Honestly? This is exactly why I do not count calories for myself, and only set explicit exercise goals within the last couple of weeks, over two months into doing this. For me at least, such "black or white" aspirations can create more problems than they solve. I had probably been eating at least 2500 calories a day previously. So if SP sets me a range that tops out at 1900 and on a given day I eat 2000, is that a failure? No way! It's a freaking victory! Yet the calorie range encourages thinking of it as having made a mistake. Eating too many calories was not the mistake - the mistake, if there even was one (honest hunger is no mistake IMO), was in the distorted thinking that led to going over. And distorted thinking isn't a "failure" -- it's a challenge, it's something that can be identified and FIXED.
This is ultimately a lifestyle change, and part of that change is committing to do right by yourself. For me that means keeping portion sizes down, eliminating sweets/munchies/mindless grazing as habitual behavior (desserts and such still OK by me if there's a real reason for it), and getting an unspecified "a lot" of exercise. And I have honestly found that with this mindset, all the little minor "failures" that seem to upset a lot of people just completely fail to get under my skin. I was feeling cruddy last week and exercised much less than usual, just couldn't work up much energy for a few days. So? Once I felt better, I was right back to doing what I had been. This is the rest of my life. One day is irrelevant, even five wouldn't matter much.
I don't know why it's been so easy for me to stay in this particular headspace this time when I've never really gotten here before. I do know that it really works, if you do think this way and if you believe it.
SW: 190+ 12/15/2012
Initial GW: 150, not sure yet if maybe it should go to 145 or 140.
5K 4/21/11: 31:55