing them any favors until THEY ask for it or want to do it. If THEY talk about losing weight or wanting to lose weight, the book would be a good idea, but until then...incorporating healthy meals into your stay that you really enjoy will help them out and it won't come off the wrong way.
First Goal Weight: 260lbs
***Reached October 17, 2013
Second Goal Weight: 200lbs
Third Goal Weight: 160lbs
Much Love & Happiness To You On Your Journey.
| Pounds lost: 60.0